What to wear?

[sebbie]

Confessing…

I am a retired college professor who has had a 40-year career in academics, and I have written gobs of stuff that is being read used and cited by other academics—students and faculty around the world. All of this is under my real name. I have been retired for some time.

I also admit that at least for some, I have an odd “hobby” of writing on all sorts of topics related to better understanding male sexuality and filling in the gaps in the books typically written by psychiatrists or sex researchers. But, the potential problem I had is that if I wrote on those topics using my real name, someone would soon do a Web search on my name and end up with a list of my academic writings in my real career mixed together with my writings on male sexuality topics. That was intolerable, and I could not pursue my hobby writing without figuring out a way to keep the two worlds entirely separate.

I quickly landed on the idea that I was in need of a “pen” name that I could use for my hobby writings, and at the same time continue to do academic writing under my real name. This idea has actually worked quite well and periodically I do some searches to check whether or not those who do searches under my pen name could find their way into my academic writings or vice versa, I can think of a few ways that someone who wanted to link the two could possibly find out, but it would not be an easy search.

In the 1990s and for some time after, I had an active Web site with some of my pen name writing for ready access. The problem I had was that someone would crawl into the site and conclude that what they read was somehow unsuitable for the general public including teenagers, to have ready access as well, yet what I was doing in my writings was never meant to be porn but merely educational and useful on topics that were seldom openly discussed by males. Some of my writings on male sexuality were very popular and quoted on other sites dealing with complex questions related to sex, relationships and related topics. But that did not stop at least one server site from banning be on content the basis of uploading pornographic content.

I even published a book on Amazon under my pen name and all you need to do to find it is to Google my pen name and up it will pop. Meanwhile you could Google my real name and you will see tons of my academic writings including several books on Amazon. But there is no way for a casual surfer to link the two. Right now I have no personal Web site dealing with male sexuality. If you want to read my latest thinking, you can usually find a new effort here at this site.

If you Google my pen name “David Sebringsil” you will get a link to my Amazon book and to various papers who have quoted papers I wrote that were on the old Web site. And if you use the Internet wayback machine, you can see a version of my old sebringsil.com site that is no longer active, along with the papers as they appeared on that site when it was active.

The papers that appeared on the old site now have some age to them. They did have some interesting titles one being “The Thonging Primer” that discussed some ways that guys could have fun once introduced to a male underwear thong with me giving “how to do it” advice that some of the server sites was too raunchy for general access. What is or is not pornographic versus merely educational in the world of sex is always an interesting issue.

So I just got through finding an original copy of “The Thonging Primer” and I thought it would be fun to ask the question “Does the advice I gave readers 25 years ago on this topic still hold, and what has changed since then that would either say “I changed my mind on some of this” or perhaps what is readily available has changed?

Some of you have probably read my recent essays on Wrangler Butts on the “Off-topic: section of this site. The interesting part when I went back to the old Thonging essay, part of it mentioned the fun a guy could have wearing a thong as underwear UNDER a pair of tight-fitting Wrangler jeans. What you see here are recurring long-term themes of mine.

Next, what I want to try and do here is present an annotated version of the Thonging Primer along with what still applies and what needs to be updated or even rethought entirely. But also expect me to be stunningly consistent, and generally what I thought was fun to do 25 or more years ago I still relish doing 25 years later.

I have other early papers that deserve the same treatment, “Spending the Night in a Cup” being my “classic” essay on straps and eroticism. So stick with me—this could be fun. And if you get a little aroused reading what I write, well that is why some people thought I should be banned from having all searchers be able to get ready access!

And also always remember that a male does not need to have a sexual partner in order to enjoy who you are as a male, and the idea of being a happy male living alone is another recurring theme in all of this, but this is especially true if your collection of Speedos is large!