The reason Speedos are stigmatised

[Dooley67]

This kind of discussion has occurred so many times and there are no right or wrong conclusions to be drawn because it is all based on opinion. I think the best thing to do is to wear what you like, and accept that the article that Byron posted for us to read is narrow minded and probably written by someone who has no idea what kind of suits are out there. Let the guys who wear boardies and jammers wear what they want, and maybe just put the discussion to bed. We'll never get agreement or consensus, and frankly who needs agreement. I'll continue to wear my low cut 1.5 brief wherever I want with no apology or justification and if someone doesn't like it, so be it.

D67

[speedonutt]

The issue is bafflingly with straight men in shock at the suggestion.

Straight Guy Friends have no problem sitting around and making all kinds of "only among other guys" comments & Jokes.

Many also see being naked playing beer pong with their straight friends, panting & other public humiliating removal of all clothes.

But somehow Speedos are different. It makes no sense since bake games is fine.

Of course "shrinkage" or just tiny dicks seem likely culprit.

But nobody is looking at wet cold speedos and judging ... EXCEPT GAY MEN WHO DO IT ALL THE TIME, NONSTOP, but those in the "NEVER SPEEDO" WORLD have no idea and are too busy in an obvious mental disorder, drooling as they gaze and think ungodly thoughts about doing unnatural, unimaginable acts of sex, so devient that a group of gay men discussing it in private would start barfing & throwing up before the really nasty details of the sexual thoughts that are a constant can be uttered.

I think it's ignorance caused by blackouts imagining sex with women. But if they like prostitute level of sexual skin exposure on women, what's up with not wearing a speedo in hopes of getting them to notice the straight guys?

[swimtimx]

Originally Posted by Bede735

So a place where bikinis are prevalent e.g. a beach, is a place to pose in. And that's where the problem lies. If a man wears a pair of briefs at the beach he is posing, and that's just not the done thing. Far better to wear a pair of long shorts so as not to flaunt yourself.

So girls can pose at a beach and guys can't? Why not?

--Tim

[Torchwatch]

Posing requires affectation, placing the body to best advantage for the spectator. A man can wear speedos, bikini briefs and even swim thongs without posing. One should act indifferently to any viewers, get on with what you are doing and ignore the looks of those around you. Sunbathe or run on the beach, swim in the sea going out past those that paddle in the shallows but do it for yourself.
Modesty is not in what you wear but in how you wear it. The muscly but fat guy in his board shorts that always seems to be in the way making other's step aside as he walks by kicking sand about is posing, showing how tough he is. The group of younger guys in speedos kicking a ball about are doing it for their own pleasure, of course people are watching but they don't care!

[Dooley67]

Hey Torchwatch, I agree with you completely. You summed the whole issue up beautifully.

D67

[SwimTeamSpeedo]

I agree with Torchwatch that one should do what they want and wear what they like. I may be the minority, but I really don't buy all the stigma stuff. A Speedo is a perfectly acceptable swim suit. The guy in boardies might not choose to weat a speedo, so whay. I likewise will pass on the boardies. I respecy his right to choose, and find people are fine with my choice.

[Dooley67]

I think that you're right about the stigma thing, STS. Maybe our perceptions are what they are because here in Maine people don't bother each other and don't make a big deal out of things like what kind of swimsuit one is wearing.

But, beyond Maine, I've worn speedos of various sizes in many places in the US, Bermuda, the Caribbean, and Europe and have never felt in any way that I should be wearing something else because of any stigma associated with speedos.

[Bede735]

Speedo wearers are a bit like Goths. A type of dress/lifestyle different from the norm. With Goths some people ridicule them or are aggressive to them, but in general are fine with it. Just like Speedos.

[Mollyk]

I wear bikinis to tan in, relax in and for my guy.

I wear one piece for swim workouts and to avoid heavy sun.