What to wear?

[sebbie]

I have always been fascinated with the exact science underlying the male sexual arousal system and how sexual arousal works in a unique way for every guy. I have often thought that if males were all attracted to exactly the same things, they would all end up seeking out and attempting to have sex with the exact same partner. But, male sexual arousal and response can’t work that way at all, nor can female sexual response, for that matter. Each of us is unique as our own fingerprints in that regard, and sexual arousal and response therefore has to be processed differently by each of us. The long term survival of humanity depends on that.

Some guys seem to think that any sort of sexual response that does not directly involve a female partner is somehow abnormal or, at minimum, a personality weakness. Still, guys fantasize about situations that involve sexual arousal all the time. Well, perhaps not all the time, but certainly most of the time. :-) Reality has a whole series of barriers as to what can and cannot be done from a sexual-arousal perspective. Oddly enough, the fantasy world has no such barriers. Guys are perfectly free to fantasize about anything that turns them on, whether what it is they are fantasizing about would be considered OK in reality or not. That is part of the fun of the fantasy world—a guy can simply just let his mind wander to wherever it wants to go.

Fantasizing about stuff that is a sexual turn-on might better be called daydreaming with a sexual theme. Think about a daydream in which a guy is fantasizing about having sex with a female that he finds to be particularly sexy and attractive. Now this most often probably is not possible for any number of reasons, but that does not stop a guy from fantasizing about it. Much the same can be said for a gay guy who likes to fantasize about some sort of sexual interaction with another male he finds particularly attractive from a sexual perspective as well. There may be all sorts of practical barriers to acting this out too, starting with a real possibility that the guy he is fascinated by is straight not gay and would not be interested in having a sexual encounter with another male.

MOST sexual fantasies probably are not acted on, and that is probably a good not bad thing. Guys tend to remember and carry with them the best sexual fantasies, the ones that over time seem most arousing. The less arousing ones tend to be gradually discarded.

Sexual fantasies often become the raw material that guys use when they have wet dreams. Like non-sexual dreams, chunks of what might have been fantasized about in the daydream get worked into the story line of a wet dream, as the guy not only replays events in dreams that contain plot lines from what was arousing sexually during the day into a story line that keeps going into the details of what the guy would have liked to have happened in reality during the day, but of course did not. There is no real limit to how the story line develops once the guy is asleep, except to say that the best story lines will give the guy a huge hard-on while still asleep which, for a “normal” 19-year old college guy (such as the four guys in the story) concludes with one terrific orgasm. Somehow the guy USUALLY wakes up just in time to realize what is on the verge of happening. The dream content got just exactly to the point whereby the guy could no longer keep the orgasm from happening even if he wanted to.

What does this all have to do with Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh? Well, for starters the four of them are each encountering a variety of daytime experiences that each of them finds sexually arousing from their own individual perspectives. This is a very normal thing to happen for each of them. Each of them carries whatever was picked up during the day that was sexually arousing into their sleep time, and how the brain processes this stuff each night is always interesting. Actually, it’s a not-to-be-missed experience, even if it sometimes means that whatever the guy wore to bed will need to be laundered, let alone the sheets

But what happens if the daytime sexual fantasies involve something that is not about having sex with a partner, male or female, but about something else? Suppose a guy gets aroused by what I call the “swim brief shopping trip fantasy” or the “first attempt at putting on a jock strap in the locker room fantasy”. Worse, what if the guy gets aroused just seeing another guy wearing a really skimpy swim brief? Is it the guy or the swim brief that is turning him on? Is this so intertwined that the answer to the question impossible to determine? Are guys who are turned on by skimpy swim briefs perhaps closeted and frustrated gay guys, or is it possible for a guy to get sexually aroused by the mere thought of getting to wear a skimpy swim brief and all of this has basically nothing to do with sexual orientation?

Same with the jock strap story. Maybe the guy is interested in seeing the straps being tried on and worn by his peer males in the gym locker room. Do guys give furtive glances at other guys clad in their snug-fitting straps? Is this merely curiosity as in “I’m wondering if the other guys are struggling with wearing this without getting a hard-on like I am struggling with this” or is this more complicated still? Is it the tight little strap and cup that is causing me to get erect, or is it the fact that I am getting to see my peers struggling with this too that is making me hard? A tough call for sure!

Guys are routinely uncomfortable in even starting to openly deal with all of this. Generally, guys have determined that having wet dreams can be really fun, and the right sexual dream can be a nearly unforgettable experience. Never mind the mess and the need to try to “explain” what happened come morning . This is more of the male sexuality stuff involving about equal parts terror and unbridled good feelings.

A sexually arousing moment during the day sets a guy up for the possibility at least of having a really powerful wet dream that night. In this regard, the “arousing partner “ story line probably does not work any better than a dream replaying the “shopping trip for a swim brief” or “trying on the straps at the gym” experience. Of course, every guy is going to process the various events of the day a little differently for sure. Some guys may build wet dreams around partner-sex themes, while these other fantasies might play a bigger role for other guys.

Finally, there is the issue of whole role of snug-fitting garments in channeling wet dreams in certain ways. The guy who was turned on by the swim brief shopping trip fantasy might consider, for example, the possibility of actually wearing a skimpy swim brief to bed. The guy who found the jock strap at the gym fantasy to be arousing might try spending the night in a strap and cup, the snugger-fitting the better.

Guys know that during the night, the male penis goes through alternate cycles of expansion and contraction, and if the penis during the expansion phase is cofined within a snug-fitting garment, something will probably have to give as the now-activated nerves in the penis come up against something slinky smooth (the swim brief) or immovably hard (the hard cup in the pouch).These ideas could make for more frequent and better wet dreams too, leading to stronger orgasms.

Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh have figured this all out, pretty much.

To be continued….