Thoughts on just being a guy

[speedorob]

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“ Occasionally this can result in an ejaculation. Be aware that for most males this reaction to wearing a new, properly-fitting swim brief is normal and the issue normally recedes after the wearer has worn the brief for a few times. Ejaculate can ordinarily be removed from the brief by soaking the brief in warm (not hot) water. Please hand wash to improve the durability and retain the stretch.”

And that’s why stores insist you wear underwear while trying on swimwear (even though that makes it impossible to figure out if something fits or not) and why returns aren’t accepted.

[sebbie]

Is it OK to Just Jerk Off in a Speedo® ?

Once way back, when I likely was about 12 years old, I went to see a doctor. Apparently, I had just discovered some ways to enjoy myself down there. Whatever I was doing by myself was a lot of fun, and apparently I explained enough to the doctor that he knew exactly what I was attempting to ask. The approximate response was:

“What you have been doing is not harmful, but you probably should not be doing that!”

This was in the 1950s, and the mere mention that a guy was engaging himself in this way was considered abnormal. Never mind that guys my age were “doing it” on a regular basis anyway.

Over a period of nearly 70 years, I have uncovered a remarkable list of ways to “do it” and I have enjoyed myself immensely. For a long time I have been sharing the details of exactly how I engage myself alone to others, the primary outlet being this Web site. Between the two big posts, “What to Wear” and “Thoughts on Just Being a Guy” at the current count I have over 365,000 reads. I do not know how or why these readers keep piling up like this, but I am delighted with the interest in the stuff I write about, and apparently the topics I discuss are helpful but particularly guys who are still stuck in a time warp about the entire subject of solo pleasuring like I was back when I was but 12 years old.

This brings me to the current day, having wandered through an era when a male being sexually attracted to another male was considered a mental abnormality, to a day were the major discussion seems to be focused on an acceptance of practically any form of sexual behavior other than those that do harm to another person such as rape and pedophilia (the whole LGBTQ thing). Having said that, I am not sure that if a male admitted to others that he spent time jerking off in a Speedo® that would make him part of the Q but not part of the LGBT component? Still, suppose I were back in the 7th grade and another peer male schoolmate happened to see me jerking off—perhaps not even in a Speedo® but maybe in a pair of tighty whiteys, underwear that was all but universal for guys when I was a young lad. Suppose this male who saw me was mean, and told his male peers what I was doing, and the male peers immediately claimed that since I was jerking off in my underwear that I would clearly be growing up as a gay guy, and I would be teased and bullied.

You see the problem. In my mind the LGBTQ community tries to cover all the variations in human sexuality and activities other that good old fashioned sex between a male and a female. But in the process leaves out an important category of males and females who are perfectly happy in a situation whereby they are more than OK with solo masturbation as a sexual release both short and long term.

Over the years I have had a number of male friends who once had but no longer have female partners. These people tend to gravitate to me because they know I have been single and unattached all my adult life, and they wonder how I survive. Perhaps what they really want to know is the details on how I “do it” as outlined in my paper here, but they are too embarrassed to ask the necessary questions and I am not about to start telling stories on my own.

I suppose I could try and clarify all of this. The first point I would make is that I never have felt a compelling desire to have sex with, or worse, had actually live with, a female partner. I decided that I had no interest at age 12. The few times I had something of a date with a woman I wanted to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Somehow the women also seemed to sense my disinterest in them to, so I gave up on the entire idea of dating women by the time I was 25 (maybe 21). This was not something I had any interest spending either time or money on.

I would make an unworthy gay guy too. So much of the gay male community seems focused on who and under what circumstance are you having anal sex with a male partner, and I am rather turned off by all of that. If a guy really wants to have an orgasm via prostate massage, there are any number of vibrators and estim devices that do an excellent job of that without any risk of getting an STD or worse. I do get a kick out of seeing exactly how another guy masturbates, but there are plenty of porn sites that have videos of that. There are even plenty of videos showing how a guy can have an orgasm while wearing a suit from Speedo® or Arena®. But if calling yourself gay because you have anal sex with a male partner, I want none of that. So this rules me out of the G category.

Still, I am very fond of being a male, and find it odd that any person born as a male could somehow be unhappy with the situation as it originally was. I have zero interest in acting out any part of the female role such as clothing or makeup. I take photos of myself as a male clad in swim briefs, and I am proud of what I am and how I look as a male clad only in a Speedo®. So I clearly do not fall into the T category. Indeed, I think the mad dash of people trying to change their biological sex without first having time for exploring the nuances of what they were originally to be more than crazy. Why does a male want to be female before one has completed the task of finding out how enjoyable being a male really is? I could give lessons on this.

I have spent the bulk of my life as a single guy who has always enjoyed being single and in a situation where I have always had the privacy to engage in fun activities that might prove embarrassing if I were not living alone, and I protect my privacy in that regard. If other males want to learn how to do this I have written a lot of tips and advice on the subject.

For the swimwear brief manufacturers, I have frequently wondered what percentage of the brief sales at companies such a Speedo® and Arena® are sold to guys who probably have no plans to wear one of the products at a pool or beach, but use them for self pleasuring as a neat way to jerk off. I suspect a significant share of them. Online stores are filled with other kinds of gear that can be readily used for jerking off as well, the straps, the thongs, the compression shorts and tights too (using these used to be associated with having an abnormal fetish for certain kinds of clothing, but that claim has dissipated in recent years too), and there is an array of vacuum pumps, estim devices and vibrators designed to be stimulating down there as well. At age 12 I knew nothing about all of this, but somehow, I have managed. For me this has been a case of lifelong learning.

For males engaged in partner sex with another person, the serious sexual encounter often goes for only 7 to 10 minutes tops. One thing the porn sites teach for guys is how to edge, as in getting aroused and staying aroused for long periods of time, for hours if not days. Over time, I habe become an expert on edging, and owning a Speedo® is a basic way to begin to learn how to edge, as a Speedo can be used as an undergarment that may keep you feeling horny all day (or perhaps all night) long. Still, even in the modern “anything goes” acceptance of sexual choices and behaviors that were once regarded as deviant, there remains no place in this new world where a male plans to go home and just spend some time jerking off in a Speedo® no matter how much sheer pleasure it brings. And that is sad….

[dm106]

I accidently learned about jerking off after just turning 13 - in a speedo - I realized that it felt good to rub myself through the slick fabric. As I kept doing it - it felt amazing and then it happened. I thought I ruptured myself, but then learned it was a very normal thing. Yes, I have jerked of many many times in a speedo. Thanks for admitting it!!!

[sebbie]

A Snug New Speedo® and a Magic Wand

Getting a new Speedo (or another favorite brand) is always a treat for the mind and body. Couple this with a Magic Wand style vibrator with multiple patterns and the fun times get multiplied.

My thoughts turn to the swim coach seeking a win in the big meet coming up. The coach concludes that he cut take a tiny fraction of the time off of most of the swimmers if their suits were not old and stretched out. He suggests that the team wear their team suits but brand new ones one size smaller. A guy who wore a MED at the start of the year would size down to SM, and a guy who has worn a LRG downsizes to a MED and so on.

The guys all know that the downsizing might fit them but fit so snug as to be just a touch uncomfortable, and also, there may be other issues and “reactions”. For starters, the suit may be so snug that the only way the penis can be positioned is “up” with the underside pressing tightly against the slick, stretchy cloth. This could induce a “reaction” than makes matters even worse. Still, if that is what the coach wants to help speed the team in the water, gotta obey the coach.

Adult males not on racing swim teams might want to emulate this. You do not even need to be a swimmer. Swim briefs are readily available on line and if a guy has owned a brief he certainly has a good idea as to what his waist size is. The trick is to order one similar to what you have been wearing but downsize one size. A guy who normally wears a LRG would downsize the order to a MED, a MED guy to a SM and so on. Being both new and undersized, this brief should be wearable and fit tighter all around than the old brief. The trick is to find the size that has just enough room to position your penis in the up position pressed nearly immovable against the slick cloth of the pouch. Swim briefs are all about fitting really important stuff into tight spaces, a treat. Just contemplating how this might fit and feel might cause a reaction in your mind or body, but that reaction is a good thing as it preps you for the next part, not on the swim coaches list of things to try.

Also purchase on-line a Magic Wand style vibrator. One of the Magic Wand style knockoffs, available on line for about $20 USD. These vibrators are interesting in an assortment of different ways. Anything that vibrates is always interesting but these especially so.

. This particular style not only vibrates but has multiple speeds and patterns, in which the pace of the vibration varies with each pattern from slow to fast and even full starts and stops. When the vibrator is turned on it emits a low-pitched growling sound that is, dare I say, quite erotic. But the varied patterns each have their own sounds and are different in all sorts of interesting ways.

So, let me suppose that it was a bit of a struggle, but somehow you managed to get into your new swim brief, and you have your penis pressed against the front, pointing up. Just getting yourself into the suit and getting your penis pointed upward gave you something of a noticeable hard-on, but that was what was supposed to happen.

There are lots of videos on the porn sites showing guys clad only in a swim brief, engorged penises clearly pointing up but hidden under the cloth. Then, in the background we hear that interesting growl of the Magic Wand, and that sound is a triggering mechanism like Pavlov’s bell, but an audio trigger for getting even more aroused. The videos vary and, in some cases, these are solo efforts, but in other videos another male is controlling the vibrator so the guy in the swim brief does not know where the vibrator will land moment by moment except that it will be somewhere on his sensitive and newly engorged private parts. Of course, having such easy access to the sensitive underside of the penis when positioned in this way in the undersized Speedo® is really exciting and perhaps maybe even too much. Further, situations like this that result in a near immediate ejaculation are ultimately less enjoyable than situations that “play” with this. That is, using the vibrator to get nearly to a point where the guy is almost but not quite uncontrollably ejaculating, then backing down a bit and cooling things down till the guy no longer feels a compelling psychological and physical “need” to ejaculate.

What I suggest is a form of edging that is both physically exciting and super enjoyable mentally as well. Moving around, the vibrator might “visit” a lot of places in addition to the penis underside. The vibrator can be used as a ball massager, for example. The perineum area just behind the balls is super sensitive too and there is easy access to that area with the vibrator when the guy is in a snug swim brief. The super sensitive glans area might be enough to send the guy into a full-blown ejaculation, with cum stains quickly coming though the cloth of the snug brief. So, if a guy wants to delay orgasm, it is best not to touch that particular spot until you really are ready to cum. The vibrator is an excellent tool to use in locating your super sensitive and not quite as sensitive erotic areas.

The penis underside is very sensitive, and experimenting, most guys cannot tolerate more than a few seconds of direct application of the vibrator along the penis underside without reaching the point of no return. So, if you want to keep edging in the swim brief using the vibrator, there are techniques for moving around your sensitive spots that can be learned. Fortunately, the “lessons” are fun too.

Watching porn masturbation videos, is it more interesting to see a naked guy ejaculating directly into the air, or to see a guy stimulating himself or having a partner stimulate him using the vibrator and then watching as the cum stains form on the swim brief the guy is wearing? Personally, I think the latter. In the videos some guys do the latter solo while others have a male helper on the vibrator. Obviously, this could be an activity gay couples might enjoy, but would straight couples enjoy doing this too? This is another of those really fun and non-risky erotic ideas. The male pair need not be gay, either. I could see two otherwise straight guys doing this, both versed in the techniques described here. But for a straight couple, say a straight couple that for whatever reason would prefer not to have traditional penis-vagina sex, this could be really fun too.

And then there are guys like me, living alone and simply finding interesting ways to enjoy my own body to the maximum extent possible! I don’t want to miss out, and in the process of learning exactly how I can do this I have a most enjoyable time. This is also fun to do clad in a wrestling singlet, as your penis will be in one spot and you can't just reach down to move it around. This type of confinement is very exciting too when combined with a growling vibrator.

[sebbie]

Masturbation, Edging, and Snug-Fitting Clothing

YouTube has lots of videos with Masturbation in the title, and many of these focus on male masturbation. For those who still think that masturbation is a second- or third-rate sexual activity, quickly discarded once a guy reaches adulthood, a number of these videos go in a completely different direction. Generally, the videos start by pointing out that solo masturbation is by far the most common for males ages 12 -15, but that is not a new observation at all.

Instead, what some videos argue is that the average partner sex act in adulthood runs for only about 5 minutes. Both men and women would like for the sex act to last far longer, but so long as the guy believes that in order to prove he is a “real man” he must have an orgasm within 5 minutes of engaging in partner sex this will not happen. To believe that speedy sex is good sex is silly.

One of the arguments is that this short period from initial arousal to ejaculation is in part a product of what guys learn shortly after puberty. In particular, many guys quickly learn to bring on ejaculation quickly because of the “dirty” reputation masturbation has. No matter what, the young teen needs to make certain no one catches him doing the unthinkable, not parents, siblings, peers or anyone else. What the guy leans about masturbating to orgasm quickly at this age adversely affects a guy’s sex life throughout his entire adulthood. The idea of masturbating quickly to orgasm is a “learned” behavior. Unlearning this takes both time and a commitment to the idea that going in for a quick ejaculation is not a sign of one’s virility as a man. Indeed, the opposite.

In many ways I consider myself one of the extremely lucky ones, living alone without a sexual partner for my entire adult life. This must sound crazy to guys who are happy in their sexual relationships. The beauty of this is that I can always find the time and the luxury to do exactly what I want—with, to and by myself without any fear that my activities are going to be discovered and I will be embarrassed. This is a huge blessing, a luxury of sorts. In the process, I have developed expertise for edging by proceeding at a long, slow, and deliberate pace.

When I think about that others might feel sorry for me living life without a sexual partner I only laugh, If partner sex is so unbelievably wonderful, why is it that so many of my friends got divorces and then struggled to find a path for dealing with the fact that they were alone, sexually? If sex with a partner is so mind-blowing, why did you let it go? What gives here?

I suppose that every case is different. Me, I’m into edging. I get into a horny mood and then spend long periods of time just enjoying being aroused. This is a big part of the stuff guys do not learn to do as young teens—just kicking back and maintaining oneself at a high degree of arousal for prolonged periods of time. After all, real guys ejaculate within 5 minutes of first thinking about it, and anything longer means the guy is not that virile. Sex is really a contest of speed. If speed at a stop sign is needed to prove a guy’s worth, then why should this not also be true for sex and orgasms?

But a fast orgasm is actually a bad not good thing: this is where the term “premature ejaculation” is coined. Women generally like a slow, deliberate guy and not a speed demon.

I watched a YouTube video that had one guy in a black Speedo® who decided to go to a beach where all the other guys were wearing board shorts. A lot of people stared at him, but a few seemed to admire his suit and body. This guy was actually engaging in a form of edging. He was there because he got turned on just thinking of all the women (and more than a few guys) who were admiring his butt and pouch. Wandering around in a Speedo® in public is one way of sustaining arousal (not the same as an erection) for long periods of time!

Early on, as a young teen, I learned that the least complicated way to get aroused, have an erection, and maybe even an orgasm, was to do so at night under the cover of darkness and the cover of bedclothes. I think most guys learned this method too. In adulthood, I learned some methods for making undercover masturbation still more enjoyable, generally by wearing tight-fitting, perhaps only a Speedo®, or maybe a strap or thong. The quantity of Cowpers’ gland secretions are a key measure of how successful this strategy is. A close relationship exists between the amount of the clear viscous fluid is secreted and how horny I feel. This is a basic measuring stick for judging the quality of a long-run edging session lasting perhaps the entire night.

However, in the cold winter months I like to layer other clothing over what I wear in the summer. In other posts, I have pointed out the merits of Ikingsky thongs and DEVOPS thermal compression wear. The Ikingsky thongs are famous because they are really skimpy. But they also have a nice pouch (perfect for collecting Cowpers secretions aka precum over an entire night of edging). Plus, they put a nice but subtle pressure on that all important perineum area just behind the scrotum. Finally, there is that neat and really narrow thong back cutting between my glutes. In short, the perfect base garment for a night of edging.

The DEVOPS thermal running tights and long-sleeved shirts are the cover garments. These fit, well really tight, and I undersized the pants from a MED to a SM. The pants go over the thong, and I am already feeling very good. Coping with this for an entire night is a basic course in edging technique, a course most guys who have sexual partners likely missed. My period of arousal is not 5 minutes, or even 20 minutes, but at least 8 hours.

I fall asleep quickly. But I will wake up often at about 3 AM and check to see how my night is going. Oddly, I am still feeling way horny, and I can tell precum has been accumulating ever since I drifted off. There are gobs of the desirable clear viscous fluid inside the thong pouch. And the thong perineum pressure, subtle at first, seems to have grown more pronounced by 3 AM.

Soon I fall back asleep again, awaking at 6 AM, with the thong pouch containing still more precum. But I have not had an orgasm, so I am still feeling way horny. Now its 9 AM, and I still am feeling great in an erotic way. I have swapped for another thong and compression gear, leaving the DEVOPS for nighttime wear.

This is all terrific, not-to-be-missed fun, the essence of what makes me so happy to be a guy. If you want to learn edging technique with the idea of improving a relationship with a partner, this is great training for your mind and body as well. As I always say, Have fun! It is great just being a guy.

[sebbie]

Pointing Upward

for those of you new to the whole idea of enjoying your body while wearing snug-fitting clothing containing a lot of Lycra, I got to thinking about some ideas that might be helpful to you.

First off, there are many different types and styles of clothing that work. This Web Site focuses on swim briefs, but also includes topics related to other types of clothing, the only common denominator being the slick, Lycra based fabric and the invariably snug fit.

However, those two key elements are embodied in a lot of different types and styles of readily available clothing that work. Here is a partial list:

Swim briefs
Swim thongs
Squarecut swimwear made of stretchy snug fitting fabricate
Swim jammers with longer legs
Athletic supporters made of a stretchy fabric that have twin leg straps but no center strap in the rear.
Underwear made of a stretch fabric, briefs, thongs, squarecuts, longer legged underwaear with a similar fabric etc
Running tights and similar
One-piece singlets most commonly worn in wrestling contests
etc etc.

This is a lot of stuff, and over my lifetime I have collected good examples of all of these.

There are two things all these items share. First, they are all made of a slick, stretchy fabric, and second, All of them fit very snug in the groin area, snug enough so that when a guy positions his penis getting in, the penis stays in that position.

A lot of guys might be apprehensive about wearing any of these on account of the unwanted erection phenomenon. As in fear of what could happen if I get an erection and others (peers, classmates, etc see that I have one, and fear that the worst could happen, the erection quickly results in a full scale and obvious orgasm and ejaculation. These fears apparently keep lots of budding male swimmers and wrestlers from taking up the sport. At least I have heard that.

Still, lots of these snug-fitting stretchy garments are sold to males all the time. Not every male is consumed by his fear and apparently found a way to overcome it. Conquering one’s fears is a way of coping. It turns out, conquering one’s fears can only be accomplished by meeting fears head on. And the most challenging and also the most enjoyable way of doing this is to pick one of these garments—it does not make a lot of difference which one—lately I have been enjoying my running tights, and put yourself in a position whereby you could have an orgasm quite easily. Face your deepest fears directly!

What position is that? Why upward of course. You know the position where nearly all of the underside of your penis is pressing firmly against the slick, snug stretchy fabric. OK, so you are starting to feel horny just thinking about being in this situation. What garment from your list, particularly? Pick whatever one you think will be “difficult” to deal with. By now you should already have a nice semi just thinking about what you are about to attempt.

The entire underside of your penis is just a super neat place. Its a lot more sensitive to touch than the top side. If your erection gets bigger just thinking about this that is a good thing not a bad thing. That is what is supposed to happen. Besides, assuming you are average size or more, erect, if you have selected and sized the garment correctly, by now your penis should be screaming at you telling you that it really likes where it is at and what is happening to it.

But from the standpoint of completing your training, it is probably best not to go into a full-blown ejaculation immediately. The garment becomes part of your edging work in which you attempt to sustain the good sensations from your penis for a longer period of time. All you need to do is touch yourself and stroke the underside of you penis for a short period of time. But from the perspective of your training, you will want to delay the orgasm part as long as you can. Still, this is great fun with any of the garments on my list above, and one of the greatest “treats” all “free” for just being a guy with a penis. And a treat that is available to every guy.

The fact that you have somehow learned how to sustain yourself erect in this situation can prove useful in a variety of ways, not only alone but perhaps in the presence of another enthusiastic male. Rumor has it that even some females get turned on by being able to observe first hand and up close the “situation” the guy is dealing with here, and the best females actually purchase garments for the guy that seem to work. It goes without saying that guys who are into other guys would enjoy watching the “predicament” evolve and might also want to participate. My point is the opportunity exists for all guys, single and partnered regardless of whether the partner is male or female.

Once you have an erection pressing firmly against the cloth of the garment there are other things you can do as well..like digging out a vibrator and seeing how the head of the vibrator feels when the underside of your penis is pressed against the fabric. Fascinating stuff. If you do this right, you should be climbing the walls, psychologically and physically.

[sebbie]

A Fruit of the Loom Strap?

Scrounging around, I found one of the earliest straps that I ever purchased, perhaps the earliest one of all. I have been comparing the appearance and features of this strap with others I have. I also have been looking at the very faded tag in an attempt to determine the brand. There is a tag with three faded colors, maybe four, green, red and purple with a possible gold on the left side.

In sorting through images on the Internet the only logo that would fit would be Fruit of the Loom, and the logo that fits dates either from the 60s or from 1970-78. I think I purchased this strap in the mid 1970s when I was off in college in another state. I had always wanted to have a strap of my own but I was off on my own now and no one I knew to question why I owned a strap despite the fact that I was a non athlete who did not “need” one. Part of the “fun” actually was the secrecy of what I was doing to and by myself. And the FOTL strap was “forbidden fruit”. This was going to make for some fun experiments in male “self abuse”.

Currently the strap is in not terrible condition considering the “life” it led as a long-time “partner” of mine. This was not a Bike strap, it was a strap that would have been sold at a discount house not an athletic clothing place as such. I am guessing that I found my strap on a display at K mart next to other sporting goods items big and small on a wall in that particular section of the store. Not very expensive, maybe under $2. Just think the amount of fun I would have for that little money.

In comparing this strap to my newer straps, there are some things that are the same but a lot that is different too. The pouch is made of that goofy ribbed rubberized cloth at is never used in other types of clothing. Unlike a pouch made with Spandex, it still is in pretty good condition after maybe 50 years. The rubberized pouch holds up a lot better over time whereas one made with Lycra/Spandex would deteriorate and lose its “snap”.

The waistband is two inches wide not three inches wide. The elastic in that has held up well too, and there is another narrow ¼ inch wide strip of elastic sewn to the top of the pouch which in turn is sewn to the waistband using a zig zag stitch. The sewing and all the elastic is in good condition too.

Inside, on the waistband to the right of the pouch is a little elastic hanger loop as if FOTL expected guys to rinse out their straps after the game and then hang them to dry from this loop in a locker to dry until the next practice. I don’t know if anyone ever did that but I guess that was the intended purpose of the hanger loop.

Then there wwere the leg straps, once again bands of elastic about 3/8 ths inch wide that attach at the waistband an inch or so to the left and right of the pouch. These are all twisted but again the elastic is in very good shape given the age.

Of course, these elastic straps have to attach to the pouch at the base of the pouch, and there is quite a knot of material and stitching where they do. For someone into perineum stimulation this is quite a big deal, But back in the 70s I knew nothing about that. Still, looking at how this strap was made, I now better understand what was going on when I put on this strap--both in my brain and in my groin.

Oh, and did I mention that this strap still fits me, but the fit is really really tight. No doubt, when I made my purchase, I selected one in a smaller size. However, these straps were made in such a way that it is difficult to see how any guy could wear one without getting at least somewhat stimulated down there. Teen male athletes used to “play” with their peers in this regard by grabbing the back of a friend’s waistband on the strap and “snapping” his strap. Any guy who was already even a little aroused from just wearing the strap would quickly discover some sensitivities down there he did not realize he had let alone appreciate. Generically, this game is sometimes referred to as “horseplay” by young males, and of course horseplay is a lot more fun if the guys are all wearing straps in the locker room.

Did I mention that I can still wear the strap and diagnose what happens to me once I am in? Yesterday I put on a pair of thong underwear and pulled this strap on over. I have never quite figured out why for a long time it was something of a male “rite of passage” to be in locker rooms completely butt-naked while wearing a strap, but that was how it was. Being butt naked although strapped did not protect any athlete from a groin injury, but then the pouch without a cup merely managed to hold the genitalia in one place and not flopping around. Still, that was part of being an athlete—as an athlete you were required to be strapped! (and maybe cupped as well but that varied by sport).

I spent the entire day in the strap and thong. The neat part about this is that the thong wants to push my important body parts upward and forward even as the snug-fitting pouch wants to add a downward force and pressure. Combine that with the perineum pressure from both the knot on the thong where the back attaches to the thong pouch and the leg straps attach to the strap pouch, and you have a simple recipe for some really interesting sensations.

This strap long was and is great fun. I learned a lot of stuff about me and my body by engaging in this sort of strap play. Every guy who has worn an old-school strap like this probably can relate to what I am saying, and I am happy to share ideas as to what must be going on and why.

[sebbie]

Looking Back

This has been a long and interesting journey. As Internet sites go, I think we can agree that this Web site is relatively obscure—it certainly does not have millions of visitors, and, in recent years, only a limited number of new posts and comments. As those who have been following me for a long time, everyone know that I have posted a comparatively large amount, but the preponderance of my posts in recent years have been under two titles on the “Story Center” section of the Web site,

I have been checking back. I started the “What to Wear” Story way back in May of 2015. and the “Thoughts on just being a guy” Story in May of 2019, the latter in part because I thought maybe the What to Wear line had simply gotten too big for readers to easily navigate.

As of this morning, the end of May, 2024 What to Wear (WTW) contains 447 posts, some of which are comments and replies by others, and Thoughts on Just Being a Guy (TAG) has 228 posts and comments. As of this morning WTW has had 258,141 visitors and readers and TAG has had 147, 641 visitors and readers, for a total of 405,782 visitors and readers. I view cracking the 400,000 mark in visitors and readers as something of a milestone.

The content is proving to be quite popular and it is being found even in a fairly well-hidden location. Of course, the stories I have regularly written represent something of a long-time personal journey for me that can be summarized by the simple statement “Every adult male can still have a great deal of personal enjoyment with his body even if he is not in a relationship with another person!” And further, “I will explain in detail the simple, safe techniques I employ to accomplish that and you can experiment with them yourself!”

You and your partner might find some of these techniques to be quite enjoyable if you are in a relationship, but do not fret if you are not, as the techniques work anyway!

Of course, in this group, some of these techniques might involve crawling into a too-tight swim brief and then seeing how your body “reacts” under such circumstances, but this is merely part of a larger and even more engaging picture of what you can do to, with and by yourself, either in the presence of a partner, or not.

Of course, over the years, the public perception of what constitutes normal sexual behavior or not has changed dramatically. Prior to about 1970, gay guys were treated as abnormal people who had a medical issue that could be “treated” by a knowledgeable psychiatrist. Etc Etc Etc. We all know the path this has taken in recent years even with regard to what is normal with respect to gender identity.

With all of these changes, the subject of solo sex aka masturbation aka self pleasuring is still kinda treated as abnormal, and the public still has not really gotten its head around the notion that somehow a guy who pulls on a skimpy swim brief and then masturbates into it is abnormal, relationship-challenged or some other equally derisive category. After all, in all this, male self pleasuring involving a garment is an abnormal fetish. The guy is more fond of the garment then having a real sexual relationship with a partner, etc etc.

Still, for many adult guys, the things they learned about their own bodies starting at puberty do not simply disappear when one reaches adulthood or even when one starts engaging in partner sex. The stuff I learned when I was 14 stuck like glue to my brain, and over the years I discovered a whole lot more. A basic problem I had as an adult is that I knew that if I got in a relationship, I simply was not going to be able to either act like what I knew about myself was not there or that a partner was going to ultimately be such a great substitute. I would never want to think back about all the fun I had when I was single! If others think partner sex was the way to go, fine for them, but the whole idea of a partner being a complete substitute for me was never going to happen. I would be miserable. I was simply having too much fun as a single person to want to mess up my life by constantly dealing with a partner.

Of course, guys move in and out of relationships with partners all the time. If having a sexual relationship with a partner is so all important, why do divorces take place? The bigger question, of course, is that if for whatever reason I no longer have a partner, how can I deal with my bodily urges in a satisfactory way? I know some guys think the only solution is to find another partner ASAP, but I have talked to men who have been married and divorced and then get into relationships and marry again, and this is still not satisfactory at all.

Still, if the guy has concluded that the only circumstance that works is to be with a partner then I guess that pairing up is the only solution. What I am saying is that there are solutions that are sexually- satisfying and do not involve another partner, but so long as you are led to believe that these solutions must be somehow “abnormal” then these solutions are not going to work for you.

I bounce around the porn sites on the Internet. The interesting idea I spot there is that any porn video involving male solo sex is automatically placed in the gay male section. The assumption I guess is that anyone wanting to learn about how other males pleasure themselves would be of interest only to guys who self-identify as gay. That does not seem correct to me at all. There could be an entire separate section devoted to solo-sex techniques. Indeed, the question I was constantly pondering as a young teen was whether or not my peers were experiencing the same things I was experiencing, and how they were dealing with the situations they faced. But the only thing teen males are usually willing to talk about is their encounters with females. The subject of what a guy does in bed alone at night, under the cover of darkness, still remains completely hidden from view.

Unless of course, you start reading the discussion in WTW and TAG! That I have shown a light on even some of this and others enjoy the stories is a great reward!

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