[sebbie]

Having Fun By Myself


I have been a long-time advocate for the idea that a guy need not have a sexual partner in order to greatly enjoy his own body, and as I get older, I only believe that more and more. Over the years I have experimented with new to me and interesting techniques for accomplishing this, and I frequently think about the idea that if having a sexual partner is such an irreplaceable part of life, then why do couples split as often as they do. I guess a lot of guys get into sexual relationships because they somehow believe that this is the “normal” thing to do, and that's what the other guys are doing. But like a lot of things in life, perhaps what seems so obvious is not reality.

My real interest is in being “sexually active” in a rewarding way without any of the issues associated with having a partner for sex. If some of what I do might also work in a partnered situation, fine, but my focus is on the ideas in a solo-sex situation.

Over the decades I have learned a lot about when my body is happy or not in any situation I encounter, alone or in the presence of others. I have also developed what I regard as creative ideas for getting the most out of solo sex, in part building on ideas that fascinated me when I was a teenager.

I have often thought about why bar soap is no longer selling in anywhere near the amounts sold 20 or 25 years ago. It has been almost entirely replaced by semi-liquid gel soap. The answer I think is that bar soap does not work as a masturbation lube, whereas the gel soap is a near perfect masturbation lube assuming you will be entering the shower (or even taking a tub bath) shortly. Gel soap is an excellent masturbation lube that can be found in almost every home, and using it as a masturbation lube is simple.

In solo sex, I like to start by taking advantage of this to get myself semi-hard. Then apply a device known as an e-stim. This AAA battery powered current in a variety of pulsing patterns at varying levels via electro conductive silicone rings positioned at the base and glans of my penis. Don’t say that you would not enjoy this unless you have tried it. These devices are available for around $20. I’ve had a lot more than $20 worth of fun out of mine and I am sure you would too.

Between the lube and the electricity, I am now feeling pretty good down there. I have discovered that vacuum penis pumps work far better if I am already feeling good, psychologically and physically, and the gel soap works as an excellent lube with the pump as well. Again, $20 for a decent manual pump. I like the manual ones the best..

One key to using the pump is the sheath, and when I put on the sheath I snap a heavy solid blue penis ring on top. That ring will snap onto my penis at the base after I have pumped myself up with a loud “Snap” sound. This helps to keep my penis hard after the pump comes off. Once the pump is off I like to put another ring on the glans, this one is typically a clear and beaded one. Somehow that feels really great on the glans. I lube my penis up some more with the gel soap, and it communicates to me that it is having a great time. At this point its not just me penis that is having a great time. I love the fit and feel of the rings on my penis.

Once out of the bath, I still have not had an orgasm, and am ready to try some other stuff, maybe in one of my tiny IKINGSKY thongs. This thong has a triangular-shaped piece of cloth at the “Y” in the Y-back. I think these make a neat undergarment for a swim brief, like one of my Seobean briefs. Like some of other swim briefs, when sized properly the Seobean reveals a little butt crack in the rear, what I call a Japanese style fit. The Y back thong back covers the otherwise visible top crack, This becomes my bedtime wear for summer.

I am ready to crawl into bed, but despite everything going on and having been horny to way horny, I have still not had an orgasm. That is where the “Magic Wand” clone vibrator comes in (another $20 item). My penis seems really happy, but longs for something more. The vibrator has all sorts of patterns available. I like the one that goes really fast then slow, and then goes into a nearly full stop mode, kinda a growl. The problem is with all this going on and me as horny as I feel after the rest of this, I go into a full-blown orgasm with only about 30 seconds of vibrator application to my penis covered with the pouch of the IKINGSKY and the Seobean. This is super snug-fit hard-on at its very best. Overall, just a terrific night of solo sex. After this I remove the IKINGSKY and the Seobean and replace it with a Clever Thong I have. The Clever thong feels good too but still I fall asleep super quick. But waking up at 6:30 AM I am still feeling super horny, despite the vibrator-induced. The Clever has a new precum stain on the front pouch.

I am fascinated with solo sex and the ways to get there, but my readers all knew that already! Have Fun!