[sebbie]

Bill and Joe are both frustrated with respect to the current situation they are in, but at the same time they are both enjoying themselves immensely. Maybe I should be using a stronger word than frustration here to describe the situation Bill and Joe currently find themselves in, because they are at a place, both physically and psychologically, that is really, really complex, and not easily understood.

Let me start at the beginning. As teenagers, and probably shortly after puberty sets in, a guy almost invariably get themselves into situations whereby an erection happens but the guy is not at a time or in a place where he can easily or conveniently bring himself to have an orgasm. This could even happen when the guy is just sitting in a classroom, and not thinking sexual thoughts at all. Another place where this is common is in a vehicle, particularly a vehicle traveling down the road, such as in a school bus, a bus that might jiggle and vibrate as it goes along a road. Even a little vibration can easily set a guy into erection mode. A third well-known possibility is in a gym locker room, but particularly in an instance where the guy will be wearing something that fits snug against the groin for the first time in order to participate in a sport, the obvious one being any sport that would require a strap and cup as undergarments for physical protection, but the other obvious ones are swim coaches who pass out racing briefs and so on.

Part of being a male teenager entails learning exactly how to cope with each new situation that comes up that could be arousing such that he does not embarrass himself. It doesn’t help that the other guys are facing the same or very similar issues with their own bodies, and that all the guys are attempting to employ coping strategies as well. Coping strategies vary in their success rates, and most guys do not make it through their teen years without one or more incidents that proved to be embarrassing given the time and place where the “accident” occurred. Depending on the exact nature of the accident, these accidents can often lead to permanent psychological scars that a guy ends up dealing with for his entire life.

Teen males quickly go into a mode where they begin to think that it is ok if they have an erection if they are with a girl their age, but not ok if this happens under any other circumstance. Many teen girls quickly learn that their desirability as a female by the guy they are dating can be measured by how quickly they can bring the poor guy to the point where he has a full erection, and this can quickly become a game for them.

Teen males who are not entirely confident with respect to their own sexual orientation face a particular set of unique issues, especially in situations where the guy has an erection at a time or in a place where only other guys are around. Assuming that the teen male is not “out” as a gay teen male, the guy who is not confident that he can control his erections in times and in places where an erection would appear to make no sense at all faces particular problems.

As a consequence, a lot of guys, irrespective of their sexual orientation, quickly learn that if they are going to engage in solo sex they need to figure out a way so they do not draw attention to themselves or what they are doing, especially by other males their age. This often means doing so in privacy, at home in a bathroom or at school in a secure bathroom stall, perhaps. However, the guy also quickly learns that spending too much time in places such as this can easily lead to questions that the guy does not want to answer, at least not truthfully answer. Some guys even begin to think that the best sex must therefore be the sex that happens most quickly, maybe only a minute or two from initial arousal to ejaculation. Some guys might even begin to think that they are “more of a male” based on the speed at which they can move from initial arousal state to a full-blown ejaculation.

Some of you are probably now wondering what this long story has to do with dorm roommates Bill and Joe and the current predicament that they are finding themselves in. The answer to this question is very simple. Joe and Bill are getting their first real experiences in dealing with the issues their bodies face if they make a concerted effort to maintain and even build upon their respective arousals while delaying orgasm as long as possible. One way of looking at the gear both of them are wearing (the straps, the cups and the compression gear) are all simply inexpensive aids to help them build skills in maintaining arousal levels for long periods of time, an hour or longer, without ejaculating.

As teenagers, most guys end up learning a lot about their penises and what parts specifically need to be stroked or touched in order to go into ejaculatory mode. Generally, the information goes something like this as a sort of beginner’s guide to the best solo sex.

1. Long strokes along the top and sides from the penis base to the head of the penis are enjoyable and get more pleasant as the penis fills with blood and becomes firmer.

2. Long strokes along the underside of the penis are generally more pleasant still than stroking the top or sides under the same circumstances, as in general the underside of the penis is more sensitive to the touch than the top or sides are.

3. Neither 1 or 2, however enjoyable they both are, is usually sufficient to get a guy to the point of a full orgasm. What is usually required is that once a guy is erect, the glans, or lower part of the head of the penis needs to be touched or rubbed. Doing so can quickly send a guy into a full-blown orgasm.

Why a guy’s penis is set up this way has to do with the details of how the female anatomy is constructed, and I could go into those details now, but for the moment I will not.

Learning how to delay orgasm while both maintaining a high degree of arousal and a firm erection is as much about learning psychological control as it is about the physical aspects of what the guy is doing. Bill and Joe are in a situation whereby they are both learning the important aspects of ejaculatory control as they attempt to cope with the situations they both are facing. Part of what they are both attempting to deal with is physical, but part is psychological. Let me explain why.

The straps and cups they are wearing are both putting direct pressure on the tops and sides all along their penises, but not on the underside of the penis. The sensations from the walls of the cups bearing down on them are partly physical but also involve the psychological realization that the cups are very much there and will be felt more strongly if any penis expansion takes place. Moving the cups around a bit can simulate stroking to a degree at least, and usually leads to more blood being pumped into the penis not less.

Given the shape of the cup, the tips and glans of their penises are deeply buried inside the cup and not in any position to be touched or stroked. This alone is going to make ejaculating inside the cup more difficult though perhaps not impossible to do.

Having another guy in the dorm room experiencing the exact same dilemma poses a most interesting psychological issue for both of them. To the extent that either Bill or Joe take their focus away from their own penises and their own situation, their minds probably travel into the area of wondering with what the other guy is experiencing and exactly how he is coping with the situation. Neither of these guys under the circumstances is going to be perfectly quiet in bed, as real pangs of sexual pleasure course through their entire bodies. They are both experiencing something unique.

Bill and Joe both have a long series of classes tomorrow, Friday, and both are trying to get some sleep, but will they be able to do so given the circumstances they are in?

….To be continued