[sebbie]

Shortly after puberty, most guys probably experience their first wet dream. A wet dream is a unique occurrence in which a guy has a ream that in some manner involves a sexually arousing situation, and the dream concludes with the guy “voiding semen”. Sometimes when this happens, the guy doesn’t wake up at all, but merely discovers on waking in the morning that what he wore to bed that night has starchy stained patches of semen on it.

Typically, the guy goes through a phase in which he thinks he has somehow reverted to a situation whereby he was somehow wetting the bed (very embarrassing !) but then it soon dawns on him that the stains are not urine but semen. The next phase usually involves a worry that his parents are somehow going to discipline him for what has happened. Should he say anything at all or just keep quiet and hope no one notices.

If it becomes apparent that his parents do know something, unremarkably, unconcerned, as if it doesn’t bother them at all. At this point the guy, if a bit enlightened, may conclude that what happened is as normal as sunshine, or perhaps a male version of his sister having her first period, which seems much more complicated and potentially embarrassing.

If the guy does even a little research, he discovers that the term “wet dream” is slang for something called “nocturnal emissions”, a term that seems to be anything but something to do with having an unexpected and perhaps unwelcome orgasm that voids semen.

Still, as uncertain and scared a guy is about these events, there is something really interesting going on here as well. Complicated stuff. More of this stuff where a guy starts to wonder if he is unique or whether or not his male friends his age are going through the same “turmoil”.

Soon thereafter, a guy discovers that having an orgasm is both scary but in all sorts of ways extraordinarily fun, and starts to think about how to “program” his sleep such that he awakens from a dream fully erect and ready to cum, but is wide awake to begin to enjoy the moment of orgasm. Further, if he does that, he will probably also remember the key elements of a wild and crazy dream that lead to the strong erection. This, like so much of male sexuality, can be at once interesting but scary.

In short, guys think that there are basically two kinds of dreams leading to nighttime arousal and erections, those that have storylines with a sex-related theme that are regarded as “politically correct” and those with storylines that are sexually arousing but go off in a host of other directions, politically incorrect or at minimum embarrassing and perhaps uncomfortable to ponder in the daytime. Guys keep wondering what a dream that falls into the latter category means and how specific aspects of the dream should be interpreted.

So, the politically correct wet dreams typically involve some encounter with an attractive female, maybe some girl the guy knows but often a completely imaginary woman. If the wet dream is to be politically correct, the two should only be engaging in politically correct sex such as no bondage or other sexual activity either the guy or the female in the dream would consider to be abnormal for an ordinary heterosexual couple to do.

Still, dreams have a way of wandering off in directions that a guy might not go if he were awake, and there is no conscious way of plot development to make certain this never happens. Stuff goes on in dreams, say a bondage scene between the two, that the guy believe would at minimum be considered politically incorrect. And a lot of guys worry about what this all means if the activities fall outside the politically correct norms for a wet dream. Or what about a wet dream where a guy merely masturbates to orgasm with a female observing? Is that a politically correct dream or not? These are great questions without simple or easy answers.

Now, most guys realize at an early age that their peer males are having wet dreams too, whenever they say something like “I just saw a wet dream” in reference to seeing an attractive female for the first time. But this other stuff is more complicated, in that wet dreams that have a story line involving having penis-vagina sex with an attractive woman leading to a nocturnal emission is somehow normal and OK but these other story lines are not OK and at minimum should never be revealed to anyone else.

I’m guessing that a lot of gay men grow up having dreams involving sexual encounters with other guys rather than attractive females, and that somehow becomes the politically correct version of a wet dream for a gay male. The complicated part is if a teen guy believes himself to be straight but then starts having dreams involving sexual encounters of some sort with other males, and whether the storylines of these wet dreams are telling him something about his real sexuality that he does not fully realize or dare to admit when he is awake. This is potentially scary stuff for a young male.

And what about the guy who has wet dreams that do not seem to follow any particular pattern gay or straight, perhaps in a single or multiple dreams there can be sexual encounters that could involve males or females depending on how a storyline develops on any given night. Is his guy bisexual or merely having weird dreams? What to make of it all, anyway?

But the, isn’t sex in any form partly real sensation and feelings down there in the groin area and partly pure fantasy? Guys sometimes get themselves into medical appointments where they need to “donate semen” for a variety of situations. Why do these places offer a guy a “porn magazine” as a possible “aid” in moving the sperm donor process along, if an orgasm was not rooted in fantasy? Strange questions, but surely questions that should be asked.

So, guys like Randall and Shawn entering adulthood end up probably having a number of very personal questions that relate to what they have been going through as teenagers but have not yet resolved, and many of these questions are far more complicated that figuring out how to get up in the morning after a nocturnal emission has occurred creating messy ejaculate on what each was wearing that night.

To be continued…