What you feel about to be the only one guy wearing speedos?

[Dooley67]

Fellow forum members,

It sounds like Byron is telling us that he will be leaving the forum and I am very sorry to hear that. I may have been one of the people whose replies to him caused him to make this decision; however, I do not regret those replies because bullies must be called on their behavior.

I regret his decision because I have the utmost respect for Byron's intellect, and I believe him to be a brilliant man with a wonderful command of the English language, a researcher who could run rings around any reference librarian, a person who is always willing to take on an investigative challenge, and an excellent grammarian.

Unfortunately, Byron's rudeness and demeaning of other individuals is what many of us have objected to, and with repeated pleas to refrain from his rudeness, Byron did not change his behavior. He has bullied others with his gift for language and that I will surely not miss. There could have been such a better outcome had he only been willing to take the advice that was given to him and stopped the verbally abusive behavior.

For those positive contributions, Byron will be missed.

D67

[Crail]

Dooley; you have expressed my sentiments extremely well. Yes, I have also tangled with Byron and it is too bad that what he has brought to the board is offset by what I call his dark side. Perhaps he may yet return with a different perspective.

[shaulis]

I don't believe for a second that Bryon has left the board. Bryon derives too much pleasure from letting everyone know just how intellegent
he is and goes out of his way to say that. Bryon will be back and much more spiteful in my humble opinion.

[sebbie]

Everyone just calm down and take a deep breath. I am sorry there are these rifts, but long ago I've learned long ago that personal spats on message boards never go anywhere. Bryan posts great photos and I don't know how he finds some of them. Just ignoring anything I dont like to read always works well. Which leads be back to the idea that everyone should not try to respond to whatever it is they don't like. Carrying on back and forth with another poster just digs a deeper hole, and just not responding is the best strategy if you want a poster to stop doing something you don't like.

I THINK I am in good standing with everyone here, and that is my strategy for maintaining that status.

I know men generally have a genetic programming to fight when offended not retreat, buit everyone needs to control those urges and get on with the fun stuff.

Sebbie
Author, "Understanding Male Sexuality" available on Amazon or through your favorite book retailer.

[Dooley67]

Originally Posted by sebbie

Everyone just calm down and take a deep breath. I am sorry there are these rifts, but long ago I've learned long ago that personal spats on message boards never go anywhere. Bryan posts great photos and I don't know how he finds some of them. Just ignoring anything I dont like to read always works well. Which leads be back to the idea that everyone should not try to respond to whatever it is they don't like. Carrying on back and forth with another poster just digs a deeper hole, and just not responding is the best strategy if you want a poster to stop doing something you don't like.

I THINK I am in good standing with everyone here, and that is my strategy for maintaining that status.

I know men generally have a genetic programming to fight when offended not retreat, buit everyone needs to control those urges and get on with the fun stuff.

Sebbie
Author, "Understanding Male Sexuality" available on Amazon or through your favorite book retailer.

Sebbie,

I agree with you up to a point. If we speak in terms of reinforcement and operant conditioning, not responding should eliminate the behavior because that behavior is not being reinforced. That being said, I still believe that verbal abuse should not and cannot be tolerated. And bullying behavior needs to be confronted for what it is.

On another subject, I believe that you must be on good terms with everyone. How could you not? You bring so much to the board and always show the utmost respect for others.

D67

[50 Free]

Well you know, every forum has that guy who seems to have nothing better to do than respond to every single post on every single topic and correct every viewpoint and straighten out every opinion. You have to be able to let it roll off your shoulders, maybe even laugh at it. This whole Board.com and what it's all about is just plain hilarious and borderline ridiculous, how anyone takes it that seriously is beyond me. Quite entertaining, addicting even!
Yeah, this seems to be Byron's life. I hope he doesn't go away, he would miss us as much as we would miss him.

[Dooley67]

Back to the original topic. My wife and I arrived in Kill Devil Hills on the Outer Banks of North Carolina for a beach vacation. This morning I swam laps at the local Y in my Turbo Ipanema, a little bit frustrating because the water was very warm and the pool depth is from 3'6" to 5", so in the shallow area, my feet touched bottom when doing the breast stroke if I wasn't careful to really propel myself.

This afternoon we went to the beach and I was truly the only one wearing a speedo (Nike 2"). It was underneath a pair of short Tactics swim shorts. I was so embarrassed to be the only one on the beach in a speedo that I didn't take my shorts off...for a full second....lol. All of the men were wearing board shorts, some shorter than others and there were lots of hot young, thin guys wearing their boardies very low on the hips, as low as my low cut brief. I could only imagine how they would look in a brief like mine. And I felt fine about being the only one. Each to his own.

D67

[Swimmboy]

Way to go, Dooley67 - wear that Turbo suit proudly!

[Dooley67]

Swimmboy,

Tomorrow it's the red Sporti. I'll wear a different one each day.

D67

[louis]

sebbie. I agree with you, I was a senior on the old board and I got mixed up in something similar to what is going on on this board, things were really going tuff and I got very close to quit such as Byron did.
I was getting negative comments all the time because of my spelling being a french canadian english is a second language Even if I speak english fluently I had difficulties to write without doing to many misspellings.
On the old board there was a lot of contest and me and Mike our owner and moderator had exchanges as I was in a sort of way the supplier of the prizes to be sent to the winners. Ayway I emailed Mike telling him that as soon as the many contest were over I would quit the board.
Mike responded Phil (my name is Philip) dont quit dont pay attention to what some say sending negative responses the best thing to do is just ignore them and not respond at all. I have a great respect for Mike I even remember that at the time I was giving away a lot of suits to members that couldnt afford them and never asking to pay postage even I allways paid to send the suits to them.
This was beginning to cost a lot of money so I told the members that I would still send suits to those that couldnt afford to buy them but they would from now on have to pay for the postage cost.
Well beleave it or not some sent me disobliging comments because of this.
Well beleave it or not Mike posted a message on my behalf on the board saying he didnt approve of such comments and the negative comments stopped ( Mike I dont know if you remember this but thanks a lot for what you did)
This is a board that is meant to exchange comments between speedo lovers and negative disobliging comments should not be exchanged between us if such are sent to you just dont respond to them just ignore them as Mike suggested for me to do.
Being a speedo board , topics that have nothing to do with speedos prevail a lot on this new board annoyes a lot of guys (including me ) anyway well there is allways a polite way to respond to them saying that the subjects of conversations should be about speedos only (even those concerning speedos not in the sense of the word is ok after all speedos are speedos.
politness is a golden key that opens many doors so they say.
To close permit me to say that I will never thank Mike enough for this board and he knows that. permit me to add that if those that dont agree with what I just sead well let it be known that your insinuations are nothing more then my complete indifferences (DONT EXPECT ME TO REPLY) On the old board we had a motto witch was speedo on guys so speedo on guys and once more thanks so much Mike.