Thoughts on just being a guy

[sebbie]

How Often Should a Guy Have Fun?

What an interesting question! Of course, I do not mean fun in a general sense, but in a specific sense, actually a VERY specific sense. I am thinking back to that point in time when I was quite young, and had only recently “discovered” that there was something very special about being a guy. Every once and a while I would find myself thinking that somehow I was really enjoying myself, and I thought the special feelings were somehow linked to something weird that was happening in my groin area. It was weird. I knew I was feeling good, but these odd and wonderful sensations I was experiencing, though somehow focused on my lower body were quickly making my entire “being” feel somehow supercharged.

Not long after I learned that other guys my age were smiling and describing this situation as “feeling horny”. Even more interestingly these same guys were trying to find ways to “stimulate” these sensations in the old days by getting copies of magazines with photos of nude females and, of course, describing encounters they had or fantasized about happening with females they knew that were of similar age. How traditional can you get, anyway? While having little if an y interest in these activities myself, I was always taking mental notes on what the other guys were doing and, on occasion, explaining to their male friends. The conclusion I reached is that there is no fixed method guys use in order to feel horny, and such an occurrence can be brought on in a variety of ways. Further, practically every guy at some level believes that what he likes to do to feel horny is somehow “different” from what any other male his age likes to do to accomplish the same thing, and therefore must be “abnormal” (except, of course for the desire to have sex with a female).

For me, the curious thing about feeling horny was the strange intermingling of the mental with the physical. A guy could feel horny simply by forming mental images of an erotic situation, the specifics of the image being as unique to each guy as his individual fingerprints. If I somehow dared describe for you the details of the images that turn me on, you might very well say “that does nothing for me at all,” and vice versa.

But then there is also the physical aspect. An interesting question is why so many teen males are fearful of garments that fit snug in the groin area, examples being swim briefs and athletic supporters. I guess this is because many guys think that in donning the garment they may very well not only feel quite horny but suddenly also get an uncontrolled erection and that erection may happen in a space (say a locker room) where other males might see. This is terrifying. But the funny part about all of this is that guys LIKE to be in this predicament except for the part where other guys somehow discovered what was happening to you and made fun of you because of this.

By the time I was 14, I was probably having episodes of feeling horny several times a day, even without being in a strap or swim brief while still just thinking about how much fun it would be to be able to pull on a strap or swim brief in private and then jerk off in the tight garment to an explosion of semen. Then I would be contemplating how to get the mess I had created cleaned up before someone else discovered what I had managed to do to, with and by myself.

Many, many years have passed. As time has gone by, I learned new methods for feeling horny while better controlling when and how these events occurred. In all these years I have never lost interest in feeling horny, though nowadays I can go several weeks without getting myself into that state. And I learned that on the porn sites the idea of edging occupies a special place for many males pursuing solo sex in front of the video camera. The video guys like to say I have gone maybe a week or more without jerking off, and then the test is to see how long they can go manually stimulating themselves while still deferring a full orgasm. As a guy gets older it typically becomes easier to edge for long periods of time, even though this becomes more and more difficult the longer the time has been since the last orgasm. Edging is really fun stuff while completely avoiding the complexities of partner sex.

Currently, I have not felt horny in maybe 3-4 weeks. But this morning I got up and I said to myself “this morning I really want to be in a strap. So I quickly found a snug old-school basic strap, and sure enough, feeling that coarse textured rubberized pouch feels really good against my penis. I fully understand why males have this dual fondness for and hatred of these old school athletic supporters.

Well, I can't make it through the day wearing only a strap. The scheme that works for me is to pull a pair of SM Tesla running tights over. These feel really good too, and just touching my penis through the tights and strap feels sensational. So, I am feeling nice and horny as I am writing this and realize that I could be feeling like this all day long. This becomes a day-long form of edging that I am undergoing as I write this on this day. I am having a lot of fun as I write this and you can have fun too, even though my techniques might work differently for you than me. The important part is that you find the methods that work well for you!