[sebbie]

Turning it On (and Off)

To me, what makes male sexuality (and HUMAN sexuality, for that matter) so endlessly fascinating is that sexual sensations always come about via a quirky mix of the psychological and the physical. Perhaps even more interesting is the idea that this can happen in situations where the events SHOULD happen (say while with a sexual partner) but also in situations where the reasons might be very unclear, or at least unclear to anyone other than the guy experiencing the situation.

I suppose the “classic’ example of a guy facing the latter situation is the first encounter with putting on and wearing a swim brief. A lot of guys are, well, apprehensive, with respect to the physical aspects of this. The guy may be worried about such a basic questions as “how will my penis ‘react’ to being inside such a tiny, snug-fitting garment?” Or, even more interestingly, “Once in will I be able to control “urges” that could quickly get out of control. After all, getting a hard-on and even ejaculating is not exactly something a guy can turn on and off like a water faucet. At some point, parts of the arousal, erection and ejaculation can quickly cycle into what seems to be an involuntary mode, where the guy is sensing that his body is simply doing what it must under the circumstances it is in and the guy’s brain is simply riding along without being in control of the situation as it is unwinding before him.

Making a guy even more apprehensive is if he knows he is going to have to be with peers—male and even possibly female—when all of this is going to happen. The guys who regularly wear swim briefs are “used” to all of this, presumably, and these guys do not give the idea of getting into one a second thought…or for that matter get aroused either physically or psychologically. But maybe not!

Most guys, confronted with the situation that I have described for the first time would probably discover that their male bodies “react” to the situation in what appears to be an involuntary way. They start oozing precum even before they fully realize what psychologically is bothering them. Of course, oozing precum is fascinating. Some guys think that once that starts to occur, a full ejaculation cannot be far away. But that is not true, or at least not necessarily true. It bothers some guys I guess that the body is showing a visible sexually-charged “reaction” to the situation even though the guy does not have a significant erection. What is going on here, anyway?

I remember putting on my first pair of thong men’s underwear. Age-wise I think I was already in my early 30s. I had brought home three pair from a discount department store and the back of each of them was a thin round elastic cord that was less than a quarter inch in diameter. I knew where that would have to go, and I was not sure if I was going to be able to “tolerate” the situation very well at all. Then there was the rubbery elasticized pouch that seemed to be too small to contain both my penis and balls, but that was the only way.

Of course, as I contemplated all of this, I did what any “normal” male would do—I started to precum, big time, releasing quarter dollar sized stains of sticky goo right into my new thong underwear.

Suddenly it dawned on me that far from this involuntary “response” being an issue, the thong was great fun, and it was not long before I started wearing these at night as well as in the daytime. I was thoroughly hooked on precumming as a very enjoyable thing to do, and something that can be actively pursued and encourage without a sexual partner if a guy has none. Goofy? Maybe a little, but fun, way fun.

Guys of course normally work their way through their apprehension about getting into a swim brief to the point that it ‘bothers” them less from a psychosexual perspective. Well maybe. Or maybe not. What is the big deal if a guy were to admit to others that he actually enjoys himself this way. This is perfectly safe fun.

So today, in prepping for my daily rowing and stationary biking that I do every day, I decided it would be a good idea to go through my daily exercise wearing first an underwear thong—though a men’s thong designed for swimming would also work. Then I pulled on a strap--this time one without a cup—over that, and finally on top of that an undersized pair of blue swimming jammers. Compression tee on top. The combination felt great, and, judging by the size of the precum stain in the thong pouch, I was feeling great as well.

The really fun part about indoor rowing in a thong is that the thong has to tug and pull with each rowing stroke. This feels very good, even great, and the tension keeps increasing over the workout. And so long as I keep thinking about how good this feels it starts to feel even better. Whenever a guy is at all sexually excited, if he says to himself “this is starting to feel really great” the mind and body “responds” to the thought and everything you are doing to yourself feels even better still. That is the quirky part of the mix of the physical and the psychological in sexuality. Thinking that something feels arousing can make it feel even more arousing. Crazy, but enjoyable.

Riding a stationary bike while wearing a thong can be fun too, as the bike seat puts pressure on some interesting places, though if I would vote for my favorite exercise while wearing a thong it would still be the stationary rowing.

Now I need to get back into my afternoon rowing. Another half hour, and a few more drops of precum!