Josh has learned a lot over the past year or so
 

Guys Josh’s age—20—like to act as if they learned everything that there is to know about their own bodies from a sexual perspective by the time they got to be 12 or 13 years old. Obviously, they weren’t into sexual relationships at that age, but guy that age think they have a clear understanding of how the stuff that is important works.

What is amazing to understand is that Josh just turned 20, and in his 19th year he learned more about how his male body works and responds perhaps than he had learned from the knowledge he gained accumulated starting at the age of 12. Rooming with Dylan has been a real eye-opener in this regard. College freshmen always go into a situation where they are going to be rooming with another person that they had not even met before and in quarters that leave little if any room for real privacy.

Of course, for guys past puberty, privacy is always an issue, even if a guy is living at home with his parents and siblings. Some guys are fortunate enough to be living in a family situation where they have at least a bedroom of their own. This certainly opens up the possibility of getting to try some stuff in private that a guy would not otherwise get to do. As a guy gets a little older there are occasions where the guy gets left to “do his own thing” while the parents and siblings are away from the house, and these moments, however brief, are always there to be cherished—and to run “experiments” of course with one’s body.

Being a dorm roommate presents a new set of obstacles and barriers, particularly for guys who like to enjoy themselves on a more-or-less regular schedule. Of course, living at home had issues and problems as well. Take for example, a guy who is longing to see how his body might respond to being inside of a snug-fitting pair of swim briefs…let’s suppose that a guy has had those “thoughts” since he was 12, maybe, but he never could figure out a way to explain to his parents why he “needed” a little pair of swim briefs since he was not a member of any swim team, and besides, being honest with his parents was just too embarrassing to even think about doing. Thus the dilemma. Guys are always trying to find ways to run masturbation experiments under the radar, so to speak, without anyone else around them being aware of what was really going on. Swim briefs might be out, but a snug-fitting pair of tighty whiteys might be easier to rationalize, and since the guy is in a rapid growing stage of life, forgetting about one new pair of tighty whiteys that somehow got left in the bottom of a dresser drawer three or four years ago, might be a real possibility for running some snug-and-tight “experiments” given the lack of other viable options.

Still, a lot of the stuff a guy thinks about has to be left till a guy gets out on his own—a college freshman maybe?

This is where Dylan comes into the scheme of things. Josh SUSPECTED that some guys might like the fit and feel of snug fitting swim briefs enough that they would sometimes choose to wear them as underwear under jeans, perhaps skinny jeans, but he had never had “proof” of all of this, that is, until he ended up with Dylan as his roommate. Dylan did this, and regularly. Dylan “knew” where his mind and body was in this regard, and this had become a normal thing for Dylan to do.

One problem is that regular underwear is cheap—heck for tighty whiteys about a buck each if purchased six-at-a-time. But regular swim briefs are comparatively expensive, usually $20 each or more.

That’s where the on-line stores and the skimpy little swim briefs with brands such as Desmiit® and Seobean® come in, briefs that can be purchased for about the same price as a premium brand of mass-market underwear. The Desmiit® brand is particularly interesting in that some of their briefs are marketed as possibly being suitable for wear either as swimwear or underwear.

And the thongs! Josh is very interested in these too, and they are sold in packs of 7. An ideal underwear design under super-skinny jeans for wear to sophomore year classes. Josh is thinking about how the combination of a Desmiit® brief or thong with his new skinny jeans will work as regular wear when attending classes. Josh is mimicking Dylan in this regard, and thinking about this over the summer, and how his body might behave.

Dylan has had an impact on Josh, but, of course, Josh has twisted Dylan all around as well.

Of course, Josh also wants to get some compression gear, both shorts and tees. The super skinny jeans he ordered will look great with a blue compression tee…

And maybe another wrestling singlet, and, of course, a strap or two as well, but which ones?

To be continued….

Dylan’s upcoming school year
 

Dylan has been thinking about how he is going to approach his sophomore year too, just as Josh has been doing. Dylan’s fondness for snug fitting clothing of various kinds goes back a really long time, at least back to when he was only 11 or 12 years old, and Dylan thinks perhaps even earlier than that. This has been an interesting “puzzle” for Dylan for most of his life.

Despite his familiarity with all of this, Dylan is still perhaps a bit uncertain as to exactly what it is that causes him to experiment with himself the way he does. During most of his high school days, Dylan had pretty well convinced himself that he was the only guy out there who quite enjoyed himself in this way. Well, Dylan had to know that other guys sometimes jerked themselves off when they were feeling a whole lot aroused. But the idea of getting into snug fitting clothing such as swim briefs to do this was something Dylan liked to think about doing but certainly nothing that other guys did or would admit.

Rooming together has been an eye-opener for both Josh and Dylan. Living in a cramped dorm room for an entire school year means that there is little that the other guy does that would not go unnoticed. This is the great “fear” that a lot of guys have about living with another guy in a cramped double room. Not every guy is going to be entirely comfortable in this regard even under the best of circumstances.

The funny part of the story is that Josh was having some of the same misgivings about being in the entire situation that Dylan was having. By the time most guys enter their late teens, they have worked out a so-called jerk-off schedule that seems to make a lot of sense, but life gets complicated when a guy is moving into a dorm room with another guy he is meeting for only the first time. No two guys are likely to operate using the same jerk-off system, and what works for you likely won’t work for me.

But, of course, Josh and Dylan share something in common that they both enjoy doing. Can you say jerking off in snug-fitting clothing? OK sometimes maybe not jerking off so much as just getting into a mode where they are each oozing glistening drops of precum—lots of precum! What fun!

This past year has been quite educational for both Dylan and Josh. Dylan has once and for all answered the question that was always in the back of his mind as in “Do other guys enjoy doing this as much as I do?”
But Dylan has certainly had an impact on Josh as well, in that Josh has discovered things about both his own mind and body that were always there. Josh loves wearing snug-fitting swim briefs and precumming spots of glistening ooze every bit as much as Dylan does. This is all stuff Josh has learned about himself in the past year. Josh knows Dylan likes to wear swim briefs as underwear under his skinny jeans and then head to class and try to make it through the day without getting too distracted (whatever that means) or ooze “too much”.

Dylan knows too that Josh has his own hang ups, in particular Josh’s particular fondness for thong underwear that puts a constant tension on the crack between the glutes. And he knows that Josh loves using these as undergarments beneath a wrestling singlet, and that maybe a neat little strap will be interesting too. And Dylan realizes that this year he will no longer need to make any attempt to be secretive about these various items when Josh is in the room. In fact, quite the opposite.

So, as Dylan is picking out the items that he will take back to school with him all of this is bouncing around in his head. Dylan knows that Josh will have no problem with any of it. In fact, quite the opposite. It’s merely a matter of finding the specific items that will send Dylan and Josh into this special place where precum flows freely and both of them feel super good about themselves and their bodies.

This will be an interesting school year for both Dylan and Josh for sure. Could any other pair of college roommates be so lucky to have found each other?

To be continued….

Lets get summer vacation over with and get these boys back together.

Thanks for the writing.

Dylan and Josh head back to school
 

The calendar is moving forward, and it’s time for Dylan and Josh to head back to school for the sophomore year. The way this works is that the students move back into the dorm rooms over the weekend, and the classes start on Wednesday of the following week. For new roommates, this gives both of them a chance to get acquainted with who they are going to be rooming with for the coming school year.

But, in Josh and Dylan both already are well acquainted with each other so there is no need for time to just get to know each other. The previous year has been an interesting time for both of them. They both learned more about each other than they had ever quite imagined. Still, nothing that happened last year put any real strain on their relationship as male college roommates in a cramped dorm room. In fact, quite the opposite. They had both learned stuff about each other that neither of them ever thought that they would be able to observe, close up. They both found out that the other was turned on by a bunch of stuff that didn’t involve members of the opposite sex. Yet they both still thought of themselves as sexually being straight.

The interesting thing about all of this is that we have not heard anything about either Josh or Dylan dating females over the summer months. That fact is certainly, well, interesting, given that both of them are both horny 20-year olds. Instead, they both found themselves ordering articles of snug-fitting clothing on line. Quite curious, one might conclude. But then, perhaps not so surprising when each of them discovered that the “right” pieces of snug-fitting clothing tends to have the effect of turning on the precum “faucet”. What crazy fun!

Plus, each of them knows that realizing the other is affected this way is in itself a turn-on is fascinating as well. Dylan practically went bananas last semester when he realized that Josh was jerking off and precumming profusely in that little underwear thong. And Josh got horny just thinking about Dylan sitting in class wearing that little swim brief under his skinny jeans. Both of them were so affected by all of this that this year they both want to make certain that they get to both do more of the same,…lots more!

Is this a gay thing, or not? Would ANY guy get aroused if faced with the same situation, or only guys who mainly think they get aroused by being with and around other guys? Is the answer to this question somehow important, or not?

Neither Dylan nor Josh know the answer to this question

Even though they picked up ideas by observing Bill and Joe, who seemed perhaps to be further toward the gay side of the gay-straight scale in terms of what they were doing with each other, or maybe not. Who knows? Why does this even matter at all? These are weighty questions, but questions that may not need to be answered.

So Dylan is wondering what Josh will be wearing to class and the same for Josh. Both of them ordered Pac Sun super skinny jeans. Josh is going to be wearing the light blue denim pair he picked mainly because he likes the ones Dylan wore a lot of the past year.

Getting the right fit in a pair of skinny jeans can be a bit tricky. Some guys seem to think that a proper cut has a really narrow 11-inch ankle opening, but the ankle opening is only part of the fit. There are really three areas that matter, the butt, the thighs and the cut over the calf muscles. The muscular, athletic guys need to be really concered about fitting the jeans in these areas, particularly if they are well developed in the glutes, thighs and calves.

Both Dylan and Josh put on some muscle over the summer. Still, they are not super athletic. They both have bodies that have filled out a bit more but particularly in the calves and thighs. The stretch denim Pac Sun jeans work for them in the 31W x 30 inseam, but the fit is nearly skin tight in those areas.

Truth is, Josh’s sophomore body looks great in the light blue denim skinny jeans he picked out. But what has Dylan chosen? Why solid black, of course!

Dylan and Josh are both wearing rather snug-fitting stretch tees as well, tees that just accentuate the new summer muscles. Dylan’s tee is in a heather gray—Josh’s a navy. So, we have Josh and Dylan meeting once again for the first time this semester dressed in these items.

Of course, both of them are secretly wondering what the other is wearing UNDER the super skinny jeans, but that is a story for another day…Even on this first fall encounter, both of them are feeling, well, horny. What will the coming year hold?

To be continued…

Why is feeling horny so much fun?
 

Why is it so much fun for a guy to feel horny? That is an endlessly fascinating and not easily-answered question that I have pondered off and on over my entire life. What I am talking about is definitely not the same thing as having a male orgasm. As it turns out, male orgasms are generally not that complicated to understand and usually come and go so to speak in a minute or two. It is instead the events that may or may not lead to a male orgasm that is the most complicated and interesting to explore in detail. A lot of guys get so fixated on the final orgasm part that they fail to pay attention to all the wonderful stuff that happened from the very moment they started feeling something down there.

Think about Dylan and Josh and what has been going on with respect to the events leading to where they both find themselves today, a day or so before college starts for the year. Think about where they both are right now, back in that cramped little dorm room with the showers and johns a walk down the hall of that old school dorm. Think about all the things that happened to them both during their freshman year and what they learned about each other in the past year. Think about what they have been doing this summer, picking out clothing items that likely were bound to make each of them feel horny as much of the time as possible.

Feeling horny is not something for only guys of only one sexual orientation. This is for guys who think of themselves as gay, straight or even something in between. This is not about sexual orientation and it’s not about whether or not a guy is involved in a relationship with a sexual partner whether that partner be a female or a male. It’s really about each guy getting the most out of his own body and constantly discovering new ways to explore how a guy’s body is capable of making him feel good—really what the very best of human life for a guy is all about.

Standard “textbook” treatments of this sort tend to divide sexual activity into two basic types, the first involving a partner and the second being solo sex often derogatively called masturbation (as if the latter needs to be treated as somehow inferior or second rate compared to the real thing with a partner). At least, that is how the so-called experts in sexual psychology depict what is going on.

A basic problem with this way of thinking is that partner sex in any form often quickly leads to situations that become unduly complicated, dangerous or create other serious relationship issues. This is a lot of baggage to try to deal with, so to speak. Sometimes, perhaps frequently a guy might instead simply want to kick back and enjoy his own body and the interesting sexual sensations his body is capable of creating. Despite what some of the the so-called sex experts claim, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. A guy should never feel guilty or somehow disadvantaged because for whatever reason he is not having sex with a partner, male or female.

So, what do we know about Dylan and Josh? First, they both love snug-fitting clothing of various sorts, not only swim briefs but things like skinny jeans, jock straps, thong underwear, wrestling garb, compression gear, and they both realize that such items quickly make them feel horny and start to ooze interesting glistening drops of precum. Further, they both realize that oozing precum is critical to feeling really good in this regard.

Second, both Dylan and Josh are comfortable that each other knows about the “afflictions” each has as well and they are each no longer embarrassed or afraid that the other will somehow learn too much about this. For a lot of males, being comfortable observing and talking about such things would be quite a leap, a big deal so to so speak. Somehow, Dylan and Josh have worked their way through that, something that happened when they discovered that they both were very fond of various kinds of snug-fitting clothing. This sharing of interests broke the ice with respect to talking about the topic and sharing ideas and thoughts.

Indeed, they have both pretty much resolved some of the key puzzles that haunted them as teenagers regarding the question of whether or not all of this is unique to me…all of it, the skimpy clothing, the precum, etc etc, the closely guarded “secrets” teen males normally have—secrets that frequently involve specific masturbation techniques.

But this all just keeps getting more and more interesting as we watch Dylan and Josh share information about stuff that is not often shared. Remember last year when Dylan practically went bonkers when he happened on Josh in the dorm room accidentally? You know, the time Dylan accidentally “caught” Josh jerking off in that little thong with the elastic band that was cutting between Josh’s glutes? Of course, the thong was helping to make Josh feel horny and Josh was just discovering how interesting all of this was for his own mind and body. But it took Josh only an instant to realizing that what he was doing with Dylan present was having a real impact on Dylan as well. Who would have ever thought that a little thong would have such a psychological impact on both of them.

Dylan may not have fully realized it, but Dylan had a substantial impact on Josh as well, particularly on those days when Josh went off to class wearing his skinny jeans over a swim brief. Josh knew that Dylan had to be feeling pretty horny wearing that combination. Again, not an issue that often comes up in casual conversation between two guys.

So what now? Dylan and Josh are rooming together again this year, and at some point the Pac Sun jeans will come off. Interestingly, Josh is wearing a thong underneath. Josh is hoping that the thong will affect Dylan the same way this year as realizing that makes Josh feel even hornier.

What is Dylan wearing under his new black Pac Sun super skinny jeans? I suspect that most of my readers thought maybe a Seobean or Desmiit swim brief, but no, Dylan is wearing a simple pair of Hanes tighty whiteys. Well, not simply a normal pair a pair of super undersized ones in what in US sizes is a Boys medium 12-14. Dylan has been messing around with something interesting. He has discovered that guys can severely undersize tighty whiteys. The waist band on a 12-14 boy’s size will, if pressed, can stretch to a 31-inch waist. But the underwear will be really snug all around—snug enough to hold the penis neatly in an “up” position. This not only makes the skinny jeans look extra cool, it also starts the formation of precum right at the penis tip. Dylan loves the sensations and the crystal clear drops that are happening to and with his body. Will Josh notice what is happening to Dylan as Dylan gets out of the jeans? Will Dylan notice the details of Josh’s “predicament”? They are both in a most interesting situation, a situation that may tend to grow even more interesting.

As some of my readers follow the story line, perhaps they will be motivated to themselves try some of the things Josh and Dylan are doing to themselves as they discover their bodies. As I have said countless times, any part of a guy’s penis is sensitive to the touch, but the underside particularly so. The reason Dylan likes the undersized tighty whiteys so much is that it is easy to put his penis forward in the undersized underwear relative to the usual position in larger sizes, and just a fleeting touch on the underside sends him off to a wonderful new place unlike anywhere he has been before.

To be continued….

Dylan and Josh remove their Jeans
 

Dylan and Josh at some point are going to have to remove their jeans, and reveal to each other what they each are wearing underneath. Josh fully realizes that Dylan is “sensitive” to seeing Josh in a men’s thong, and he set himself up to have some “fun” by “teasing” Dylan in this regard. Josh very much wants to see Dylan “squirm” in response as well.

So, nothing has been said before, but over the summer Josh managed to prowl the Internet underwear sites looking for the exact item that he thought might best “get” to Dylan. He ended up at the Freshpair® Web site, and found a Thong on sale called the DOREANSE® Ribbed Modal T Thong. That thong is interesting in that it consists of a snug pouch, a narrow elastic waistband, and a narrow cord that holds the pouch in place while cutting deeply between Josh’s glutes. And it fit’s Josh’s budget because it is on sale.

Josh thinks this would be the perfect undergarment for his newly acquired Pac Sun super skinny jeans. Plus, Josh keeps thinking over and over about how Dylan might react when he sees Josh wearing a thong that fits that snug, especially between the glutes. Is this the part that gets Dylan so interested? Josh can’t help but precum a little just thinking how Dylan might respond seeing Josh in the slick-fitting thong.

Oddly enough, Dylan instead has gone the tighty whitey route. Dylan picked up a 6-paick of Hanes® Tighty whiteys that are SERIOUSLY undersized (Boys 12-14) given Dylan’s nominal 31-inch waist size. Dylan tried wearing a pair of these last summer, and discovered that the waist band is able to stretch just enough to fit his 31-inch waist, but the brief itself has to stretch a lot as well. When Dylan looked at himself in the mirror, the little tighty whitey looked almost like a bikini brief it was stretched so much horizontally to fit.

But, when Dylan finally got himself in, he started feeling really good, good in a way that he had never quite felt before and starts to precum almost immediately. His mind immediately was focused on how his entire groin area was feeling, He quickly discovered that his penis was much “happier” in an up position than down, and that in that position, the underside, even barely touched, felt really really good. Interestingly, what Dylan was doing to himself quickly became a total experience involving both his mind and his body. He quickly started to drip a little precum right at the tip of his penis, and Dylan loved the moment as his mind and body worked in partnership to give him back some really neat experiences.

So here we have two College sophomores in their dorm room, now stripped out of their respective pairs of PacSun ® super skinny jeans—Josh in that little thong he bought, Dylan in the way undersized tighty whiteys. Both of them are enjoying their bodies immensely---that is easily revealed by the quantity of precum they are oozing.

And of course, the two penises are both starting to fill with blood. The snug fit of both pairs of underwear might not be as much of a consequence had this not also been happening.

Each underwear design responds differently to a growing erection. In the case of the thong, the increased size not only stretches the pouch but puts more and more tension on that tiny band of elastic between the glutes. Josh thinks that the sensation of the tightening elastic is more than interesting, and his body responds by growing his penis a bit more, adding to the gradually increasing tension and the building sensations.

Meanwhile, Dylan has “issues” to contend with of his own. The tighty whiteys he is wearing are, well, tight, made worse (or perhaps better) by the way undersized fit. Who ever thought such a commonly available item as a pack of cotton briefs could be so interesting? Dylan is really focused now on the sensations emanating from the underside of his growing penis.

And, of course, Dylan is watching Josh struggle with his little thong, and thinking that he needs to get himself one of those. Meanwhile Josh is starting to realize that Dylan has put himself in an interesting predicament as well. Both of them are wondering if they have discovered stuff that most guys are clueless about, or do guys routinely try stunts like this more regularly than they ever dare admit. An interesting question, for sure!

To be continued…

Josh’s thong
 

Within the animal kingdom, human beings are one of only a few species that can actually touch and fondle their own sexual organs. We share that characteristic with other primates, but most other mammals would find that very difficult if not impossible to do. Non-mammals in general have it even worse in this regard, though anyone who has ever owned a male pet such as a dog realize that animals too sometimes get spontaneous and very obvious erections despite not being able to touch themselves. (Well, this happens to guys sometimes as well).

Guys can consider themselves fortunate that they can experience sexual sensations and feelings without necessarily having to rely on the cooperation of another person. Indeed, it is often the “other person” part that is so problematic for many guys.

Think of all of this in the context of Josh, who is wearing that snug-fitting little thong that he ordered. The thong is quite simple, consisting merely of an elastic waist band, a cotton pouch and a narrow elastic band connecting the waistband to the base of the pouch.

Last night, as I was getting ready for bed myself, I was thinking about what would happen if Josh decided to wear his little thong to bed all night long. I found a thong in my collection that is very similar to the one Josh purchased, and I then tried to replicate as close as possible what would happen.

First off, the pouch that Josh is wearing cannot be very roomy. I got to thinking about this in some detail. My mind started to wander into the topic of how companies that make underwear for men operate when they are developing a new design, particularly a new design similar to the one that Josh and I are wearing. Someone must realize that the market for men’s underwear extends beyond the purely practical. Dare I suggest that some men occasionally might buy underwear of a certain design knowing full well that whatever it is, it will likely end up being used for jerking off. Then my mind wanders over to the designers and whether or not the designers openly reveal that this could be a possible reason for a purchase.

I have no idea what percentage of the men’s underwear market is focused on developing styles primarily for engaging in “self abuse”. This market could actually be quite large, particularly in the underwear that costs over, say, $10. At some point, if you are an underwear manufacturer, you probably need to somehow recognize that there could be money to be made selling to this market.

Some of the designs, including those similar to the designs Josh and I are wearing, seem to be constructed in ways that make it very difficult for a guy NOT to get aroused. I found out last night that just getting everything into the little pouch was not that easy, The penis fits OK if I am not that hard yet, but the problem is that a guy’s balls have to fit in there as well. Things get crowded, quickly. Exactly how crowded things get is a combination of design and sizing.

In the case of this style of pouch, getting everything that needs to be indoors inside is not that easy, and a guy’s balls often want to stay outside where they would be divided by the elastic band. So, a guy has to grasp his balls and make sure the pouch is holding them. This maneuver tends to push everything upward and forward. In the process, the guy also discovers that his balls are much more sensitive in a psychosexual way than he perhaps realized when they were just hanging down in loose-fitting underwear. But this is all part of the discovery process, and getting yourself correctly positioned within the pouch is part of the fun.

Personally, I like the sensations I get from my groin area when everything is where it should be, and I presume that Josh feels the same way about this. For guys who are wary about doing this, I would advise you not to knock the whole idea until you try it. Josh thinks it’s a fun place to be, and so do I.

Of course, if you start to grow a bit once you are in, don’t despair. This simply adds to the enjoyment as well. How much and exactly what you share at this point with a roommate or partner is entirely up to you. The only thing I would say is that for another person, seeing a guy in this situation might be, well, interesting.

So, I crawled into bed wearing this, and I am assuming Josh tried doing the same thing. By then I was starting to feel pretty good but I had no trouble drifting off to sleep. Nor would Josh, probably.

At 4:30 AM I awakened. The narrow elastic cord that connected the back to the pouch up until then seemed pretty benign. I was aware of its presence, but my main attention was directed toward the pouch. I had drifted off to sleep not stroking my penis, but rather pressing on my balls through the thong pouch in a series of light but incessant taps. This was making me feel horny and good, but I wasn’t in any imminent danger of blowing, in fact I more or less fell asleep doing this. It seemed like a really neat way to drift off.

When I awakened at 4:30 AM, however, the elastic cord between my glutes was making its presence known. I did a quick check and during the night it had gone way deep. I got to wondering if the same thing happened to Josh or not.

Using my fingers, I followed the cord along to the point where it connects to the pouch at the pouch base. I have long known that this particular spot just behind the scrotum is very much a male psychosexual hot spot, so to speak, with lots of nerve endings that seem hard-wired right into my brain. The beauty of the thong is that with your balls inside the pouch, this hot spot is right out there in a place that seems made to order to touch and fondle.

I started pressing with the tips of my fingers on exactly that spot. At first, I was OK, but not more than a few presses and I was feeling really really good in my situation. I wonder if Josh has discovered this. A lot of guys, I suspect are ignorant.

The more times I pressed the more aroused I became. Keep in mind that I am not even touching or stroking my penis at all, just tapping with my fingertips in a very special and wonderful place.

To make a long story short, I had no intention of getting off that way, but I quickly convulsed into an orgasm that could not be stopped. I had intended to make it through the entire night, and I would have too, had I not been awakened by the sensations of that elastic cord cutting between my glutes.

I wonder if Josh has discovered all of what is there to enjoy. Maybe he can even start to teach Dylan a thing or two about Dylan’s own body!

To be continued…

Dylan enjoys himself too
 

I’ve always thought that it is rather funny how a guy’s body works. Sometimes a guy gets an “urge” to get into something that fits really snug and tight, but other times not so much. For Dylan, this urge sometimes hits him at unpredictable points in time. Just thinking about Josh struggling in that little thong could do it for Dylan, despite the fact that Dylan still thinks of himself as completely straight. Dylan wonders if his situation is common among guys who think of themselves as straight or not. That is certainly an interesting question to ponder. Josh has some of the same thoughts or at least similar questions.

I have put Dylan in an interesting situation. I’m sure many of my readers think that the situation he finds himself in right now is quite tame compared with some of the other situations he has gotten himself into. Remember the fun he and Josh had trying on swim briefs from that order where the whole idea was to keep trying on suits that kept getting smaller and smaller, one at a time, and see exactly the point where each of them could stand it no longer and had to get off right now. That was certainly an interesting predicament for both of them to be in made even more interesting with both of them trying to do the same thing, both feeling incredibly horny yet desperately attempting to not ejaculate no matter how snug and tight things got as the suits kept getting smaller and snugger and tighter. Tremendous ejaculatory control is what is needed in a situation like this, and not every guy has the requisite psychosexual skills to master it. Still, just trying a stunt like this can be, well, extremely enjoyable, even if you do get off faster than you had hoped that you would. The suits you chose are hitting all the right “buttons” for your mind and body, so to speak.

But today, Dylan is in a different situation, one that appears to be far less demanding than the swimsuit stunt. Dylan is 20 now, but every young adult male carries along a bunch of psychosexual “baggage” from earlier times. This baggage most often includes details about the first few times a guy went into a full-blown ejaculation after reaching puberty, and what the exact circumstances were.

Dylan was but a young lad of 12 when he had his first full-scale orgasm, and interestingly, it happened in what would at first appear to be a rather calm and decidedly unisexual situation. The wet dreams with orgasms while asleep generally start up only a little later. Guys quickly discover that it can be really fun to be wearing a snug-fitting brief, but the only brief a guy Dylan’s age would have would be some tighty whiteys his mother bought him. And of course Dylan was at an age where he was growing height and weight wise rapidly. This meant that he had some tighty whiteys in his dresser drawer that he had basically outgrown—that is, they were a couple sizes too small for him.

Somehow, Dylan did not just toss these, he hung on to them, and he quickly discovered that while they might be too small to wear, say, to school, they were still fun to get into when he started feeling a certain way, you know, when the “urge” hit him and he was alone in his room with a degree of privacy. Dylan was not quite certain exactly what was going on with his mind and body, but he knew he loved to put on the undersized briefs and touch his penis whenever he got the opportunity and it hit him to do so. Well, you can pretty well understand what was happening. The undersized briefs tended to prop his penis front and forward, and it was not long before Dylan had discovered that the underside was really specially fun to stroke. It was so sensitive that it quickly became a favorite play area for him and Dylan liked it so much he started thinking about how he could make these feelings last longer.

Fast forward to today with Dylan now 20 years old and you will understand what Dylan is doing getting into the undersized tighty whiteys and you will start to understand what Dylan is up to. He is simply attempting to relive the experiences he had with the undersized underwear when he was much younger. Josh knows nothing of all of this, unless Dylan explains it all to him. Childish? Perhaps, but who is to make a judgment about such a perfectly harmless activity. If Dylan is enjoying himself replaying events that took place years ago when he discovered himself, there is no harm whatsoever. Josh might think what Dylan is doing is not nearly as exciting as what Josh has been doing, but that is perfectly fine as well. All we know is that both Dylan and Josh really like what each is doing, and occasionally take glances at each other to determine how everything is working out for the other. No harm in that for sure.


To be continued……

That size is going to fit really snug on you…
 

I have thought a lot about guys and the relationship between mind and body. I fully realize that for a lot of guys, sexual feelings and partner relationships are intertwined to a degree where it is difficult if not impossible to separate the two. And I admit that many, perhaps most guys pass seamlessly from their first orgasm at puberty into at least thinking about the possibility of having “real sex” with a partner. In this regard, most guys are straight (turned on by females) but some are gay (turned on by males) but some seem to be living in a situation whereby the sex of the other is “fluid” so to speak, and these people may label themselves as bisexual, or not. They may claim to be only interested sexually in one sex or the other, whatever is “convenient” to claim to others.

But is this all there is? Does every guy travel seamlessly from puberty into a sexual relationship with a partner? What if a guy gets sidetracked, so to speak, playing sexually with himself? Of course, unlike sexual conquests involving a female partner, male self-abuse is not something guys routinely discuss with each other, except when guys go into a teasing and bullying mode, which is another story entirely.

Still, males not in a sexual relationship with a partner are not sexually brain-dead, or at least most of them are not. Moments of feeling horny leading to arousal occur regularly, relentlessly, and often seemingly spontaneously, in a relationship or not. Many guys struggle with this, whether they are in a relationship or not. A lot of guys do not have a well thought-out plan for dealing with this, yet coping with the situation can get to the point of being a burden, rather than a source of intense pleasure.

Enjoying sexual feelings by yourself, aka solo sex, or more commonly called masturbation, still has very bad press even in the 21st century. I admit some progress has been made. Young guys discovered masturbating are not going to go blind or lose their athletic skills. But the potential teasing and bullying if a guy is discovered masturbating by peers remains a very real problem. The weird part about this is that the guys doing the teasing and bullying probably masturbate as well, but as of yet have just not been caught by their peers, and the teasing and bullying of the guy who got caught is a way of coping with their own embarrassment and guilt with regard to what they have been doing to and with themselves.

So, in a way, Dylan and Josh are both enlightened in this regard. Each of them has come up with ways for enjoying their own bodies free of any of these concerns at least with respect to each other. This is quite a step. I suspect that most guys, straight, gay or someplace in between, would like to have a male friend that is close enough to be able to feel comfortable doing this.

So, Josh’s struggle wearing that little thong, and Dylan’s realization that Josh is struggling being in the thong, makes Dylan feel aroused. And, of course, Dylan “taught” Josh a lot about how much fun various kinds of snug-fitting clothing can be. Josh starts to get horny feeling just thinking about some of the stuff Dylan does to his own body. Does this mean that Dylan and Josh are both gay and simply have not admitted it, or would this happen to most any pair of guys placed in the same or a similar position? That is a great question!

The other interesting part of this is that for most guys, first encounters with especially snug-fitting clothing most often occurs in conjunction with participation in some sort of athletic pursuit, pursuits that normally start in the early teen years when a guy is still learning a lot about how his body behaves.

The classic example is the first encounter with a little, snug-fitting swim brief when a guy takes up swimming with a young team. But think about it. There are other classic examples. Say the young wrestler encountering for the first time a snug-fitting wrestling singlet. The first encounter of a young baseball player with a strap and a cup. Or the young football player who has to deal not only with a strap, but with those really snug-fitting football pants. And the young basketball players frequently wear compression gear under their team uniforms. Guys are both scared and what might happen yet want desperately to get into whatever the item is. A weird combination for sure!

Guys that age who do not participate in a sport are at least curious about how other guys cope with the situations that arise in relation to the specific sport. The complicating factor is that guys participating in each of these sports dress and undress in common locker rooms with other semi-clad or unclad guys wandering around. Erections are going to be obvious to other guys your age. This could lead to teasing and bullying as well.

A basic issue relates to the idea of whether or not only a small share of guys would be sexually aroused when placed in a situation like this whereby wearing certain stuff that fits snugly around the genitals is mandatory, or whether guys almost universal among guys. A more general issue is whether or not most guys would get aroused if being in this situation, or whether or not this happens to only a small percentage of guys.

We seem to be moving back to a situation where snug-fitting clothing of all sorts is becoming more and more popular with guys, right now especially snug-fitting jeans. Guys seem to be rediscovering how interesting all of this is for both mind and body.

I hold the view that these feelings are nearly universal for guys, regardless of claimed sexual orientation (or not). It’s just a matter of pressing the right (or some would say wrong) buttons so to speak. Guys almost universally enjoy wearing something that is snug-fitting around the genitals, and they (perhaps secretly) think it is fun seeing other guys doing the same. Dylan loves watching Josh struggle in that little thong. There is any number of items Dylan wears that gets Josh going as well, and always a surprise to see what Dylan does next in this regard. Should Dylan and Josh label themselves as gay not straight because of this, or are they simply dealing with something that is near universal for guys?

To be continued…

Every guy goes through this
 

Once a guy gets through puberty, there are many new sensations to be discovered and savored. Dylan was no exception in this regard, nor, for that matter was Josh’s situation different either. At the same time, guys routinely become very aware of the fact that what they are doing with themselves should to the maximum degree possible be private. In this regard, everyone around a guy poses a risky threat that what is going on will in some way be discovered and revealed to others in a potentially embarrassing way, whether the person or persons doing the discovering is a parent, a sibling, or, perish the thought, a peer friend and classmate. Worse, what if the person the guy thought was a friend is not really a friend or is simply struggling with his own urges in this department?

Guys face an interesting dilemma: They are just learning how to enjoy their own bodies immensely, but they are terrified that someone else—anyone else—will, perhaps accidentally discover what they are doing to themselves. The old stories about guys going blind from doing this or losing their ability to successfully participate in sports do not help matters at all either. These old stories, considered obsolete and silly now, may still have some elements of truth to the,

Then there are the peers who tell you that if you do this alone in private you therefore must be gay since a female is not present when you are feeling and messing around this way. Sexual orientation uncertainty somehow gets messed together withal of this. The dilemma a guy faces is very real. How can something that is so much fun be so fraught with such complicated issues, anyway?

What was a guy like Dylan at that age supposed to do, anyway? For 99 percent of guys that age, abstinence from “self abuse” is completely out of the question. It’s is just too much interesting fun to ignore. But there are serious questions: What if I like doing this so much that I never become that interested in finding a partner? Does my fascination with doing this mean that deep down I am really gay not straight? What else might my fascination with doing it by myself might mean?

And there is no one to talk to. Surely my dad never did this by himself. After all, he found mom, didn’t he? And what if my brothers and sisters find out, or, perish the thought, one of my classmates, and maybe one who thinks I am a wimp, athletically or otherwise. There are lots of issues floating around, issues that cannot be simply and readily resolved.

So, of the 99 percent of guys who are doing it, maybe 98 percent of the guys go into a mode where they carefully lay plans to keep this part of themselves in complete secrecy. What does this have to do with Dylan at that age? Well, Dylan learned quickly that if you are going to engage in solo sex, a snug-fitting item of clothing certainly helps to get the sensations going, and just thinking about the option of getting into a snug-fitting clothing item tends to set the entire wonderful process off. But a guy 13 or 14 years of age is not going to be able to orders snug-fitting stuff from on-line retailers and get it delivered. Instead, what do you have that would achieve some of the same sensations to start to occur in the groin area that would not attract attention.

And that is where the pairs of tighty whiteys that Dylan had outgrown come in come in, well, the ones he had almost outgrown. Two pair still in the back of a dresser drawer in his room. Why not just wear a pair of those to bed and sleep in them overnight. Dylan can even pull something else over them if he wants, like a loose-fitting pair of boxer shorts, and then see what happens during the night as his penis responds to the newly-confined space. Interesting,..at a young age way interesting.

And so it goes. The techniques guys use for pleasuring themselves at a very early age somehow get attached to a guy’s brain as if they were glued in place, and periodically guys want to relive those moments in time as adults that were so enjoyable when they were struggling with all of this when they were just past puberty. And that is what Dylan is doing right now, reliving the wonderful moments that he first discovered were really fun when he was only 13 or so. Many, perhaps most guys would like to relive these early moments of discovery if given the opportunity to do so, even as an adult.

Dylan is now 20, and he has got a raft of new items that can make him feel horny in an instant, and he is very fond of the various items he now has. Plus he has this understanding roommate who knows what Dylan likes and has been enjoying some of the same stuff.

What stuff? Well, a lot of it is connected to clothing worn for sports, including sports that neither Dylan nor Josh ever participated in either in high school or now in college. Take the various experiments with the swimming briefs of various sizes as the “classic” example of all of this, but there are many others. The straps come to mind almost immediately, and then ahhhh, the fun with a strap with a cup barely big enough to contain a guy’s flaccid penis let alone one that is even a little-bit erect. And the compression gear both top and bottom, and the clingy feel all over as the material fits really snug against a guy’s body, holding a strap and cup firmly in place at the groin.

And what about a wrestling singlet in a neat color that can only be worn over the shoulders with the singlet putting serious upward pressure on the groin area? And what about slipping over a pair of extremely snug jeans while WEARING The singlet, maybe with a strap and cup underneath. The singlet will appear to be just a sleeveless top tucked into a guy’s super skinny jeans.

Lots of stuff to try. But still how did I manage to pleasure myself when I was much younger and was fearful that anyone else would find out what I was doing to and with myself? And why is redoing that with an undersized pair of tighty whiteys still so much fun even with all of these other available options? Still lots of tough questions to be answered!

To be continued…

Learning to cope with your urges
 

Guys just past puberty quickly learn that having an orgasm is not only a new and unique experience, but is also way fun, well maybe way way fun. But guys just starting to experience this part of being an adult thus face the difficult problem of trying to navigate a path where they can enjoy themselves while learning the nuances of how their bodies work in this regard. Guys quickly start longing situations where they will have a degree of privacy with the goal of simply kicking back and enjoying themselves.

But at a young age, privacy is a tough thing to come by. Helicopter parents are a problem, parents who keep track of every moment of your life. If not parents, then nosey siblings who like to report anything you do they think is out of line in any way to your parents with the assertion that you need to be punished for engaging in the “abnormal”. Then there is the problem of leaving “tracks” so to speak on what you have been doing—those interesting splotches and stains that are difficult to explain away as being from something innocuous.

So a guy can jerk off to orgasm in a convenient pair of tighty whiteys, but the splotchy evidence of what happened will be there for others to discovered, perhaps by accident when someone else is doing the laundry. This is a tough period of life in this regard for guys, for sure.

Guys quickly learn an optimal strategy by jerking off in the bathroom if possible. But that means getting off in a hurry from start to finish. The whole idea becomes that of seeing how fast you can complete the task at hand, not savoring each moment in a slow, gradually-building arousal that leads to a powerful, perhaps even mind-blowing orgasm.

Every guy likely develops a little differently in this regard. Given the long-run popularity of tighty whiteys, what guy out there would not have at least a few pair by the time he turns, say 13, and what guy has not used a pair of them as an opportunity to experiment with arousal and ejaculation. Still, some guys claim they only wear loose-fitting boxer shorts and often explain this because of the “freedom” they provide for moving body parts around (perhaps in a potentially arousing way). A “fondness”s in this regard for snug-fitting briefs by guys is by no means universal (or is it?)

Then there is the matter of attire for team sports by developing athletes. There is an assortment of these and, oddly enough many, perhaps most of them involve items of clothing that fit really snug in the groin area.
Of course, the classic example is the snug-fitting swim brief worn by the “serious” swimmers.

I can only imagine what might had happened, if at age 13, I was joining a swim team and had been told that the only suitable attire was going to be a swim brief. Just ANTICIPATING the possibility of having to get into one of these would have not only gotten me feeling aroused but also quite erect. I would have known that an erection would only make it more difficult to even get myself into the brief. To be sure, even at that age I was already longing to get to do this even though I was not a swimmer at all let alone on a swim team. But still, I keep playing this “predicament” over and over in my mind, and I kept thinking about what I could buy once I got out on my own.

I’ve long thought about the entire topic of what makes a swim brief so hopelessly erotic. First, I conclude that I am not unique in having this obsession/fear. For some guys the fear part overpowers the obsession, but for other guys perhaps just the opposite.

I see three big factors: Most obvious is the fact that a lot of guys, perhaps most, tend to get horny and aroused at the mere thought of any item of clothing that fits that snugly around the male body parts. Second, swim briefs are routinely made of material that fits not only snug, but is also really slick and smooth such that it seems made to make a guy’s penis feel really good. Just the thought of having the underside of my penis pressing against that slick smooth material (“up” position) sends me off into another place. Third, the whole idea of the brief revealing the obvious outline of a guy’s anatomy is in itself a turn-on…as in anything that happens erection wise is going to be obvious to others and does a guy have enough control over what is happening to him to not make it all appear too obvious.

Then there are the other competitive sports that seem to always require something that fits snug in the groin area, football, baseball, basketball wrestling etc. Here is where the straps, cups, snug-fitting compression gear and equally snug-fitting football pants, slick and super snug wrestling singlets etc. potentially come into play. Because each item has a unique fit and feel, any one of these items could quickly lead to a hard-on and even an orgasm. Complicating all of this is that if guys dress as a group in a school gym locker room, any of the guys could have an interesting situation develop with their own body just like that with all of the possible consequences that can be imagined.

It is tough growing up. Fear and excitement are all somehow mixed together in a crazy combination.

To be continued….

Some important information to consider…
 

I cannot write about the things that adolescents and young adults do without any consideration for the various issues that are being highlighted in the news media in relation to these behaviors and what can and sometimes does happen in this regard. These are complicated issues, and, for a host of different reasons, issues that are not well understood.

Whenever a complicated issue is to be addressed, a useful way of analyzing the issue is to start at the beginning, and that is entirely appropriate in matters of sex and reproduction. Biologically, sex and reproduction are intertwined. We know for sure that any biological species would not survive were it not for a mechanism that leads to reproduction of the species. This is certainly the case for human beings, and (sorry gay guys!), reproduction has to involve both a male and a female.

I keep thinking about this idea in relation to the sexual behaviors of guys past puberty and in young adolescence. To me, there are two kinds of post-puberty adolescents. Some adolescents after puberty seem to begin to focus on relationships with a female. For other young males, perhaps not so much.

The social structure that exists among young people, both male and female, is most interesting. In many male groups, the dominant males often tend to be those who can first claim that they have engaged in sexual activities with a female. The other, less dominant males often tend to go along with all of this, and certainly never admitting that for whatever reason he is not that interested in engaging in sexual behavior with a female at this time in his life. All of this is also intertwined with athletic prowess. In a lot of places, one would almost expect that star football or basketball players would have underage sex with attractive and willing females.

This all leads back to issues related to male solo sex aka masturbation and the various interesting techniques a guy might try at that age. For many guys, simply admitting that they have enjoyed exploring how their own body works in this respect would be a problematic issue potentially resulting in teasing and bullying, not to mention accusations with respect to possibly or certainly being gay because a guy does this. This part of male sexuality remains a mess.

What is a guy who is interested in learning more about how his own body works without immediately dealing with the complications of male-female partner sex to do, anyway? Part of the reason may be that the social situation at the moment pressures guys into sexual activity with females when they are not ready or psychologically and emotionally prepared to do so. The guys sexually active in sex with females to a degree drive the behaviors of guy who for a host of different reasons are uncomfortable with the entire scene at this point in their lives.

I keep coming back to the idea that a major part of the problem is how the entire topic of masturbation is treated by those around a guy. Sexual turn-ons in adolescence occur relentlessly and under a host of different circumstances many of which have no or minimal connection or even thoughts about being with a female sexual partner sexually. So, what’s a guy to do? Spend these teen years going into young adulthood simply ignoring one’s urges and never relieving oneself? That option strikes me as being totally impractical for a host of different reasons.

So, nearly every guy masturbates, and probably a lot. Except, of course for the issues related to helicopter parents, siblings, classmates, peers and others who seem focused on keeping track of your every move, sexual and otherwise.

Think about Dylan in this regard, in adolescence, who has discovered some ways to engage in solo sex behavior that are, well, interesting and really fun. What is Dylan to do? Go discuss the nuances of this with his parents? His siblings? His male friends at school? I think not, for a host of different reasons.

What if an adolescent Dylan knows that it would be fun sexually to get into a swim brief? A strap with a cup? A wrestling singlet? Compression gear? As an adolescent he may long to own some of these items, but how to pull that off without some people potentially asking some potential embarrassing questions about WHY he needed these items and for what purpose would they be used.

I suspect that there are a lot of guys out there who are much like Dylan in that they are very fond of exploring their own bodies and that some of these same items would be quite useful in doing so. These same guys are probably less inclined to get involved in partner sex with a female than some of the students obviously are.

Then, as Dylan entered college, he knew he was going to end up with an assigned roommate in a double room. That roommate turned out to be Josh, who obviously was less aware than Dylan of the possibilities here. Whatever the situation, the situation with Dylan and Josh is quite different from any male friend Dylan had in high school for sure, where Dylan dared not reveal anything he was doing to anyone. Josh caught up with Dylan in this regard in a hurry, and they are both grateful for being able to be open with each other.

Meanwhile, I keep thinking that maybe boys would behave better and get into less difficulty on a variety of fronts as adolescents if there wasn’t still the attitudes that persist about male masturbation that persist by helicopter parents, siblings, peers and classmates. There have been all sorts of sexual revolutions over the last 75 years or more, but thinking about the issues I have just outlined seems tp have made zero progress, or nearly so.

Think about it! What happened to you in adolescence in this regard?

To be continued…

Coping on a daily basis
 

From early adolescence extending into adulthood, a guy must cope with a host of different feelings and sensations that are directly or indirectly related to sex. What is happening to my body and why? How is all of this mixed together with finding a sexual partner or not? How much of what I am doing, and perhaps enjoying immensely must I keep totally secret, and what if anything can I reveal to another person or persons? And who might the other person or persons be? A parent? A sibling? A close male friend, or, god forbid perhaps, a female friend?

And how do I handle all of this? Male masturbation has had a bad reputation almost from the dawn of humanity. Attitudes have shifted somewhat on the subject, but if you read things on the subject written in the 1950s and earlier it seemed that the advice being given was that it was certainly undesirable if not abnormal for guys to masturbate. Since practically every young guy was doing it, this became one of humanities deepest and darkest secrets, interspersed with scare stories about guys going blind and being uncompetitive in sports.

Parents more or less accepted the notion that boys past puberty were going to have wet dreams and this was not something under the boy’s direct control. These things just happened in the middle of the night when the guy was sleeping and that stains on sheets and pajamas were just a normal part of a boy’s life growing up.

Many guys were like me in this regard, given that uncontrolled wet dreams were considered normal happenings for an adolescent male, but masturbation was considered not normal and undesirable behavior. It is a lot more fun to ejaculate while awake than asleep, who is to be the wiser if a guy just takes advantage of this and secretly masturbates to ejaculation under the covers? Problem solved! Well, not quite, perhaps.

A famous book in the early 1970s was “Everything you always wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask”. By the 1970s you would have thought that attitudes about masturbation would have become more open minded, but not really. Here was an expert on sex and sexuality writing an entire chapter on masturbation. Generally the conclusion reached was that this was something that young people past puberty may temporarily do and that is OK then, but this activity will quickly be replaced as soon as a suitable partner was found! The notion that a guy might choose to continue to enjoy masturbating for his entire adult life even in a relationship was unthinkable!

Of course, the same book has a chapter devoted to the behavior of gays with the conclusion that nearly every gay who wants to turn straight can do so if only the right sexual psychiatrist expert in converting gay people can be found.

This brings me back to Dylan and Josh, who have found a bunch of really fun ways to masturbate most of which involve an article of snug-fitting clothing. A guess a lot of sex experts would regard what Dylan and Josh are doing to themselves in a fetish since it involves an inanimate object, a swim brief, a strap, compression gear, a wrestling singlet. But wait! Each of these items “do” something to them that physically makes what they are doing a lot more enjoyable that if each of them were simply stroking parts on their own nude bodies.

Think about this. I can go to a Walmart store and find all sorts of items designed to make male-female intercourse more enjoyable for both partners, and these are sold with detailed information about what each product is and why it is enjoyable. There are condoms with ribs designed to make a guy’s female partner quickly reach high arousal levels, various creams and lotions from making sure the body parts can fit together and move in relation to each other with ease, battery-powered vibrating rings designed to send guys to another level on the erection/hardness front, and this is just the stuff on the shelf at Walmart. On line shopping identifies a host of other products for the same purpose that Walmart deems somehow beyond what they want to sell from a store shelf. But you get the idea.

I think one of the most interesting things that Dylan and Josh did in this respect in an earlier chapter was to purchase for each other each series of three or four swim briefs starting with the size they normally would wear down to a ones that were seriously undersized. They both were fully aware of what they were going to do with the swim briefs. If you remember, the whole idea was to try on each swim brief and for each of them to get the penis and scrotum into the proper position, with the penis pointed up and the underside pressing against the smooth-and-slick fabric.

Then if the guy didn’t go into an uncontrollable ejaculation, the next step was to remove that brief and attempt go get into a brief that was a couple inches smaller in waist size and therefore snugger and tighter still. Maintaining ejaculatory control will keep getting more and more difficult as the briefs keep getting smaller and tighter.

As you remember, neither Dylan nor Josh was able to make it through the entire pile of larger to smaller briefs without ejaculating. That would have taken serious ejaculatory control, which neither of them has at this point in their lives.

So, do Dylan and Josh have a fetish given the involvement of the inanimate swim briefs, or are they engaging in activities similar to the male Walmart shopper seeking condoms with ridges that will get his partner excited, vibrating rings, or lotions designed to make the body parts of two different people rub against each other more easily? After all, these are inanimate objects as well.

The other complicated part of all of this with Dylan and Josh is that a guy might very well want to see how far he can press himself with the various swim briefs in complete privacy, but surely Dylan struggling with this was surely more fun for him while watching Josh struggle with his own attempt to do the exact same thing. And vice versa. Is this just two male friends jerking off together so to speak, or does this mean that Dylan and Josh both have a gay side to their person even if neither admits that to themselves or each other. Is what Dylan and Josh did a form of gay sex, or not? No bodily fluids were interchanged and neither touched the other, just observed what was happening to the other

To be continued….

So when do Josh and Dylan begin interaction now that you've been philosophizing for several months? Hate to be critical, Sebbie, but it's very redundant. We want to hear more of the story!

An addendum
 

Guys past puberty spend a lot of their adolescence developing ways to enjoy themselves while not attracting the attention of others around them if at all possible. They experiment with a variety of methods and techniques, with the best ones sticking to their brains like glue.

Methods that are especially enjoyable tend to get repeated over and over, while less enjoyable methods are quickly replaced with something that they like better. Every guy enters young adulthood with a collection of things he really enjoys doing to himself.

Females in general are led to believe that penis-vagina sex is so wonderful that once a guy discovers this he will never want to go back to the old solo-sex methods and techniques again, and that the female is the centerpiece of what having fun with sex is about for a guy.

Guys often get very attached to the solo sex techniques they discovered as adolescence, and are not nearly so excited about giving them all up in favor of penis-vagina sex 100 percent of the time. The trick here is to figure out how to keep enjoying the other stuff not involving your female partner while somehow convincing your female partner that once you met her you never do any of that solo-sex stuff anymore.

How this all works for gay male partners is perhaps even more complicated, in part because bringing solo-sex activities into a relationship would generally not be considered surprising or threatening. If masturbation is fun, mutual masturbation has got to be even more fun as male roommates Dylan and Josh have both discovered as they both watched each other masturbate at the same time. This in turn could quickly lead to closer male-to-male contact as well.

Where this puts Dylan and Josh on the gay-straight scale is unclear. I have yet to describe any male-female encounters that either may have had.

It could be that both Dylan and Josh find girlfriends and soon move out of the little dorm room and in with their respective girlfriends, and then quickly each discover that having sex with the girlfriend is such an enjoyable activity that everything that has happened in the dorm room no longer seems of any importance at all. In which case they both marry their respective girlfriends, have kids and live happily ever after like entering fairy tale romances.

Or not!

To be continued…

Anticipation
 

In these various chapters, I have identified a number of garments that at minimum have the potential for getting a guy horny and aroused. In various ways, I have made the case that this potential is as “normal as sunshine” for this to happen to guys. This is something that just happens and is part of being a guy—a guy with super neat and sensitive body parts. I have tried in various ways to also point out that if this happens to a guy, it does not mean that the guy is somehow at the fringes of sexual psychology and can be labeled as some sort of a deviant with a serious sexual fetish issue. Rather, all of this is quite normal even though for many if not most guys this remains a closely guarded personal secret perhaps not to be shared with anyone.

A lot of guys probably struggle with how to deal with this. After all, is not solo sexual activity clearly inferior to and a part of a guy’s immature sexual personality, only to be quickly discarded once a guy gets into a “mature” relationship with another person? What if this fondness for jerking off in snug-fitting clothing doesn’t simply evaporate once a guy is mature enough to be in a real relationship that involves partner sex?

And what about the gay-straight thing? Aren’t gay guys particularly fond of snug-fitting clothing of various sorts? Haven’t I seen gay guys parading down streets on gay pride day wearing skimpy swim briefs? If anyone sees me wearing one of these, surely they will think I am gay too! This is the popular swim-brief stereotype.

And what if my college roommate sees me wearing a swim brief? Won’t he immediately discern that I am gay, or certainly have gay leanings?

And what if I ever get caught by one of the guys, even accidentally, where I am enjoying myself jerking off in a swim brief and it is obvious what I am doing? What will he think of me? How do I get out from under that situation, anyway?

Still, jerking off in a swim brief can certainly be a lot of fun. Are guys to deny themselves that little pleasure in life simply because of these issues? I suspect that sales of swim briefs far exceeds the number that would be sold if only worn for pool or beach. What is happening to all of these, anyway?

If this is true, there are several possibilities and the answer may be a combination of these.

1. Guys are buying these solely for use in private jerk-off sessions, in which case they are kept in a corner of a dresser drawer underneath other clothing items and pulled out as needed when privacy is available and the opportunity arises because they feel like doing it.

2. Guys are simply interested in seeing how their bodies look in a swim brief, and so they pull these on and spend time modeling in private in front of a mirror. This could, in turn lead right into a classic swim-brief jerk-off session.

3. Guys discover that wearing a swim brief as daily underwear makes them feel a little horny all day long and they like both the tactile feel of the brief and the constant gentle reminder that they have male body parts.

4. These are used as underwear on dates leading to partner sex—gay, straight, it doesn’t matter. Perhaps the other person on the date, expecting “normal” underwear will “like” seeing your body in the swim brief. This COULD go a lot of different directions once the jeans are off, and could get interesting. Will she think my body clad in a snug-fitting swim brief is interesting, or will she conclude from this that I could be gay? What exactly happens when a guy tries this one for the first time?

What type of swim brief works best, if the primary objective of wearing one has basically nothing to do with hopping in the water? That is an interesting question to ponder as well. A classic swim brief designed for the pool has 3-inch sides and a fairly high rise. The rise on a swim brief can be measured from the very lowest part of the brief—the part that will contain your balls to the top of the waist band. These traditional briefs with their wider sides and relatively long rise can still fit pretty snug, especially if sized properly and not oversized.

And, a traditional brief can be fun to wear in all the ways outlined above. It will attract less attention at the pool or beach than a brief with narrower sides and a lower rise. And there is what I call the “Christopher Atkins method” as employed in old episodes of the nighttime soap “Dallas” where he wore a traditional royal blue Speedo® in the “penis up” position. There is something about having a semi-hard penis with the tip in the up position inside a traditional swim brief with the slick cloth pressing against the underside that looks and feels really really good. The tricky part here is to keep from ejaculating too quickly once you get yourself in that situation.

The Asians have gone in the opposite direction, in that what has become a classic Asian swim brief popularized by brands such as Aqux, Desmiit and Seobean as well as what are called Japanese Speedo® and Arena® features much narrower sides and a very low rise. The cut presents some interesting “problems” for the wearer to resolve. First, space is so limited that penis up is the only real option. There just isn’t enough crotch space to position your body any other way. Second, the low rise means that when the brief is in position you are likely going to be showing some bush along the front waist and a bit of butt crack in the rear. The Asians seem to take this all in stride. It’s just part of the “look.”

For beginners to all of this, you probably need to first run experiments with a standard swim brief with three-inch sides in a penis-up position and see how you like that and how your body reacts to the new situation. Don’t be alarmed if you go into a full-scale ejaculation more rapidly than you had hoped. That is all just part of the fun you can have attempting to accomplish this. If you have never gotten yourself into any swim brief before, part of what you are learning here is not only a special masturbation technique but also a lesson in developing ejaculatory control, a skill that will serve you well in later life.

This game has a lot to do with anticipation and how you cope with the unknown as it relates to sexual feelings and experiences—stuff that might prove useful as you move into the next phase of your life, or stuff that can just be enjoyed for its own sheer pleasure. At minimum, you will have developed some wonderful masturbation skills and dug into some pleasures that your body is capable of while not having to cope with more complex partner-sex issues.

To be continued…

The keys to understanding yourself
 

I suppose there are two kinds of guys out there, those who do and those who don’t. Do or don’t what, anyway? What I am thinking about is whether or not a guy gets aroused when he gets into a swim brief, or, perhaps, even more interestingly, gets aroused when he merely thinks about the possibility of being able to wear a swim brief.

I don’t doubt that there are guys out there who do not get aroused at all—a lot of these are probably guys who grew up swimming and wearing swim briefs when doing so, and never even gave the whole idea any particular thought—that is, it was just the normal thing that guys did who wanted to be good swimmers.

Then there are the guys who are taking up swimming as a team sports for the first time at some level, elementary school or perhaps high school. Here is where you find the guys who may be paranoid about wearing a swim brief and how they might look wearing one—as in my ‘nads are going to be clearly outlined and my state of arousal will be obvious to others and I don’t know if I can deal with that and, further, what if I discover that my erection is getting out of control and what am I going to do about that and on and on. All of these fears provide a rationale for attempting to steer clear of getting oneself into a situation whereby a guy would “have” to wear a swim brief.

Finally, there are the guys who buy swim briefs not because they intend to be a team swimmer but merely because they think it’s fun to mess with their bodies by wearing one and are actually interested in researching the question of whether or not wearing a swim brief makes you feel horny and how you deal with that moment by moment. I have dubbed this “recreational” swim brief wear.

Selecting a swim brief for recreational wear like this is a little different from selecting a swim brief for the specific purpose of being a team swimmer. For starters, in the latter case the parameters of the brief, style, color and sizing are probably fairly narrowly laid out by the team rules. In reading documents designed for members of various swim teams around the country, I sometimes see at least indirect references to the paranoia problem for new members that I outlined above. Indeed, the whole idea of wearing jammers in competition instead probably came about in part because so many males were struggling with all of the aspects of others seeing their bodies clad in a swim brief, and this prospect was scaring away guys that might be good athletes who had this fear.

But for the recreational swim brief wearer, none of this matters in large measure because the guy who does this does not normally see himself parading around in public wearing a swim brief. Indeed, some very different rules apply.

The whole idea behind recreational swim brief wear is not to attempt to locate a brief that avoids making you feel horny, but instead finding just the right brief that you know for certain will make you feel horny. For a guy who wants to play with his body in this respect, this involves a very different search effort from the effort by a guy seeking a brief to be worn as part of a swim team.

Not that many years ago, it was possible to successfully shop for a recreational swim brief at a “bricks-and-mortar” retail store. Nowadays, however the business has largely gone on line, but you can also shop for garments around the world. If your dream is to be in a brief similar to what the trendy Asian guys wear at their local beaches, a brief of that design and cut is only a mouse click away!

One of the keys to selecting the right brief is to let your body do the talking, so to speak. Swim briefs are made in a wide variety of styles, cuts, colors, patterns, materials and sizes, and finding just the right one to make you happiest can be a significant task. But a guy’s body is nicely wired for engaging in the search and communicating back to you when you have found the correct item.

This is really all about understanding better the signals a guy’s body sends him in the very initial stages of arousal, as in what happens as you contemplate actually being in a brief you have found on-line. Every guy past puberty is fully aware of the slight “tingle” he feels in his penis when he encounters something that his mind, perhaps subconsciously, spots something sexually arousing. This sensation is an integral part of who guys are as sexual human beings and comes into play in a wide variety of ways…it’s the core of the experiences of guys in a lot of coming of age movies, for example. Either something psychosexually “gets” to a guy or not.

The connection between mind and body keeps getting more and more interesting. A lot of guys, perhaps nearly all, are wired such that this initial tingling sensation is almost immediately accompanied by a few glistening precum drops, and guys quickly feel the slight dampness at the very tip of the penis.

In the case of the search for a recreational swim brief, this is a clear signal that you have found something that is of interest to you. But, in buying a recreational swim brief, comparison shopping at home in privacy is also part of the game and the usual kinds of shopping issues enter in, as in how much will this cost me to enjoy this brief.

Dylan and Josh did something very interesting. They both were obviously interested in recreational swim brief wear, and they made choices in terms of cut, style and sizing with the expectation that these would be worn not by themselves but each other. This added an element of uncertainty or the unknown into the mix. From a sheer horniness perspective, not knowing exactly what you are getting into and whether or not you will fit can be a good not a bad thing. Having another male about your ge engaging in doing the same thing at the same time clearly adds another dimension to the search effort.

I conclude be saying that there is absolutely nothing to feel embarrassed or scared about by enjoying yourself and your body in this way. Treat this as an educational experience that will help you better understand how what guys sometimes think are mysterious parts about being a guy really work. And have an enjoyable time seeing exactly how each experiment works in your particular situation.

To be continued….

Getting all strapped in Part I
 

The story with respect to athletic supporters (aka “jock straps) in many respects follows a similar line with respect to availability. For young guys too, the idea of wearing a jock strap has many similar fear elements that parallel the thoughts that go through your mind when contemplating wearing a swim brief for the very first time. It’s a very similar set of fears accompanied with thoughts of “I wonder how that would fit and feel around my private parts”.

Like a swim brief, there is also something about the whole idea of wearing a strap that sends many guys off into another place entirely. Not that a swim brief is the same as a strap—they are very different. Part of the appeal of a swim brief is the material used, usually very slick and smooth, whereas a good strap is very course and rough textured, in the latter case, the traditional strap is made with a heavy duty elastic waistband, often 2-inches wide or even wider, and then a pouch constructed of some kind of coarse-textured rubbery material that a guy just knows is going to fit, well, really snug in some sensitive and interesting places.

Once again, what hits a guy is this combination of fear coupled with anticipation with respect to how this is all going to feel and fit once you are in one. Crazy thoughts often enter a guy’s mind in this situation, like how all of this will accommodate me should I start to get even a little erect just thinking about all of this and where my penis and balls are.

Then there is the other strap “problem” in that for a traditional strap at least, one’s butt is always completely bare. So one does not appear in public wearing only a strap unless one thinks it’s somehow OK to be butt-naked. I’ve never fully understood why traditional straps were always designed to leave a guy’s rear end completely bare, but that they are.

Times have changed. Not THAT many years ago, guys were expected to wear straps under clothing for practically any kind of sport, say as garb under a pair of lightweight nylon shorts for participation in track and field events, and the only proper attire, according to coaches at least, was the traditional strap as I have described here. This has changed a lot in recent years, and it is common now for snug-fitting long-legged compression shorts worn under track shorts with the legs of the compression shorts extending below the bottoms of the looser-fitting shorts worn over. A guy COULD still wear a traditional strap UNDER the compression shorts, but few any more do that.

But then there are the cups,…ahhh the hard cups. A traditional strap without a cup securely holds a guy’s genitalia in place for non-contact events that involve jumping, running or whatever, but what about a situation whereby there is a possibility that a guy will get hit in the groin area? An elastic pouch is not going to save the poor guy who gets hit in the groin by an errant ball, nor the football player who gets hit in the groin by another player intentionally or unintentionally. It was only natural to use the supporter pouch to hold a hard cup made of a sturdy plastic, that could shield the guys most critical body parts against injury.

Hard cups of various shapes and sizes have been a normal part of the garb for contact supports over the decades. What has changed over time has been the design of these cups. In the 1950s and 1960s the only widely available hard cup design was quite flat, and did not fit around a guy’s balls. Bluntly put, they were designed to cushion a direct hit coming in horizontally on a guy’s penis such as what might happen from an errant baseball but not a hit coming at an angle from below.

Traditionally these cups were made with only enough space to contain an average guy’s flaccid penis. Apparently, the cup designers felt that the average guy was not very big, either. They typically left no room for expansion let alone for any room to flop around. A few small holes provided some “ventilation”, but that was it.

Once in one of these cups, a guy knew he was in it. I put a strap with one of these traditional cups on this morning so that I could describe for you exactly what sensations I am experiencing. There is both a psychological component and a physical presence of the cup that I can directly feel. My penis “knows” it is in close quarters and has been communicating that to my brain, but this is not unpleasant, in fact I am rather enjoying the situation I am experiencing.

But, I am also sensing the physical presence of the cup as well, as a subtle but direct presences on my penis. Somehow, my penis seems to “know” that the cup is there and realizes that it cannot expand beyond where it is at. This is a loopy, but also psychologically and physically a most interesting sensation. My brain thinks it’s kind of cool or neat feeling. I can tug or “adjust” or momentarily pull away the cup in an effort to find a position for the cup that might do less of this to me, but the cup keeps going back in the same position and I quickly discover that stuff has gotten still snugger.

The odd thing is that given the size of the cup, it is really difficult to move forward to more of an erection and ejaculation without first removing the strap and cup entirely. Better to just kick back and enjoy all the quirky sensations as they come and go like waves. Interesting! Enjoyable! Not to be missed.

This is what I have sometimes labeled as the pinnacle of recreational jock strap wear.

To be continued….

as dm106 stated: "So when do Josh and Dylan begin interaction now that you've been philosophizing for several months? Hate to be critical, Sebbie, but it's very redundant. We want to hear more of the story!"

You have done your homework and put in a lot of time and work; but I think you have covered the history to it's fullest.

Thanks for your time and efforts, now on with the story?

A footnote
 

Have you ever been in a movie audience where you are about 40 minutes into the plot of the movie and you think you know pretty well based on what you have seen already how the movie will end? Suddenly, there is a completely unexpected plot twist. A couple of the characters that you thought were critical to the story line have died or been killed off, and a couple other characters that seemed to be important in the first 40 minutes of the story seem to have receded into the background. A new character, maybe two, who seemed to have minor roles in the first 40 minutes suddenly are important parts of the story line. And worse, all your smug predictions as to how the movie will end seen to be, well, not so smart.

Screenwriters love to do this to moviegoers. Other kinds of writers too. No one forces a moviegoer to remain planted in his seat no matter what happens. One response would be to just sit tight, enjoy the fun plot twist, and revel in the notion that the plot did not go in the direction you expected. I suppose you could storm out of the theater angry that the plot did not go the way you thought it should. But what is the real point in doing that?

So too, with my readers here. I guess some of you, for whatever reason, had pretty well decided how the story line should go and what the fate should be for each of the characters. More than a few of you had concluded that each pair of characters, Bill, Joe, and also Josh and Dylan were gay boys who were secretly trying to maintain their identities as straight, for whatever reason, and it would be only a matter of time before I would write a chapter detailing the nuances of their respective encounters with each other involving a so called “interchange of bodily fluids”.

Maybe some of you were thinking that these guys were really straight boys having interesting sex-focused flings involving obvious acts of masturbation in the presence of another guy, something they each had longed to do even when still in high school but never dared to do for an assortment of reasons. Experiences that were interesting and fun but recede into the background once each of them met the right girl and got to engage in real (penis-vagina) sex.

As a story-writer, none of this has happened, and I realize that I have fulfilled none of your expectations in this regard. Like the moviegoer who experiences a major unexpected plot twist 40-minutes in, you have every right to simply storm out of the theater in anger because things ended up not going the way you expected. Indeed no chapter has contained any description of the guys even barely touching each other let alone exchanging bodily fluids.

OK, I realize I’m “messing” with my readers simply by not writing what they expect me to write. I keep taking them through stuff over and over and some of you are saying that I told you all of this before. Well yes, and to the extent I repeat myself it is because the points I am making in my mind at least are really important to understand.

What are my points, anyway? Well, I think you already know this, but a core point is the idea that the only way a guy can have a truly enjoyable life sexually is to get to engage in sex with a partner. Further, anything a guy might do alone, or even with another person present and watching but not actively engaged, is somehow first of all not sex, but, even if it were labeled as a strange form of sex, whatever happens is clearly not as enjoyable or acceptable as it would certainly be if a partner were actively involved and bodily fluids exchanged. This surely cannot be, or can it?

To this I say, bah! Humbug!

I also realize that a bunch of the stuff I have written down on the subject is not the kind of stuff that would be easily found in a bookstore or on the Internet. I know of only a very limited number of places where writers have even hinted that solo sex like I describe here could be at least equally enjoyable to partner sex on a pure “this blows me away completely” scale and without even having to confront all the other complicated issues related to having “real” sex with a partner.

If what I am suggesting guys try is not something that interests you or your cup of tea, so be it. I’m fine with that. Don’t bother to read any further. Storm out of the theater, instead!

I’ve thought some about suddenly moving the story lines forward about two and a half years. Josh and Dylan have now graduated from college and are starting their respective careers. Josh quickly found a girl that he got engaged to and is happily having sex with her it seems every other night at least. The events that occurred in the dorm room with Dylan present have receded into the background. Apparently, Josh at the core was straight.

But Dylan is still basically the shy loner he always was. He has tried dating girls, but they seem self-absorbed and not at all interested in what Dylan is all about, the stuff that makes Dylan who he really is as a human being. Dylan still loves to engage in solo sex, and now, living alone in an apartment, he has complete freedom to do so basically whenever the mood hits him. His collection of clothing and other items employed during solo sex keeps getting bigger and bigger. But he doesn’t have to share this with anyone. At this point, it is his little secret. I understand very well why Dylan is the way he is, and how he got to where he is psychologically and sexually.

Dylan has sometimes wondered if deep down he could be a gay boy and simply has not met the guy who would potentially make a good partner for him. He realizes that his interest in masturbation and the various techniques he employs might be a lot more easily shared with another gay guy than with a girl, but he also realizes that a lot of gay guys seem to be laser-focused on activities that involve an interchange of bodily fluids. Oddly enough, this activity is not where Dylan’s mind or body is focused either. Dylan truly enjoys being Dylan in all aspects of his life. He is neither unhappy nor depressed, not at all.

So is Josh’s life right now happier sexually than Dylan’s life? Some of you may think you already know the answer to this question. If this story doesn’t seem to lead to the answer you expect are you going to quit reading? If so, I am perfectly content to keep messing with the minds and bodies of those who choose as readers to continue stick with me! Those who exit the theater now and disgust probably shouldn’t have bought tickets in the first place. After all, where else can you go where you can get such details about all sorts of things you can try and experience?

To be continued…

OK so…
 

I realize some of my readers must be incredibly disappointed. Isn’t this supposed to be an erotic story of some sort? Shouldn’t this be all about two people meeting, falling in love and having sex with each other that should involve exchanging bodily fluids? This hasn’t happened, and now my readers are fearful that we might never get to that part, or, if we do, the story is not going to play out in any sort of familiar expected way.

Writing is extraordinarily fun—for the writer. For the serious reader, maybe not so much. As storylines progress, readers keep trying to figure out what they think will happen next, and then all of a sudden the storyline takes a completely unexpected term.

So, think back, where are we here? Two male college roommates, both think of themselves as straight as an arrow on a sexuality scale. Yet, something weird has happened. Not only do they both enjoy each other’s company, they have both gotten to a point whereby they are comfortable revealing to each other at least a little of what goes on in their deepest, darkest minds. And, strangely enough, the two of them are not living on different planets in this regard. They are both on the same planet other male college students their age are living. They are both living in a place in which some of the guys brag that they have girlfriends and get to exchange bodily fluids certainly on weekends and maybe a couple or even three times a week! Certainly this is the place where normal 19- and 20-year old guys live, and certainly any guy not living in that place must be socially challenged or have issues related to his own sexuality. Maybe, Maybe.

If I were to look back on each of these stories, the particular segment that sticks out in my mind is the one in which Dylan and Josh decided it would be fun to order a bunch of different swim briefs in varying colors, cuts and sizes, not for the purpose of going swimming (at least not in all of them), but rather to see what would happen to each of them if they sorted the suits by size, largest to snuggest, and then simply tried each brief on starting with the biggest, loosest-fitting one first, and then gradually working through each pile with each brief getting smaller, snugger and tighter-fitting.

Unless the guys are completely brain dead, just contemplating trying this should result in at least a partial hard-on. Dylan and Josh are completely normal guys in this regard. This is all related to the male fear of being seen with a bit of an erection while wearing a swim brief in public. But the really psychosexually interesting part here is pushing yourself to the limit as in seeing how much of this silliness a guy like Dylan can tolerate before he goes over the top and has no real choice any longer about whether or not he can further delay ejaculation.

Then to make matters even more interesting, there is another guy Josh, who is trying to do the exact same thing. There is no touching or anything else physical going on between the two of them. But still, the mere knowledge that there is another guy in the room having the same experience adds a unique element that makes the whole situation even more interesting for both of them.

So, one way of looking at all of this is that it is just a really elaborate way to engage in solo sex, and whatever happens therefore has got to be psychosexually less enjoyable than the real thing with a partner. This goes back to the old school of thought that basically says masturbation is something that children and socially maladjusted adults may occasionally engage in, but these people are, at minimum very unfortunate souls who are missing out on what really make the world spin on its axis—that is, partner sex.

Or, maybe masturbation can end up being TOO enjoyable. That is, techniques like what Dylan and josh are doing are so much fun that a guy’s desire to find a real partner who wants to have real sex will somehow be damaged. What if I come up with a technique like this one that is just too much fun to ever abandon? If I get into a relationship with another person, aren’t really fun solo sex experiences going to have to somehow recede into the background as I keep discovering ever more enjoyable things to do with my partner? In short, how do deeply satisfying solo sex experiences even fit into a relationship, or is all of this stuff just psychosexual baggage that needs to simply be abandoned and somehow forgotten or the entire relationship is in trouble?

But then, maybe all of this messing around with the swim briefs of various sizes has an odd payoff in a partner-focused sexual relationship. Certainly, hundreds, thousands or even tens of thousands of books and book chapters have been written under the generic title “Dealing with premature ejaculation” in which the guy goes off too quickly and the partner—usually a female partner—complains that it was all over before she got anywhere herself. Maybe all Dylan and Josh are doing is practicing and developing specific skills in this regard. As Yoda might have said, “Complicated stuff, this all is”.

At puberty, guys quickly learn that having an orgasm with ejaculation—any orgasm, is a life experience not to be missed. But almost as quickly they also learn that this should be done in private, alone, and as quickly as possible so as to not get caught doing it. Guys quickly develop real skills for getting hard and over quickly. Then they spend much of the rest of their lives unlearning what they had figured out how to quickly an efficiently do---instead letting sexual feelings bubble and simmer without boiling over for an ever longer period of time, even as the sexual partner attempts to do the same thing. The funny thing is that when the pot does boil over, and it eventually will, this becomes the path to a mind blowing orgasmic experience, whether with a partner or alone. And, either way there is certainly nothing at all wrong with that.

I suspect some of my readers think this chapter did not go they had figured either. All of this is too complicated and yet far too interesting to take lightly.

To be continued…

Getting all strapped in Part II
 

It is always a great deal of fun to experiment with straps and cups. No two brands of cups are alike, and each one of them is shaped a little differently. Finding a cup that feels particularly good requires a bit of experimenting, and perhaps a fortunate find. Further, the one that works right for you might not be perfect for me. As the cup designers are well aware, no to guys have the exact same genital equipment—in fact there is a wide variation in this respect.

There has been substantial redesign of jock strap cups that has taken place largely from in the 1990s. The redesigns were a likely mostly a consequence of the fact that the old-school flat and hard cups tended to do make guys who wore them quickly get aroused and at least somewhat erect, which was probably not desirable from the perspective of success in many team sports if the guy was focusing on the sensations coming from his cup-clad groin area rather than the sport he was playing. Second, something needed to be done about the fact that the old-school cups did not protect the balls at all from hits coming in from below or underneath.

Thus, the Banana Cup® was invented. The term Banana Cup is a trademarked name by the company that first started selling these. Generally, they were shaped like a very large and wide banana, long and fairly narrow, and meant to cover the balls and the penis when in proper position. They appealed to guys who believed themselves to be quite large even flaccid. The top part of the banana was deep enough so that there was room for a guy. Many of the cups are big enough so that unlike the traditional straps and cups, it was pretty obvious that you were wearing one if you were.

If you haven’t noticed, traditional straps with cups or not of any design are not readily found any more in a lot of bricks-and-mortar stores. Discount retailers used to have sections devoted in part to these, but they are all but gone. And the ones you do still find are usually straps with oversized banana cups.

You can find these cups in smaller sizes, but they are made for the youth market. And you can fit a youth size cup in an adult strap. This can be an interesting experience as some of the smaller youth cups are quite narrow as well as small.

Still, for recreational jock strap wear, I still much prefer the old style strap fit with the traditional-fit hard cup that really holds my penis in a cinched-in position. This provides some great feelings and sensations as my mind keeps getting drawn back to where my penis is. Maybe you too!

So, what if you want to find a cup for “recreational” wear as I describe? Would this be a cup of a different size or shape than one you might pick for actually play a sport where you actually need to protect your genitalia? That is an interesting question.

Guys wearing cups, even the roomier ones, are generally aware that there is something around the penis. The sensations a guy feels might be part psychological as well as the physical sensation of the cup bearing down and around the sexually-sensitive penis. Some guys probable experience some discomfort, at least when first getting inside, but this is quickly followed by something that seems to be much more pleasant. This curious mixture of discomfort and pleasure is not readily obtained by any other method.

As Dylan and Josh surely have found out, there are ways of ramping up the experience a bit to make the sensations still more enjoyable. The right pair of men’s thong underwear when worn under the strap and cup can take everything to another level. For me, at least, the ideal thong is one that has but a narrow band or cord that cuts deep between the glutes as I move around. To get the thong in the proper position with everything inside, a guys penis and balls will both be pushed upward and forward, with lots of perineum pressure. Meanwhile the strap and cup are pressing everything downward and back in exactly the opposite direction. The sensation of the two simple items working in the opposite direction is sweet, to say the least. A guy’s penis will be very much aware of the confined space it is in with the cup bearing down. This is, well, a superbly delicious sensation.

Then to top everything off, a pair of compression shorts goes over the top of everything. At this point, I like to do some strenuous exercise, either on my stationary rower or my stationary bike. My exercise time seems to fly by. All my sexual “hot spots” get hit at the same time, multiplying the overall effect. The crack between my glutes is suddenly quite sexually sensitive and this really becomes apparent when my perineum is getting bombarded by the thong and the walls of my penis are constrained by the hard cup held in place by the compression gear. I love trying to move the up around just a bit while all of this stuff is going on, even though it is mostly constrained by the compression shorts.

All of this is highly recommended. From the perspective of the story line, these are stunts that Bill and Joe discovered many chapters ago, as well as techniques that Josh and Dylan have been learning.


To be continued…

And now for the important questions
 

Over fifty years ago, I enrolled as a college freshman. Living in a 3-story dorm that was entirely made up with rooms, two men (that was new, we were suddenly not boys any more) to a room. Me, I was just a wee lad of only 17, not even 18 yet.

Some of the guys may have females on their minds. Me? I had another, much more important and immediate issue. On each floor of the dorm there was one very large military-style bathroom located way down the hall, with completely open showers with shower heads all in a row. There was a row of toilet stalls which, fortunately had doors, and a long row of sinks with mirrors, but that was it.

Does this sound like the dorm Josh and Dylan have been living in? Well, not surprising!

The guys wandered down the long hallway to the showers both morning and night, usually clad only in a bathrobe. That was the easiest way to deal with the situation of having to be out in the open and wanting to shower. Of course, the University had a military (ROTC was offered) “flavor” and men’s dorms that by design were somewhat like military barracks seemed only logical. After all, guys who went into the military would face a similar situation, and this was the late 60s when the draft and the Vietnam War was on. For the moment, anyway we were “safe” because generally the college kids had educational deferments at least until they finished undergraduate degrees. The question was what would be going on once we had graduated from college.

Me? by 17 I had already developed a series of masturbation techniques that I enjoyed a lot. Not quite as elaborate as the ones Josh and Dylan have been pursuing of course, but they were great fun for me nonetheless. Dylan and Josh have gotten to try a bunch of different things that I hadn’t thought of when I was a beginning college student and what they did in this respect has gone way beyond what I was actually able to do at that age.

The basic problem I faced was very simple. With no privacy, how was I going to adapt what I was doing with and to myself to the circumstances I was now in? In retrospect, I was pretty naïve at that age. But social morays were quite different back then as well. In those years, in this setting, there were no males who were openly gay, and certainly no males living under semi-military style conditions in the little double dorm rooms. At least, that was the assumption. Generally any male living in one of these double dorm rooms was assumed to be perfectly straight.

I guess we all were aware that some guys didn’t quite fit with that idea, but, interestingly enough, I never was aware of any teasing or bullying similar to what could have easily gone on in junior high or in high school. Still, there was this problem that if you were inadvertently discovered to be masturbating, and that meant at minimum that you were not getting any (with a girl). This led to the assumption that the frequent masturbators could be or even likely were gay guys. Therefore the “penalty” for being discovered masturbating was not something most guys would want to endure. This was long before the vast majority of guys were comfortable being openly gay.

These are my observations about undergraduate college life from over 50 years ago when society was very different from now. I keep thinking about how society has gradually changed with respect to being more and more comfortable with the entire idea that there are some people who are openly gay and that this is not something that any more needs to be kept secret. There are interesting implications for all of this in many ways.

For starters, a lot of these old dormitories still exist where the rooms are small doubles with the restroom facilities down the hall. Further, even back then, if two guys wanted to pick roommates, housing offices generally allowed and even encouraged that. So even back then there were no restrictions on two male guys rooming together in a dorm room for the entire duration of college. And what they did with and to each other during that period of time behind closed doors was completely private.

The issues are interesting. The housing office, then and now would never rent a dorm room to a guy and a girl who wanted to hook up for four years of college. But for two gay guys, this was perfectly fine.

Me, I was 17 and not anywhere near wanting to form a sexual relationship with anyone, male or female. Much like Dylan, I had too much else going on academically. I was a bookworm, pretty much and excelled at doing that.

Still, I was already deep into masturbation as an interesting and hugely enjoyable activity, and even then I kept thinking up new and endlessly fascinating ways to enjoy my own body. I kept thinking up stuff in that department that I had not yet gotten to try. But even admitting to being interested in masturbating was a very taboo topic for guys to even discuss, let alone demonstrate, even inadvertently or by “accident”.

For most guys, the entire topic of engaging in solo sex remains quite taboo and something that should be kept very secret. It’s still a topic that most guys refuse to discuss openly with other guys unless the guys are gay males. But even here there is still stuff that stumps me. A lot of gay guys seem to equate being in a gay relationship with having sex that involves an exchange of bodily fluids which is usually thought to be oral or anal sex, and if two guys do not do that, then they are not in a “real” gay relationship.

I also keep thinking about what seems to me to be at first a very simple question. That question is “what is sex?” Is sex defined as simply male and female penis in vagina? What about oral sex? Is that “real” sex? Or anal sex? Must “real” sex involve an interchange of bodily fluids?

Then is solo masturbation is not sex does this somehow change if another person is present? If a guy is masturbating and another person is present that is not masturbating is that mutual masturbation? Or does the other person have to also be masturbating as well? And is mutual masturbation, however defined, then actually a type of sex? What about a married couple who enjoys mutual masturbation? In so doing are they having sex? If they are not having sex what exactly are they doing in the presence of each other?

I’ve met male-female couples, often even married, who claim to be in love with each other but never actually have penis-vagina sex and they both seem to be fine with that. I suspect that the same also must happens with some, perhaps many gay male couples, but then we get bogged down in trying to define what is a gay relationship versus just a male roommate in a completely “innocuous” situation much like the male roommates in the dorm rooms.

Suppose I simply have a male roommate, and inadvertently he wanders in and discovers me having a lot of fun playing with my own body? Has the situation suddenly changed making him more than just a roommate? What if anything changes if when he watches me having so much fun that he gets horny just thinking about what I am doing, and, as a consequence, he can’t keep himself from starting to masturbate himself while watching me? Has the situation for both of us suddenly changed from just roommates to something that is on the cusp of becoming a true gay relationship? And am I suddenly finding more enjoyment because my roommate has suddenly decided it was OK to join in? Are the two suddenly on the cusp of a “real” relationship? This, to a degree, is exactly the problem Dylan and Josh are confronting.

To be continued…

The Myths…
 

A lot of myths about the sexual behaviors of guys come about by watching “coming-of-age” movies. Invariably these movies contain several teen-age guys supposedly on the cusp of manhood, and, in particular on the prospect of having penis-vagina sex with a female their age, or in a few instances a female somewhat older (See the movie “Summer of 42” which was considered quite risqué when it came out in the early 1970s). It is from these movies where a lot of females learn about the boorish behaviors of males that they might encounter.

But think about this for a moment. Did your teen years approximate the script of any of these movies? Were you so fixated then on somehow having penis-vagina sex with a female that you somehow failed to notice that there were other, less complicated but still very interesting methods and ways to enjoy your own body, without having to suffer through all the complexities of a “real” relationship at that age with all its complications and uncertainties?

I hold the view that the typical coming-of-age movie represents what only a small minority of teen males actually did as teenagers. Many teen males may have fantasized about those kinds of encounters as seen in the movies, but that is not what really happened for most of them at least. Instead, the fantasies were simply fantasies, and as nearly every male surely knows, there is nothing like a fantasy to “assist” in the entire process of jerking off. Of course, a guy still faces the additional problem of finding a place and time to enjoy a good fantasy to a powerful conclusion, but that problem seems minor compared with the problem of having a real sexual relationship with a partner.

Still, engaging in solo sex has its own nagging problems, especially if a guy is discovered doing it at an inappropriate place or time, inappropriate being any place or time when privacy is somehow lost. And the myth that solo sex is somehow an immature thing to do creates its own set of issues. Still the only thing acceptable is for guys to somehow behave in a boorish manner as seen in the movies.

The goofiest thing about a sexual is how it somehow manages to mix together stuff that is purely psychological with stuff that is quite physical. But that is also at the very core of what makes a sexual orgasm such a wonderful treat.

There is an element of it that is purely in one’s head, but there is another equally important part that is largely driven by physical sensations. At some level nearly every guy understands that. To illustrate, Josh and Dylan have been engaging in activities that are really enjoyable from a purely physical perspective and have probably taught my readers a thing or two about what to try doing and the specifics of how to go about doing it. But the presence of Josh watching Dylan enjoying himself introduces a new purely psychological element into the mix, an element that Dylan realizes will add to his own pleasure. And the same or Josh as well.


Have Dylan and Josh somehow managed to enter a gay relationship just by engaging in this most simple form of mutual masturbation? When Josh and Dylan sat down to each order a series of snug-fitting swim briefs fully knowing what was in each other’s mind with respect to how these briefs were likely be going to be used (swimming at the gym, anyone?) , were they somehow crossing an imaginary line, and, if so, what did that line actually represent, anyway? The mere thought of climbing into a series of successively smaller, snugger and tighter swim briefs even as the online order was being placed is purely psychological not physical. Yet, even as the orders were being placed, there was likely something physical going on too.

Both Dylan and Josh knew what they were going to be doing with their packages of snug-fitting briefs once they arrived. Just this thought was enough to induce some physical sensations that quickly emanated from each of their respective groins, not to mention perhaps a few expectant drops of precum. Not exactly like what happens to a guy when he goes out on a date with a person whom he thinks might soon be a sexual partner, but not totally distant from or unlike that either.

This is all inherently complicated stuff. I would submit that the vast majority of females, taking cues from watching the movies, have any idea that males are so complex in this regard and that males have so many other options for enjoying their own bodies that do not involve a female. Or, at minimum, they WANT to believe that what they think they know about the sexual behavior of males is accurate, because in its own way, that puts the female in charge of controlling a guy by either permitting or not allowing sex with the female.

I have often thought that gay males in some ways have it a lot easier, as both males in a sexual partnership have lived with and enjoyed all the other stuff their entire lives. A guy in a gay relationship is probably not going to have any difficulty admitting to his male partner that he likes to masturbate, whereas this admission could easily break up a male-female relationship when the female concludes that she then must not somehow entirely “control” her male from her sexual “driver’s seat” so to speak.

There is a lot to think about here. What, for example is the role of the psychological anticipation of getting to pull on a swim brief you are nearly certain will be too small and too snug for you, versus the physical sensations embodied in the reality of actually doing just that? Exactly how horny will you feel when you get to actually try on that new, super-slick brief? The mere anticipation is part of the fun. Will you be unable to control your urges and want to ejaculate almost immediately after you are in? Or can you tolerate the sensations for awhile as you keep feeling hornier and harder?

Complex stuff, all of it.

To be continued…

What to Wear? Every day is different
 

Past puberty, most guys quickly discover that on awakening each morning, every day turns out to be a little different. I’m talking about not only what a guy is thinking about as he awakens in the morning, but also whether or not there are specific identifiable sensations emanating from the various parts of the groin area. This is one of those complex but fascinating parts of male sexuality. Females likely experience some of the same feelings and sensations as well. Once again, the physical and the psychological get melded together in what can turn out to be an awesome mix, or not, depending on how the day goes.

There are all sorts of possibilities here. Suppose you awaken knowing that day that you are going to be doing some very demanding and complicated work and that your mind needs to be at its sharpest and best with zero time for distractions, sexual or otherwise. The last thing you want to have happen is for your mind to be distracted with sensations emanating from your groin, no matter how pleasant they potentially might be under different circumstances.

At the other extreme, suppose that everything in your life is going well and you simply realize that there will be time for a break from the intense activities you were engaged in. You have a weekend coming up with nothing special planned that you need to do, at least not on a rigid schedule that requires you to be at a certain place at a certain time. Certainly this is the time to kick back, have a lazy day, and just try to enjoy yourself (so to speak) being out of the intensive mental and physical grind for a bit.

For most guys, there are also all sorts of days that may fall somewhere between these two extremes, say days at work or school that do not call for everything you have got. Generally, some days are just made to go smoother than others. Some days are just not as intense, either psychologically or physically, as others, and in most jobs guys will cycle through some of each of these possible scenarios.

We have all seen movies where a guy wakes up and desperately wants to have sex with his live-in partner. The partner desperately wants to as well, but the guy has something going on at work where he needs to be out the door in 15 minutes, tops. No time for sex for sure, even a truncated session, but the guy somehow manages to get himself together and psychologically shut down his horniness so that he can get to work and help resolve whatever the immediate crisis at work happened to be. The attention that has to be devoted to the crisis at work temporarily shuts down the guy’s general horniness level.

A college student in the midst of a tough exam is hardly going to want to contend with pleasant sensations from his penis at the same time the exam is ongoing, but afterwards, when the pressure is off, maybe.

What does this have to do with “what to wear?” anyway? It turns out, quite a lot! Everyone is aware of the familiar question asking if a particular guy prefers to wear boxers or briefs. One of the problems with this is that it somehow assumes that all guys have a clear preference for one style over the other as in some guys must wear only boxers and other guys wear only briefs. But I submit that the majority of guys have a wide assortment of different underwear styles in heir wardrobes, ranging from loose-fitting boxers through tighty whitey briefs in various sizes all the way down to skimpier items that fit even snugger.

I know how this works for me. I have all these possibilities available to me. Each morning I make my choice depending on how horny I feel along with the question of what I plan to do on that day whether or not the activities will take a lot of my attention both psychological and physical. Invariably, if there is likely to be stress that day I will choose underwear that fits quite loose. If the day is simply a lazy weekend day around home, I will quickly pick something from the snugger, tighter and skimpier options I have. Something still skimpier, say thong underwear, if I really want to jerk off and know I will shortly be in a situation where I can do that. I suspect that it works this way for a lot of guys. For me, this even affects me in what I wear with the underwear, and my skinniest jeans tend to be worn on the days when I am not under intense pressure from other activities and am feeling the horniest.

I also do a lot of exercising using my home gym equipment, a stationary rower, a stationary bike, and a weightlifting machine. These activities can get quite boring particularly since I tend to spend a lot of time working out (a couple hours a day). But the time seems to go much faster if I am feeling horny as I row or ride the bike. Wearing something really snug as I work out helps the time I spend go quickly. Stationary rowing while wearing thong underwear is, of course,well, interesting. Straps are fun to wear while exercising too, and I like to wear a strap with a cup over a pair of undersized tighty whiteys as one option. I even wear cupped straps doing yard work. The psychological knowledge of just knowing the cup is there along with even a slight physical sensation from the presence of the cup tends to be very pleasant.

Finally, I’ve often thought about the situation faced by guys on a swim team where the coach has decided that for a very important upcoming meet it critical that the swimmers minimize drag, and so the coach gives each swimmer a brief that is about two sizes undersized. Psychologically, each swimmer, already used to wearing swim briefs, knows that his body parts are going to be in a place that is going to be really confining, and each guy is wondering how his body ill react to the situation. What happens somewhat depends on whether the coach sends the undersized suits home with each swimmer to try on in private and check the fit in front of a mirror, or whether he just passes them out at the meet and tells the swimmers to wear them. The latter might actually lead to less apprehension as the team members might be so focused on swimming fast that their attention is diverted from where their penis is. But maybe not…

To be continued…

The Sensations…
 

Ahhh, the Sensations. It wasn’t long after puberty came on that I discovered that I was able to do something that I thought was really interesting. Almost by accident, I discovered that I could take myself from a normal (flaccid) state to a full scale erection and, interestingly enough, sometimes even to a full-scale orgasm without ever even touching my penis. I merely needed to be in the right (though some might say wrong) state of mind and not be distracted by anything other than the interesting sensations I was feeling moment-by-moment in my groin area. I quickly learned however that sexual arousal in this form was something of a full-body experience. What started out as sensations emanating mainly from the groin area suddenly encompassed in a very strange way my entire mind and body.

I was endlessly fascinated with this, and enjoying myself immensely when it happened. Yet at the same time I was terrified at the whole thought that it was that easy for me to get off and, obviously, what kind of a situation would I get myself into if this most fascinating sequence of events happened in some time or place that was embarrassing or otherwise inappropriate? At that age, I kept wondering too if I was the only guy in the world who had a unique set of skills of being able to ejaculate without even having to touch myself, or whether the other guys my age commonly had a similar skill or “problem” with just being a guy.

A was but vaguely aware of the fact that masturbation was also known as self-abuse, which implied that I should have to do something to myself, say maybe touch or lightly stroke my penis. But I was at the age where I was regularly having something called nocturnal emissions. I would wake up in the morning and there would be a starchy oval stain on the front of my PJs.

Ejaculate can be messy. I quickly learned that while these ejaculations while I was still asleep were OK , it was just a heck of a lot more fun if I could get myself in a mode so I would wake up just before I blew. And not long after that, if I woke up with just a full erection going on I could use my hand as a tool to explore and enjoy the sweet sensations coming from the nerve endings in my penis while bringing everything to a powerful conclusion at, say, 2 AM. In which case the semen stains on my pajamas would likely be dry by morning and I could just get up in the morning and act nonchalant as if nothing weird or out-of-place had happened.

I learned a lot about how guys work, sexually, in those cold winter bedtime nights as a teenager, information that has served me well over the decades. I kept wondering if the other guys my age were having similar experiences, but I never dared ask any of my peers, being concerned that if I raised the issues with them I would be looked upon as even weirder than they thought I was already.

Having said that, when it comes to the nuances of sexual arousal, there are probably nearly as many mechanisms for getting turned on as there are guys out there, and all of this tends to be very personal stuff. So personal in fact that it is a wonder to me that as many guys as do manage to somehow find sexual partners that they feel comfortable sharing sexual turn-ons and that generally the world operates as smoothly relationship-wise as it does. I’ve come to realize that for many guys, getting turned on sexually is so intertwined with finding the “right” sexual partner that it is all but impossible to separate the two. Yet at the same time there are lots of different ways of enjoying yourself sexually that in no way endangers or even involves another person and yet is still enormously satisfying.

The very idea of enjoying yourself sexually without getting oneself involved with another person seems to bother a lot of people as if this were a manifestation of an illness of some sort, say the illness of being labeled a “social recluse”. People who are heavily involved in partner relationships tend to think that there is something surely wrong with those who for whatever reason do not see their lives as going that way, those who find dealing with the non-sexual aspects of living day by day with as sexual partner as being stifling, as in the air has been let out of the tires. Pity the poor guy who finds himself married but still enjoys masturbation methods he learned at an early age. Is he stuck meandering through life ever again getting to do the very things he so much enjoyed when he was younger, and single, or is he supposed to somehow act as if this is not still part of his very being?

At an early age, I fell in love with the sheer enjoyment of getting aroused. I’m sure that is evident in everything I have written here. But I also quickly discovered that some snug-fitting item of clothing could make it all even more fun. If that sounds weird, or abnormal to guys whose arousal triggering method is totally intermingled with the idea of being with a partner for sex so be it, but from my perspective I think I was the one who got lucky in that I can still enjoy myself a lot completely free of the burdens associated with day-to-day life with a partner. At the same time I certainly would not call myself asexual at all. Indeed, writing all these stories so that others may read has been very cathartic for me.

Over the years, I have had many male friends who have gone into and then out of relationships with women. I watched these guys muddle through their lives, often in the unhappy phases of various marriages, sometimes not only one but maybe a succession of two, three or even more failed marriages. Almost invariably the guy eventually decides that this marriage is the last for him, and that what needed to happen to keep his latest sexual partner happy just overwhelm him. The same questions keep popping into my head over and over, but I never dare share with them what I have written here.

Think about what I have just told you. A lot of guys could choose to live a perfectly normal single life that is full of immense sexual pleasure without ever even getting involved sexually with another person. A relationship is no certain path to sexual happiness. There are a few techniques that a guy needs to know about how his own sexual body works in order to accomplish this, but by and large they are not difficult to learn. The most difficult part is, at first, dealing with the questions related to “why aren’t you married?” and then the inevitable rumors that must circulate that if you don’t have a wife at a certain age you therefore must be gay. But the rumor-mongering soon stops, and you can go back to having a very pleasant life sexually and non-sexually, free of most of the headaches that your partnered friends are trying to handle.

This is a happy thought, not sad.

To be continued…

Ahhh that fits snug and tight
 

My regular readers know that there are many different ways for a guy to enjoy himself without getting into the complexity of a relationship. What better way to do this than by pulling on a really snug-fitting swim brief. I suspect there are some guys who are at least a little bit embarrassed about the fact that they like to do this, let alone share with anyone specific techniques that they find to be particularly enjoyable.

I realize that a lot of guys think that a powerful orgasm with lots of ejaculate is the ultimate goal for a guy to pursue. For me, a slower, somewhat laid back approach to getting off is normally ultimately much more rewarding, consistent with my view that the longer you can remain aroused and hard, the more interesting and powerful the final moments will be. And what I am saying here is not a truth limited to benefiting guys engaging in solo sex. This is at the very core of what can make sex with a partner ultimately much more exciting and rewarding as well. There are things to lean about how to enjoy yourself whether you are in a relationship with a sexual partner or not. So this is equal opportunity thinking.

The other idea about male sexuality that I find so endlessly fascinating is how the sensations coming from a guy’s groin area vary moment-by-moment during arousal. A lot of guys equate arousal with getting hard and growing, but there is way more going on than that, all fun to discover and enjoy. This starts when the mind thinks about or perhaps sees something that is interpreted as sexually arousing. For me, at least, this has almost invariably been followed by a few drops of glistening clear precum even if there has not been enough time to even start to get hard.

Some guys claim they never precum, but somehow I doubt that. I tend to associate the slight dampness at the tip of my penis with moving into arousal mode, which could soon lead into some ore new sensations.

The other complicated part about the male penis is that it is not only filled with nerve endings that when touched to neat things to a guy’s brain, but also if a guy is even starting to get hard, the sensitivity of these nerve endings and the extent to which you will enjoy the sensations varies moment-by-moment. Penises cannot simply always be in high gear in this regard. Flaccid penises tend to be far less touch sensitive than hard penises, but the really interesting part about this is how the nerve endings vary in sensitivity moment by moment as a guy goes from flaccid but aroused to hard. I find the range of the sensations and how they “mess” with my brain moment-by-moment to be an endlessly fascinating part of being a guy.

Once arousal happens and an erection gets even a little bit underway, of course, blood flows into the penis. The endlessly-fascinating part here is that if a guy pays attention to what is happening, there are some neat sensations that mess with you as only a little bit of extra blood flows into the penis. A guy can sense that the nerve endings in the penis are producing more interesting sensations as the blood starts to flow in, even if you are not actively engaged in stroking or even touching yourself.

And, of course, a snug-fitting item of clothing such as an undersized swim brief makes the sensations even more obvious and enjoyable. It’s a lot more fun to enjoy yourself while wearing the right swim brief than trying for you to experience this nude or in loose-fitting boxers. That is a simple fact.

Let me suppose that you are about 2/3 hard and your penis is in an “up” position inside that snug-fitting swim brief. Guys generally know that for a specific hardness level, the underside of the penis is more sensitive and fun to touch and stroke than the top of the penis. The problem with stroking the glans of a hard penis is that will send a guy into a full-scale orgasm very quickly. Maybe better to hold of on that a bit.

Meanwhile, with your penis up, the underside will be pressing against the slick cloth of the front of the swim brief. When you see a guy in this “predicament” you have to assume that psychologically he is having a great time. Somehow, I must admit that this invariably “gets” to me if I see a guy in this state, and I will want nothing more than to be in the exact same situation. I suppose this could be worked into partner-sex, say two guys facing the same situation and predicament.

I would encourage my readers to explore their own bodies by trying some of these techniques. The techniques are perfectly safe and you will learn about the range of sensations that re possible sexually. If you end up just enjoying yourself, that is fine and you should take advantage whenever you can. But if some of these ideas are helpful in a sexual relationship with a partner, and that is fine too. Perhaps you can teach your partner a thing or two in the process.

It’s great being a guy!


To be continued....

Wrestling singlets
 

At first take, a Lycra-blend wrestling singlet would appear to be something very different from a standard Lycra-blend swimming brief, but for a lot of guys they have a lot in common. For starters, they are both designed to be worn with a very snug fit, despite the obvious differences in size and body coverage of the two suits. I suspect that most guys who might be apprehensive about wearing a snug-fitting swim brief would also have some apprehension about getting into and wearing a properly snug-fitting singlet.

Singlets are designed to conform to a guy’s body as tight as is reasonably feasible in part because of the nature of the wrestling sport. A smooth, body-conforming singlet is going to make it very difficult for the opponent to get a firm grip on a guy, so, in that respect the tighter the fit the better. But that means that the best-fitting singlet for competitive wear is going to be more than a little difficult to get into and out of. That is something of a dilemma but is also part of the fun.

As my readers know, I am very much into stationary rowing, and have been engaging in that for over 30 years. One of the benefits of stationary rowing on a daily basis is that it is a very easy way to build strong, wide shoulders not to mention chest and upper body. Part of my interest in stationary rowing is that I thought it would be a simple way to increase the size and strength of my shoulder and lat muscles and that has proven to be true, and I have much broader shoulders than most guys my age.

Wrestlers at the high school and college levels come in all sorts of different sizes and compete in matches in a lot of different weight classes. For a singlet to fit correctly, almost as a second skin, so your opponent has as little as possible to grab in attempting to take you or hold you down, the singlet needs to be available in enough sizes to accommodate all the different sizes of wrestler . For me, I would logically wear a singlet labeled as Medium, given that I am 5’10” and 150 lbs. But my problem has been that a singlet this size fits me very well in the bottom into the chest, but getting the shoulder straps in place, at least for some brands, has posed a struggle. I conclude that those who engage in stationary rowing are not built like an average wrestler of the same size, and the difference is mainly in the shoulder size.

Of course, there are techniques I have learned to make it possible to get the shoulder straps in proper position, but these typically involve first recognizing that the shoulder straps will go on easier if the singlet is first cinched up as much as possible into the groin area and buttocks, which can be interesting to say the least. And using a wrestling singlet as garb for rowing once I am in works well, in part because with each rowing stroke the rower’s shoulders give a nice firm tug to the groin and buttocks.

A lot of guys would probably “react” to this situation in much the same way they would to being in a snug-fitting swim brief. All the tugging and pulling that goes on in the groin area probably will elicit some bodily “responses” whether or not a guy consciously wants to go there or not. Oozing precum is certainly a real possibility under the circumstances I have described.

Not being a wrestler myself in any part of my life, I have been curious as to what high school and college wrestlers like to wear under a wrestling singlet. From what I have learned so far, there is no standard answer to this. Going into this research I presumed that perhaps an old school jock strap might still be favored and maybe with a hard or soft cup. But I presume wrestlers tend to avoid even inadvertently attacking an opponent in the groin area, or points in the match will be lost if not disqualification. So perhaps the need for a hard cup is minimized by how the wrestling matches are scored.

The most consistent answer I have heard on this topic is that wrestlers wear pretty much whatever works for them in their particular situation. No doubt many wrestlers would think a damp precum spot on the front of their singlet right at the penis tip could prove embarrassing in a public match, so maybe some snug fitting briefs made of absorbent cotton would work to absorb the precum before it show up as an oval stain on the singlet. Loose-fitting boxer shorts worn under a singlet for a variety of obvious reasons would appear to work less well.

A wrestling singlet is an interesting choice for engaging in a variety of non-competitive gym sports from weightlifting to stationary rowing and bike riding and are a particularly good choice for guys who get a little turned on by the fit and feel of Lycra-blend fabrics that snug . As I see it, the trickiest part is getting the sizing correct for your specific build so that you succeed in getting that neat snug fit you want without having too much difficulty getting in and out of the singlet.

To be continued…

The Holiday Season is Upon Us!
 

At this time of year, I cannot help but think back to my younger days and in particular how important it was to me growing up to have the opportunity to first learn about and then enjoy my own body. Wintertime starting with the shortest days of late December leading into early January played a particularly important role in this respect. The nights were long and the days are short, and a guy’s mind is not filled with so many distractions as seem to occur at other times of the year.

Somehow, for me, this meant a lot of time to myself, and, often under the cover of darkness, discover some stuff that I might not have discovered in the daylight hours. I have long suspected that practically every guy must go through this phase of their existence. A guy is in a situation whereby there is still much to be learned about merely being a male, and what better time to explore all of this than when a guy has time on his hands. School is probably out, and there is not the constant tension that arises from having to be mentally focused on the things going on around you.

I sense that not every guy copes in the ways I did. Some guy’s lives seem to focus at times like this on delving into relationships, perhaps early versions of somewhat sexual relationships with another person, most commonly at this age a female person. I realize that some of the guys like to brag to their male friends about where they got to in these early sexual conquests as if getting into a sexual relationship was a competitive sport.

A lot of people tend to think of teen-age relationships as being spur-of-the-moment kinds of things, but sometimes young people end up making better decisions than might have occurred had the decision been made later in life. One of my high school classmates dropped out of high school at age without graduating, to marry her sweetheart, about two years older. Some 53 years later the two of them are still happily married to each other. All I can say about this is “all the best” and that I am very happy that this all worked out so well for the both of you.

Having said that, I keep coming back to my own situation which suggests that getting into a relationship with a sexual partner (straight or gay) may not always be the secret to long term sexual happiness. Somehow, throughout my life, I seemed to have male friends who were in relationships with female partners and were miserable, and that is putting it mildly. As time passed, all these guys could think about is how much happier they would be if they could somehow go back into a situation whereby they were single again, without the heavy burdens that being in a sexual relationship brought to them. I’m talking about maybe a half dozen guys over the years in this situation, some who went through more than one divorce.

I became friends with these guys I guess in part they admired me for being “smart” enough not to get myself into one of these clunky sexual relationships that lead to so much unhappiness for both participants. They realized the life I was navigating seemed to be working out fine without all the baggage associated with having a sexual partner. But still, there were and are mysteries in how one can operate as a guy without being in some sort of a sexual relationship with a partner.

Or perhaps not.

To be continued…

2018 Holiday reviews, Part I
 

2018 Holiday reviews, Part I

Growing up, I always longed for items of clothing as presents that would help me feel horny all during the season. As an adult, I vowed to not try and rely on other people to figure this all out, and every year I would buy myself a few gifts that I thought I would really really like to receive. This has all evolved into an annual affair for me starting in mid-November with online shopping allowing me to get the packages without really keeping track of what might be in each one of the packages. Sometimes I even try and forget what I ordered until Christmas is upon me.

Many of you probably remember that Josh and Dylan bought gifts for each other with the subtle objective being to get the other guy into a state of horniness to the point where he can’t help but want to jerk himself off.

The stuff I buy myself tends to vary year by year. This year I did not buy myself yet another strap (I have a huge collection of those already) nor were there any wrestling singlets in the orders (I have several ones of those already as well). This year I focused on some really snug compression gear, a couple of swim briefs. Last night I started unwrapping (well, by taking stuff out of bags) the various items I had picked out.

The various venders always want reviews of their products. The problem of course is that I need to tone down my reviews relative to what I write here. I can’t just say a particular item would be fun to jerk off in or even that getting into the item makes me horny enough to ooze precum, like I routinely say here. In my public site reviews I do drop subtle hints that if you read between the lines you might conclude something in this regard.

The items this year turned out to be really fun to wear and I have tried them all on. As I do this I keep wondering if other guys with the same tem would tend to “react” in the same way or at least similarly.

I thought all of you would first like to see for each item that I wrote for the vendor review in one paragraph. Then in the paragraph that follows I will try and explain what I really am trying to communicating using more blunt language. As all of you know I am very fond of items that make me feel horny even if this doesn’t quickly lead to an erection and orgasm and I use precum ooze as a measuring stick to determine exactly how successful item each is at achieving my goal. I will rank each item of a 5-point, (5-smiley) scale as it affected me when I tried it on.

The first two items were from Amazon, a pair of compression shorts and two pair of compression pants. Most guys my size might order these in size Medium, but you all know how fond I am of downsizing, so I went with the Small. Other guys if you read their reviews seem more than a little “nervous” about downsizing compression gear and you will often see them upsizing rather than downsizing. But I always thought wearing the gear as undersized as feasible was all part of the fun. (This is similar to the panic phase some guys go into when undersizing swim briefs.)

So, here are the first two reviews, first the one that went to the Web site and then my additional comments. I’m also including a link to the product just in case anyone feels compelled to order. None of the items this year were expensive.

Tesla navy compression shorts, navy blue.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B079YRR63X/

These are a fine pair of compression shorts at a bargain price, though some colors are more expensive than others. The whole point of compression gear is for it to go on like a second skin as in snug and tight. I have a 31-inch waist and actually ordered these in size Small (S). The elastic waistband will need to stretch a bit, but once I am in these are quite comfortable to wear and do fit just like a second skin. The look is really great, and at a very reasonable price. I especially like the fit and feel under a pair of sweatpants, and intend to wear this combination over the winter months in my stationary rowing, biking and weight-lifting. These fit correctly to size and there is certainly no reason to upsize.

I’m wearing these right now with a snug pair of tighty whiteys underneath and sweatpants over. In this setup, I have been feeling horny all morning long. I am very much aware that the compression shorts are on me and further, for me at least they are hitting all the right buttons. Part of the success I am having in precum production relates directly to the undersizing, but these are a great pair of shorts regardless.

Horniness/precum ranking 4/5 based on a 5-smiley scale:
4 :-)

Tesla compression pants

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01N5PYHJU/

I’ve long believed that the key to good compression gear is a fantastic fit, snug and tight, so that the gear fits a guy as if it was part of his body not just another piece of clothing. Not all guys may see this exactly the way I do (and this might not be for the faint-hearted) but I like to undersize compression gear a bit. The Tesla gear is able to stretch a lot, so I get the fit and feel that I am seeking. I particularly like the bright green Tesla compression pants but the navy blue ones are neat too. In cooler months these are excellent under sweatpants but in the summer months with a looser-fitting pair of workout shorts over. You will both look and feel great at the same time. These fit true to size, and at minimum you should not oversize. The snug fit is the key!

I ended up with two pair of these one in the bright green shown and one in the navy blue. These do indeed fit just as snug in the ankle and calf as shown, in the size I ordered (Small). You should have a lot of fun just getting yourself into these and getting important body parts into the correct position. The fabric is slick and smooth and provides a slick and smooth fit everywhere on your body. These might make it as bedtime wear as well. The green ones really do it for me even though the navy ones are nice too.

Ooze/precum wise I would have to rank these about the same as the shorts:
4/5 smileys.
4 :-)

To be continued below as Part II

2018 Holiday reviews Part II
See Part I on previous page, above

Keep Diving Swim briefs (Yosoo, Walmart)
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Yosoo-KEE...orts/589892810

Great swim briefs, multiple uses

These swim briefs aren’t cut as skimpy as some out there. They are a full-coverage swim brief but with a fine overall fit. Not cut too low or two high, they will give a guy full coverage both front and back. I see these as having multiple uses, not only for swimming and diving, but as a classy pair of black underwear under a pair of black skinny jeans, or maybe under sweat pants or other workout wear at the gym. A third use is unique bedtime wear. They work well under a pair of sleep pants in the wintertime and I worth them that way last night. I like the feel of the smooth fit for sleeping! In the summer months they will work well alone for sleepwear. Multiple uses!

These are not nearly as skimpy, snug or low-cut as my Seobean or Aqux briefs, but I knew that going in. In the Medium size (the smallest listed available size) they fit like an ordinary pair of black swim briefs. My butt crack is completely covered in them and I would have no issues with wearing them in public. But they do have a certain charm about them. I crawled into bed wearing them with sleeping pants over and I can say I slept very well through the night. I see these mainly as sleepwear or as underwear under black skinny jeans
Precum/ooze production 3/5 smileys

Black “leather” boxer briefs
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Black-Men...ants/848532781

These look fairly unassuming but are much more than that
These shorts appear to provide a good deal more coverage than a typical snug brief worn either for swimming or as underwear under other gear such as skinny jeans. But do not be surprised if you quickly discover that these seemingly tame and apparently innocuous shorts turn out to be a good deal more than that. I ordered the size Medium which should be my normal size, but I quickly discovered that these shorts fit really low in both the front and back. The best way I can describe the fit is that it is what I would call an “Asian” swim brief fit, especially in the back. Some guys may be more than a bit alarmed with that discovery, but it is all part of the fun a guy gets himself into when purchasing a pair of these. Once a guy settles into this and accepts what these really are, it can be wonderful both in fit and feel. I highly recommend ordering a pair of this and you will discover why the design is what it is.

These were the ones that turned out to be a very pleasant surprise. Looking at the photos they appear to be made like a black sunga with wide sides. Can something made like this end up being fun to wear in the sense I think about it. The answer is, emphatically “yes”. These are just a wonderful place to be. On discovery that my butt cracked showed an inch or so the tendency is to try and pull up everything a bit, but that just seems to make matters worse (or perhaps better!). Your penis will fit nicely in the pouch aiming up, but the pouch itself is pretty confining too, and the feel of the slick material pressing against the underside of my penis is an experience to be savored. What a treat. I was moving past mere precumming and into a full-scale “need” to have an orgasm lightning fast even though I wasn’t even that hard. Somehow these shorts sent me into a special place and his was quickly followed by a wonderful and powerful orgasm.

Precum/Ooze production rating 5/5 Smileys, but don’t be surprised if once you are into these you quickly move past oozing and into something much more powerful and profound. But maybe it was just me. I don’t totally understand why these hit me so quickly, but I am here to report tht is exactly what happened. I had great Christmas eve fun wearing these. To a certain degree I am still recovering from the profound erotic experience this morning.

Pacsun super skinny black jeans
https://www.pacsun.com/pacsun/skinni... jeans&start=2

Black super skinny jeans meets a compression pants fit.

First off, these jeans are really really skinny, but I assume that you would not be reading this if you already know that. A snug and tight fit is really what a pair of super skinny jeans is all about. And in order to get that fit, the denim has to be blended with Spandex ®. I have another pair of Pacsun black super skinny jeans that I purchased a few years ago in a fabric blend that also includes Spandex. These look very good for me in size 31 x 30. But I knew that more recently Pacsun was improving the stretch of the denim from what it was a few years ago, allowing for a tighter fit but still giving a guy flexibility in movement. The tricky part is getting a cuff that goes over your feet without hanging. In addition not every guy has the same size calf muscles, and the size of the calf muscle is largely unrelated to a guy’s waist size—that is a guy can easily have a small waist with a bigger, more athletic calf muscle. So stretch is important in the calf area. The cuffs in my size are less than 11-inches, and without the stretch in the fabric I would be unable to get into these. But with the stretch in the denim, no problem either at the foot or calf. I like to wear Compression pants when working out and even as daily wear, and these jeans fit almost like a pair of compression pants. If you want a really skinny fit, these high-quality jeans are the ones for you. More so at a very reasonable price as well. The look, fit and feel are all terrific!

The jeans manufacturers have made substantial progress in coming up with ways to make mens jeans that fit very snug, without limiting movement. Too, the stretchy denim means that guys can downsize at least an inch. I am down to a 30 inch aist in these in part because the stretch makes them easy to button. The reviews on these jeans suggest that they are wildly popular with guys, especially guys like me who think they look clunky in jeans with a loose fit. I hope this trend continues. I nearly always precum a little getting into snug-fitting jeans and I guess most guys probably do. Some guys seem to have the same kind of fear going on with respect to skinny jeans as they have with swim briefs.

Ooze/precum production rating 4/5 smileys

Overall this has been a wonderful Christmas and these items have been real treats. I keep learning more and more how my body responds to and copes with each new situation it faces, and this is part of the overall pleasure that I get running my experiments.

I can’t help but think that Dylan and Josh, Bill and Joe would have enjoyed getting gifts like these as well! Maybe even a few of my readers, as well. It’s always fun to push everything up and forward if only a bit!

To be continued…

Stop! Wait a Second! Can this all be? Part I
 

Stop! Wait a Second! Can this all be? Part I

I have just told you all something that is really interesting and profound. What I have told you is not often mentioned out loud, at least I don’t think guys have the nerve to admit to making others aware of what is really going on inside them in this respect.

But first, let me back up a bit, to a calmer time when I was just growing up and just starting to grasp what it meant to be a guy. Truth is, I didn’t really understand the ramifications of what was going on with me down there in my groin area. A lot of stuff was still a mystery, except that I was gradually becoming aware of the fact that whatever was mysterious was mysterious in a way that made me feel good in a lot of strange and new ways. I am now aware that a lot of the guys around me must have also been having something similar happening to them too, but they wanted to avoid admitting that too, that sometimes things would get a little out of control. Stuff would happen. Stuff that in a curious way felt both strange but oddly profoundly interesting as well.

But here I was, not knowing quite what to make of it all. Somehow my mind got fixated on seeing guys clad only in a swim brief. Was this a gay thing of some sort that I had? At that point I probably didn’t even know what being a gay guy implied, and besides, at that stage in time, society deemed guys who were interested in other guys as being psychosexually abnormal. Certainly not a pleasant place for me to be growing up in the 1950s.

I admit that I was never fascinated with the female body in the ways that somehow seem to profoundly affect other guys. But wait! I have been friends with lots of guys who are clearly heterosexual. Also, a few of these have been in relationships with females that seem to go on indefinitely, most of these being the self-described happily marrieds. And I give them credit for that. I think I decided one day at age 12 or 13 that I wanted no part whatsoever of a life that I would find as confining and probably not sexually satisfying in the ways that seem to work for at least some of the married. Or perhaps this included the married and then divorced and remarried, to the point of having to number their ex-wives just to help remember them. That was deep stuff for a 13-year old to ponder.

Then too, I have been friends with many guys who seem to cycle in and out of relationships with women. A basic question I would have for all of these guys is if penis-vagina partner sex is all it’s cracked up to be then why wasn’t there enough psychosexual “glue” there to hold the relationship together? A guess these same guys wonder about me as well. Don’t I ever get the “urge” to ejaculate within a very confined space, and if so, how do I “cope” with this psychosexual predicament of not having a readily-available place to do so?

Besides, there is the gay thing. Some straight guys pretty much think that any guy who has remained single all his life must be gay. I have been fortunate in that regard as I have never been “labeled” as a gay guy, at least not openly to my knowledge. That has been helpful, career-wise. I do have male friends, several single male friends who also are guys secure enough in their own identities as to who they are that they don’t seem to have any concerns that the mere act of hanging out with me might somehow label them as gay.

For me, the gay male stuff quickly gets as complicated as the straight male stuff with women does. I lived through the 1980s when gay guys who engaged in sex involving the exchange of bodily fluids (aka oral or anal intercourse) meant that you were at increased risk for the deadly and life-ending HIV virus. I wanted no part of that. Besides, in my “warped” mind oral or anal sex was a gross as penis-vagina sex. Besides there was nothing sexually to be gained here that I couldn’t accomplish as well or on my own, in private, and be completely safe.

I suppose I could talk about how modern medicine has made HIV less of a death sentence, and more like just a serious but chronic disease. But I also think there have been profound ways in how gay guys think about sex. In the 1980s, it seemed to me that gay guys by definition were engaging in oral and anal exchange of bodily fluids, and further, if two guys were not doing that by definition they were not gay. Now, coming up on 40 years later, there is far greater acceptance among guys for engaging in sexually interesting activities that do not put anyone at risk.

I have described some profoundly interesting psychosexual situations involving Josh and Dylan in the privacy of their little two-man dorm room in part because I wanted to get my readers to thinking about what it means to be a gay guy or not, as well as push their own “buttons” for my readers with respect to thinking about what might be psychosexually interesting or not. I’m “messing” with how my readers think about all of the stuff related to being gay versus being straight and having psychosexual fun with another guy without engaging in anything that is considered risky or spread disease.

Then there is my own situation to explore in more depth as well. I don’t ever want to leave the impression that I am the least bit unhappy with respect to how all of this turned out for me. Indeed, I am profoundly happy. My life has been rewarding in all sorts of ways, both sexually as well as outside that realm as well.

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Stop! Wait a Second! Can this all be? Part II
 

Continues From Above

Back when I was still in grade school, I used to seek out photos of guys wearing snug-fitting swim briefs, while at the same time longing for the day that I could find out first hand ho my penis would “respond” to being in such a snug but somehow very accommodating place. As a young adult, I finally got to experiment on my own and, bluntly put, everything I thought might be possibly happening in a situation like this did. I was psychologically “hooked” on swim briefs. At that point in time the whole psychological world would claim that I somehow was abnormal and suffered from a “disease” called a fetish, which at that point in time meant any inanimate object (like a swim brief) that caused a guy to get aroused. I didn’t want to be labeled as sick or even weird. I was just a guy who had discovered something that was perfectly safe to do and marvelous fun for me at the same time.

This was a little weird because society somehow deems that young adult males “should “ be looking for female partners to have sex with and be engaging in sexual activities that are at least borderline dangerous in various respects if not profoundly so. A basic problem with ejaculating in a swim brief is whether a guy finds doing so to be so much fun that he is unwilling to forego the activity once a sexual partner is found, and what does a guy do with the idea that a guy might not want to give it up just because he is in a relationship with another person. The agony of it all!

Then, something most interesting happened to me. I pulled on that leather look sunga and within the space of a minute or two, I could no longer contain myself. This situation quickly evolved into the strongest and most profound orgasm I had in ages. How could a little suit that didn’t even appear to be that snug and skimpy send me off this way? Good question.

I pulled up the link for that little suit on the Walmart site where I had gotten mine and discovered that now it was out of stock, and worse, there appeared to be no other vendors of that exact suit.

Then I got to searching “leather-look briefs” on both Walmart and Amazon and quickly discovered a bunch of hits. There are many vendors selling stuff along these lines that appear to be made for nothing other than making a guy hard—an entire industry devoted to building stuff that a guy would find profoundly erotic. Take your pick.

Why there appears to be such a market for this stuff remains unclear to me but I will toss out a couple of thoughts. Most of this stuff appears to be coming out of Asian factories, which in part suggests to me that Asian guys may be very much into this garb, in much the same way many of the Asian guys seem to like super low riding and skimpy swim brief, and that Speedo® swimwear destined for sale in places like Japan has a much skimpier cut than what is sold in the US.

Let’s think about this in more detail. Before the advent of on-line shopping, guys would have to go o a bricks-and-mortar retailer to buy clothes, including undergarments. This would normally involve paying for the item using a female clerk. What were the clerk and the other customers standing in line going to think of me sauntering up to pay for an item that was really skimpy? Were they sizing up my sexual orientation based on the garment I was holding in my hand? Was the sales clerk doing the same thing?

I still remember the first swim thong I bought at the local Macy’s store. I remember wanting to complete the transaction and just get out of there with the thong as fast as I could. This was one of the first years that thongs were popular as men’s swim attire, and Macy’s actually carried an entire rack of them.

But with on-line shopping, guys can easily shop for skimpy clothing without fear of anyone else finding out what you are up to or what the ultimate use will be for the garment (unless, maybe, you are married to a female who might wonder just a bit :) ) Remember, making out online orders for each other was part of a male bonding strategy Dylan and Josh both employed as they also thought about getting to observe each other desperately attempting to hold back what would become an nearly uncontrollable urge to ejaculate into the garment.

So, what conclusions do I reach from this wandering essay. The first conclusion I reach is that the world-wide market for clothing items that guys might find sexually arousing must be quite large, but that most of the growth has occurred in the on-line stores. I have no idea whether or not some of these items show up in male-female sexual activity, but that is certainly a possibility. Many of the descriptions suggest that a specific item is gay-focused whatever that means.

But, I also strongly suspect that many of these items are most commonly as an aid for solo sex, much as I have been doing. Maybe other guys are enjoying just as much the stuff I enjoy doing to myself in private. I keep wondering if the guys no longer in a relationship could benefit from my take on all of this, but then, how would I even go about bringing the subject up. I am in this weird world once again where I know guys love to masturbate but remain as fearful over what would happen if someone else (perhaps even a wife) accidentally. And how is a guy going to navigate a world in which a female partner no longer is there if his other option is to engage in sexual play with himself, swim brief or not?

This is deep stuff to contemplate. Still, in some ways my psychosexual world is a simple and safe retreat compared with the sexual messes other self-described “normal” guys seem to get themselves into.

To be continued…

Some updates
 

I have had some opportunities to do some additional “experiments” with the clothing items I purchased as Christmas presents to myself. The items turned out very well and all of them were purchased at a very reasonable price. Today I have been working out in the green Tesla running tights, doing my usual stationary rowing and bike riding along with a little weightlifting.

In the case of swim briefs, the question or issue that always comes up is what is the proper or correct size? I realize that a lot of guys have a good deal of apprehension about wearing any swimming brief period let alone swim briefs that are undersized.

An interesting question is whether this same apprehension is of concern when a guy contemplates wearing running tights, and whether guys are scared of undersizing or even getting a correct fit in the same way that guys are fearful of close-fitting swim briefs.

The past ten years has seen some very interesting changes in men’s fashion. Guys everywhere wore very loose-fitting jeans and usually equally loose fitting boxer shorts. Then almost overnight, snug-fitting jeans came into fashion, and these have only gotten snugger and more body conforming. And the denim now stretches. Cuffs on some of my jeans from PacSun measure only 11 inches and I would have trouble getting my feet through them were it not for the fact that the denim itself stretches a lot. I really like the fit, which is close to the fit of a running tight especially in the calves and thighs.

Then there are the real running tights. I too am uncertain whether these are meant to be won with loose-fitting shorts over or whether they are meant to be worn without a cover of that sort. It seems to me that varies by manufacturer. Some running tights have a more obvious pouch or even an open fly, and I presume that those would be worn with looser-fitting shorts over. But the Tesla ones I just got are cut fairly flat in front, and they strike me as being fine to wear to the gym without any other cover in the groin area.

Then there is the sizing question. The whole point of compression gear is compression, and to me it seems like it is better to err on the side of undersizing than oversizing. I really like the look, fit and feel of these one size down. I suggested that buyers downsize on the Amazon review and I got a question from a customer who was buying them for her son who was 5’9 and 140 lbs, and she wondered if the best size was a SM or a MED. I told her it depends how snug a fit he wants, but I was 5’10” and 150 lbs and SM fit me fine.

Today, I wore the green ones alone but then decided to see how they would feel with a pair of snug gold football pants over (wonderful) and I worked out some in that combination. Tonight it is cooler and I am wearing them under sweat pants. I love the feel. They have somehow made me feel happy all day long.

Whether some guys have the same body issues wearing Lycra® running tights that they have with wearing swim briefs is an interesting question. There seems to be less of a debate on the Internet over that topic. But I can’t help but sense that some guys might also experience a similar “problem”.:)

Still snug-fitting compression gear like this seems to be increasingly popular, riding the wave not only of other snug-fitting gear such as compression tees and shorts and also the general rend toward very snug-fitting jeans. This is a very interesting turn of events.

To be continued…

How are you feeling this morning?
 

How are you feeling this morning? No, I mean how are you REALLY feeling this morning? You know, down THERE! Yup, any guy past puberty knows what I am talking about.

Some days, you get up in the morning, and your mind is distracted by everything that is going on around you. Stuff that has nothing to do with your male body parts. You know what I mean. You have had days like that. Many days where you don’t even want to think about the fact that you have organs that are touch-sensitive in your groin area. Guys have many days like that, despite how all this has been portrayed in coming-of-age movies over the years. These movies seem to have a plot built around the notion that guys are constantly horny and therefore constantly on the prowl to have sex.

But the real world is frequently not like it is portrayed in the movies on a host of different fronts, this being just one of them. In the real world, alien monsters do not suddenly appear out of nowhere, nor do guys do nothing else but think about their penises. So, the coming-of-age movies in their own way are at least as fake as the science fiction flicks that feature alien monsters.

Still, for guy, there is something really interesting going on, and a lot of it is not easily explained. Every morning, for more decades than I can count, I get up to meet the new day and what it might bring. Some days end up being very busy, and I have lots of things that need my attention. My mind immediately turns to how do I deal with all this stuff and get the issues and problems I face resolved.

Other mornings tend to be more leisurely. A guess most guys on some, perhaps many, days, wake up only to discover that they have got a bit of a hard-on going on. Often not a feeling that you are really going to need to ejaculate, and the quicker the better, but more of a, well, my penis is attempting to distract me, perhaps even draw my attention away from the other things going on that day, as if it’s saying to you “I need you to pay a little attention to me”.

I guess guys in ordinary male-female relationships sometimes wake up feeling this way too. A guy might wake up feeling this way and then somehow needs to convince his partner that there would be time for sex before work even if it ends up being a bit rushed. Memo: when it comes to sex, men deal with the limited time available but women really really do not like being rushed in this way. A lot of guys have learned this the “hard” way.

But, what if you are not into a partner relationship? The feelings you are having are not restricted only to guys in relationships but happen to guys almost universally. How can you cope in such a situation?

I have lots of different clothing items. What I choose to wear on any specific day depends on exactly how I am feeling as I arise plus what I have going on that day. If I am facing a day in which I have lots of different things I must do and problems to resolve that have nothing to do with my ‘nads, the first issue for the day is what do I wear as a brief? I recognize that the days that a lot of other things going on calls for something that is looser-fitting, but on the more leisurely days I will “enjoy” wearing something snugger. Perhaps some guys cope with this by keeping on hand both looser-fitting cotton boxers (for the busier days) as well as some snugger-fitting briefs as well. But for me this is an interesting puzzle to be resolved as each morning dawns.

Then there is the other stuff that has been discussed over and over. An undersized pair of tighty whiteys is one level, but on days when a guy is feeling particularly horny, what about moving on to something more extreme? A men’s cotton thong, for example, maybe one of those with a nasty little elastic cord that will cut between your glutes as you move around in your daily activities and keep reminding you that something is going on today in your groin area. Or maybe even a jock strap, fun to wear as underwear too but in a somewhat different way.

Or what about wearing a basic swim brief as underwear, or maybe even a tighter, skimpier one like those Asian guys wear that doesn’t quite cover all of your behind. An interesting choice, but who is going to know?

Maybe even some snug-fitting compression shorts that fit like a second skin, with a neat little strap under perhaps. Combine that with an equally snug compression tee for some interesting sensations throughout your entire body.

And what to wear over the top of all of this? Why form-fitting skinny jeans with enough Lycra® in them so that they fit almost like compression gear. Why not?

Part of what you are able to do or not do in this regard depends on what exactly you plan to do that day. For example, if you are going to the gym and needing to dress differently for gym activities you probably would not want to wear something that might attract too much attention from the other guys who are there, though every guy needs to figure this out for himself as to what the limits here might or might not be.

How far a guy take this in large measure depends on how much a guy thinks he can handle as he goes through the day. The whole idea is to choose items that keep you feeling good down there, but not so good that you end up ejaculating at a time or in a place where it will cause you embarrassment. Every guy has a personal set of limits in this regard. It’s fun to try and keep yourself on the edge for long periods of time as a means of finding out exactly where your limits are, and these are useful skills to have already developed when entering a partner relationship. You want this all to work well but not so well that things happen that in some way embarrasses you. But guys have dealt with variations on these same issues perhaps since the dawn of humanity.

For now, I wish all my readers the best in running their own personal experiments in an effort to determine exactly works and doesn’t work in each situation.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Introductory remarks
 

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Introductory remarks

“It’s tight in here!” “It’s tight in here!” I recall calling that out over and over. My parents obviously thought I was acting weird. But what was going on with me was so profound I remember parts of the incident to this day, many, many years later.

I couldn’t have been very old on the evening this happened. I’m thinking that I might has been as young as four years old, even younger. What was causing me to do this was that I had discovered for the first time a guy clad only in a snug-fitting suit top to bottom. This was long before compression gear had been invented. My recollection was the guy was wearing a rubberized suit of some sort that clung so tightly it was like a second skin—maybe think running tight meets wet suit. All of this had to have been something of a mystery to me. It some level I was extremely interested in the situation the guy was in and the clothing he was wearing, but at this age puberty was in the distant future. Still, I knew there was something about seeing that guy in that black skin tight suit that somehow made me feel really good deep inside even if I did not fully understand what was going on with me, and that he was in a place that I desperately wanted to be as well. Of course, a broader awakening would come later.

An intense fondness for jerking of is nearly universal among guys, and as a guy goes beyond puberty he keeps discovering ever more interesting and enjoyable ways to do this. Of course, most guys who believe they are straight never want to openly admit this to anyone else male or female, because solo sex has this reputation for being both childish and easily discarded as not that pleasant once a guy meets a suitable female for sex. None of that is true, and more than a few women have cried their hearts out when they discover that their guy still occasionally enjoys jacking off alone, even if this is done only in the privacy of the bathroom. Momma never told her about this one! What if the guy enjoys himself on his own “too much”? Is this an early indication that the entire relationship is on the edge of collapsing.

Then too, lots of married guys leave a relationship (divorce). Some of these guys may almost immediately (if not before) enter another relationship involving sex with a different female. But, I’ve known lots of guys who exit relationships with women and go back to just being single. Am I supposed to assume that these guys (who were happy to get out of a relationship with a female they didn’t love or even like much) then go back to a single life in an place where they can jerk off as much as they want without offending or even alerting anyone else? This is a far more reasonable story than to somehow assume that the guys without partners all suddenly decided that life with zero masturbation was more fun than a life (at least beyond your work hours) when you can masturbate pretty much whenever the thought crosses your mind to do so. Why should this approach to life once again be considered somehow childish, and if there is no one else around why would anyone else need to be aware of what the guy is doing to himself? Why even be concerned about what others might think if they only knew what you are doing to and by yourself?

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Driving your college roommate bonkers: Introductory remarks
 

Continues from previous section

I’ve often thought that for a variety of reasons there are parts of being gay that are easier to navigate than being straight. For starters, sharing information about solo-sex activities with your gay partner might be broadly seen as not only a very pleasant but even a loving thing to do. But two straight guys would normally be extremely reluctant to openly share information. It would take two straight guys who were very certain of themselves to even think about sharing with each other specific masturbation strategies.

Yet every guy realizes that other guys around him probably learned a slightly different set of masturbation skills, and there is a near universal desire among guys to try and find out as much as possible, lest the other guys perhaps be somehow enjoying themselves more. The specific stuff that gets me going in masturbation might work less well or perhaps even better for you, but unless both of us are gay males, any open discussion on the subject between two guys neither openly gay is considered entirely off limits lest one of the guys starts to think the other guy by describing his own techniques is making a very indirect gay pass.

Still, even a guy who considers himself to be completely straight sometime likes to think up situations whereby hints are dropped just for the fun of it and to see exactly how the other guy responds and if in any way the other guy will take the nonverbal “bait”. Guys are also almost universally interested in learning the specific techniques other guys use for solo sex, but they often dare not have any conversations on the subject, as that would be considered too forthcoming.

Think of a coach who makes the statement to the team“this is going to fit a bit snugger than you are used to wearing”. For many guys, just a simple statement like that is “bait” enough to get an erection underway. The sport doesn’t matter. Could be football, maybe (A strap with a cup) basketball (compression shorts), or swimming (an undersized swim brief). The mere MENTION of having to get into something that fits snugger than a guy is used to is often enough to start a fledgling erection along with a degree of panic.

So, here we begin again. Two young college roommates, Randall and Shawn, both stuck in an undersized double dorm room, with one big bath and shower way down the hall. Both of them have spent the past 6 or 7 years of their lives improving their skills in engaging in surreptitious masturbation and neither is inclined to suddenly stop doing it just because they have entered college in uncomfortable accommodations with little privacy.

“It’s tight in here!” “It’s tight in here!”

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part I
 

Those of you who have been reading along with me recognize that the story lines have frequently centered on two males attending college, and rooming together in a traditional college dormitory set up to house students two-to-a room with rooms along both sides of long hallways and a large rest room/shower facility placed at one end of the long hallway. Many of these dormitory facilities, built in the 1960s and earlier, are still in use today, but would be difficult if not impossible to remodel to provide more privacy and more modern features without simply tearing them down and starting over. For most colleges, getting half of a double in one of these older-style single-sex dorms still is probably the lowest-cost housing arrangement, as colleges realize that by modern standards, living this way for an entire college year is not that attractive other than for the comparatively low price.

The other twist that has always made this interesting is to simply let the college assign you a roommate whom you have never even met before and you know absolutely nothing about. Colleges used to do this completely at random and with the assumption that every enrollee was somehow magically straight. There was not a sexual-orientation box to check on the dorm-room application form. The application form does not ask “do you prefer a gay or a straight roommate” at least on MOST college campuses. [Maybe I am completely out of date on this. M-F Partner sex and beer technically USED to be completely off-limits in university housing, or at minimum, there were written rules designed to calm nervous parents. Gay sex was never an issue because university housing had no idea if any guy they admitted was gay on not since they never asked the question on the form. And of course, none of us in our college years ever observed any other student in violation of any of these carefully-written housing rules about M-F sex and drinking as they appeared in the university housing manual]

Furthermore, if there were boxes on the application form to check with respect to sexual orientation, the university could face a major dilemma. Should we assume that the college would want to put two guys claiming to be gay in the same cramped room or would they specifically try to somehow avoid doing that? If they are OK with putting two gay guys in the same room, why not a heterosexual couple? An interesting puzzle for the 21st century with social and sexual components.

Still, over the years and despite the obvious 21st century questions , many times what appears to be random pairings of men in dormitories ended up working out well, and oftentimes college roommates who met in such a random process end up being lifelong friends (if not gay couples). The opposite can happen too, where two randomly-assigned roommates end up disliking each other intensely after, say, maybe 3 days of rooming together in such close quarters. Part of this relates to similar objectives and interests academically, but more often because the two roommates differ widely in their out-of-class behaviors. Say one roommate likes to come in stone drunk on Friday nights, or arrange for his girlfriend to sneak into the dorm room on the weekends the male roommate went home. Some of this can end up being pretty offensive if the other roommate is focused on his academic studies and at least for now has no interest or desire to have sex with a girl over the weekend in the guy’s dorm. No two guys, stuck rooming together, are going to look at the situation in exactly the same way.

Here, however, I’m headed in a slightly different direction. I’m assuming that the two college roommates are at least OK rooming together. I’m also assuming that neither guy is gay, or at least not openly so. Both of the roommates tend to be more focused on college academics than on females, however. They both tend to be the quiet serious types, much like what you have been observing all along with Dylan and Josh.

By the time a guy has turned 18, he has probably already developed both a number of specific methods and a schedule of sorts for jerking off that seem to work for him without being too obvious with respect to what he is doing and has been doing since he was 12 or 13. This is all just a very normal part of growing into adulthood for any guy irrespective of sexual orientation. This is a learning experience of sorts because as discoveries are made with respect to finding out exactly what is really enjoyable, each discovery gets firmly planted in the brain perhaps later in life to be accessed as a useful data base of information that can again used in a relationship with a sexual partner.

In short, masturbation is not just a silly, childish thing to do, but a critical part of who you are as a guy. Now that a guy is in college, it is common to not want to get too involved with a female lest the relationship starts to interfere with the degree objectives. So masturbation in one form or another still may play a major part in a guy’s life. The big question, however, is how a guy is going to cope with living in such close quarters with another male without doing the unthinkable, realizing that the roommate you have only known for a few days is going to know more about you than you really want him to know!

Of course, the new roommate has the same “problem” to deal with, or at least something very similar. He has been thinking about the same issues. And keep in mind that the university paired the two roommates pretty well, both being a bit on the “brainy but nerdy” side. Neither are social animals and neither believe that personal charm will necessarily get you farther in life than academic skills.

At this point, I’m going to start messing with the heads of my readers. Let me give the two new roommates names, Randall for the first roommate and Shawn for the second roommate. Also assume that in growing up, Randall developed some specific jerk-off skills related to wearing an masturbating in various kinds of snug-fitting clothing, but that this is all something that will ultimately prove to be completely new and an eye opener for Shawn. Randall, of course, is concerned that Shawn, even inadvertently, see Randall doing some things that could prove embarrassing for Randall and perhaps even strain the situation they both face of rooming together for the school year in the little dorm room.

Still, from Randall’s perspective, what he has learned to do with and to himself has over time proven to be not only quite enjoyable but also a way to relax from the tensions of the day, now even greater as a college rather than as a high school student. And, he realizes that he cannot keep what he does a complete secret from Shawn for the entire school year.

Maybe Shawn will observe some things that he is at first a little uneasy about. Still, going to college involves getting an education on a lot of different aspects of life and part of this involves understanding people both in and outside the classroom. And maybe this will be a learning and broadening experience for Shawn.

So, the situation is as follows. Randall is bringing with him to college a wardrobe of clothing items that he will make use of in various ways throughout the school year. Shawn has a wardrobe he brought with him too, but certainly not any stuff quite like this. Randall is just going to wear and do the stuff he has enjoyed being in and doing all along. He is not going to verbally discuss with Shawn any of this either as to what he is doing or explaining why he is doing what he is doing. That would be going way too far, TMI, at this stage. If Shawn sees some stuff he doesn’t fully understand, fine, but call that “inadvertently”.

But, given the close-quarters living situation, Shawn cannot help but see and perhaps wonder a bit as to what might be going on with his roommate, who otherwise seems quite a normal but serious guy. And that is where the fun begins.

To be continued….

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part II: Randall’s wardrobe
 

The wardrobe for a typical college student can be pretty simple and inexpensive as well and these items are basic for Randall. For the warmer days pull-over polo shirts, three or four in different colors, one color being a school color, say red, blue or green, is a staple.

Guys often like to wear something under a polo shirt, either the white cotton “A” shirt or a regular white cotton tee. Figure packs of three of each of these as the starting point.

For colder days, a pullover sweatshirt, or two (or three) mostly in drab colors, like steel gray or charcoal gray, but maybe one in a school color as well. These are cheap and readily available. There are other kinds of more dressy, sweater-like pullovers that could work as well

And then, jeans, of course. Maybe three pair, one in a lighter wash, a medium wash and a dark wash. A solid black pair also works well for dressier occasions paired with a dressier sweater-like pullover.

Shoes (sneakers), two pair, one pair in white, another pair in a dressier black. The white pair is great for fall and spring days, but the black ones are a bit dressier and work well in the winter, especially with those dressier black jeans.

Socks? White or light gray athletic socks work well with the white shoes, but with the black shoes the choice are the black athletic socks.

Compression tees work very well under the polo shirts. Why not a compression tee one of the school colors? To that I would certainly add at least one pair of compression shorts, and maybe a pair of the compression running tights. Plus maybe a looser-fitting pair of athletic-style shorts to be worn over the running tights. A couple pair of sweatpants, and one or two pairs of what I call sleeping pants.

Underwear? Well that is the interesting part. A couple of loose-fitting cotton boxers are a must, of course. But why not more than two pairs? That is because Randall particularly likes tighty whiteys. And not just any tighty whiteys, Randall likes his tighty whiteys, well, tight. A couple different sizes are a must. Randall has about a 30-inch waist and his correct size would be a men’s Small (28-30). That size isn’t exactly loose-fitting on Randall’s bod. So let’s say a six pack of Men’s small. But Randall has discovered something else. He has discovered that he can wear undersized tighty whiteys, as in boy’s sizes. He likes the fit of what is called a boy’s Medium 12-14. These fit quite snug, but they stretch a lot and are easy enough to get on and off. So let’s add a six pack of tighty whiteys boy’s size 12-14. Why he needs these may not be apparent to my readers right now, but they will eventually become part of the story line here.

But, there is still a problem to be confronted every day. The rest room and shower is located way down the hall and it is impractical to head down there to do the three S’s fully clothed. Assuming Randall want to shower at minimum he needs one of those bathrobes made of a towel-like material. But Randall doesn’t just want to be wandering around nude under the bathrobe. He could wear a pair of those loose-fitting cotton boxer shorts, but there is a better idea. Why not a modestly cut swim brief in a non-attention grabbing color, say either black or a nearly black navy blue? There are versions of these made of a Poly-Lycra blend that are more or less halfway between swimwear and underwear. Perfect. Randall can even decide if he wants to shower nude or covered with the swim brief after he gets to the shower.

Two other clothing items that Randall will be bringing along will be a favorite strap he has, an old school strap complete with the 3-inch wide elastic waistband and a great, coarse textured, rubbery pouch. And Randall has a couple men’s underwear thongs, one with one of those nasty elastic cords connecting the pouch to the waistband in the rear.

The jeans Randall is bringing to college are really form fitting, sometimes dubbed super skinny jeans, with considerable stretch built into the denim. One of the reasons for the tighty whiteys underwear is that skinny jeans along with loose-fitting boxers are a poor combination.

Oh, one other item. How about if Randall has a neat wrestling singlet in one of the school colors? These look really great when worn to classes with a black compression tee and a pair of light wash skinny jeans. Indeed, the top that can be seen looks just like a cool A-shirt over the tee. And the A-shirt looks like if fits really neat and smooth at the waistband of the jeans. Let’s just hope that on the days Randall wears this combination he doesn’t have to use the restroom as getting to the body parts could prove to be quite a task. Still, the look with the right pair of stretch skinny jeans is really, really slick and neat


Randall’s wardrobe choices are practical and make a whole lot of sense from Randall’s point of view. Shawn’s wardrobe that he is bringing is not that much different from Randall’s wardrobe. Still, Randall has chosen some items that will allow him to do some things that Shawn hadn’t thought of.

Everything here is going to happen at a leisurely pace. Randall wants to be able to continue to do some things he particularly enjoyed doing before he got into this situation whereby he now has a roommate in the form of another guy he knows almost nothing about. Randall doesn’t plan to have any conversations with Shawn about sex, solo or partner or sexuality. On the other hand, Randall is not too private a person, either. Having another guy just there as Randall does some of these things could prove to be interesting, however, even if Randall is a bit uneasy at this point in time.

This all appears pretty tame, even boring. I wonder where this is headed.

To be continued…

Driving your college roommate bonkers: Part III: Daily dorm life in a double
 

College dorms constructed years ago were not designed to be luxurious in any way. Basically, you have two beds and mattresses, the bed consisted of a metal frame with a single layer of spring wires topped with a mattress with big coil springs topped with a thin layer of a cottony material. Not comfortable or engineered at all if you are prone to backaches or other difficulties sleeping. A lot of schools also had ROTC programs which meant that the men’s dorms were almost military-like, at least not one big room, but minimal fixtures, a metal desk, chair and a closet with maybe a chest of drawers inside and a mirror on each side of the room with the door to the hallway. If you needed to use the restroom during the night, you had to walk down the long hallway in at least a somewhat presentable condition, lest someone else with the same “problem”.

There were sheets and a blanket supplied by the University for each dorm room, and part of the deal was that the University had washing machines and laundered the bed linen, but only once a week. On the appointed day (each hall was different day in order to spread the load on the washers and the laundry workers) you removed the sheets and simply left them in a pile at the foot of the bed. In return you were left an already laundered pair which you put back on the bed.

The University liked to make the mattresses last more than a year as an economy move, perhaps even several years, and thus they had an aversion to heavily stained mattresses. So here was the basic problem. The students sleeping in the beds were all horny 19-year-olds, and any guy who was once 19 years old knows what he liked to do during the night back then. So, these cheap mattresses needed some protection, maybe a mattress “topper” over the mattress that could be washed along with the sheets, “saving” the valuable mattress from “inadvertently” getting stained and damaged to the point whereby it needed to be replaced.

Back in my day, the solution was even more ingenuous, a mattress cover made of thick waterproof vinyl much like what is used for a baby’s crib. Cheap and effective in minimizing the cum stains on the mattress itself. Never mind that sleeping on a mattress with only sheets to cover this vinyl cover made the mattress even more uncomfortable. When no one was looking I ripped the one on my bed off and hid it.

Still, at that stage in my life I was a horny 19-year old as well, and by the time I was that age I had already developed a range of activities that I really enjoyed doing at night, or even sometimes during the day. One of these was a masturbation technique that I particularly enjoyed, which I probably discovered at, maybe age 14. One of the things guys that age like to do is discover what parts of their penises feel the best when touched and stroked, and it wasn’t long before I had found out that the two really hot spots were the glans area near the tip of the underside along with seemingly all the nerve endings all along the penis underside.

And there was a tricky way I could stimulate this entire area, first starting by getting myself somewhat but not totally hard (I could do that just thinking about what was to come so to speak, without even touching myself). Then, roll over on my back making certain that my penis was pointed upward so that the underside came in contact with the sheet. I could easily use my own body weight in that position to help me get harder, and of course any slight body movement against the sheet would feel really neat as both the underside and the glans area were getting it. This is a “classic male masturbation method.

Ejaculation was only moments away. One of the problems with this method at that age is that maybe it worked almost too well, and I ended up cumming almost too fast. Still, I had some truly powerful and memorable orgasms doing this to myself.

But, there was a significant problem. Cumming this way left huge starchy slightly yellow stains of the sheets, so bad that they were difficult to remove in ordinary laundering. An additional problem is that if a guy did this early in the night, he was stuck trying to sleep with this big wet sticky cum stain. But, if a guy waited too long then he was stuck with a bunch of sticky cum that would be even more visible unless a guy made a careful effort to keep the sheets covered. And, a guy who liked to employ this method regularly, perhaps several times a week, was making life difficult for the sheet laundry personnel.

Then there was the issue of having a roommate in the room while you are enjoying yourself this way. And I confess, this works so well that at times you would want to just scream with pleasure and make other noises loud enough to awaken a dozing roommate in the bed only a few feet away from you. Quite a dilemma.

In what is to follow, I am going to outline some methods that Randall can use in part in an effort to resolve some of the issues that haunted me at that age in part by ingeniously employing some of the clothing items Randall brought along in his wardrobe. Shawn is not nearly as knowledgeable about all this stuff as Randall appears to be. But the approach Randall is going to do is to employ some of the clothing items for his own pleasure without saying anything and see first of all if Shawn is able to pick up on why Randall is doing what he is doing and then, if it goes that far, whether Shawn will want to try some of the same things. So, stick with me and we will see what happens for both of them.

To be continued…