Curiosity is at the core of sexual arousal. This is true whether you are male, female straight, gay or of an as yet undetermined sexual orientation (but more about that part later).
Think of all the coming-of-age movies that you have seen in your lifetime. In a classic coming-of-age movie, the centerpiece of the storyline is often a group of guys who are obviously all feeling very horny and focused on losing their virginity, in a straight coming of age movie, usually with some female of females that they find particularly attractive. Almost invariably, the guys are still quite naïve about not only female anatomy. Lots of the movie is spent with the guys discussing exactly what female body parts they would like to touch and grope, and as the story line develops it becomes clear that some of the guys have never actually seen a naked female, or, if they had, it was only in a book or magazine somewhere. “Dirty” magazines or books recounting the details of human sexuality from a “clinical” perspective are often a key part of the plot. And the audience is drawing into the story line that “properly” ends with the shyest guy in the bunch having the greatest success on the intercourse-with-a-female front. This unexpected outcome always invariably drives the boorish, noisy guys bonkers.
Now think about coming of age movies set in the present or near past. MOST coming-of-age movies are set in the distant past. Take “Summer of ‘42”, for example, perhaps the best coming-of-age movie ever. When I saw this movie for the first time in the early 1970s I thought it was the sexiest movie I had ever seen. And it was, too. A lot of the coming-of-age movies go forward to a setting the 1950s and 1960s, but movies set in the present are rare indeed unless you count some movies I do not think of as true coming-of-age movies. A proper coming-of-age movie features horny teen guys in search of their first real partner-sex conquest.
Why is this plotline no longer a movie staple? Maybe its because in this modern age, there are fewer unknowns or things to be curious about in the world of human sexuality. Nowadays by the time a male reaches puberty, he has probably already been exposed to the small details of naked female anatomy if not from books, from places on the Internet or even on TV, parental controls notwithstanding. If any guy hasn’t discovered this yet, it’s interesting to go into Wikipedia with a list of words that describe parts of the male or female body that have something to do with human sexuality and the anatomy of the reproductive system, and just sit and read the articles one by one. Parents aren’t likely to complain if a guy is simply reading Wikipedia articles in his room on his computer. It’s the ultimate “cover.” Then just a simple search in Google might quickly get you into Sebbie’s writings on the subject, writings that might open the eyes of males and maybe some females in part because your author loves to write about stuff going deep into topics no other author seems to dare go. Part of what makes a coming-of-age movie fun is the discovery of ideas about human sexuality that the guy was previously unaware of.
Curiosity invariably leads to the discovery of things about your own body and a potential partner’s body that you didn’t know before and it is the discovery process itself that is frequently the most sexually arousing. I know some of my readers are put off by the fact that I discuss partner sex so infrequently, perhaps even hinting that I see partner sex is in fact an inferior alternative to solo sex. I do not believe this, except to say that for having really enjoyable sex with a partner, you have to first understand the nuances of how your own body works and responds to sexual s stimuli. Keep in mind that the same idea applies to a sexual partner, male or female. The really great sex only happens when the two partners only fully understand how their own bodies, and each other’s bodies, work from a sexual arousal perspective. Somehow in a good relationship this all comes together in a bunch of different ways.
In this context it’s good to know that the best solo-sex experiences can either simply be really fun as stand-alone activities, or also be the great fodder as a starting point for mind-blowing partner sex. If a partner fully understands what is really great fun when you are doing it alone. Then that is well on the way to understanding what will be mind blowing in a relationship, and guys need to get over the idea of not daring to reveal to their partners how this all works for them in a solo-sex context.
So let me walk you through some thoughts about how all of this might work for guys in the story. There are four guys, each wearing different clothing items and getting horny doing so while fervently attempting to refrain from going into the full-scale ejaculatory mode. Of course, this keeps getting tougher and tougher to do. Guys are wired that way. What begins as merely a subtle version of sexual arousal many very quickly go into a situation whereby the urge to ejaculate becomes overwhelming and soon unstoppable.
How is all of this going to work in partner sex? That is an interesting question. If a straight guy has not developed a degree of ejaculatory control, he is likely to explode even before his penis finds its way into a vagina. That’s no fun. For gay guys, things can get more unpredictable as I am less certain at predicting what the end game will be, except to say that a male partner would likely be sexually happier if the guy could remain aroused but delay going into a full scale orgasm for as long as possible.
How does a guy lean how to do all of this? Getting yourself to the point whereby you are quickly quite aroused but can still deal with your sexual tensions without blowing is no small trick to do, Indeed, there are specific techniques for doing this, marketed in the sex therapist books clinically as “treatments for premature ejaculation.” Generally, these treatments are involved with the guy experimenting on his own (aka masturbation techniques that get a guy aroused but not quite to blowing and being able to do this for an extended period of time). If you have read my stories this far, you probably realize that certain clothing items can cause a male to get really horny in a hurry. Generally, females have no clue about this, or if they do they can’t relate to it at all.
For example, what if a guy likes to masturbate while donning a slick and skimpy swim brief? What if wearing the swim brief constitutes a favorite way to get off, and the guy has been playing with himself using the swim brief since he was, say, 12 or 13? What if the guy carries this particular fondness into young adulthood? What about an encounter with a female who is seen as a potential sexual partner? When they first have sex together, what if he is still thinking about all the fun times he had with the swim brief? Does the poor guy simply discard all of that now that he has a female to satisfy him? What if this is not so easy to do? Does the guy eventually tell the female partner about what he loves to do, and how is she going to respond? This idea of jerking off while wearing a specific clothing items has no direct parallel in the female sexual world. Women primarily wear skimpy clothes primarily as an effort to first attract and then turn males on, not as aids in solo female masturbation. At least I think this is one of the key differences that separates the sexes.
But what if the guy sees himself as a gay male? Perhaps then there could be at least one other gay male in the universe of gay males who loves wearing a skimpy swim brief and particularly enjoys playing with himself while wearing it. The two guys may have perhaps found partners for life. If I enjoy jerking off in a skimpy swim brief and so do you, maybe we are compatible not only in this but in many other ways. Perhaps you share some of my other interests as well, such as an interest in enjoying wearing jock straps, cups, compression gear, or even particularly snug fitting (i.e. thong) underwear or jeans. Knowing that there is but one other guy out there who shares some of the interests I have is important and all this secrecy associated with what to do with all of this in the context of trying to explain it all away to a female partner suddenly no longer applies.
I keep writing chapter after chapter here in an effort to try to explain some stuff that I don’t think has ever been explained before, but I end up asking more questions than I am able to answer.
I have found that wearing snug-fitting clothing tends to “stimulate” my ability to at least write on the subject. Today, I decided that in order to write I would need to first get myself into a mode that makes me a little horny as a writer. I suspect that this is a path many writers of erotic literature pursue. So, what did it for me today was a little pair of jockey briefs, a compression tee, topped by a forest green wrestling singlet, Asics, size Small. I love how shoulder straps of the almost too-tight-to-imagine singlet keeps tugging in interesting ways way down in my groin and pubic area. I hope Josh in my story at the gym has discovered that as well, and is enjoying the same experience I am having now.
If what I write gives my readers some ideas for enjoying yourselves as you are reading this, so be it!
To be continued (of course)…