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Originally Posted by Torchwatch
Embarrassment is a negative emotion; everyone is looking at you and jeering. Empowerment is positive; everyone may still seem to be looking at you but some are jealous and approving, some are supportive, some are laughing but they are laughing with you and you don't care about the others.
I used to have a recurring dream, I'd wake up naked in bed on stage with the spotlights on me and an audience of hundreds. If I stayed in the bed the audience would start jeering, but if I left the bed the audience would see me naked.
Once I started swimming in speedos and showed I was faster and stronger than the others I developed greater body confidence, in the dream I got out of the bed and performed for the audience showing my body winning them over, I never had the dream again.
So if you wear skimpy swim briefs at a pool and on a beach try to look confident, keep your hands at your sides and your head up, it's when you look shy and embarrassed with your hands covering the front of the suit and your eyes to the ground avoiding other peoples glances that you start to think everyone is looking at you and jeering.
Skimpy is comparative, if everyone is wearing shorts below the knees and you are wearing short shorts that's skimpy, if everyone is wearing speedos and your wearing a swim thong that is also skimpy. It's probably best not to wear that swim thong if everyone else is wearing long shorts.
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It hasn’t bothered me in the past , wearing a thong , on a beach where everyone else is wearing board shorts . If I feel it’s a relaxed atmosphere I’m very confident doing that . Naturally if it’s got a more laddish vibe then that would make me uncomfortable . If everyone chooses to wear board shorts then that is their fashion choice and a thong might be mine …. The sad truth is of course is that I think the majority of women if polled would say they prefer their man in shorts rather than anything skimpy . Not a universal belief I’m sure ….but it’s think it’s generally true . I will continue to go pretty skimpy whether that’s with a bikini brief in our uk pool or Rio backs and thongs and strap sides abroad