[sebbie]

On Becoming an Adult Male

Young guys growing into adulthood face some important issues and problems. Puberty comes on strong, in ways that are at once both wonderful and terrifying. Erections seem to occur relentlessly and often for no apparent reason. Guys quickly learn that the sensations from building and sustaining an erection are wonderful, and the “big payoff”, that is, ejaculation, is about as terrific as life gets, but they are terrified that they will lose control of the situation and get an erection or, worse, ejaculate in a situation that might prove not only demeaning but terrifying. By terrifying means ejaculating in the presence of other males their own age.

This all gets intertwined in the whole subject of developing a specific sexual orientation. The general rule is that any guy who masturbates, gets an erection or ejaculates in the presence of anyone other than a female is automatically a faggot. So the guy worries about the whole idea of being discovered masturbating, getting an erection or, horror of horrors, ejaculating. These pursuits MUST be done in total privacy or a guy will be teased or worse for the rest of his days.

Still, the simple act of getting aroused and the events that may follow are really enjoyable--female partner or no--and guys quickly realize that. But guys also quickly learn that their survival depends on pulling this off in secret without being obvious. Doing so is part of the game that is a key element of becoming an adult.

I learned at an early age that snug-fitting clothing of many different types had the potential to quickly get me aroused, bit that was not a topic I dared discuss with my male peers or with anyone else for that matter. Just THINKING of getting into some items that would fit snug and tight had the potential to give me a full erection, and often did. Like now, back when I was growing up, really slim-fitting jeans were quite popular with the guys, and many of my peers seemed to vie in seeing who could wear the jeans to school with the snuggest fit.

You may think that the real problem guys have is getting into a situation where they are forced to put on a swim brief for the first time in the presence of other males, or maybe a budding athlete encountering their first “forced” jock strap wear and how to cope with the nearly inevitable erection that might follow, but there are other situations as well. Some guys seem to think that the only garment that really presents a problem in this regard is a swim brief, and the goofy idea is that the problem is eliminated by simply wearing a jammer instead. But the guy still has the problem of where to position a semi-erect penis within the jammer, a penis that may be at least as obvious in a jammer as it would be in a swim brief, and just because the suit covers a guy to the mid thighs is not going to alleviate the “problem.” In short, the fact that a guy has a penis is not going to somehow be less apparent in the jammer. The whole idea in Jammer design is for the garment to fit tight like a second skin.

So the guys my age are nearly all wearing jeans that fit snug in the calf, snug in the thighs, low rise at the waist, and fitting like a second denim skin over the glutes. Any real pair of jeans has a key rear seam that runs upward at the center of the rear along the guy’s butt crack. The tighter the pair of jeans the snugger the fit, but that also means a smaller size with a lower rise. So the idea is to pull the jeans upward in front, but that means that the all-important rear vertical butt seam has to go in between the glutes, even as the glutes are covered even more snuggly with the denim. With the right anatomy, this seam cinches up between the glutes, almost like a thong back. This fit, almost mandatory for guys in the 1960s, looks great, and guys would inevitably try and “outdo” each other in “looking their best” in this regard.

Me, I was this scrawny dude weighing only 105 pounds on my newly acquired 5’10” height. My calves were not very big, nor my thighs, And my butt was small too. Still, I wanted to wear the look my other guys were wearing. To pull this off I needed to go shopping for a pair of jeans that would still fit tight on my obviously scrawny body. Not so easy. The pair of jeans I really wanted my mom thought fit too tight ( I did not!), but we compromised on a second pair that fit a bit looser.

Then I went off to a multi-day event with a bunch of other guys my age were attending as well, guys who were mostly going to be clad in the super-snug jeans I had so much admired, never having actually worn my new jeans for any length of time. Now was the opportunity. Except, of course, I got quickly turned on by even the thought of being inside a snug-fitting garment. So I put on the jeans intending on wearing them all day (I had not done anything close to that before), and almost immediately got a decent-sized erection, which I thought would dissipate if I only quit focusing on what I was doing. But, for the moment I had to put the erection in a place where it might not be that noticeable—as in pointed downward into the left leg of the jeans. That would be a “safe” spot, I thought to myself.

Was I ever wrong! I started walking with the other guys. I was actually quite hard inside the new jeans. With each step I made my penis ended up moving right along with the step, but the base of my penis was stuck in one place. Instead of my erection dissipating as we walked, I kept getting harder and harder and my urge to ejaculate kept getting stronger and stronger. It wasn’t long I had more inadvertent stimulation than any young guy could ever handle physically or mentally. I suddenly stopped walking and a full-scale ejaculation quickly happened, soon accompanied by some large wet spots from the semen bursting through the cloth of the tight-fitting jeans. YOU talk about terrific erotic fun mixed with holy terror, this was it!

The interesting part of this story is that despite all of this, to their credit none of the guys ever asked me why I stopped walking for a moment or about where those wet splotches on my jeans suddenly appeared, nor teased me about the sequence of events. Maybe the other guys had undergone situations of their own like mine.

Snug fitting jeans have gone in and out of fashion with young males over the years and we have just passed through a point in time where they have been extremely fashionable once again. But there have also been periods in the not distant past the popular jeans were the ones that fit loose enough to cover an erection of practically any size. And in these periods I have often thought that the popularity of baggy jeans was linked to the idea that the guys wanted to make certain that they did not get into the predicament I faced that warm sunny day long ago. The popularity of the snug fit seems also linked to the degree of enthusiasm guys have in getting toned and fit, with the whole idea of using the jeans as an excuse to show off a body with toned and fit calves, thighs and glutes. And also, maybe the conditioning of other parts of the male anatomy as well! Jeans seem to go through cycles of loose versus tight fit, not unlike cycles between swim briefs and board shorts! Board shorts that fit loose enough to hide even a fully-erect penis, or maybe not!

As a young teen one day I was struggling to get myself contained within my little red plaid swimsuit with the nylon brief support liner. Mom observed that I was having some problems in changing into the suit, and, on observing first-hand what the real problem was, she said to me “You know, if you want that to go down in size all you need to do is to stop thinking about it so much!” A keen observation, but not so easy to do, mom, not so easy to do!