What to wear?

[sebbie]

Guys Josh’s age—20—like to act as if they learned everything that there is to know about their own bodies from a sexual perspective by the time they got to be 12 or 13 years old. Obviously, they weren’t into sexual relationships at that age, but guy that age think they have a clear understanding of how the stuff that is important works.

What is amazing to understand is that Josh just turned 20, and in his 19th year he learned more about how his male body works and responds perhaps than he had learned from the knowledge he gained accumulated starting at the age of 12. Rooming with Dylan has been a real eye-opener in this regard. College freshmen always go into a situation where they are going to be rooming with another person that they had not even met before and in quarters that leave little if any room for real privacy.

Of course, for guys past puberty, privacy is always an issue, even if a guy is living at home with his parents and siblings. Some guys are fortunate enough to be living in a family situation where they have at least a bedroom of their own. This certainly opens up the possibility of getting to try some stuff in private that a guy would not otherwise get to do. As a guy gets a little older there are occasions where the guy gets left to “do his own thing” while the parents and siblings are away from the house, and these moments, however brief, are always there to be cherished—and to run “experiments” of course with one’s body.

Being a dorm roommate presents a new set of obstacles and barriers, particularly for guys who like to enjoy themselves on a more-or-less regular schedule. Of course, living at home had issues and problems as well. Take for example, a guy who is longing to see how his body might respond to being inside of a snug-fitting pair of swim briefs…let’s suppose that a guy has had those “thoughts” since he was 12, maybe, but he never could figure out a way to explain to his parents why he “needed” a little pair of swim briefs since he was not a member of any swim team, and besides, being honest with his parents was just too embarrassing to even think about doing. Thus the dilemma. Guys are always trying to find ways to run masturbation experiments under the radar, so to speak, without anyone else around them being aware of what was really going on. Swim briefs might be out, but a snug-fitting pair of tighty whiteys might be easier to rationalize, and since the guy is in a rapid growing stage of life, forgetting about one new pair of tighty whiteys that somehow got left in the bottom of a dresser drawer three or four years ago, might be a real possibility for running some snug-and-tight “experiments” given the lack of other viable options.

Still, a lot of the stuff a guy thinks about has to be left till a guy gets out on his own—a college freshman maybe?

This is where Dylan comes into the scheme of things. Josh SUSPECTED that some guys might like the fit and feel of snug fitting swim briefs enough that they would sometimes choose to wear them as underwear under jeans, perhaps skinny jeans, but he had never had “proof” of all of this, that is, until he ended up with Dylan as his roommate. Dylan did this, and regularly. Dylan “knew” where his mind and body was in this regard, and this had become a normal thing for Dylan to do.

One problem is that regular underwear is cheap—heck for tighty whiteys about a buck each if purchased six-at-a-time. But regular swim briefs are comparatively expensive, usually $20 each or more.

That’s where the on-line stores and the skimpy little swim briefs with brands such as Desmiit® and Seobean® come in, briefs that can be purchased for about the same price as a premium brand of mass-market underwear. The Desmiit® brand is particularly interesting in that some of their briefs are marketed as possibly being suitable for wear either as swimwear or underwear.

And the thongs! Josh is very interested in these too, and they are sold in packs of 7. An ideal underwear design under super-skinny jeans for wear to sophomore year classes. Josh is thinking about how the combination of a Desmiit® brief or thong with his new skinny jeans will work as regular wear when attending classes. Josh is mimicking Dylan in this regard, and thinking about this over the summer, and how his body might behave.

Dylan has had an impact on Josh, but, of course, Josh has twisted Dylan all around as well.

Of course, Josh also wants to get some compression gear, both shorts and tees. The super skinny jeans he ordered will look great with a blue compression tee…

And maybe another wrestling singlet, and, of course, a strap or two as well, but which ones?

To be continued….

[sebbie]

Dylan has been thinking about how he is going to approach his sophomore year too, just as Josh has been doing. Dylan’s fondness for snug fitting clothing of various kinds goes back a really long time, at least back to when he was only 11 or 12 years old, and Dylan thinks perhaps even earlier than that. This has been an interesting “puzzle” for Dylan for most of his life.

Despite his familiarity with all of this, Dylan is still perhaps a bit uncertain as to exactly what it is that causes him to experiment with himself the way he does. During most of his high school days, Dylan had pretty well convinced himself that he was the only guy out there who quite enjoyed himself in this way. Well, Dylan had to know that other guys sometimes jerked themselves off when they were feeling a whole lot aroused. But the idea of getting into snug fitting clothing such as swim briefs to do this was something Dylan liked to think about doing but certainly nothing that other guys did or would admit.

Rooming together has been an eye-opener for both Josh and Dylan. Living in a cramped dorm room for an entire school year means that there is little that the other guy does that would not go unnoticed. This is the great “fear” that a lot of guys have about living with another guy in a cramped double room. Not every guy is going to be entirely comfortable in this regard even under the best of circumstances.

The funny part of the story is that Josh was having some of the same misgivings about being in the entire situation that Dylan was having. By the time most guys enter their late teens, they have worked out a so-called jerk-off schedule that seems to make a lot of sense, but life gets complicated when a guy is moving into a dorm room with another guy he is meeting for only the first time. No two guys are likely to operate using the same jerk-off system, and what works for you likely won’t work for me.

But, of course, Josh and Dylan share something in common that they both enjoy doing. Can you say jerking off in snug-fitting clothing? OK sometimes maybe not jerking off so much as just getting into a mode where they are each oozing glistening drops of precum—lots of precum! What fun!

This past year has been quite educational for both Dylan and Josh. Dylan has once and for all answered the question that was always in the back of his mind as in “Do other guys enjoy doing this as much as I do?”
But Dylan has certainly had an impact on Josh as well, in that Josh has discovered things about both his own mind and body that were always there. Josh loves wearing snug-fitting swim briefs and precumming spots of glistening ooze every bit as much as Dylan does. This is all stuff Josh has learned about himself in the past year. Josh knows Dylan likes to wear swim briefs as underwear under his skinny jeans and then head to class and try to make it through the day without getting too distracted (whatever that means) or ooze “too much”.

Dylan knows too that Josh has his own hang ups, in particular Josh’s particular fondness for thong underwear that puts a constant tension on the crack between the glutes. And he knows that Josh loves using these as undergarments beneath a wrestling singlet, and that maybe a neat little strap will be interesting too. And Dylan realizes that this year he will no longer need to make any attempt to be secretive about these various items when Josh is in the room. In fact, quite the opposite.

So, as Dylan is picking out the items that he will take back to school with him all of this is bouncing around in his head. Dylan knows that Josh will have no problem with any of it. In fact, quite the opposite. It’s merely a matter of finding the specific items that will send Dylan and Josh into this special place where precum flows freely and both of them feel super good about themselves and their bodies.

This will be an interesting school year for both Dylan and Josh for sure. Could any other pair of college roommates be so lucky to have found each other?

To be continued….

[singletlover]

Lets get summer vacation over with and get these boys back together.

Thanks for the writing.

[sebbie]

The calendar is moving forward, and it’s time for Dylan and Josh to head back to school for the sophomore year. The way this works is that the students move back into the dorm rooms over the weekend, and the classes start on Wednesday of the following week. For new roommates, this gives both of them a chance to get acquainted with who they are going to be rooming with for the coming school year.

But, in Josh and Dylan both already are well acquainted with each other so there is no need for time to just get to know each other. The previous year has been an interesting time for both of them. They both learned more about each other than they had ever quite imagined. Still, nothing that happened last year put any real strain on their relationship as male college roommates in a cramped dorm room. In fact, quite the opposite. They had both learned stuff about each other that neither of them ever thought that they would be able to observe, close up. They both found out that the other was turned on by a bunch of stuff that didn’t involve members of the opposite sex. Yet they both still thought of themselves as sexually being straight.

The interesting thing about all of this is that we have not heard anything about either Josh or Dylan dating females over the summer months. That fact is certainly, well, interesting, given that both of them are both horny 20-year olds. Instead, they both found themselves ordering articles of snug-fitting clothing on line. Quite curious, one might conclude. But then, perhaps not so surprising when each of them discovered that the “right” pieces of snug-fitting clothing tends to have the effect of turning on the precum “faucet”. What crazy fun!

Plus, each of them knows that realizing the other is affected this way is in itself a turn-on is fascinating as well. Dylan practically went bananas last semester when he realized that Josh was jerking off and precumming profusely in that little underwear thong. And Josh got horny just thinking about Dylan sitting in class wearing that little swim brief under his skinny jeans. Both of them were so affected by all of this that this year they both want to make certain that they get to both do more of the same,…lots more!

Is this a gay thing, or not? Would ANY guy get aroused if faced with the same situation, or only guys who mainly think they get aroused by being with and around other guys? Is the answer to this question somehow important, or not?

Neither Dylan nor Josh know the answer to this question

Even though they picked up ideas by observing Bill and Joe, who seemed perhaps to be further toward the gay side of the gay-straight scale in terms of what they were doing with each other, or maybe not. Who knows? Why does this even matter at all? These are weighty questions, but questions that may not need to be answered.

So Dylan is wondering what Josh will be wearing to class and the same for Josh. Both of them ordered Pac Sun super skinny jeans. Josh is going to be wearing the light blue denim pair he picked mainly because he likes the ones Dylan wore a lot of the past year.

Getting the right fit in a pair of skinny jeans can be a bit tricky. Some guys seem to think that a proper cut has a really narrow 11-inch ankle opening, but the ankle opening is only part of the fit. There are really three areas that matter, the butt, the thighs and the cut over the calf muscles. The muscular, athletic guys need to be really concered about fitting the jeans in these areas, particularly if they are well developed in the glutes, thighs and calves.

Both Dylan and Josh put on some muscle over the summer. Still, they are not super athletic. They both have bodies that have filled out a bit more but particularly in the calves and thighs. The stretch denim Pac Sun jeans work for them in the 31W x 30 inseam, but the fit is nearly skin tight in those areas.

Truth is, Josh’s sophomore body looks great in the light blue denim skinny jeans he picked out. But what has Dylan chosen? Why solid black, of course!

Dylan and Josh are both wearing rather snug-fitting stretch tees as well, tees that just accentuate the new summer muscles. Dylan’s tee is in a heather gray—Josh’s a navy. So, we have Josh and Dylan meeting once again for the first time this semester dressed in these items.

Of course, both of them are secretly wondering what the other is wearing UNDER the super skinny jeans, but that is a story for another day…Even on this first fall encounter, both of them are feeling, well, horny. What will the coming year hold?

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Why is it so much fun for a guy to feel horny? That is an endlessly fascinating and not easily-answered question that I have pondered off and on over my entire life. What I am talking about is definitely not the same thing as having a male orgasm. As it turns out, male orgasms are generally not that complicated to understand and usually come and go so to speak in a minute or two. It is instead the events that may or may not lead to a male orgasm that is the most complicated and interesting to explore in detail. A lot of guys get so fixated on the final orgasm part that they fail to pay attention to all the wonderful stuff that happened from the very moment they started feeling something down there.

Think about Dylan and Josh and what has been going on with respect to the events leading to where they both find themselves today, a day or so before college starts for the year. Think about where they both are right now, back in that cramped little dorm room with the showers and johns a walk down the hall of that old school dorm. Think about all the things that happened to them both during their freshman year and what they learned about each other in the past year. Think about what they have been doing this summer, picking out clothing items that likely were bound to make each of them feel horny as much of the time as possible.

Feeling horny is not something for only guys of only one sexual orientation. This is for guys who think of themselves as gay, straight or even something in between. This is not about sexual orientation and it’s not about whether or not a guy is involved in a relationship with a sexual partner whether that partner be a female or a male. It’s really about each guy getting the most out of his own body and constantly discovering new ways to explore how a guy’s body is capable of making him feel good—really what the very best of human life for a guy is all about.

Standard “textbook” treatments of this sort tend to divide sexual activity into two basic types, the first involving a partner and the second being solo sex often derogatively called masturbation (as if the latter needs to be treated as somehow inferior or second rate compared to the real thing with a partner). At least, that is how the so-called experts in sexual psychology depict what is going on.

A basic problem with this way of thinking is that partner sex in any form often quickly leads to situations that become unduly complicated, dangerous or create other serious relationship issues. This is a lot of baggage to try to deal with, so to speak. Sometimes, perhaps frequently a guy might instead simply want to kick back and enjoy his own body and the interesting sexual sensations his body is capable of creating. Despite what some of the the so-called sex experts claim, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. A guy should never feel guilty or somehow disadvantaged because for whatever reason he is not having sex with a partner, male or female.

So, what do we know about Dylan and Josh? First, they both love snug-fitting clothing of various sorts, not only swim briefs but things like skinny jeans, jock straps, thong underwear, wrestling garb, compression gear, and they both realize that such items quickly make them feel horny and start to ooze interesting glistening drops of precum. Further, they both realize that oozing precum is critical to feeling really good in this regard.

Second, both Dylan and Josh are comfortable that each other knows about the “afflictions” each has as well and they are each no longer embarrassed or afraid that the other will somehow learn too much about this. For a lot of males, being comfortable observing and talking about such things would be quite a leap, a big deal so to so speak. Somehow, Dylan and Josh have worked their way through that, something that happened when they discovered that they both were very fond of various kinds of snug-fitting clothing. This sharing of interests broke the ice with respect to talking about the topic and sharing ideas and thoughts.

Indeed, they have both pretty much resolved some of the key puzzles that haunted them as teenagers regarding the question of whether or not all of this is unique to me…all of it, the skimpy clothing, the precum, etc etc, the closely guarded “secrets” teen males normally have—secrets that frequently involve specific masturbation techniques.

But this all just keeps getting more and more interesting as we watch Dylan and Josh share information about stuff that is not often shared. Remember last year when Dylan practically went bonkers when he happened on Josh in the dorm room accidentally? You know, the time Dylan accidentally “caught” Josh jerking off in that little thong with the elastic band that was cutting between Josh’s glutes? Of course, the thong was helping to make Josh feel horny and Josh was just discovering how interesting all of this was for his own mind and body. But it took Josh only an instant to realizing that what he was doing with Dylan present was having a real impact on Dylan as well. Who would have ever thought that a little thong would have such a psychological impact on both of them.

Dylan may not have fully realized it, but Dylan had a substantial impact on Josh as well, particularly on those days when Josh went off to class wearing his skinny jeans over a swim brief. Josh knew that Dylan had to be feeling pretty horny wearing that combination. Again, not an issue that often comes up in casual conversation between two guys.

So what now? Dylan and Josh are rooming together again this year, and at some point the Pac Sun jeans will come off. Interestingly, Josh is wearing a thong underneath. Josh is hoping that the thong will affect Dylan the same way this year as realizing that makes Josh feel even hornier.

What is Dylan wearing under his new black Pac Sun super skinny jeans? I suspect that most of my readers thought maybe a Seobean or Desmiit swim brief, but no, Dylan is wearing a simple pair of Hanes tighty whiteys. Well, not simply a normal pair a pair of super undersized ones in what in US sizes is a Boys medium 12-14. Dylan has been messing around with something interesting. He has discovered that guys can severely undersize tighty whiteys. The waist band on a 12-14 boy’s size will, if pressed, can stretch to a 31-inch waist. But the underwear will be really snug all around—snug enough to hold the penis neatly in an “up” position. This not only makes the skinny jeans look extra cool, it also starts the formation of precum right at the penis tip. Dylan loves the sensations and the crystal clear drops that are happening to and with his body. Will Josh notice what is happening to Dylan as Dylan gets out of the jeans? Will Dylan notice the details of Josh’s “predicament”? They are both in a most interesting situation, a situation that may tend to grow even more interesting.

As some of my readers follow the story line, perhaps they will be motivated to themselves try some of the things Josh and Dylan are doing to themselves as they discover their bodies. As I have said countless times, any part of a guy’s penis is sensitive to the touch, but the underside particularly so. The reason Dylan likes the undersized tighty whiteys so much is that it is easy to put his penis forward in the undersized underwear relative to the usual position in larger sizes, and just a fleeting touch on the underside sends him off to a wonderful new place unlike anywhere he has been before.

To be continued….

[sebbie]

Dylan and Josh at some point are going to have to remove their jeans, and reveal to each other what they each are wearing underneath. Josh fully realizes that Dylan is “sensitive” to seeing Josh in a men’s thong, and he set himself up to have some “fun” by “teasing” Dylan in this regard. Josh very much wants to see Dylan “squirm” in response as well.

So, nothing has been said before, but over the summer Josh managed to prowl the Internet underwear sites looking for the exact item that he thought might best “get” to Dylan. He ended up at the Freshpair® Web site, and found a Thong on sale called the DOREANSE® Ribbed Modal T Thong. That thong is interesting in that it consists of a snug pouch, a narrow elastic waistband, and a narrow cord that holds the pouch in place while cutting deeply between Josh’s glutes. And it fit’s Josh’s budget because it is on sale.

Josh thinks this would be the perfect undergarment for his newly acquired Pac Sun super skinny jeans. Plus, Josh keeps thinking over and over about how Dylan might react when he sees Josh wearing a thong that fits that snug, especially between the glutes. Is this the part that gets Dylan so interested? Josh can’t help but precum a little just thinking how Dylan might respond seeing Josh in the slick-fitting thong.

Oddly enough, Dylan instead has gone the tighty whitey route. Dylan picked up a 6-paick of Hanes® Tighty whiteys that are SERIOUSLY undersized (Boys 12-14) given Dylan’s nominal 31-inch waist size. Dylan tried wearing a pair of these last summer, and discovered that the waist band is able to stretch just enough to fit his 31-inch waist, but the brief itself has to stretch a lot as well. When Dylan looked at himself in the mirror, the little tighty whitey looked almost like a bikini brief it was stretched so much horizontally to fit.

But, when Dylan finally got himself in, he started feeling really good, good in a way that he had never quite felt before and starts to precum almost immediately. His mind immediately was focused on how his entire groin area was feeling, He quickly discovered that his penis was much “happier” in an up position than down, and that in that position, the underside, even barely touched, felt really really good. Interestingly, what Dylan was doing to himself quickly became a total experience involving both his mind and his body. He quickly started to drip a little precum right at the tip of his penis, and Dylan loved the moment as his mind and body worked in partnership to give him back some really neat experiences.

So here we have two College sophomores in their dorm room, now stripped out of their respective pairs of PacSun ® super skinny jeans—Josh in that little thong he bought, Dylan in the way undersized tighty whiteys. Both of them are enjoying their bodies immensely---that is easily revealed by the quantity of precum they are oozing.

And of course, the two penises are both starting to fill with blood. The snug fit of both pairs of underwear might not be as much of a consequence had this not also been happening.

Each underwear design responds differently to a growing erection. In the case of the thong, the increased size not only stretches the pouch but puts more and more tension on that tiny band of elastic between the glutes. Josh thinks that the sensation of the tightening elastic is more than interesting, and his body responds by growing his penis a bit more, adding to the gradually increasing tension and the building sensations.

Meanwhile, Dylan has “issues” to contend with of his own. The tighty whiteys he is wearing are, well, tight, made worse (or perhaps better) by the way undersized fit. Who ever thought such a commonly available item as a pack of cotton briefs could be so interesting? Dylan is really focused now on the sensations emanating from the underside of his growing penis.

And, of course, Dylan is watching Josh struggle with his little thong, and thinking that he needs to get himself one of those. Meanwhile Josh is starting to realize that Dylan has put himself in an interesting predicament as well. Both of them are wondering if they have discovered stuff that most guys are clueless about, or do guys routinely try stunts like this more regularly than they ever dare admit. An interesting question, for sure!

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Within the animal kingdom, human beings are one of only a few species that can actually touch and fondle their own sexual organs. We share that characteristic with other primates, but most other mammals would find that very difficult if not impossible to do. Non-mammals in general have it even worse in this regard, though anyone who has ever owned a male pet such as a dog realize that animals too sometimes get spontaneous and very obvious erections despite not being able to touch themselves. (Well, this happens to guys sometimes as well).

Guys can consider themselves fortunate that they can experience sexual sensations and feelings without necessarily having to rely on the cooperation of another person. Indeed, it is often the “other person” part that is so problematic for many guys.

Think of all of this in the context of Josh, who is wearing that snug-fitting little thong that he ordered. The thong is quite simple, consisting merely of an elastic waist band, a cotton pouch and a narrow elastic band connecting the waistband to the base of the pouch.

Last night, as I was getting ready for bed myself, I was thinking about what would happen if Josh decided to wear his little thong to bed all night long. I found a thong in my collection that is very similar to the one Josh purchased, and I then tried to replicate as close as possible what would happen.

First off, the pouch that Josh is wearing cannot be very roomy. I got to thinking about this in some detail. My mind started to wander into the topic of how companies that make underwear for men operate when they are developing a new design, particularly a new design similar to the one that Josh and I are wearing. Someone must realize that the market for men’s underwear extends beyond the purely practical. Dare I suggest that some men occasionally might buy underwear of a certain design knowing full well that whatever it is, it will likely end up being used for jerking off. Then my mind wanders over to the designers and whether or not the designers openly reveal that this could be a possible reason for a purchase.

I have no idea what percentage of the men’s underwear market is focused on developing styles primarily for engaging in “self abuse”. This market could actually be quite large, particularly in the underwear that costs over, say, $10. At some point, if you are an underwear manufacturer, you probably need to somehow recognize that there could be money to be made selling to this market.

Some of the designs, including those similar to the designs Josh and I are wearing, seem to be constructed in ways that make it very difficult for a guy NOT to get aroused. I found out last night that just getting everything into the little pouch was not that easy, The penis fits OK if I am not that hard yet, but the problem is that a guy’s balls have to fit in there as well. Things get crowded, quickly. Exactly how crowded things get is a combination of design and sizing.

In the case of this style of pouch, getting everything that needs to be indoors inside is not that easy, and a guy’s balls often want to stay outside where they would be divided by the elastic band. So, a guy has to grasp his balls and make sure the pouch is holding them. This maneuver tends to push everything upward and forward. In the process, the guy also discovers that his balls are much more sensitive in a psychosexual way than he perhaps realized when they were just hanging down in loose-fitting underwear. But this is all part of the discovery process, and getting yourself correctly positioned within the pouch is part of the fun.

Personally, I like the sensations I get from my groin area when everything is where it should be, and I presume that Josh feels the same way about this. For guys who are wary about doing this, I would advise you not to knock the whole idea until you try it. Josh thinks it’s a fun place to be, and so do I.

Of course, if you start to grow a bit once you are in, don’t despair. This simply adds to the enjoyment as well. How much and exactly what you share at this point with a roommate or partner is entirely up to you. The only thing I would say is that for another person, seeing a guy in this situation might be, well, interesting.

So, I crawled into bed wearing this, and I am assuming Josh tried doing the same thing. By then I was starting to feel pretty good but I had no trouble drifting off to sleep. Nor would Josh, probably.

At 4:30 AM I awakened. The narrow elastic cord that connected the back to the pouch up until then seemed pretty benign. I was aware of its presence, but my main attention was directed toward the pouch. I had drifted off to sleep not stroking my penis, but rather pressing on my balls through the thong pouch in a series of light but incessant taps. This was making me feel horny and good, but I wasn’t in any imminent danger of blowing, in fact I more or less fell asleep doing this. It seemed like a really neat way to drift off.

When I awakened at 4:30 AM, however, the elastic cord between my glutes was making its presence known. I did a quick check and during the night it had gone way deep. I got to wondering if the same thing happened to Josh or not.

Using my fingers, I followed the cord along to the point where it connects to the pouch at the pouch base. I have long known that this particular spot just behind the scrotum is very much a male psychosexual hot spot, so to speak, with lots of nerve endings that seem hard-wired right into my brain. The beauty of the thong is that with your balls inside the pouch, this hot spot is right out there in a place that seems made to order to touch and fondle.

I started pressing with the tips of my fingers on exactly that spot. At first, I was OK, but not more than a few presses and I was feeling really really good in my situation. I wonder if Josh has discovered this. A lot of guys, I suspect are ignorant.

The more times I pressed the more aroused I became. Keep in mind that I am not even touching or stroking my penis at all, just tapping with my fingertips in a very special and wonderful place.

To make a long story short, I had no intention of getting off that way, but I quickly convulsed into an orgasm that could not be stopped. I had intended to make it through the entire night, and I would have too, had I not been awakened by the sensations of that elastic cord cutting between my glutes.

I wonder if Josh has discovered all of what is there to enjoy. Maybe he can even start to teach Dylan a thing or two about Dylan’s own body!

To be continued…

[sebbie]

I’ve always thought that it is rather funny how a guy’s body works. Sometimes a guy gets an “urge” to get into something that fits really snug and tight, but other times not so much. For Dylan, this urge sometimes hits him at unpredictable points in time. Just thinking about Josh struggling in that little thong could do it for Dylan, despite the fact that Dylan still thinks of himself as completely straight. Dylan wonders if his situation is common among guys who think of themselves as straight or not. That is certainly an interesting question to ponder. Josh has some of the same thoughts or at least similar questions.

I have put Dylan in an interesting situation. I’m sure many of my readers think that the situation he finds himself in right now is quite tame compared with some of the other situations he has gotten himself into. Remember the fun he and Josh had trying on swim briefs from that order where the whole idea was to keep trying on suits that kept getting smaller and smaller, one at a time, and see exactly the point where each of them could stand it no longer and had to get off right now. That was certainly an interesting predicament for both of them to be in made even more interesting with both of them trying to do the same thing, both feeling incredibly horny yet desperately attempting to not ejaculate no matter how snug and tight things got as the suits kept getting smaller and snugger and tighter. Tremendous ejaculatory control is what is needed in a situation like this, and not every guy has the requisite psychosexual skills to master it. Still, just trying a stunt like this can be, well, extremely enjoyable, even if you do get off faster than you had hoped that you would. The suits you chose are hitting all the right “buttons” for your mind and body, so to speak.

But today, Dylan is in a different situation, one that appears to be far less demanding than the swimsuit stunt. Dylan is 20 now, but every young adult male carries along a bunch of psychosexual “baggage” from earlier times. This baggage most often includes details about the first few times a guy went into a full-blown ejaculation after reaching puberty, and what the exact circumstances were.

Dylan was but a young lad of 12 when he had his first full-scale orgasm, and interestingly, it happened in what would at first appear to be a rather calm and decidedly unisexual situation. The wet dreams with orgasms while asleep generally start up only a little later. Guys quickly discover that it can be really fun to be wearing a snug-fitting brief, but the only brief a guy Dylan’s age would have would be some tighty whiteys his mother bought him. And of course Dylan was at an age where he was growing height and weight wise rapidly. This meant that he had some tighty whiteys in his dresser drawer that he had basically outgrown—that is, they were a couple sizes too small for him.

Somehow, Dylan did not just toss these, he hung on to them, and he quickly discovered that while they might be too small to wear, say, to school, they were still fun to get into when he started feeling a certain way, you know, when the “urge” hit him and he was alone in his room with a degree of privacy. Dylan was not quite certain exactly what was going on with his mind and body, but he knew he loved to put on the undersized briefs and touch his penis whenever he got the opportunity and it hit him to do so. Well, you can pretty well understand what was happening. The undersized briefs tended to prop his penis front and forward, and it was not long before Dylan had discovered that the underside was really specially fun to stroke. It was so sensitive that it quickly became a favorite play area for him and Dylan liked it so much he started thinking about how he could make these feelings last longer.

Fast forward to today with Dylan now 20 years old and you will understand what Dylan is doing getting into the undersized tighty whiteys and you will start to understand what Dylan is up to. He is simply attempting to relive the experiences he had with the undersized underwear when he was much younger. Josh knows nothing of all of this, unless Dylan explains it all to him. Childish? Perhaps, but who is to make a judgment about such a perfectly harmless activity. If Dylan is enjoying himself replaying events that took place years ago when he discovered himself, there is no harm whatsoever. Josh might think what Dylan is doing is not nearly as exciting as what Josh has been doing, but that is perfectly fine as well. All we know is that both Dylan and Josh really like what each is doing, and occasionally take glances at each other to determine how everything is working out for the other. No harm in that for sure.


To be continued……

[sebbie]

I have thought a lot about guys and the relationship between mind and body. I fully realize that for a lot of guys, sexual feelings and partner relationships are intertwined to a degree where it is difficult if not impossible to separate the two. And I admit that many, perhaps most guys pass seamlessly from their first orgasm at puberty into at least thinking about the possibility of having “real sex” with a partner. In this regard, most guys are straight (turned on by females) but some are gay (turned on by males) but some seem to be living in a situation whereby the sex of the other is “fluid” so to speak, and these people may label themselves as bisexual, or not. They may claim to be only interested sexually in one sex or the other, whatever is “convenient” to claim to others.

But is this all there is? Does every guy travel seamlessly from puberty into a sexual relationship with a partner? What if a guy gets sidetracked, so to speak, playing sexually with himself? Of course, unlike sexual conquests involving a female partner, male self-abuse is not something guys routinely discuss with each other, except when guys go into a teasing and bullying mode, which is another story entirely.

Still, males not in a sexual relationship with a partner are not sexually brain-dead, or at least most of them are not. Moments of feeling horny leading to arousal occur regularly, relentlessly, and often seemingly spontaneously, in a relationship or not. Many guys struggle with this, whether they are in a relationship or not. A lot of guys do not have a well thought-out plan for dealing with this, yet coping with the situation can get to the point of being a burden, rather than a source of intense pleasure.

Enjoying sexual feelings by yourself, aka solo sex, or more commonly called masturbation, still has very bad press even in the 21st century. I admit some progress has been made. Young guys discovered masturbating are not going to go blind or lose their athletic skills. But the potential teasing and bullying if a guy is discovered masturbating by peers remains a very real problem. The weird part about this is that the guys doing the teasing and bullying probably masturbate as well, but as of yet have just not been caught by their peers, and the teasing and bullying of the guy who got caught is a way of coping with their own embarrassment and guilt with regard to what they have been doing to and with themselves.

So, in a way, Dylan and Josh are both enlightened in this regard. Each of them has come up with ways for enjoying their own bodies free of any of these concerns at least with respect to each other. This is quite a step. I suspect that most guys, straight, gay or someplace in between, would like to have a male friend that is close enough to be able to feel comfortable doing this.

So, Josh’s struggle wearing that little thong, and Dylan’s realization that Josh is struggling being in the thong, makes Dylan feel aroused. And, of course, Dylan “taught” Josh a lot about how much fun various kinds of snug-fitting clothing can be. Josh starts to get horny feeling just thinking about some of the stuff Dylan does to his own body. Does this mean that Dylan and Josh are both gay and simply have not admitted it, or would this happen to most any pair of guys placed in the same or a similar position? That is a great question!

The other interesting part of this is that for most guys, first encounters with especially snug-fitting clothing most often occurs in conjunction with participation in some sort of athletic pursuit, pursuits that normally start in the early teen years when a guy is still learning a lot about how his body behaves.

The classic example is the first encounter with a little, snug-fitting swim brief when a guy takes up swimming with a young team. But think about it. There are other classic examples. Say the young wrestler encountering for the first time a snug-fitting wrestling singlet. The first encounter of a young baseball player with a strap and a cup. Or the young football player who has to deal not only with a strap, but with those really snug-fitting football pants. And the young basketball players frequently wear compression gear under their team uniforms. Guys are both scared and what might happen yet want desperately to get into whatever the item is. A weird combination for sure!

Guys that age who do not participate in a sport are at least curious about how other guys cope with the situations that arise in relation to the specific sport. The complicating factor is that guys participating in each of these sports dress and undress in common locker rooms with other semi-clad or unclad guys wandering around. Erections are going to be obvious to other guys your age. This could lead to teasing and bullying as well.

A basic issue relates to the idea of whether or not only a small share of guys would be sexually aroused when placed in a situation like this whereby wearing certain stuff that fits snugly around the genitals is mandatory, or whether guys almost universal among guys. A more general issue is whether or not most guys would get aroused if being in this situation, or whether or not this happens to only a small percentage of guys.

We seem to be moving back to a situation where snug-fitting clothing of all sorts is becoming more and more popular with guys, right now especially snug-fitting jeans. Guys seem to be rediscovering how interesting all of this is for both mind and body.

I hold the view that these feelings are nearly universal for guys, regardless of claimed sexual orientation (or not). It’s just a matter of pressing the right (or some would say wrong) buttons so to speak. Guys almost universally enjoy wearing something that is snug-fitting around the genitals, and they (perhaps secretly) think it is fun seeing other guys doing the same. Dylan loves watching Josh struggle in that little thong. There is any number of items Dylan wears that gets Josh going as well, and always a surprise to see what Dylan does next in this regard. Should Dylan and Josh label themselves as gay not straight because of this, or are they simply dealing with something that is near universal for guys?

To be continued…

[sebbie]

Once a guy gets through puberty, there are many new sensations to be discovered and savored. Dylan was no exception in this regard, nor, for that matter was Josh’s situation different either. At the same time, guys routinely become very aware of the fact that what they are doing with themselves should to the maximum degree possible be private. In this regard, everyone around a guy poses a risky threat that what is going on will in some way be discovered and revealed to others in a potentially embarrassing way, whether the person or persons doing the discovering is a parent, a sibling, or, perish the thought, a peer friend and classmate. Worse, what if the person the guy thought was a friend is not really a friend or is simply struggling with his own urges in this department?

Guys face an interesting dilemma: They are just learning how to enjoy their own bodies immensely, but they are terrified that someone else—anyone else—will, perhaps accidentally discover what they are doing to themselves. The old stories about guys going blind from doing this or losing their ability to successfully participate in sports do not help matters at all either. These old stories, considered obsolete and silly now, may still have some elements of truth to the,

Then there are the peers who tell you that if you do this alone in private you therefore must be gay since a female is not present when you are feeling and messing around this way. Sexual orientation uncertainty somehow gets messed together withal of this. The dilemma a guy faces is very real. How can something that is so much fun be so fraught with such complicated issues, anyway?

What was a guy like Dylan at that age supposed to do, anyway? For 99 percent of guys that age, abstinence from “self abuse” is completely out of the question. It’s is just too much interesting fun to ignore. But there are serious questions: What if I like doing this so much that I never become that interested in finding a partner? Does my fascination with doing this mean that deep down I am really gay not straight? What else might my fascination with doing it by myself might mean?

And there is no one to talk to. Surely my dad never did this by himself. After all, he found mom, didn’t he? And what if my brothers and sisters find out, or, perish the thought, one of my classmates, and maybe one who thinks I am a wimp, athletically or otherwise. There are lots of issues floating around, issues that cannot be simply and readily resolved.

So, of the 99 percent of guys who are doing it, maybe 98 percent of the guys go into a mode where they carefully lay plans to keep this part of themselves in complete secrecy. What does this have to do with Dylan at that age? Well, Dylan learned quickly that if you are going to engage in solo sex, a snug-fitting item of clothing certainly helps to get the sensations going, and just thinking about the option of getting into a snug-fitting clothing item tends to set the entire wonderful process off. But a guy 13 or 14 years of age is not going to be able to orders snug-fitting stuff from on-line retailers and get it delivered. Instead, what do you have that would achieve some of the same sensations to start to occur in the groin area that would not attract attention.

And that is where the pairs of tighty whiteys that Dylan had outgrown come in come in, well, the ones he had almost outgrown. Two pair still in the back of a dresser drawer in his room. Why not just wear a pair of those to bed and sleep in them overnight. Dylan can even pull something else over them if he wants, like a loose-fitting pair of boxer shorts, and then see what happens during the night as his penis responds to the newly-confined space. Interesting,..at a young age way interesting.

And so it goes. The techniques guys use for pleasuring themselves at a very early age somehow get attached to a guy’s brain as if they were glued in place, and periodically guys want to relive those moments in time as adults that were so enjoyable when they were struggling with all of this when they were just past puberty. And that is what Dylan is doing right now, reliving the wonderful moments that he first discovered were really fun when he was only 13 or so. Many, perhaps most guys would like to relive these early moments of discovery if given the opportunity to do so, even as an adult.

Dylan is now 20, and he has got a raft of new items that can make him feel horny in an instant, and he is very fond of the various items he now has. Plus he has this understanding roommate who knows what Dylan likes and has been enjoying some of the same stuff.

What stuff? Well, a lot of it is connected to clothing worn for sports, including sports that neither Dylan nor Josh ever participated in either in high school or now in college. Take the various experiments with the swimming briefs of various sizes as the “classic” example of all of this, but there are many others. The straps come to mind almost immediately, and then ahhhh, the fun with a strap with a cup barely big enough to contain a guy’s flaccid penis let alone one that is even a little-bit erect. And the compression gear both top and bottom, and the clingy feel all over as the material fits really snug against a guy’s body, holding a strap and cup firmly in place at the groin.

And what about a wrestling singlet in a neat color that can only be worn over the shoulders with the singlet putting serious upward pressure on the groin area? And what about slipping over a pair of extremely snug jeans while WEARING The singlet, maybe with a strap and cup underneath. The singlet will appear to be just a sleeveless top tucked into a guy’s super skinny jeans.

Lots of stuff to try. But still how did I manage to pleasure myself when I was much younger and was fearful that anyone else would find out what I was doing to and with myself? And why is redoing that with an undersized pair of tighty whiteys still so much fun even with all of these other available options? Still lots of tough questions to be answered!

To be continued…