[sebbie]

It’s funny. A lot of guys think they have learned all there is to know about their own bodies, about sex and sexuality from the start of puberty (probably most commonly around age 12) through high school (usually ending around 18), but, oddly enough, there is a whole lot more to try and understand, and a lot of this seems to happen in the late teens and very early 20s, say in the years from 18 to age 21 or 22.

Part of this, of course, is linked to all of the issues as to who a guy is attracted to from the perspective of another person, straight, gay or something in between. Life would be simple if that were all there was to sexual feelings and sexual turn ons. But guys know that things can be, and often are, much more complicated than that. Interesting, to be sure, but surely more complicated than merely picking a partner.

Here we have four college age guys, Bill, Joe, Tony and Donovan, well, five if we count the really confused Dylan, who are “messing around” with stuff that initiates distinctive sexual feelings and sensations, but this all has little if anything to do with sexual feelings and sensations that are related to finding a sexual partner.

Almost every guy in their teens quickly leans that sexual sensations and responses can readily happen at inopportune times and places, places that have nothing to do with a sexual partner as such. Classic examples are situations where a young new member of a high school swim team first encounters the idea that in order to participate, he will need to get his head (and body) around the idea of wearing a swim brief in front of his team mates and then in public. School sports that require wearing a strap and maybe a hard cup elicit similar fears and potentially complicated bodily responses, even just the thought of having to do so. This is a natural bodily reaction to having one’s private parts placed in a very confined space. Part of the popularity of wearing loose fitting swim shorts, end even jeans has to do with a deep seated fear that the guy will not be able to “control” his “bodily response” in a confined space, and his lack of control will immediately be identified by his fellow classmates and, as a result, he will be teased and bullied.

But by the time a guy reaches college age, he has probably discovered a couple of important things. First, the sensations associated often with merely the thought of having one’s private parts confined in a small space, say the swim brief, strap, or even a pair of snug fitting underwear along with similarly snug-fitting jeans, are terrific fun. Not as much fun as real sex, perhaps, but certainly fun. And further, the guy doesn’t need a partner to enjoy himself this way. Second, if there is an appropriate time and place, there is no reason or a guy to not enjoy one’s body in this regard.

Ok, but guys have generally been enjoying themselves engaging in solo sex, mainly stroking and rubbing their penises to orgasm, probably in private and from shortly after they went through puberty (maybe even before!), so that is certainly nothing new. It’s a little “secret” that most guys at least attempt to keep from their parents, siblings, peers and classmates, though sometimes unsuccessfully for sure. This is a cause for great embarrassment and sometimes teasing and bullying. Guys quickly learn that solo sex is something that should be kept totally private.

Except, of course, that it is so much fun! Here is the interesting part. Guys generally spend most of their teen years thinking that having a quick orgasm, one that happens so fast that the amount of time required to do so and potentially being discovered, is minimum. This is a strategy for self-preservation, maintain an image of not being a jerk-off, and for limiting scolding from parents, or the possibility of teasing and bullying by siblings and peers. Is it not funny that sensations that are so pleasant are associated with fears, teasing and bullying?

Bill and Joe, however, are now finding themselves in a different place entirely. They do not have full erections and hard-ons. They are not near the point of going into a full-blown orgasm. They are clad in their compression gear, straps and cups and trying to engage in a gym workout. But all of this does not mean that they are experiencing no sexual feelings or pleasure whatsoever. Indeed, quite the opposite. After all, their penises are in some very confined spaces, and their brains are sensing that.

What Bill and Joe are experiencing right now is very difficult to describe using words alone, but let me try. Words are basically inadequate to describe what is happening to them both. Bill and Joe are both still quite flaccid, but that does not mean that their bodies are unaware of the situation unfolding. The compelling sensation is one of a slight but very pleasant tensing in the penis, often extending into much of the groin area. And, the production of pre-cum, lots of pre-cum. The guy is sensing this because there is clearly a damp spot that is building right at the tip of the penis. Got it? Maybe just by reading about what is happening to Bill and Joe will get you into the same situation.

Now Bill and Joe are both wearing straps and cups underneath their compression shorts, so it would be nearly impossible to see the damp spot the pre-cum is making at the tip of the penis. That is a relief for sure But how about the situation faced by the new swim team member getting into a swim brief for the first time. Isn’t the same thing going to happen to him? The only solution for this would be to get into the pool water as quickly as possible.

What about Dylan? Well he is thinking about all of this himself, and stuff is starting to happen to him as well underneath those sloppy shorts just thinking about how his body, deep down would like to be wearing the same items Bill and Joe are wearing. So Dylan is actually having a reaction to all of this, a reaction that actually began that night when Dylan saw Bill and Joe in the dorm room hall, clad in their compression gear. Since then, Dylan has not been able to get the gear out of his mind, and how his body is longing to “participate”. At least, Dylan is able to admit this to himself.

And what of Tony and Donovan, the rowers wearing the rowing singlets along with the thong underwear? Well, that is an equally interesting story too, but a story for another day!

…To be continued