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Dealing with your “Demons”: The Human Male from Puberty to Adulthood”

Guys frequently reach puberty at age 12, which means that by age 12 guys not only can get aroused and erect but also can have a real orgasm complete with semen. While teen males can and do date females, this varies a lot depending on the age of the guys and other factors as well. Schools generally host proms involving a date for juniors and seniors, not freshmen and sophomores, which means that dating involving but one other person is much more of a 16-and-up thing and not for younger but still sexually mature guys.

Younger guys may go to parties and other events aimed at many students male and female, but one-on-one dating at a younger age is generally very limited if at all. Still, the guy is sexually mature, and the juices are flowing. This means that sexual self-pleasuring will likely become an important part of the teen male’s daily life.

Some basic facts are this:

Partner sex with another person—straight, gay or something else—involves risks of various sorts—getting an underage female pregnant is the most obvious concern, but guys having sex with a partner he has not married this can easily cause big problems for older guys too (see Hunter Biden). For any kind of body-fluid-exchanging sexual activity there are sexually transmitted diseases to be concerned about. Worse, a guy having sex with a female at a younger age could end up in an expensive lawsuit with the same-but-now-older woman who accuses him of sexual harassment a decade or more later. The bottom line on this is that guys of all ages need to be very concerned about engaging in sex with any person on a casual basis, for fear what might come back to haunt him at a later point in time (See Donald Trump).

In contrast, solo sex, aka solo male masturbation, is free of all of these issues. There are different issues here. First, a guy never wants to be seen in a public or semi-public setting engaging in masturbation. Soon after puberty, most guys work on finding ways to do it in private, as in at night, under the bed covers. They long to be in a setting whereby in the daytime they are alone, or if not that, in the shower, any scheme that ensures that the activity will not be seen by others, such as a peer or another family member.

Discussion of masturbation is brought down by the false belief that masturbation is a simply a “childish” thing to do, and a greatly inferior thing to do relative to partner sex in adulthood and in a host of different ways. Once in a serious relationship, guys are supposed to replace whatever they were doing solo with partner sex, and never look back. The problem is that the real world often does not work that way, and in the process of becoming an adult, a guy may have discovered some solo techniques he really enjoys and does not want to discard. This can cause strains in adult relationships, but especially with women who falsely sees herself as the sole source of sexual pleasure for the man.

Teen males would probably like to masturbate at least on a daily basis, but they are often stuck wanting to learn techniques from others who could provide the information. I guess this is the responsibility of parents, but interestingly, many parents are embarrassed to even broach the subject. Parents are not going to give a guy instruction on how to make yourself “feel good” down there. And with all the uproar about schools teaching any content related to sex and sexuality, you can bet that there is not going to be a school class titled “Learning How to Masturbate” being listed any time soon.

The next option might be classmate peer males, but this is the one topic a lot of males simply refuse to discuss even with their closest male friends, part out of sheer embarrassment (maybe your classmate knows even less than you do!) So most guys are simply left on their own in learning to navigate an experience that they really enjoy yet need to keep as secret as possible, while exploring new ideas for getting aroused and having an orgasm. Nearly every guy has to find a way to deal with the dilemma at an early stage in his life.

Had God intended for humans not to masturbate he would not have given humans hands and fingers that can so easily engage in the activity. God is fine with masturbation even if some humans are not fine with it. If masturbation were a bad thing to do. A lot of the videos on the porn sites are not about engaging in sex with a partner, but simply about demonstrating interesting solo masturbation efforts, sometimes not employing anything other than the hands, but sometimes using devices such as hand-held vibrators or other devices. Guys watch other guys doing these things not because they are necessarily interested in gay partner sex, but simply to fill in the blanks with new ideas for specific techniques they might have missed out on learning as a teenager that are both safe and also exactly what other guys are doing that is kept enjoyable. One of the great mysteries about growing up male is kept secret, and, as an adult, this is one way to fill in the blanks.

I got to thinking about the Christian Ocean videos in which guys get to try on a skimpy swim brief or thong for the first time typically as an adult over 18 years of age. The videos set up a situation whereby the guy could easily get a hard-on, and then not even fit into the pouch of the suit, but this never happens. The guys that appear in the video are secure enough so that they avoid that “problem”. Still, these videos are very popular, and a lot of guys watch them simply because a lot of guys are interested in how other guys “cope” with a super snug-fitting swimsuit.

Of course, a basic issue with putting on a swim brief is that once a guy gets it on, he may start inadvertently to “get it on” resulting in what could be a potentially embarrassing situation in an at least somewhat public situation. For the guy this is equal parts terror and sheer enjoyment. Many guys, me included, are fascinated with seeing how other guys cope in such a situation. And the swimwear manufacturers are great at designing swimwear that is relentless in showing off the outline of what is happening. Christian Ocean seems very good at finding just the suits that create that predicament for the guys trying them on, and viewers flock to the channel for that reason.