Thoughts on just being a guy

[sebbie]

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[sebbie]

Thoughts On Wearing (and Enjoying) A Swim Brief

The whole idea of wearing a swim brief presents a complicated problem for a lot of guys. First of all. Many guys have what I would call a complicated relationship with the more general idea of wearing clothing that fits snugly in the groin area, not only snug fitting swimwear, but also garments like underwear and even more generally, clothing such as snug fitting jeans.

At a very early age, a guy learns that his penis has some fascinating nerve endings that feel good even when touched, but even better under certain circumstances than others. Further, not all areas of the penis are equally sensitive in this regard, and some areas are more “responsive” than other areas. Then, of course, the entire linkage between touch and getting a hard-on comes into play. Getting blood to flow into your penis not only feels great, but also creates the beginnings of a hard-on. And it does not take a guy a lot of effort to understand that such an event, however good it feels, can lead to situations that could be, well, embarrassing. This leads to this odd situation whereby a guy develops something of a love-hate relationship with his own penis. It's nice to feel good, but for Pete's sake don't get me into a situation that is embarrassing.

Early on, a guy also probably learns that since some parts of his penis generates these complex sensations more readily than other parts, he quickly gets into a mode of trying to discover exactly what are the most interesting ways to engage in self-stimulation. This might begin by experimenting positioning yourself in a simple pair of cotton briefs. And doing this, a guy probably learns that the underside of his penis and also in the glans area near the tip are the two most sensitive parts, and positioning himself so that the underwear accidentally rubs against these two areas becomes an interesting way of taking advantage of this. With proper positioning, a guy can get these fascinating sensations all day long, but don't think too much about what you are doing or something embarrassing might happen, something that others might notice. So, if a guy is doing this there are serious bounds with respect to how carried away you can get just enjoying yourself this way.

But what is the next step? The material in cotton briefs is OK, but not really that smooth. The next step, of course, is to go for a swimming brief that fits like brief made of cotton, but with a smooth, slick material that is made of nylon, polyester and Lycra in combination. Not only will this material be a lot slicker than the ribbed cotton used in conventional cotton underwear, it also stretches more, meaning that the brief in place will probably fit tighter than the underwear did. The tricky part is that the guy probably needs an excuse for needing (wanting) to be in a swim brief. For guys who do not swim, this can create a barrier to running the experiment, the experiment being how do I feel down there when I wear a swim brief? Is the experience actually better than what I was experiencing when I was messing around in my ribbed cotton briefs? And, of course, if the guy is wearing the swim brief in a public or semi-public setting, the guy worries about what the bumps in the brief convey to any of the others who sees him.

That is wear the penis positioning problem comes in. A lot of guys think the safest position to be inside a swim brief is down. By positioning yourself downward, you are least likely to get into a situation in which you (inadvertently, of course) get into the start of a hard on. But guys who wear swim briefs very frequently go for positions that are not down. The two positions that come to mind are the penis forward position and the full-up position.

In the penis forward position, the tip of the penis and the glans area are pressed forward into the pouch of the swim brief, If the swim brief does not have a sewn-in pouch, then the penis forward position creates a bulge anyway, And the stretchy, slick material feels great pressing firmly against the glans. This position is a real treat both physically and psychologically.

The full penis up position requires a brief that fits really tight, sufficiently tight to cradle the entire underside of the penis in a firm grasp. This feels really really good. But that the guy has a penis in the grip of the brief is going to be obvious to everyone. Still, as stunts with the male anatomy go, this one falls in the category of not to be missed under any circumstance.

While both these positions are terrific fun, and fall into the category of two of the biggest reasons I enjoy being a guy, the downside is that in either position, the location of your penis tip within the brief is going to be quite obvious to anyone who sees you. Your male anatomy, while covered with the brief, is not hidden from view. And if you are truly enjoying yourself doing this, you are probably pre-cumming which will show up as a dark discoloration on the front of the brief at the penis tip, which is fairly obvious. Guys often deal with this by spending as little time as possible out of the water once it happens.

In a full penis up position you could also easily get into a situation whereby you are not looking at dime-sized precum stains but a full-scale ejaculation. It's best not to let that happen in the presence of others, and it is a good idea not to do this in a semi-public (ie gym locker room) or even public situation. It's also the thing that guys wary of wearing a swim brief worry about the most.

Still, a full ejaculation inside a swim brief falls into the category of one of those not-to-be-missed experiences of life, but this can be done in private. As my readers know I regularly use a swim brief as nighttime wear, and enjoy putting my body through a series of steps that I will refer to as useful experiments in living my life as a guy.

I am certain my readers will have some fun with these ideas.

[sebbie]

Can an item you are wearing ever be “too tight”?

My readers all know that I really enjoy wearing swim briefs, compression shorts and pants, thongs, jock straps and any other item that fits really tight in the groin area. I have long believed that those who read my articles have long shared a similar interest to my own, and perhaps even fall into the category of not really wanting to share that interest with others, or perhaps only a few others.

Still, guys all know that wearing garments that fit quite snug can quickly lead to a situation whereby the guy feels “good” down there, (somewhat, at least) a “secret pleasure”. This, of course leads directly into the topic of how do I use a snug-fitting document to “edge” myself, something I probably did as a teenager under the cover of darkness at night in my own room. Then as a young adult I confront the idea that solo edging is still really fun. But I am out on my own and have more opportunities to purchase garments that I hope will fulfill my solo “longings”.

But then the topic becomes “which types and styles of garments work best for me in this activity?” and, secondly, once I have settled on a particular garment, what size will work the best and give me the most “edging enjoyment” to give the activity a specific term.

We all know the stories about the swim team guys who are expected to wear briefs at the swim meets, and the “terror” that a guy might feel when the coach tells the guys that they need to downsize their briefs one size for the upcoming swim meet. Guys who only recently become “accustomed” to wearing their “correct” size of swim brief, face another form of terror when they are told they must wear a brief that is still smaller than the one they had become accustomed to wearing. But the terror is an interesting form of terror. If the guy feels a normal “pang” getting into a right-sized brief, with the urge to get erect become stronger in the downsized brief. How much can a guy sustain in how to this regard. Does the guy quickly get to the point of no return on this, where a big erection not only happens but the urge to ejaculate becomes overwhelming?

This is tricky stuff. But in a situation whereby you are alone you can not only have fun with your fears but learn the nuances of mitigate the urge to ejaculate, a useful skill in a variety of settings when you are engaging with a sexual partner as well. Besides, learning how to control your urges but in a longer term pleasantly erotic way is a great activity to learn as a single guy. So, all of this is very useful whether or not you are on a swim team, in a sexual relationship with a partner, or simply living alone for whatever reason you might have.

I have already written at length about my experiences buying several Speedo swim briefs in various sizes, then discovering that the material the brief was made from had inadequate stretch to be able for me to even get into once the size dropped below 32 inches. So, whether or not downsizing works in this game in part depends on the specific brief. Another problem is that you may fit into the smaller brief, but you quickly discover that the rear of the brief pulled as high as possible in back does not have a sufficient rise to fully cover the “Y” at the top of the butt crack. Some male Asian swimmers believe that exposure is perfectly OK and many Asian briefs are designed to fit that low in back in your “normal” size but this has not caught on in the US to any degree.

Then there are the thongs, some designed as underwear, some as swimwear, and some that claim they can be used as either. The issue here is whether the thong back should be wide enough and long enough such that the thong back covers the butt crack, or whether the back should be narrow and short enough such that the thing back cuts deeply between the glutes. For guys who have never worn a thong, the feel of the thong back wedged deeply between the glutes is a not-to-be missed treat. This sensation has always sent me into an edging mode called “thonging nirvana” and for guys who have never tried this they are missing out on one of the great experiences the male sexual anatomy provides. The thong back squeezes down on you while the pouch pushes your penis and balls upward and forward, Don’t knock the experience without trying it.

This morning, however, I am wearing a super tight pair of compression shorts, a pair I purchased years ago when Wal Mart was still selling the Starter brand. These remain in great condition, and they have stayed super tight for many years. These feel great on me (as I am horny as all get out writing this). These are men's adult SM. Generally, I would probably be a MED as my “correct” size. However, I am really fond of downsizing one size in both the compression shorts and pants. I am 5’10” and the full pants fit down to my ankles in SM and have a tighter fit than the MED pants would. In this case undersizing one size gets me exactly where I want to be on a day where I am feeling nice and horny, and ready to do my home gym workout this morning.

The basic idea is to find garments that just barely fit you. You will know when you have come across the ideal fit for you, particularly is situations where you are just “hanging out enjoying yourself and your body!

[BikenSwim]

Can an item you are wearing ever be “too tight”? Not for me! As a kid in the 1950's I discovered the exciting squeeze of nylon suits I had outgrown. I liked the flat front Ken doll look, and could wear them at the Beach. As an adult I discovered Gaff Thongs which have three front layers for a smooth tight flat front. These are worn by guys for drag or cosplay costumes too. I can "tuck" my cock and balls for comfort and pleasure too, where did they go? Medium looks and feels nice for all-day wear, Downsizing to Small is more for short-term pleasure. These stay on in rough surf at Riis Park Beach, and my shrinking in cold water looks even better. I am very hairy so I still look like a guy as I roam around the crowd. I tucked for this photo.
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