How Often Should a Guy Have Fun?
 

How Often Should a Guy Have Fun?

What an interesting question! Of course, I do not mean fun in a general sense, but in a specific sense, actually a VERY specific sense. I am thinking back to that point in time when I was quite young, and had only recently “discovered” that there was something very special about being a guy. Every once and a while I would find myself thinking that somehow I was really enjoying myself, and I thought the special feelings were somehow linked to something weird that was happening in my groin area. It was weird. I knew I was feeling good, but these odd and wonderful sensations I was experiencing, though somehow focused on my lower body were quickly making my entire “being” feel somehow supercharged.

Not long after I learned that other guys my age were smiling and describing this situation as “feeling horny”. Even more interestingly these same guys were trying to find ways to “stimulate” these sensations in the old days by getting copies of magazines with photos of nude females and, of course, describing encounters they had or fantasized about happening with females they knew that were of similar age. How traditional can you get, anyway? While having little if an y interest in these activities myself, I was always taking mental notes on what the other guys were doing and, on occasion, explaining to their male friends. The conclusion I reached is that there is no fixed method guys use in order to feel horny, and such an occurrence can be brought on in a variety of ways. Further, practically every guy at some level believes that what he likes to do to feel horny is somehow “different” from what any other male his age likes to do to accomplish the same thing, and therefore must be “abnormal” (except, of course for the desire to have sex with a female).

For me, the curious thing about feeling horny was the strange intermingling of the mental with the physical. A guy could feel horny simply by forming mental images of an erotic situation, the specifics of the image being as unique to each guy as his individual fingerprints. If I somehow dared describe for you the details of the images that turn me on, you might very well say “that does nothing for me at all,” and vice versa.

But then there is also the physical aspect. An interesting question is why so many teen males are fearful of garments that fit snug in the groin area, examples being swim briefs and athletic supporters. I guess this is because many guys think that in donning the garment they may very well not only feel quite horny but suddenly also get an uncontrolled erection and that erection may happen in a space (say a locker room) where other males might see. This is terrifying. But the funny part about all of this is that guys LIKE to be in this predicament except for the part where other guys somehow discovered what was happening to you and made fun of you because of this.

By the time I was 14, I was probably having episodes of feeling horny several times a day, even without being in a strap or swim brief while still just thinking about how much fun it would be to be able to pull on a strap or swim brief in private and then jerk off in the tight garment to an explosion of semen. Then I would be contemplating how to get the mess I had created cleaned up before someone else discovered what I had managed to do to, with and by myself.

Many, many years have passed. As time has gone by, I learned new methods for feeling horny while better controlling when and how these events occurred. In all these years I have never lost interest in feeling horny, though nowadays I can go several weeks without getting myself into that state. And I learned that on the porn sites the idea of edging occupies a special place for many males pursuing solo sex in front of the video camera. The video guys like to say I have gone maybe a week or more without jerking off, and then the test is to see how long they can go manually stimulating themselves while still deferring a full orgasm. As a guy gets older it typically becomes easier to edge for long periods of time, even though this becomes more and more difficult the longer the time has been since the last orgasm. Edging is really fun stuff while completely avoiding the complexities of partner sex.

Currently, I have not felt horny in maybe 3-4 weeks. But this morning I got up and I said to myself “this morning I really want to be in a strap. So I quickly found a snug old-school basic strap, and sure enough, feeling that coarse textured rubberized pouch feels really good against my penis. I fully understand why males have this dual fondness for and hatred of these old school athletic supporters.

Well, I can't make it through the day wearing only a strap. The scheme that works for me is to pull a pair of SM Tesla running tights over. These feel really good too, and just touching my penis through the tights and strap feels sensational. So, I am feeling nice and horny as I am writing this and realize that I could be feeling like this all day long. This becomes a day-long form of edging that I am undergoing as I write this on this day. I am having a lot of fun as I write this and you can have fun too, even though my techniques might work differently for you than me. The important part is that you find the methods that work well for you!

OMG, Sebbie, you need help. Get out and swim in the pool, go to the gym or whatever strikes your fantasy. Sitting at your computer authoring endless anthologies is not the best way to use your time. (maybe even talk to a therapist or counselor) Dont sit there analizing life -- live it!























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Pleased and Delighted
 

I am delighted that the two story lines I developed (What to Wear, and Thoughts on Just Being a Guy) have gotten as many followers together summing to over 250,000 hits. I have made an effort to cover a variety of topics related to guys but in particular for guys who are not into a partnered relationship. In the process I would like to believe that I have written on a number of topics guys seldom if ever talk about.

This has been a long journey for me, and the first page of What to Wear was posted in April of 2015. A lot of things have happened since then. I always assumed that if anyone did not find what I was writing to be interesting and perhaps also useful, they would no longer go back to read my latest post, and maybe some guys have done that, but with every new post lots of readers still see what I have to say.

I realize I cannot continue to write on these topics indefinitely, and a few people have claimed that I keep discussing many of the same or similar topics over and over. I am starting to wind this all down. I will not say that this is my last post because I probably will dream up something new that I want to post. Lets just say that future posts will be less frequent.

All the best to all my readers who have been my devoted followers.

Sebbie

Thanks, Sebbie. I have enjoyed your rantings!

Does That Fit Tight Enough For You?
 

Does That Fit Tight Enough For You?

Today, I reach a birthday milestone that somehow got me to thinking about my long-term relationship with snug-fitting clothing. I believe I developed a fondness for garments that fit snug in the groin area before I knew anything about sex or sexual feelings at all. What I did conclude at a very early age is that I was fond of any garment that fit me snug and tight down there, even though I had not rationalized why.

Of course, as I grew older things started happening down there—interesting things that I did not seem to have much if any control over. At one level, this was nothing short of terrifying. But at a completely different level, I was fascinated by what was happening to me. I noticed that my penis could get bigger and then smaller again without me overtly doing anything.

I soon discovered that the mere thought of going into anything in a brief style would make me horny and erect. I liked what happened to me at this mere thought even without the opportunity to actually pull on a brief. Somehow I also realized that the smooth texture of a nylon or spandex/poly brief would feel really great pressed against my penis, and doing this quickly became a goal. But it was not until I was older, in College, actually, that I got to actually purchase a couple Speedos and test out some of what I had thought about. I was not disappointed and in grad school I quickly learned that jerking of in my Speedos was a great relaxer in what was an otherwise near continuous high-pressure situation. I enjoyed myself a lot in those days and my Speedos paid a significant role in helping me survive my graduate program, despite the fact that I never swam in them, they were still quite “useful”.

My next “experiment” involved checking out the fit and feel of an athletic supporter. You see, I never participated in a team sport requiring on in either high school or college. However, I was still fascinated with “the look”. I always thought the cups were interesting as well, particularly the cups that fit so snug that there was no “room to grow” without pressing against the walls of the cups. The straps I bought did not disappoint either, and I quickly got hooked on the sensations coming from a hardening penis that was limited in how much it could grow because of the firm cup walls. Great fun for the price of the strap and cup!

My introduction to underwear thongs for men did not happen till much later, I think in 1988 when I first saw thong underwear for men in a store. when I first saw them I bought three. I was fascinated by having a stretchy cord between my glutes. And I realized that if my penis grew, even inadvertently, that would pull on and cinch up the thong back between my glutes. Most interesting.

Not long after that I decided to put a cupped strap over the thong. Compression shorts were just becoming popular as well, and I got to thinking that a tight-fitting compression short would not only feel great, but would hold the thong/strap cup combination firmly in place. True, my penis might “plead for “relief” from the predicament it was in on multiple fronts, but it was stuck with the situation it was in. I also discovered that if I did want to provide myself with momentary “relief” by pulling everything down, my penis would respond by getting a bit bigger and harder, and then when I got back into everything, the horny tension would actually increase not decrease.

Then I decided to try wearing this combination to bed, something as an experiment to see if I would go through traditional erect/flaccid cycles during sleep wearing this, and would I ejaculate while asleep inside the thong and cup. The experiment is most interesting for sure. Every guy should try it.

So, here I am, celebrating my 75th year and thinking about all the great things that I have done by, with and to myself over all these years. Not only has it all been great fun—its still great fun!

Happy Birthday, Sebbie!
I’ve been reading your essays for years and continue to look forward to your next.

Reading your thoughts Sebbie made me realise why I first became interested in briefs.
I first new I liked wearing nothing but my underpants as a seven year old long before any sexual connection and when I got my first pair of proper lycra swim briefs at age 8 I was hooked.
I always thought it was the super hero feel or the comfort that got my attention but you made me realise it was the mildly pleasant feeling of presure on the crotch.
As soon as I hit puberty I discovered it was sexual in origin and the pleasure was instensified if I had an erection as well.
My swim briefs soon became an arousal aid and I found myself with a swimwear fetish.
What I found frustrating was the way you seem to think all males are the same yet it was obvious to me from about age 14 that most other guys weren't getting the pleasure I did.
I think only some guys are sensitive there and even most of them don't have the interest to explore it further.
Thanks again for your thoughts and opinions they did fill in some blanks for me.

I’ve thought a lot about that too, but put a different interpretation on that seeming lack of interest. All guys have the same plumbing and electrical systems, so the same stimulus should affect them the same. But I think learned social inhibition short-circuits their response.

In my school, jockstraps were required starting in 7th grade. I well remember the embarrassment suffered by boys who popped an erection while putting on or taking off theirs in the locker room, complete with jokes and harassment from everyone else. That quickly taught us to rechannel the nerve signals received about how our genitals felt in that confined pouch.

Similarly, Speedos, especially the old-style nylon ones, accurately reveal the state of tumescence of the wearer, so avoiding boners in public is a good idea. Sadly for the sport of swimming, many guys do that by avoiding Speedos entirely, instead turning wearing one into a joke. I’ve always liked the challenge of walking the length of the beach without the cool feeling I got wearing a Speedo becoming obvious to casual observers.

Rather than avoid the stimulation he gets from tight clothes, Sebbie simply acknowledges and celebrates it.

I like a tight fit—a really really tight fit
 

I like a tight fit—a really really tight fit

A key part of the process of growing into an adult male is learning how to deal with sexual sensations of various sorts. Sexual pleasure is this complicated mixture of the physical and the psychological. A guy learns some of the details by himself but also by picking up on what his male peers are doing either by simply observing or by what other males may say about all of this.

It turns out that some males have no difficulty boasting about their conquests with sexual partners. For straight guys this is commonplace. There may be some parallels for gay guys too. But the topic that is usually kept secret relates to solo sex aka masturbation aka self-pleasuring.

The secrecy involves the idea that if males were open with their male peers about what they like to do on their own for pure pleasure, their peers would think the less of them as in this guy is so unappealing, he cannot find a date. Somehow this has evolved into the (wrong!) idea that guys whop masturbate on a regular basis must be gay and admitting that you are hooked on self-pleasuring means that you are also gay.

Still, I have enjoyed myself this way for probably 65 of my 75 years and my enthusiasm for the activity has not abated in the least. But I am also very curious about the whole subject of whether or not I have tried everything interesting and fun in this department, or whether there are still interesting things to do in that department that I have not tried.

One of the fascinating things about this blog is that a lot of guys here openly admit that they find that self-abuse in a swim brief is a really fun thing to do with essentially no down-side (unless a peer or friend/relative/parent accidentally discovers you in a Speedo bearing a full erection (or worse). That is good to know for sure, and it is nice to have this information even at this late date in my life. The worst part about this cleaning up the mess you may have created undetected.

The Internet is a great source of information that provides detailed video on self-pleasuring inaccessible not that many years ago, and there appears to be no shortage of guys enthusiastic about making the videos so long as faces and identities are not revealed. However, in a popular site like pornhub there is what they call a straight section and a gay section and somehow all the male self-pleasuring videos arbitrarily end up in the gay section as if gay guys approve of self-pleasuring but this is not something a straight guy would ever want to do.

A really fun thing to do in a swim brief is to get in a horny “mood” and then pull on the swim brief, making certain that you are just firm enough so that the only semi comfortable way for your penis to be is pointed upward, with the slick cloth of the brief pressing tightly against the ultrasensitive underside of your penis. This is male self-pleasuring nirvana for sure and every male needs a brief (or two, or three..) just to be able to do this on a regular basis.

This is what I call the classic “Christopher Atkins” method of self-pleasuring, made famous in a Dallas Episode where Atkins (as Peter Richards LOL) appears in a standard but very snug fitting Sapphire blue Speedo but with the underside of his penis pressing firmly against the brief material. A mere touch of the brief where this is going on would send him into Speedo brief self-pleasuring nirvana. This all occurs in season 7 episode 4 of the nighttime soap opera “Dallas” now streaming free. And photos of Atkins of this exact situation are also on the Internet.

A lot of readers of this blog are very fond of wearing as skimpy and low-cut swim brief as possible, briefs consisting maybe of a small pouch, string sides and a thong back. In self-pleasuring, to each his own, but this style of brief makes it impossible to engage in the kind of thing Christopher Atkins was up to—as in putting direct slick pressure on the entire underside of the semi-erect and growing penis that I also find so intensely enjoyable.

Go to the video sites such as pornhub, and there are any number of short videos showing a guy masturbating to ejaculation inside a snug-fitting (but not too tiny) swim brief. If you are looking to learn techniques used by other guys this is the place to be. Some guys use their hands—other guys, interestingly, not, and the simple pressure of the tight brief on the underside of the penis is enough for an actual “hands free ejaculation" in only a few minutes.

There are also wrestling singlet masturbation videos. A wrestling singlet is much larger than a swim brief but is made of a similar slick stretchy material. Again, some guys do a hands-on masturbation to ejaculation, with drops of precum creating small spots here and there at various places on the front of the singlet until ejaculation (cumming) occurs and the singlet has lots of “cream” on the front. Other guys do a hands-free version of getting entirely hard with only the pressure from the slick cloth and end up ejaculating anyway.

The fact that getting into and out of a singlet that is just a touch undersized can prove difficult adds to the pleasure, in part because the guy soon feels that he is in a situation where the urge to get harder and then ejaculate is governed in part by a situation that he does not fully control, just being driven in part by being stuck or constrained inside the singlet. For those that have never tried this using a singlet I would argue that this is a not-to-be-missed technique.

Finally, it is time to mention the wonders of the so-called magic wand vibrator with the head capable of multiple speeds and patterns. Let's say you are feeling horny and have your somewhat erect penis pressing hard against the cloth of the brief or singlet. Psychologically too you are already feeling quite good. But the trick is to power up the magic wand, find one of those great stop-start wand vibrator patterns that are so much fun, and then merely touch the vibrator repeatedly to a spot on the underside of your spandex cloth covered penis.

This scheme works so well that you can easily be ejaculating not instantly but maybe in 30 seconds or less. The trick of course is to develop a technique with the vibrator such that you don’t immediately feel those wonderful ejaculatory contractions. This means taking away the vibrating head almost but not quite there and use this as an edging method to build the sexual tension over and over. A penis with its underside pressing firmly against a Spandex-laced material and a magic wand vibrator in the self-pleasuring world is a match made in heaven, and I would be hard pressed to claim that there is anything in the partner sex world that quite matches it for overall sexual pleasure.

The methods I have discussed here take male self-pleasuring to an all-new level, are completely safe, do not result in the transmission of an STD nor a pregnancy, and can be pursued by any male who is in a situation where there is privacy.

Thong underwear and the sapphire blue Speedo® Part 1

I think I got my first pair of thong underwear in early 1989. Three pairs came in a box each in a different color. The brand name was Hom®. As I recall, thong underwear designed for men had become increasingly popular in western Europe, and maybe in parts of Asia as well, but the design was considered too radical to be salable to the more conservative American males, who at the time were all still wearing cotton briefs or boxers.

From the moment I saw the thongs, I knew I had to have them. I liked to masturbate a lot, but my preferred technique was with the aid of a nylon and then poly/spandex blend swim brief, or by wearing finding the most undersized pair of tighty whiteys and then crawling into the most snug-fitting jeans in my closet. I did a lot of this starting with when I entered adulthood and was out on my own. Maybe too much, I thought, but then there never seemed to be any ill effects and I always enjoyed myself tremendously.

Still, from the moment I made my thong purchase, I knew the thongs were going to be something special. I was not aware of the fact that I was entering a phase that would be like a male master course in male self-pleasuring.

The Hom® thongs were built on what I call the European design—stretchy, poly/spandex-laced fabric, minimal pouch size made from this fabric, skimpy sides. And then there was the back—the wonderful back that consisted of simply an elastic cord only about 3/16 inch in diameter. This cord was so skimpy and stretchy that the only possible way it could fit was positioned not over the butt crack, but deep between the glutes from the top of my butt crack to just behind the male scrotum.

The thin elastic cord had to be connected to the front pouch and the two parts were sewn together, making a lump at the lower end of the pouch just behind the scrotum.

The first problem I faced after removing a thong from the box is what goes where and how to I get into something so stretchy and skimpy? Obviously my penis is supposed to fit inside the pouch. But the ease by which I could do that would be more difficult if I was anything other than fully flaccid, and merely ATTEMPTING to get my penis inside the pouch was making me grow and get hard. The dilemma was that the more I struggled the more difficult it was becoming to get my penis entirely into the pouch.

The other “problem” is what to do with my balls. After struggling and finally after some effort getting my penis inside the pouch, I though that my balls were supposed to be inside not outside the pouch too. Flaccid this could be possible...but already being somewhat erect and hard this would be a real struggle. Somehow I managed but by then I was oozing drops of precum on the brand-new thong pouch. But if I left my balls outside the cord of the back would act like a ball splitter, and I figured that was not the way the thong was intended to be worn at all. Penis and balls belonged inside the little stretchy pouch, together.

The really interesting part was that with both the penis and balls inside the pouch then that little knot that ties the rear cord to the pouch ends up just behind the scrotum. In 1989 I knew nothing about that male sexual hit spot of nerve endings located exactly where the thong knot is positioned, but somehow, I knew I had discovered a hot spot that was making me feel really horny—frankly, the sensation from that spot was blowing me away.

So, what I learned in those early days of attempting to wear the Hom thong that just putting one on was arousing fun. But once in place I should get used to the feel of the cord between my butt cheeks with every step I took. And further, each step stimulated the perineum area by tugging on the cord putting upward pressure on the perineum and tugging on the pouch, a pouch that contained my penis and balls and a situation where I seemed to be getting still harder and oozing precum in those wonderful small, glistening droplets. This stimulation was getting tougher to deal with but more fun minute-by-minute. I could tug at the cord back as well which not only would put neat upward pressure on the perineum as the cord shortened, but also provide more stimulation to my penis inside the snug pouch.

Still, perhaps the most wonderful part of all is the “conflict” that occurs should I (inadvertently LOL) get bugger and harder while in the pouch. The cord back “wants” to pull my penis and balls downward and this happens over and over as I walk and take each step. The sensations tend to make me harder and still more horny. But the pouch is tugging in the opposite direction upward and forward, tugging on the cord in the opposite direction, and as I get bigger and harder the cord shortens putting more upward pressure on my perineum. It goes without saying that this “conflict” is fabulous erotic pleasure.


Continues in subsequent post

Thong underwear and a sapphire blue Speedo® Part2
 

Thong underwear and a sapphire blue Speedo® Part2

Read previous post first!

Sadly, most of the male thongs sold nowadays have bigger pouches and bands at least a half inch wide designed to cover the length of the butt crack (for modesty?). As swim thongs became popular on at least some beaches, the unwritten rule was that it was OK to show butt cheeks uncovered, but an uncovered butt crack is nudity—illegal on many beaches. Unfortunately, most men’s thong underwear nowadays follows the swim thong design with the half-inch wide back designed to fit over the butt crack but not within, and for sheer erotic pleasure the design is not nearly as much fun or arousing.

In my collection I still have a few of the old school thongs with the backs consisting of either a 3/16-inch diameter cord or an elastic band of the same width. I used to wear these thongs as my only undergarment under my snug-fitting jeans and kick back and simply enjoy my body as I walked.

Recently I got to thinking what would it feel like to use one of these thongs as an under liner to a traditional sapphire “Christopher Atkins” style Speedo®? So I find one of my old-school thongs and get myself into it, then immediately pull a classic blue Speedo® on over it. Everything in position. The thong puts my penis forward and upward inside the speedo, but my penis and balls are locked in one position, and I am oozing precum. I crawl into bed, feeling great, but quickly fall asleep.

About 3 AM I wake up and somehow I want to do some checking to see if I am still aroused. Yup! Except that, oddly enough, I feel even closer to an uncontrollable desire to have a full orgasm. This REALLY feels great! Just passing my fingers over the spot where my penis is feels wonderful, and with each pass I come closer and closer to entering the erotic phase with strong, repetitive muscular contractions.

Suddenly this same guy you know who claims that he is able to edge himself for as long as he likes is going into a full-scale orgasm. WOW WOW WOW has this been fun. What made the orgasm so much fun in part was all the edging stimulation from the thong that led up to this situation. I went to bed and fell asleep with a happy smile wearing the snuggest thong and a classic blue swim brief.

Some five hours later I awaken, still feeling really great down there and end this all with the muscular contractions of what turned out to be one of the best full orgasms that I have had in a decade.

Just being a guy is marvelous...do NOT pass up on the opportunities to enjoy being who you are!

Sebbie

Warmer Weather is here!
 

Warmer Weather is here!

After what to me was like an excruciatingly long period for cold temperatures, the thermometer got up to 85 degrees F yesterday, and I got to thinking about how much fun it would be to sleep overnight in a swim brief. The house had gotten to 73 degrees too, so it was more than time to switch over to my summer sleepwear which is only a snug-fitting swim brief. The really interesting part about this is that while a swim brief feels really snug and slick, invariably I just drift off to sleep. Then, like clockwork, I wake up at 3 AM feeling horny as all get out and also invariably my hands and fingers find their way down to the spots that are making me feel horny and I start enjoying myself some more. The only risk here is that I am liking this so much that I will soon end up in full-orgasm mode when I really just want to edge and then fall back asleep, still horny as all get out. It was all I could do to keep from going into an orgasm but somehow, I managed. My male body parts are really enjoying the warmer weather for sure.

If you are new to the idea of wearing only a swim brief as sleepwear, I strongly recommend this. I do not know if your experience will be similar to mine but you can easily find out. The brief need not bee cut too skimpy. For this activity I find a brief with 2 or even 3-inch sides works fine. The whole idea is for the brief to fit snug enough and be made of thick enough but still slick-feeling material to put a steady and firm pressure on everything in your groin area.

[Speedo right now has a “One” Brief that buyers are complaining fits on the small side and you should up-size one or maybe two sizes. But as sleepwear, ordering your normal waist size would probably provide the perfect fit. You want your sleepwear brief to fit tight and snug and give you the psychological feeling that something very important is in a slick but very confined space. but not to the point the tension is so extreme that you have difficulty falling asleep! Finding this exact place takes some research but the research is fun.]

So, this morning I get up, still feeling quite horny from my 3 AM edging session, and I want to continue those sweet sensations all day long! It's been a while since I have felt this good—somehow my sexual activity goes into hibernation in cold weather when the days are short. Invariably, my thoughts turn to going with a thong rather than tighty whitey briefs for the day. You know, a thong where the pouch pushes my penis up and forward even as the back cuts between and then cinches up between my glutes. The back provides a great sensation as whenever I bend forward it cinches up tighter even as my penis is pulling the pouch forward. This competition between the two competing forces is endlessly fascinating and the typical bodily response is to drip.

Of course, I am not going to wander around during the day wearing only an underwear thong. A strap and cup is called for—my favorite old-school jock strap like they wore in the 70s, with a cup just barely big enough to press down on and contain my flaccid penis, a penis that knows the cup is limiting the space for expansion. My little Duke strap and cup is perfect—Wal Mart used to sell these. So, the straps on the strap are crossing my glutes even as the thong back cuts between them, and the cup is “firmly” in position.

But that is not quite enough pressure in my effort to “climb the walls” so to speak. Besides, I am still nearly naked. The solution of course is to put a pair of my favorite Tesla running tights over everything, a new pair I have worn only a few times. I like these because if sized right, they fit like a second skin over my entire lower body, putting more pressure on the cup and adding to the fun. My SM ones are the perfect size for me, 5’10, and 150 lbs.

Still not enough cup pressure? Why not pull a pair of Starter brand knee-length compression shorts over the running tights? That is going to make the pressure on the cup and the stuff underneath even more extreme, and just thinking about this I keep getting hornier and hornier. My penis is now in a place where I could not directly play with myself even if I wanted to. But never mind that, I feel really great down there, and I am happily enjoying myself anyway. Very Happy!

Can I make it through my usual rowing and cycling workout this way? I will see! I will see!

Update 11:30 AM local time. I got through my usual rowing and biking workout...takes about 75 minutes. I really enjoyed myself, especially how the thong back cinched up between my glutes with every stroke of the rower. The constant pressure of the cup bearing down on my penis felt great too and stimulated me to row harder and harder. I'm still feeling way horny, and I am thinking about things to do the rest of the day. The day is young yet. This all started with the stimulation from my night sleeping in the swim brief. The sensations are overwhelming!

Fun in a Swim Brief (and other stuff, too)
 

Fun in a Swim Brief (and other stuff, too)

I keep wondering what percentage of guys get horny at the mere thought of getting into a classic swim brief such as a Speedo? Indeed, what percentage of guys like to crawl into a swim brief because it turns them on. Not that many years ago, The idea of a gay sexual relationship, male or female, was something that needed to be kept secret as it was seen by normal people as being abnormal. All that has changed, of course, and being gay is generally thought of as being just as normal as being in a straight (male-female) relationship. But there are a whole series of ideas that now challenge people. Not only the bisexuals, but the transgenders and the nonbinaries, all seeking the status that “ordinary” gay people have of being able to live their lives as normal human beings.

Given all of this, suppose that a guy can get himself aroused simply by crawling into a snug-fitting swim brief, and this same guy becomes very fond of doing so on a regular basis. Except, of course, enjoying one’s own body doing this solo is not accepted as appropriate or “normal” and, besides, no self-respecting guy would ever want to admit that he likes to crawl into a swim brief and get horny and hard. That’s “abnormal” as it is not sex involving another person and a guy who likes to do this needs to spend his entire life keeping this personal secret from anyone else, because the guy does not know how the someone else will react. This is a variation on the problem of the newlywed wife discovering (accidentally, of course) that her husband, despite having her for sex, still likes to masturbate alone in the privacy of the bathroom. And I read stories of “liberated” women who actually enjoy watching their male partner crawl into a really snug-fitting swim brief and watch him get hard as the tension in the groin area builds. Is this fascination on the part of the couple considered normal or not normal?

Then how about two guys who both enjoy getting into and aroused in a swim brief, and they somehow discover that their interest is shared. Does that somehow make both guys gay and disinterested in sex with a female? Or are they just enjoying an activity they both like to do simultaneously, and it seems more fun that way as well? Are these guys somehow abnormal because they are enthusiastic about only this one shared activity? Should this remain a deep secret?

Let me start at the beginning. Nearly every human being likes to engage in self-stimulation, although females sometimes claim to have less interest in this than males normally do. I began learning these techniques at a very early age, and this quickly evolved into a fondness for any type of clothing that fit snug in my groin area. Over time, my collection grew as I found items that worked really well. Most guys masturbate with their hands using the classic slide-and-stroke method. What I do is usually not that, but even more fun, using methods I have honed over my entire life.

Take last night, for example. I was feeling rather horny and decided to sleep in a Desmiit swim brief. These briefs are small, but I have others that are even tighter fitting. I quickly fell asleep. As I have been known to do, I awakened at 3 AM, and started feeling myself. I was feeling hornier than I was when I fell asleep earlier, but there was still something missing. I decided I needed to be out of the swim brief and into a Thong. I pulled out a Papi Thong from the pile. Papi calls their underwear Fun but Functional. This looks like a rather “benign” thong, but it has an uncanny ability to hit all the “right” places. It likes to put upward pressure on the perineum area, a psychosexual “hot spot” of nerve endings located just behind my scrotum. Papi knows exactly where that hot spot is (the fun but functional part). Ahh, that feels good! There is this steady direct pressure that feels wonderful, and my body down there cannot ignore the sensations.

Some guys probably would go into full orgasm mode given what is happening to my body. I just hang in there thinking about how good everything feels, and I fall back asleep. I wake up this morning still feeling way horny and in need of an orgasm, but I will probably spend most of my day in that condition. The thong came off and I am back in my pair of super snug tighty whitey with a Tyr jammer over. Still feels really good down there! I have this edging technique down very well. I might be able to go another day or two in this unrelieved state. No rush for sure!

Think about this: What percentage of guys are so used to being in a swim brief that it does not “bother” them any more? I found this photo of a male Swimmer in a blue Speedo brief in one of their ads. To me, this guy appears to be “enjoying” his new brief a lot. The tension in the groin area must feel great. The situation the Speedo guy finds himself in may sell a lot of snug-fitting briefs for Speedo.

What percentage of guys would like to be in a swim brief that fits as snug as the one the swimmer in the ad is wearing, but, not being an athletic swimmer, are afraid of the questions that might arise if seen wearing a swim brief that snug and tight? What percentage of guys who have worn a swim brief immediately go into what I would call “heavy precum” mode—they are able to keep from going into a full uncontrolled ejaculation but they drip precum and the precum appears as little damp splotches in and around the penis tip given where it is positioned inside the pouch of the suit. These questions deserve a lot more research for sure.

That’s a snug, fit, but just how I like it!
 

That’s a snug, fit, but just how I like it! I Miss These Brands and Items from Earlier Times

I admit it! I really enjoy feeling horny. For me, at least, its the best part about being a guy, and the best place to be no matter what. Being horny goes by any number of other names, the most mundane being feeling aroused. But that term does not convey what is really going on when I am feeling horny. Feeling horny for me is a complete experience, mind and body. Feeling “sexual” or “sexy” does not adequately capture what I enjoy so much. My mind is focused on the specific body parts that make me feel so good and want to think about nothing else. When I am feeling horny, I do not want to be distracted.

Even in earlier times, there were clothing items that were almost guaranteed to make a guy feel horny (aroused) Of course, back then, guys never talked about such things but especially not to their male peers. But all the guys kinda knew what might be going on in their minds and bodies. The desire to feel horny is all but universal among males, and maybe more than a little stressful too. Thinking back, I would have been a much happier person back then had I not been so stressed out over the situation. I think what “gets” to most guys is the fear that something might happen (say a full erection, or worse, an out-of-control orgasm). At an early age, guys learn that they must always try and be in control, and an inadvertent erection or orgasm is anything but the kind of control guys want to demonstrate. The erection for no apparent “reason” falls way outside of this effort to have everything under control. Still, if one can get past the sheer fear of an erection or even an orgasm, sheer pleasure may not be far off.

This leads me to my review of clothing items that had (and maybe still have) the ability to get me in a state of arousal. My mind tends to wonder to a guy’s first encounter having to wear something arousing, the classic example being a Speedo swim brief, but this list would also include a jock strap (aka athletic supporter) and maybe even a wrestling singlet or even compression gear in two pieces like a compression shorts and a compression tee.

For me, this all seems very tame at this point in my life, for I have had these items for many decades and can get into them practically any time I want. So far as the compression tees and shorts go, however, I am deeply saddened that the “Starter” brand gear, commonly found at Wal Mart over a decade ago is no longer available. You could always count on the Starter brand for a really snug fit that was like a second skin in both the tees and shorts. I still have a few pair of shorts in reasonably good shape and I am wearing a steel gray pair today as I exercise and write. Still, the snuggest and “toughest” compression shorts I ever owned were the Bollinger brand. I had a white pair and a black pair. I am not sure what happened to the white pair but I still have the black pair, and I still get horny just thinking about wearing them. These are one “mean” pair of compression shorts if you get what I am saying.

Despite never being an athlete in a team sport, I always liked a strap, and the snugger the fit the better. I know a lot of guys preferred the Bike Brand, but I was rather fond of the Duke brand that was also in a Wal Mart display in the Sporting Goods section. And the cups were really fun in that they pressed flat against the groin leaving little room for growth. But the snug fit and the combination of psychological and physical sensations of not having any extra room to grow were part of what made strap wear so much fun. The oversized cups they sell today are not nearly as much fun. Not much can beat a really small nearly-flat cup for sure but those are old school and not easy to find any more.

At some point I was lucky enough to have purchased a Sapphire Blue genuine Speedo swim thong. Speedo carried these for only a short period of time. They designed them to provided a bit more ample rear coverage than the swim thongs being sold today. Still, this thong was a lot of fun. It looks almost like a Solar brief from the front but the rear is a half inch wide strip of cloth that runs up the crack.

No list for me would be complete without mentioning the original Jockey men’s Thong underwear. These were all designed the same but came in various fabrics, the tamest was the one that was mostly cotton but with about 10% spandex. The other fabrics were Spandex/poly blends. In a word, these thongs were “undersized” and when you were wearing one your mind was constantly drawn to what you were wearing. Great fun, but maybe Jockey thought they were scaring off guys from wearing these. But what a treat! I was climbing the walls.

I have always liked tighty whiteys—as in combed cotton briefs, but I quickly discovered I liked these even better if they were undersized—a pair needs to be just big enough that when stretched out goes around my waist. Adult SM was just too big and roomy. But many Boys sizes have near an adult waist size. And were otherwise smaller and snugger fitting. I discovered that a Boys size 14 was about a 28-inch waist, and a Boys 12 was a 26-inch waist, and that I could fit into either. I have the smaller one under my Starter compression shorts today in fact. Feels great. Just the fit I like.

The problem is that it is no longer possible to simply walk into a discount house and find tighty whiteys in boys sizes, although I have been able to find them on line.

My final choice is the Club Swim "Euro" Brief. This was something of a House Brand for the US vendor Swimoutlet.com, but was replaced with swim briefs under the "Sporti" brand name.

I still have several Club Swim briefs in the Euro design. These are classic undersized swim briefs, but could be worn at the pool as "regular" swimwear. The sides are about 2 inches but somehow, they have a smaller fit than the Solar briefs do.

I discovered that the 28-inch waist size fit me well around the waist for me, but the sizing difference was that a 28-incher had a lower rise than the 30-inch size. This looks fine in front, but the 28 inch shows a bit of the butt-crack Y from the rear. Some guys might think this is perfectly OK at the pool, but others maybe not. The 28 incher reminds me of one of the Japanese Aqux suits in this regard.

Still, if you want a suit that says "I need to jerk off!" This is the suit to wear. I wear my Black Club Swim as sleepwear. The newer Sporti Euros are fine. I have a few of those too, but somehow the Club Swim Euro is the one that presses all my buttons!

This concludes my list, for today at least. Back to the rowing machine!

More on Swim Briefs and Hand-Held Vibrators
 

More on Swim Briefs and Hand-Held Vibrators

I have been running some additional experiments employing a hand-held vibrator as a tool for helping to increase my arousal level in combination with a snug-fitting swim brief or a pair of compression shorts. Arousal is a tremendously complicated combination of events with both psychological and physical aspects. The physical ability to get and sustain an erection to orgasm is only part, although important part of that. And I would admit that what works well for me might not work as well for you, and particularly if you are a guy fixated only on getting and sustaining a firm erection leading to the muscular contractions that define having an orgasm in a snug fitting swim brief or pair of compression shorts or tights. What you wear plays a critical role in the quality of the stimulation the vibrator gives you, and it turns out that an undersized swim brief is the near ideal garment for these experiments.

I am very fond of edging, but my readers all know that, and the right swimwear and a magic wand vibrator helps me get there. I will explain my specific techniques in detail. Although like other guys, I really like having an orgasm too, but that is not the only aspect that sustains me. My at least equal interest is in starting and maintaining a situation of being psychologically aroused. I have had to explore some techniques for sustaining arousal that I might not have thought of when I was a 15-year-old teenager. Edging means starting and sustaining arousal for an extended time period without any particular regard for whether or not everything suddenly ends with a big erection, a final rush of stimulating sensations, and an orgasm. Having an orgasm might be one thing to think about, but it is not the only thing. A broader question is “am I feeling good down there in a curiously special way?” If I can answer yes, then I have achieved my main goal, and everything else positive that happens is a bonus extra.

So, what exactly am I doing to myself that involves a hand-held vibrator? That is the interesting part. These inexpensive handheld vibrators running on household current typically have a vibrating and rotating head on them, and an array of settings, often 20, that vary the speed and frequency of the vibration. One of these vibrators could be used for non-sexual massage of, say, sore muscles. But the real “fun” starts when the vibrator is applied to various body parts in the groin area.

My penis is clearly one of these body parts that might “appreciate” the pulsating and repeating stimulation of my swim brief-clad body. The problem is not that the vibrator doesn’t work when applied to a penis but that it simply works too well. Even on a flaccid penis, the vibrator can put you into a situation where the application of the vibrator leads to the distinct muscular contractions of an orgasm starting in only 15-30 seconds, and the “fun” is all over. The trick I have learned is to first spend time applying the vibrator head and first try the various settings to body areas that are not the penis, but are still psychosexually quite active. Where are these spots? There are a lot of spots on the male body that are active in this regard, but probably the best and most interesting one is the perineum area, sometimes called the taint area, the area on the body directly behind the scrotum. This is a collection of nerve endings that conveniently just happen to also be sexually active. Most of these are areas covered by a snug-fitting swim brief.

The idea is to start by stimulating the nerve endings that are in the perineum but also at the same time the back side of the balls pushing the vibrator head upward and slightly forward. So far as getting aroused goes, this is a great spot to kick back and enjoy the various speeds and patterns the vibrator is able to do. Some guys are also aroused by having the vibrator touch the vibrator head to the male nipples, though this has never quite done it for me.

I have also learned that directly applying the vibrator head to bare skin in the perineum does not feel as good as if the area is covered with cloth ideally that is slick and stretchy, but you will want the cloth to fit like a second skin especially around the balls, over the perineum and over the penis. That requires wearing something quite unlike a loose-fitting pair of cotton boxers, but instead something snug-fitting, the ideal being just the right swim brief or perhaps even an undersized pair of brief underwear in a poly-Lycra blend. Or maybe a tight-fitting pair of compression shorts or tights. The real treat from a psychological and sexual perspective happens when the perineum is stimulated with the vibrator head touching the slick cloth. I do not recommend doing this without some stretchy slick cloth between the skin and the head of the vibrator.

Keep doing this and you may discover that your penis, despite not being directly stimulated, is still starting to get erect as a consequence, even though the head of the vibrator has never touched the penis. Once that occurs, now is the time to try a moment or two of direct stimulation to your penis by touching it for a second or two lying under the slick cloth of what you chose to wear. Not too long, just a brief moment. If your penis has gotten even a bit hard from the stimulation of the balls and perineum, even that brief moment should feel terrific.

I complete my vibrator treatments and feel quite aroused, but I have not had an orgasm, and I would like to be still bigger as well. My penis still might not be hard, but it is certainly getting to that point.

Now is the time to put your penis in a vacuum device (VED or Penis Pump). I have discovered that these devices work far better and are more sheer fun if I am already quite aroused (as I would be after the treatment with the vibrator). So, I pump myself up to a full, vacuum-induced erection, drop a little silicone ring from the VED to the base of my penis, and remove the VED pump. The little silicone ring feels great on a super-hard penis. I am climbing the walls with pleasure! What a nice erection! I am enjoying myself tremendously both psychologically and physically. A little lube and I am nearly back to where I was when I was 15 I COULD easily have an orgasm at this point, as my penis surely wants one, but the edging is so enjoyable I might just wait some more.

Just Having Fun by Myself
 

Just Having Fun by Myself

Guys have long had what I describe as a “love-hate” relationship with straps and thongs. It used to be a male “rite of passage” to acquire your first strap—the old school kind that exposed your butt cheeks and left your butt crack completely uncovered. That was only part of what made an old school strap interesting. The really wide elastic waistband, as much as 3 inches, was interesting But perhaps the most interesting part was the rubbery gritty texture to the pouch. And of course, a hard cup added yet another interesting dimension. Combine this with the fact that there might be a bunch of other males in the gym locker room parading around and showing their physiques while wearing only this as well, and this made for interesting times for a guy not “used” to doing this. Some guys were bound to have a “reaction” to the mere thought of getting into a strap and doing this, let alone actually doing it.

I confess, for me, getting to be in an old school strap is one of my favorite things to do, and I have a stash of them for just that purpose. I am wearing a favorite one of mine as I write this.

Men’s thongs came along a bit later in time, really in the 1980s. Thongs are fun in part because they touch in areas of the body a standard strap ignores. When I discovered that a properly fitting thong puts a nice pressure on the perineum, I was hooked. But I also quickly got hooked on the idea of the thong strap cinching between my glutes as I walked and exercised. It's a subtle but neat sensation, a sensation that tends to “grow on me as I move around during the day.

A properly fitting thong pushes the penis upward and forward, something that always feels good. But why not combine that with an old school strap, with that gritty feeling rubberized pouch trying to press me in the opposite direction. A conflict, for sure, but a fun conflict. The tricky part is finding a thong with a back narrow enough so that it cuts snug between the glutes but wide enough to constantly remind me that it is there and working its magic.

Would it surprise you to learn I am wearing a favorite thong under my Duke strap as I write this. This feels so neat it helps me think up and share ideas that you also might want to try.

But why stop there? Why not pull on a pair of my really snug fitting Tesla running tights (size SM). They feel really great and keep the pressure on the thong and strap in all the right places. I can go all day this way just enjoying my body and the sensations it produces. Being a guy is really fun! Especially when horny and sharing experiences with readers.

More Having Fun
 

More Having Fun

Generally, guys face two major problems in life. At a very young age a guy learns that it is entirely possible to get an erection or even have an orgasm at a place in a situation that is neither private nor appropriate. When I was twelve, erections seemed to be fleeting events, events that came and went for no apparent reason and with no apparent reason. For me, this started at about age 12, or maybe even earlier than that.

It was not long before I discovered that just having an erection could be quite an enjoyable experience, and it was not that long after that I started “encouraging” them to happen in various ways. The tricky part was the privacy issue. I knew that I needed to be either alone or working under cover of darkness—that is, playing with being asleep under the covers when in fact I was engaging in “self-abuse”. I soon picked up on all sorts of ways to do this, perhaps my favorite was getting an erection started by hand and then rubbing the underside of my penis onto the sheet. Sometimes this made me cum, but if I did this early enough at night the cum stains would be dry by morning, which was a relief, and the starchy splotches on my pajama bottoms also at least dry. But still I always worried that I would somehow, perhaps inadvertently have an orgasm too far into the morning that the stain would not be dry by the time I awoke and got dressed for school. That was embarrassing. I worried that I needed to get my timing correct.

I was also having problems with ejaculating in situations where I really did not want to deal with the issues. There were long bus rides to and from school over gravel roads, and the bus seats seemed to vibrate a lot. This would sometimes be plenty strong enough to lead to a full-blown ejaculation and the stains meant that I needed to exit the bus with some care. Fortunately, this almost never happened on the early morning rides. So, getting off the bus I was into a private home setting, not school.

A lot of guys seem to think that they would be extremely happy if their mind could be the only thing that could tell their body when they should be aroused, when they should have an erection and exactly when ejaculation should or should not occur. But a basic problem is that this is not how the male body works, at least for much of the time. Arousal comes and goes pre-erection, if at all. Not every arousal leads to an erection. Erections come and go, and not every erection leads to an ejaculation. In short, a major part of becoming an adult male involves developing an understanding that a lot of this does not occur in an orderly way, and if some of the disorder embarrasses the guy, that is the way it is. Deal with it!

So, the second problem the now adult males must deal with is not the problem of getting an erection that they do not want, but rather that of not getting an erection when the time is appropriate, and they do want one. This quickly gets into some complicated stuff involving things that turn on a guy and set the arousal process in motion. Large numbers of books have been written on the subject. One conclusion is that it is far easier to get an erection when you do not want one than it is to get an erection that you want but your body somehow refuses to go along. If the mere thought of wearing a snug-fitting swim brief sends a guy not only into an erection but maybe even an orgasm, why is it often so difficult for a guy who desperately wants an erection but his body refuses to go along with the desire?

Over the years, I have learned lots of stuff about what my body likes down there and exactly what thoughts get me horny. I “play” with this stuff on a regular basis, but tossed into another world, a world in which I would have to perform for a partner, I might easily fail in my efforts. Yet, what I have learned about myself and my body could prove useful in partner sex as well.

The Speedo® Challenge
 

The Speedo® Challenge

For guys at least, the desire to feel horny is all but universal. Guys generally realize that they can easily get into the mode of feeling horny when they are wearing something that fits snugly in the area containing their penis and balls. Better still if whatever is snug fitting is made of a stretchy smooth cloth as well. Guys generally like the feel of this in the groin area and come to realize this at a very young age, perhaps even before puberty has fully set in. There is just something erotically going on in such a situation.

But guys also realize that the marvelous instance when a guy feels horny can quickly lead to other stuff happening, like getting big and hard. While this is also very enjoyable, this can lead to male “problems” such as the idea that others may notice what is happening. And this can lead to situations that are not only embarrassing, but especially lead to teasing and bullying by peer males—a particular problem for teenagers.

A basic issue is an unwritten “rule” that says a guy should only get aroused or get a hard on when with a sexual partner, and for a lot of males, the only acceptable sexual partner is a female, presumably a willing one. If a guy is with a male in some way and gets a hard on, that therefore is “proof” that the guy is gay. Obviously this may not be the case, but that does not mean that guys do not worry about inadvertently being labeled as gay if the erection occurs in any instance that does not involve a female.

The classic Speedo® thus presents a problem for many guys. First. The brief is made of slick, stretchy cloth that fits snugly around the penis and balls. The penis is (usually) fully covered, but the outline of the guy’s anatomy is quite obvious, and, in particular, the condition the guy is in. Guys with big flaccid penises have more issues in this regard, because the may appear to be erect when they are not. A lot of guys will not wear swim briefs because they do not want to have to deal with this, even though at some level they are turned on by the idea of wearing a skimpy brief made of a slick, stretchy material. It is not simply wearing the brief but the idea of wearing the brief in a situation where they will be seen in public. For first time wearers, they do not know exactly what will happen to them once inside, but they fear the worst. This leads to admiring the guys who wear Speedos® seemingly without giving it all a second thought. Just another article of clothing and zero concerns over inadvertent arousal and erections!

Still, nothing that fits that tight in the groin area can be completely innocuous. Guys who have not yet worn a swim brief from any manufacturer are also bothered by the perhaps well-founded perception that the guys who do wear the briefs are somehow enjoying them in a sexual way, even if they have overcome the urge to be erect once they are in the brief. This becomes a mixture of fear and wonderment of sorts. Dare I do this or not? How will my body react if I do? Can I try on a Speedo® in private, and my bedroom first, and see exactly how all of this happens to me or not?

If I end up “liking” being in a Speedo® and I end up feeling horny once I am in and start to get erect, what does that mean? Does that somehow make me gay? Even more complicated are questions related to situations where I have a male friend who somehow has also thought about the same issues and is in this position of wanting to try on a swim brief too. What if we both get swim briefs and try them on at the same time/ Does that somehow make us both gay? Complicated questions here.

And then there are the women. A lot of women claim they dislike seeing any man wearing any sort of swim brief--many women, but not necessarily all. If I have a girlfriend, what is she going to say if she sees me wearing one? Part of the rules many females abide by is the debunked idea that men should only get horny and erect in the presence of a female who is or will become a sexual partner for intercourse, and the rest of the stuff I am talking about is for guys who are “abnormal”.

The entire connection between wearing a Speedo® and being gay is a complicated one. Speedo® until relatively recently, simply ignored the notion that wearing one and being gay could be linked for some guys, but now you go to their Web Site and in the briefs there is an entire section of maybe a dozen briefs either in rainbow colors, Gay Pride logos or some combination. Are these all sold to gay guys, or to guys who support the gay movement by wearing one of the briefs? I doubt the company would even know.

I am also very interested in the YouTube videos by Christian Ocean, a blogger fascinated with the question of how a guy who has never before worn a swim brief or a thong in public will deal with the situation. Somehow he finds guys that while having never done this before, are not put off by the idea.

Of course, the swim briefs Speedo® offers under their own brand are modest by what you can get from other online sources. They used to sell a thong, but no longer do. And the vast majority of briefs have wide sides, typically 2 ½ inches or wider, the Solar brief being slightly skimpier. Mostly the choices relate to colors and fabrics, and no longer just solid colors but a vast array of prints and fabrics.

Nowadays, a guy can go on line and find an array of swim briefs and thongs that are way snugger and skimpier than that, make an order for some of those, and experiment in private. The number of vendors and the choices suggest that this is a very popular thing for guys to do. Relatively recent are the briefs and thongs being sold to perhaps be worn either as skimpy underwear or as swimwear. The guys wearing these as swimwear have clearly gotten over any fear they might have had of appearing in public in clothing that is really skimpy in the groin.

Progress is being made! Have fun in your Speedos® and enjoy who you are.

Notes for Guys considering first time wearing a Speedo®
 

Notes for Guys considering first time wearing a Speedo®

Male sexuality can seem very complicated. At an early age, guys discover that feeling horny (aka arousal) can be very enjoyable. Once puberty comes on the role of erections and having an orgasm that results in ejaculate takes on a critical role as well. Feeling horny is fun! Getting a hard on is even more fun! Ejaculating semen is right up there with the most fun things a guy can do!

The difficulty, of course, is that also at a very early age a guy discovers that he cannot directly control any of these events. He can set up situations whereby these events are more likely to occur, or not. But sometimes part or all of this can occur, well, inadvertently. A key problem younger guys face, at least, is that he realizes these events are supposed to occur in the presence of a (female) sexual partner, not alone, or perhaps even with another male. Yet, somehow a guy’s body pays zero attention to that “rule”. But even if this were true, does this mean that a guy needs to manage to delay getting aroused, getting a hard on, or ejaculating until he is old enough to be seriously in a relationship with a sexual partner?

Obviously not. Guys get horny, get erections and have orgasms regularly when they are not with anyone else, let alone a sexual partner. As a young person, this is all part of growing up. This is also “training” of sorts on how to cope with a male body that sometimes simply “ignores” what the mind thinks it should be doing. Dealing with all of this is simply part of entering adulthood.

What does this have to do with wearing a Speedo® for the first time? I was hooked on the idea of wanting to wear a Speedo® from the moment I saw what they were and how they fit in the groin area, Well, maybe not a genuine Speedo® but any male swim brief made from a shiny, stretchy, snug-fitting material. I already knew quite a bit about my penis from my wet dreams, which I quickly mastered techniques to “encourage" them. That rubbing and stroking my penis was really enjoyable, and I naturally assumed that my penis would greatly “enjoy” being snugly encased in a brief made of soft and slick material. Owning a Speedo® or similar was an important make rite of passage even if it was only as a garment used masturbation, not for swimming, but a garment every male should still own.

Turns out, I was correct. Let me also say this about sexuality. Part of what makes sexuality so much fun with a sexual partner is that it seems to work better when there is a degree of uncertainty about what is about to happen and exactly what will happen and how good it will feel. For married guys, or even guys in a long-term relationship with a partner, if these relationships are to be successful over a long term, them both individuals need to make sure that partner sex has not become very predictable and therefore boring. Penises hate predictability. Penises much prefer situations that are snug but unpredictable. (This is also true for the comparable parts of the female anatomy as well, but I won’t go into that here.)

So, feeling uncertain about how you and your penis will “react” to being in a Speedo® for the very first time is a good thing not a bad thing. If you are contemplating all of this and have purchased any swim brief with the intent of trying it on in private, you probably already have discovered the horniness part already. How will my body react once I am in the brief and will I be able to keep my urges under control? This uncertainty is part of the fun, not a problem.

More interesting still is having a male buddy (I will not refer to him as a male partner) who somehow is open enough to reveal that he would like to do the same thing—try on a Speedo® for the very first time. That could get interesting too, as each contemplates his own response but the response of the other. Is such an event somehow “gay”? Some guys might say so, but others might say it's all just a very normal part of being a male. I tend to fall in the latter camp. Just because a guy gets aroused by pulling on a swim brief in the presence of another male who is also doing the same thing and experiencing something similar has zero to do with whether a guy will ultimately decide to enter in a sexual relationship with either another male or instead with a female. A lot of guys seem to not understand that at all and that leads to unwarranted teasing and bullying situations.

Coping with how your body reacts to situations your body sees as “novel” is part of becoming an adult. And part of this is built around the realization that with sexuality, orders that you might want to give in any situation might be rejected at another level. Deal with that! It is part of who you are as a human being.

So, if a guy becomes aroused, gets an erection, and maybe even ejaculates into his newly-acquired Speedo® this should not be cause for alarm or somehow be feared. The biggest issue is to how to wash out the ejaculate and dry the brief without alerting others. The next time this guy tries it on, the sensations will be more familiar, and the stress might be less. Maybe this time the guy experiences an erection but manages to stave off ejaculation. Technically, this guy is doing what I would call edging with a Speedo, something that can quickly become a quite pleasant thing to do on a regular basis.

The novelty of the situation at hand is really what fuels the arousal, erection and ejaculation. If the guy were not at least somewhat uncertain about what could happen once in the Speedo, none of this would likely happen. But this novelty and uncertainty is what fuels the sexual fires on multiple levels. It fuels the purchase of swim briefs that are ever tighter and skimpier, the swim thong movement, and furthering an understanding of what feels really good to wear.

All of this is fun stuff and no functioning male should deny himself!

Tmi?
 

TMI?

Men’s swim briefs are not normally advertised on the many streaming channels. However, the ads that appear on the streaming channels are getting more and more detailed, and outlining topics that were long ruled inappropriate for broadcast TV because they contained too much information.

I was thinking about this text for a swim brief ad on a streaming channel. But then I started thinking this information might work better as text for a hang tag on each brief sold, designed to alert new buyers of issues with wearing the swim brief. With all of the increasingly explicit advertising on TV, why not make the buyer aware of this issue on the hang tag, where fabric care is usually the topic.

“A properly fitting swim brief should fit quite snug for best performance in the water. The cloth will stretch a little as the brief is worn, so in order to keep the snug fit it is best to downsize one waist size. Be aware that many males when initially wearing a swim brief experience unexpected reactions, and this could lead to an inadvertent and unexpected erection. Occasionally this can result in an ejaculation. Be aware that for most males this reaction to wearing a new, properly-fitting swim brief is normal and the issue normally recedes after the wearer has worn the brief for a few times. Ejaculate can ordinarily be removed from the brief by soaking the brief in warm (not hot) water. Please hand wash to improve the durability and retain the stretch.”

How Do You Delete Your Profile Here???!
 

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“ Occasionally this can result in an ejaculation. Be aware that for most males this reaction to wearing a new, properly-fitting swim brief is normal and the issue normally recedes after the wearer has worn the brief for a few times. Ejaculate can ordinarily be removed from the brief by soaking the brief in warm (not hot) water. Please hand wash to improve the durability and retain the stretch.”

And that’s why stores insist you wear underwear while trying on swimwear (even though that makes it impossible to figure out if something fits or not) and why returns aren’t accepted.

Is it OK to Just Jerk Off in a Speedo® ?
 

Is it OK to Just Jerk Off in a Speedo® ?

Once way back, when I likely was about 12 years old, I went to see a doctor. Apparently, I had just discovered some ways to enjoy myself down there. Whatever I was doing by myself was a lot of fun, and apparently I explained enough to the doctor that he knew exactly what I was attempting to ask. The approximate response was:

“What you have been doing is not harmful, but you probably should not be doing that!”

This was in the 1950s, and the mere mention that a guy was engaging himself in this way was considered abnormal. Never mind that guys my age were “doing it” on a regular basis anyway.

Over a period of nearly 70 years, I have uncovered a remarkable list of ways to “do it” and I have enjoyed myself immensely. For a long time I have been sharing the details of exactly how I engage myself alone to others, the primary outlet being this Web site. Between the two big posts, “What to Wear” and “Thoughts on Just Being a Guy” at the current count I have over 365,000 reads. I do not know how or why these readers keep piling up like this, but I am delighted with the interest in the stuff I write about, and apparently the topics I discuss are helpful but particularly guys who are still stuck in a time warp about the entire subject of solo pleasuring like I was back when I was but 12 years old.

This brings me to the current day, having wandered through an era when a male being sexually attracted to another male was considered a mental abnormality, to a day were the major discussion seems to be focused on an acceptance of practically any form of sexual behavior other than those that do harm to another person such as rape and pedophilia (the whole LGBTQ thing). Having said that, I am not sure that if a male admitted to others that he spent time jerking off in a Speedo® that would make him part of the Q but not part of the LGBT component? Still, suppose I were back in the 7th grade and another peer male schoolmate happened to see me jerking off—perhaps not even in a Speedo® but maybe in a pair of tighty whiteys, underwear that was all but universal for guys when I was a young lad. Suppose this male who saw me was mean, and told his male peers what I was doing, and the male peers immediately claimed that since I was jerking off in my underwear that I would clearly be growing up as a gay guy, and I would be teased and bullied.

You see the problem. In my mind the LGBTQ community tries to cover all the variations in human sexuality and activities other that good old fashioned sex between a male and a female. But in the process leaves out an important category of males and females who are perfectly happy in a situation whereby they are more than OK with solo masturbation as a sexual release both short and long term.

Over the years I have had a number of male friends who once had but no longer have female partners. These people tend to gravitate to me because they know I have been single and unattached all my adult life, and they wonder how I survive. Perhaps what they really want to know is the details on how I “do it” as outlined in my paper here, but they are too embarrassed to ask the necessary questions and I am not about to start telling stories on my own.

I suppose I could try and clarify all of this. The first point I would make is that I never have felt a compelling desire to have sex with, or worse, had actually live with, a female partner. I decided that I had no interest at age 12. The few times I had something of a date with a woman I wanted to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Somehow the women also seemed to sense my disinterest in them to, so I gave up on the entire idea of dating women by the time I was 25 (maybe 21). This was not something I had any interest spending either time or money on.

I would make an unworthy gay guy too. So much of the gay male community seems focused on who and under what circumstance are you having anal sex with a male partner, and I am rather turned off by all of that. If a guy really wants to have an orgasm via prostate massage, there are any number of vibrators and estim devices that do an excellent job of that without any risk of getting an STD or worse. I do get a kick out of seeing exactly how another guy masturbates, but there are plenty of porn sites that have videos of that. There are even plenty of videos showing how a guy can have an orgasm while wearing a suit from Speedo® or Arena®. But if calling yourself gay because you have anal sex with a male partner, I want none of that. So this rules me out of the G category.

Still, I am very fond of being a male, and find it odd that any person born as a male could somehow be unhappy with the situation as it originally was. I have zero interest in acting out any part of the female role such as clothing or makeup. I take photos of myself as a male clad in swim briefs, and I am proud of what I am and how I look as a male clad only in a Speedo®. So I clearly do not fall into the T category. Indeed, I think the mad dash of people trying to change their biological sex without first having time for exploring the nuances of what they were originally to be more than crazy. Why does a male want to be female before one has completed the task of finding out how enjoyable being a male really is? I could give lessons on this.

I have spent the bulk of my life as a single guy who has always enjoyed being single and in a situation where I have always had the privacy to engage in fun activities that might prove embarrassing if I were not living alone, and I protect my privacy in that regard. If other males want to learn how to do this I have written a lot of tips and advice on the subject.

For the swimwear brief manufacturers, I have frequently wondered what percentage of the brief sales at companies such a Speedo® and Arena® are sold to guys who probably have no plans to wear one of the products at a pool or beach, but use them for self pleasuring as a neat way to jerk off. I suspect a significant share of them. Online stores are filled with other kinds of gear that can be readily used for jerking off as well, the straps, the thongs, the compression shorts and tights too (using these used to be associated with having an abnormal fetish for certain kinds of clothing, but that claim has dissipated in recent years too), and there is an array of vacuum pumps, estim devices and vibrators designed to be stimulating down there as well. At age 12 I knew nothing about all of this, but somehow, I have managed. For me this has been a case of lifelong learning.

For males engaged in partner sex with another person, the serious sexual encounter often goes for only 7 to 10 minutes tops. One thing the porn sites teach for guys is how to edge, as in getting aroused and staying aroused for long periods of time, for hours if not days. Over time, I habe become an expert on edging, and owning a Speedo® is a basic way to begin to learn how to edge, as a Speedo can be used as an undergarment that may keep you feeling horny all day (or perhaps all night) long. Still, even in the modern “anything goes” acceptance of sexual choices and behaviors that were once regarded as deviant, there remains no place in this new world where a male plans to go home and just spend some time jerking off in a Speedo® no matter how much sheer pleasure it brings. And that is sad….

I accidently learned about jerking off after just turning 13 - in a speedo - I realized that it felt good to rub myself through the slick fabric. As I kept doing it - it felt amazing and then it happened. I thought I ruptured myself, but then learned it was a very normal thing. Yes, I have jerked of many many times in a speedo. Thanks for admitting it!!!

A Snug New Speedo® and a Magic Wand
 

A Snug New Speedo® and a Magic Wand

Getting a new Speedo (or another favorite brand) is always a treat for the mind and body. Couple this with a Magic Wand style vibrator with multiple patterns and the fun times get multiplied.

My thoughts turn to the swim coach seeking a win in the big meet coming up. The coach concludes that he cut take a tiny fraction of the time off of most of the swimmers if their suits were not old and stretched out. He suggests that the team wear their team suits but brand new ones one size smaller. A guy who wore a MED at the start of the year would size down to SM, and a guy who has worn a LRG downsizes to a MED and so on.

The guys all know that the downsizing might fit them but fit so snug as to be just a touch uncomfortable, and also, there may be other issues and “reactions”. For starters, the suit may be so snug that the only way the penis can be positioned is “up” with the underside pressing tightly against the slick, stretchy cloth. This could induce a “reaction” than makes matters even worse. Still, if that is what the coach wants to help speed the team in the water, gotta obey the coach.

Adult males not on racing swim teams might want to emulate this. You do not even need to be a swimmer. Swim briefs are readily available on line and if a guy has owned a brief he certainly has a good idea as to what his waist size is. The trick is to order one similar to what you have been wearing but downsize one size. A guy who normally wears a LRG would downsize the order to a MED, a MED guy to a SM and so on. Being both new and undersized, this brief should be wearable and fit tighter all around than the old brief. The trick is to find the size that has just enough room to position your penis in the up position pressed nearly immovable against the slick cloth of the pouch. Swim briefs are all about fitting really important stuff into tight spaces, a treat. Just contemplating how this might fit and feel might cause a reaction in your mind or body, but that reaction is a good thing as it preps you for the next part, not on the swim coaches list of things to try.

Also purchase on-line a Magic Wand style vibrator. One of the Magic Wand style knockoffs, available on line for about $20 USD. These vibrators are interesting in an assortment of different ways. Anything that vibrates is always interesting but these especially so.

. This particular style not only vibrates but has multiple speeds and patterns, in which the pace of the vibration varies with each pattern from slow to fast and even full starts and stops. When the vibrator is turned on it emits a low-pitched growling sound that is, dare I say, quite erotic. But the varied patterns each have their own sounds and are different in all sorts of interesting ways.

So, let me suppose that it was a bit of a struggle, but somehow you managed to get into your new swim brief, and you have your penis pressed against the front, pointing up. Just getting yourself into the suit and getting your penis pointed upward gave you something of a noticeable hard-on, but that was what was supposed to happen.

There are lots of videos on the porn sites showing guys clad only in a swim brief, engorged penises clearly pointing up but hidden under the cloth. Then, in the background we hear that interesting growl of the Magic Wand, and that sound is a triggering mechanism like Pavlov’s bell, but an audio trigger for getting even more aroused. The videos vary and, in some cases, these are solo efforts, but in other videos another male is controlling the vibrator so the guy in the swim brief does not know where the vibrator will land moment by moment except that it will be somewhere on his sensitive and newly engorged private parts. Of course, having such easy access to the sensitive underside of the penis when positioned in this way in the undersized Speedo® is really exciting and perhaps maybe even too much. Further, situations like this that result in a near immediate ejaculation are ultimately less enjoyable than situations that “play” with this. That is, using the vibrator to get nearly to a point where the guy is almost but not quite uncontrollably ejaculating, then backing down a bit and cooling things down till the guy no longer feels a compelling psychological and physical “need” to ejaculate.

What I suggest is a form of edging that is both physically exciting and super enjoyable mentally as well. Moving around, the vibrator might “visit” a lot of places in addition to the penis underside. The vibrator can be used as a ball massager, for example. The perineum area just behind the balls is super sensitive too and there is easy access to that area with the vibrator when the guy is in a snug swim brief. The super sensitive glans area might be enough to send the guy into a full-blown ejaculation, with cum stains quickly coming though the cloth of the snug brief. So, if a guy wants to delay orgasm, it is best not to touch that particular spot until you really are ready to cum. The vibrator is an excellent tool to use in locating your super sensitive and not quite as sensitive erotic areas.

The penis underside is very sensitive, and experimenting, most guys cannot tolerate more than a few seconds of direct application of the vibrator along the penis underside without reaching the point of no return. So, if you want to keep edging in the swim brief using the vibrator, there are techniques for moving around your sensitive spots that can be learned. Fortunately, the “lessons” are fun too.

Watching porn masturbation videos, is it more interesting to see a naked guy ejaculating directly into the air, or to see a guy stimulating himself or having a partner stimulate him using the vibrator and then watching as the cum stains form on the swim brief the guy is wearing? Personally, I think the latter. In the videos some guys do the latter solo while others have a male helper on the vibrator. Obviously, this could be an activity gay couples might enjoy, but would straight couples enjoy doing this too? This is another of those really fun and non-risky erotic ideas. The male pair need not be gay, either. I could see two otherwise straight guys doing this, both versed in the techniques described here. But for a straight couple, say a straight couple that for whatever reason would prefer not to have traditional penis-vagina sex, this could be really fun too.

And then there are guys like me, living alone and simply finding interesting ways to enjoy my own body to the maximum extent possible! I don’t want to miss out, and in the process of learning exactly how I can do this I have a most enjoyable time. This is also fun to do clad in a wrestling singlet, as your penis will be in one spot and you can't just reach down to move it around. This type of confinement is very exciting too when combined with a growling vibrator.

Masturbation, Edging, and Snug-Fitting Clothing
 

Masturbation, Edging, and Snug-Fitting Clothing

YouTube has lots of videos with Masturbation in the title, and many of these focus on male masturbation. For those who still think that masturbation is a second- or third-rate sexual activity, quickly discarded once a guy reaches adulthood, a number of these videos go in a completely different direction. Generally, the videos start by pointing out that solo masturbation is by far the most common for males ages 12 -15, but that is not a new observation at all.

Instead, what some videos argue is that the average partner sex act in adulthood runs for only about 5 minutes. Both men and women would like for the sex act to last far longer, but so long as the guy believes that in order to prove he is a “real man” he must have an orgasm within 5 minutes of engaging in partner sex this will not happen. To believe that speedy sex is good sex is silly.

One of the arguments is that this short period from initial arousal to ejaculation is in part a product of what guys learn shortly after puberty. In particular, many guys quickly learn to bring on ejaculation quickly because of the “dirty” reputation masturbation has. No matter what, the young teen needs to make certain no one catches him doing the unthinkable, not parents, siblings, peers or anyone else. What the guy leans about masturbating to orgasm quickly at this age adversely affects a guy’s sex life throughout his entire adulthood. The idea of masturbating quickly to orgasm is a “learned” behavior. Unlearning this takes both time and a commitment to the idea that going in for a quick ejaculation is not a sign of one’s virility as a man. Indeed, the opposite.

In many ways I consider myself one of the extremely lucky ones, living alone without a sexual partner for my entire adult life. This must sound crazy to guys who are happy in their sexual relationships. The beauty of this is that I can always find the time and the luxury to do exactly what I want—with, to and by myself without any fear that my activities are going to be discovered and I will be embarrassed. This is a huge blessing, a luxury of sorts. In the process, I have developed expertise for edging by proceeding at a long, slow, and deliberate pace.

When I think about that others might feel sorry for me living life without a sexual partner I only laugh, If partner sex is so unbelievably wonderful, why is it that so many of my friends got divorces and then struggled to find a path for dealing with the fact that they were alone, sexually? If sex with a partner is so mind-blowing, why did you let it go? What gives here?

I suppose that every case is different. Me, I’m into edging. I get into a horny mood and then spend long periods of time just enjoying being aroused. This is a big part of the stuff guys do not learn to do as young teens—just kicking back and maintaining oneself at a high degree of arousal for prolonged periods of time. After all, real guys ejaculate within 5 minutes of first thinking about it, and anything longer means the guy is not that virile. Sex is really a contest of speed. If speed at a stop sign is needed to prove a guy’s worth, then why should this not also be true for sex and orgasms?

But a fast orgasm is actually a bad not good thing: this is where the term “premature ejaculation” is coined. Women generally like a slow, deliberate guy and not a speed demon.

I watched a YouTube video that had one guy in a black Speedo® who decided to go to a beach where all the other guys were wearing board shorts. A lot of people stared at him, but a few seemed to admire his suit and body. This guy was actually engaging in a form of edging. He was there because he got turned on just thinking of all the women (and more than a few guys) who were admiring his butt and pouch. Wandering around in a Speedo® in public is one way of sustaining arousal (not the same as an erection) for long periods of time!

Early on, as a young teen, I learned that the least complicated way to get aroused, have an erection, and maybe even an orgasm, was to do so at night under the cover of darkness and the cover of bedclothes. I think most guys learned this method too. In adulthood, I learned some methods for making undercover masturbation still more enjoyable, generally by wearing tight-fitting, perhaps only a Speedo®, or maybe a strap or thong. The quantity of Cowpers’ gland secretions are a key measure of how successful this strategy is. A close relationship exists between the amount of the clear viscous fluid is secreted and how horny I feel. This is a basic measuring stick for judging the quality of a long-run edging session lasting perhaps the entire night.

However, in the cold winter months I like to layer other clothing over what I wear in the summer. In other posts, I have pointed out the merits of Ikingsky thongs and DEVOPS thermal compression wear. The Ikingsky thongs are famous because they are really skimpy. But they also have a nice pouch (perfect for collecting Cowpers secretions aka precum over an entire night of edging). Plus, they put a nice but subtle pressure on that all important perineum area just behind the scrotum. Finally, there is that neat and really narrow thong back cutting between my glutes. In short, the perfect base garment for a night of edging.

The DEVOPS thermal running tights and long-sleeved shirts are the cover garments. These fit, well really tight, and I undersized the pants from a MED to a SM. The pants go over the thong, and I am already feeling very good. Coping with this for an entire night is a basic course in edging technique, a course most guys who have sexual partners likely missed. My period of arousal is not 5 minutes, or even 20 minutes, but at least 8 hours.

I fall asleep quickly. But I will wake up often at about 3 AM and check to see how my night is going. Oddly, I am still feeling way horny, and I can tell precum has been accumulating ever since I drifted off. There are gobs of the desirable clear viscous fluid inside the thong pouch. And the thong perineum pressure, subtle at first, seems to have grown more pronounced by 3 AM.

Soon I fall back asleep again, awaking at 6 AM, with the thong pouch containing still more precum. But I have not had an orgasm, so I am still feeling way horny. Now its 9 AM, and I still am feeling great in an erotic way. I have swapped for another thong and compression gear, leaving the DEVOPS for nighttime wear.

This is all terrific, not-to-be-missed fun, the essence of what makes me so happy to be a guy. If you want to learn edging technique with the idea of improving a relationship with a partner, this is great training for your mind and body as well. As I always say, Have fun! It is great just being a guy.

Pointing Upward
 

Pointing Upward

for those of you new to the whole idea of enjoying your body while wearing snug-fitting clothing containing a lot of Lycra, I got to thinking about some ideas that might be helpful to you.

First off, there are many different types and styles of clothing that work. This Web Site focuses on swim briefs, but also includes topics related to other types of clothing, the only common denominator being the slick, Lycra based fabric and the invariably snug fit.

However, those two key elements are embodied in a lot of different types and styles of readily available clothing that work. Here is a partial list:

Swim briefs
Swim thongs
Squarecut swimwear made of stretchy snug fitting fabricate
Swim jammers with longer legs
Athletic supporters made of a stretchy fabric that have twin leg straps but no center strap in the rear.
Underwear made of a stretch fabric, briefs, thongs, squarecuts, longer legged underwaear with a similar fabric etc
Running tights and similar
One-piece singlets most commonly worn in wrestling contests
etc etc.

This is a lot of stuff, and over my lifetime I have collected good examples of all of these.

There are two things all these items share. First, they are all made of a slick, stretchy fabric, and second, All of them fit very snug in the groin area, snug enough so that when a guy positions his penis getting in, the penis stays in that position.

A lot of guys might be apprehensive about wearing any of these on account of the unwanted erection phenomenon. As in fear of what could happen if I get an erection and others (peers, classmates, etc see that I have one, and fear that the worst could happen, the erection quickly results in a full scale and obvious orgasm and ejaculation. These fears apparently keep lots of budding male swimmers and wrestlers from taking up the sport. At least I have heard that.

Still, lots of these snug-fitting stretchy garments are sold to males all the time. Not every male is consumed by his fear and apparently found a way to overcome it. Conquering one’s fears is a way of coping. It turns out, conquering one’s fears can only be accomplished by meeting fears head on. And the most challenging and also the most enjoyable way of doing this is to pick one of these garments—it does not make a lot of difference which one—lately I have been enjoying my running tights, and put yourself in a position whereby you could have an orgasm quite easily. Face your deepest fears directly!

What position is that? Why upward of course. You know the position where nearly all of the underside of your penis is pressing firmly against the slick, snug stretchy fabric. OK, so you are starting to feel horny just thinking about being in this situation. What garment from your list, particularly? Pick whatever one you think will be “difficult” to deal with. By now you should already have a nice semi just thinking about what you are about to attempt.

The entire underside of your penis is just a super neat place. Its a lot more sensitive to touch than the top side. If your erection gets bigger just thinking about this that is a good thing not a bad thing. That is what is supposed to happen. Besides, assuming you are average size or more, erect, if you have selected and sized the garment correctly, by now your penis should be screaming at you telling you that it really likes where it is at and what is happening to it.

But from the standpoint of completing your training, it is probably best not to go into a full-blown ejaculation immediately. The garment becomes part of your edging work in which you attempt to sustain the good sensations from your penis for a longer period of time. All you need to do is touch yourself and stroke the underside of you penis for a short period of time. But from the perspective of your training, you will want to delay the orgasm part as long as you can. Still, this is great fun with any of the garments on my list above, and one of the greatest “treats” all “free” for just being a guy with a penis. And a treat that is available to every guy.

The fact that you have somehow learned how to sustain yourself erect in this situation can prove useful in a variety of ways, not only alone but perhaps in the presence of another enthusiastic male. Rumor has it that even some females get turned on by being able to observe first hand and up close the “situation” the guy is dealing with here, and the best females actually purchase garments for the guy that seem to work. It goes without saying that guys who are into other guys would enjoy watching the “predicament” evolve and might also want to participate. My point is the opportunity exists for all guys, single and partnered regardless of whether the partner is male or female.

Once you have an erection pressing firmly against the cloth of the garment there are other things you can do as well..like digging out a vibrator and seeing how the head of the vibrator feels when the underside of your penis is pressed against the fabric. Fascinating stuff. If you do this right, you should be climbing the walls, psychologically and physically.

A Fruit of the Loom Strap?
 

A Fruit of the Loom Strap?

Scrounging around, I found one of the earliest straps that I ever purchased, perhaps the earliest one of all. I have been comparing the appearance and features of this strap with others I have. I also have been looking at the very faded tag in an attempt to determine the brand. There is a tag with three faded colors, maybe four, green, red and purple with a possible gold on the left side.

In sorting through images on the Internet the only logo that would fit would be Fruit of the Loom, and the logo that fits dates either from the 60s or from 1970-78. I think I purchased this strap in the mid 1970s when I was off in college in another state. I had always wanted to have a strap of my own but I was off on my own now and no one I knew to question why I owned a strap despite the fact that I was a non athlete who did not “need” one. Part of the “fun” actually was the secrecy of what I was doing to and by myself. And the FOTL strap was “forbidden fruit”. This was going to make for some fun experiments in male “self abuse”.

Currently the strap is in not terrible condition considering the “life” it led as a long-time “partner” of mine. This was not a Bike strap, it was a strap that would have been sold at a discount house not an athletic clothing place as such. I am guessing that I found my strap on a display at K mart next to other sporting goods items big and small on a wall in that particular section of the store. Not very expensive, maybe under $2. Just think the amount of fun I would have for that little money.

In comparing this strap to my newer straps, there are some things that are the same but a lot that is different too. The pouch is made of that goofy ribbed rubberized cloth at is never used in other types of clothing. Unlike a pouch made with Spandex, it still is in pretty good condition after maybe 50 years. The rubberized pouch holds up a lot better over time whereas one made with Lycra/Spandex would deteriorate and lose its “snap”.

The waistband is two inches wide not three inches wide. The elastic in that has held up well too, and there is another narrow ¼ inch wide strip of elastic sewn to the top of the pouch which in turn is sewn to the waistband using a zig zag stitch. The sewing and all the elastic is in good condition too.

Inside, on the waistband to the right of the pouch is a little elastic hanger loop as if FOTL expected guys to rinse out their straps after the game and then hang them to dry from this loop in a locker to dry until the next practice. I don’t know if anyone ever did that but I guess that was the intended purpose of the hanger loop.

Then there wwere the leg straps, once again bands of elastic about 3/8 ths inch wide that attach at the waistband an inch or so to the left and right of the pouch. These are all twisted but again the elastic is in very good shape given the age.

Of course, these elastic straps have to attach to the pouch at the base of the pouch, and there is quite a knot of material and stitching where they do. For someone into perineum stimulation this is quite a big deal, But back in the 70s I knew nothing about that. Still, looking at how this strap was made, I now better understand what was going on when I put on this strap--both in my brain and in my groin.

Oh, and did I mention that this strap still fits me, but the fit is really really tight. No doubt, when I made my purchase, I selected one in a smaller size. However, these straps were made in such a way that it is difficult to see how any guy could wear one without getting at least somewhat stimulated down there. Teen male athletes used to “play” with their peers in this regard by grabbing the back of a friend’s waistband on the strap and “snapping” his strap. Any guy who was already even a little aroused from just wearing the strap would quickly discover some sensitivities down there he did not realize he had let alone appreciate. Generically, this game is sometimes referred to as “horseplay” by young males, and of course horseplay is a lot more fun if the guys are all wearing straps in the locker room.

Did I mention that I can still wear the strap and diagnose what happens to me once I am in? Yesterday I put on a pair of thong underwear and pulled this strap on over. I have never quite figured out why for a long time it was something of a male “rite of passage” to be in locker rooms completely butt-naked while wearing a strap, but that was how it was. Being butt naked although strapped did not protect any athlete from a groin injury, but then the pouch without a cup merely managed to hold the genitalia in one place and not flopping around. Still, that was part of being an athlete—as an athlete you were required to be strapped! (and maybe cupped as well but that varied by sport).

I spent the entire day in the strap and thong. The neat part about this is that the thong wants to push my important body parts upward and forward even as the snug-fitting pouch wants to add a downward force and pressure. Combine that with the perineum pressure from both the knot on the thong where the back attaches to the thong pouch and the leg straps attach to the strap pouch, and you have a simple recipe for some really interesting sensations.

This strap long was and is great fun. I learned a lot of stuff about me and my body by engaging in this sort of strap play. Every guy who has worn an old-school strap like this probably can relate to what I am saying, and I am happy to share ideas as to what must be going on and why.

Looking Back
 

Looking Back

This has been a long and interesting journey. As Internet sites go, I think we can agree that this Web site is relatively obscure—it certainly does not have millions of visitors, and, in recent years, only a limited number of new posts and comments. As those who have been following me for a long time, everyone know that I have posted a comparatively large amount, but the preponderance of my posts in recent years have been under two titles on the “Story Center” section of the Web site,

I have been checking back. I started the “What to Wear” Story way back in May of 2015. and the “Thoughts on just being a guy” Story in May of 2019, the latter in part because I thought maybe the What to Wear line had simply gotten too big for readers to easily navigate.

As of this morning, the end of May, 2024 What to Wear (WTW) contains 447 posts, some of which are comments and replies by others, and Thoughts on Just Being a Guy (TAG) has 228 posts and comments. As of this morning WTW has had 258,141 visitors and readers and TAG has had 147, 641 visitors and readers, for a total of 405,782 visitors and readers. I view cracking the 400,000 mark in visitors and readers as something of a milestone.

The content is proving to be quite popular and it is being found even in a fairly well-hidden location. Of course, the stories I have regularly written represent something of a long-time personal journey for me that can be summarized by the simple statement “Every adult male can still have a great deal of personal enjoyment with his body even if he is not in a relationship with another person!” And further, “I will explain in detail the simple, safe techniques I employ to accomplish that and you can experiment with them yourself!”

You and your partner might find some of these techniques to be quite enjoyable if you are in a relationship, but do not fret if you are not, as the techniques work anyway!

Of course, in this group, some of these techniques might involve crawling into a too-tight swim brief and then seeing how your body “reacts” under such circumstances, but this is merely part of a larger and even more engaging picture of what you can do to, with and by yourself, either in the presence of a partner, or not.

Of course, over the years, the public perception of what constitutes normal sexual behavior or not has changed dramatically. Prior to about 1970, gay guys were treated as abnormal people who had a medical issue that could be “treated” by a knowledgeable psychiatrist. Etc Etc Etc. We all know the path this has taken in recent years even with regard to what is normal with respect to gender identity.

With all of these changes, the subject of solo sex aka masturbation aka self pleasuring is still kinda treated as abnormal, and the public still has not really gotten its head around the notion that somehow a guy who pulls on a skimpy swim brief and then masturbates into it is abnormal, relationship-challenged or some other equally derisive category. After all, in all this, male self pleasuring involving a garment is an abnormal fetish. The guy is more fond of the garment then having a real sexual relationship with a partner, etc etc.

Still, for many adult guys, the things they learned about their own bodies starting at puberty do not simply disappear when one reaches adulthood or even when one starts engaging in partner sex. The stuff I learned when I was 14 stuck like glue to my brain, and over the years I discovered a whole lot more. A basic problem I had as an adult is that I knew that if I got in a relationship, I simply was not going to be able to either act like what I knew about myself was not there or that a partner was going to ultimately be such a great substitute. I would never want to think back about all the fun I had when I was single! If others think partner sex was the way to go, fine for them, but the whole idea of a partner being a complete substitute for me was never going to happen. I would be miserable. I was simply having too much fun as a single person to want to mess up my life by constantly dealing with a partner.

Of course, guys move in and out of relationships with partners all the time. If having a sexual relationship with a partner is so all important, why do divorces take place? The bigger question, of course, is that if for whatever reason I no longer have a partner, how can I deal with my bodily urges in a satisfactory way? I know some guys think the only solution is to find another partner ASAP, but I have talked to men who have been married and divorced and then get into relationships and marry again, and this is still not satisfactory at all.

Still, if the guy has concluded that the only circumstance that works is to be with a partner then I guess that pairing up is the only solution. What I am saying is that there are solutions that are sexually- satisfying and do not involve another partner, but so long as you are led to believe that these solutions must be somehow “abnormal” then these solutions are not going to work for you.

I bounce around the porn sites on the Internet. The interesting idea I spot there is that any porn video involving male solo sex is automatically placed in the gay male section. The assumption I guess is that anyone wanting to learn about how other males pleasure themselves would be of interest only to guys who self-identify as gay. That does not seem correct to me at all. There could be an entire separate section devoted to solo-sex techniques. Indeed, the question I was constantly pondering as a young teen was whether or not my peers were experiencing the same things I was experiencing, and how they were dealing with the situations they faced. But the only thing teen males are usually willing to talk about is their encounters with females. The subject of what a guy does in bed alone at night, under the cover of darkness, still remains completely hidden from view.

Unless of course, you start reading the discussion in WTW and TAG! That I have shown a light on even some of this and others enjoy the stories is a great reward!

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Thoughts On Wearing (and Enjoying) A Swim Brief
 

Thoughts On Wearing (and Enjoying) A Swim Brief

The whole idea of wearing a swim brief presents a complicated problem for a lot of guys. First of all. Many guys have what I would call a complicated relationship with the more general idea of wearing clothing that fits snugly in the groin area, not only snug fitting swimwear, but also garments like underwear and even more generally, clothing such as snug fitting jeans.

At a very early age, a guy learns that his penis has some fascinating nerve endings that feel good even when touched, but even better under certain circumstances than others. Further, not all areas of the penis are equally sensitive in this regard, and some areas are more “responsive” than other areas. Then, of course, the entire linkage between touch and getting a hard-on comes into play. Getting blood to flow into your penis not only feels great, but also creates the beginnings of a hard-on. And it does not take a guy a lot of effort to understand that such an event, however good it feels, can lead to situations that could be, well, embarrassing. This leads to this odd situation whereby a guy develops something of a love-hate relationship with his own penis. It's nice to feel good, but for Pete's sake don't get me into a situation that is embarrassing.

Early on, a guy also probably learns that since some parts of his penis generates these complex sensations more readily than other parts, he quickly gets into a mode of trying to discover exactly what are the most interesting ways to engage in self-stimulation. This might begin by experimenting positioning yourself in a simple pair of cotton briefs. And doing this, a guy probably learns that the underside of his penis and also in the glans area near the tip are the two most sensitive parts, and positioning himself so that the underwear accidentally rubs against these two areas becomes an interesting way of taking advantage of this. With proper positioning, a guy can get these fascinating sensations all day long, but don't think too much about what you are doing or something embarrassing might happen, something that others might notice. So, if a guy is doing this there are serious bounds with respect to how carried away you can get just enjoying yourself this way.

But what is the next step? The material in cotton briefs is OK, but not really that smooth. The next step, of course, is to go for a swimming brief that fits like brief made of cotton, but with a smooth, slick material that is made of nylon, polyester and Lycra in combination. Not only will this material be a lot slicker than the ribbed cotton used in conventional cotton underwear, it also stretches more, meaning that the brief in place will probably fit tighter than the underwear did. The tricky part is that the guy probably needs an excuse for needing (wanting) to be in a swim brief. For guys who do not swim, this can create a barrier to running the experiment, the experiment being how do I feel down there when I wear a swim brief? Is the experience actually better than what I was experiencing when I was messing around in my ribbed cotton briefs? And, of course, if the guy is wearing the swim brief in a public or semi-public setting, the guy worries about what the bumps in the brief convey to any of the others who sees him.

That is wear the penis positioning problem comes in. A lot of guys think the safest position to be inside a swim brief is down. By positioning yourself downward, you are least likely to get into a situation in which you (inadvertently, of course) get into the start of a hard on. But guys who wear swim briefs very frequently go for positions that are not down. The two positions that come to mind are the penis forward position and the full-up position.

In the penis forward position, the tip of the penis and the glans area are pressed forward into the pouch of the swim brief, If the swim brief does not have a sewn-in pouch, then the penis forward position creates a bulge anyway, And the stretchy, slick material feels great pressing firmly against the glans. This position is a real treat both physically and psychologically.

The full penis up position requires a brief that fits really tight, sufficiently tight to cradle the entire underside of the penis in a firm grasp. This feels really really good. But that the guy has a penis in the grip of the brief is going to be obvious to everyone. Still, as stunts with the male anatomy go, this one falls in the category of not to be missed under any circumstance.

While both these positions are terrific fun, and fall into the category of two of the biggest reasons I enjoy being a guy, the downside is that in either position, the location of your penis tip within the brief is going to be quite obvious to anyone who sees you. Your male anatomy, while covered with the brief, is not hidden from view. And if you are truly enjoying yourself doing this, you are probably pre-cumming which will show up as a dark discoloration on the front of the brief at the penis tip, which is fairly obvious. Guys often deal with this by spending as little time as possible out of the water once it happens.

In a full penis up position you could also easily get into a situation whereby you are not looking at dime-sized precum stains but a full-scale ejaculation. It's best not to let that happen in the presence of others, and it is a good idea not to do this in a semi-public (ie gym locker room) or even public situation. It's also the thing that guys wary of wearing a swim brief worry about the most.

Still, a full ejaculation inside a swim brief falls into the category of one of those not-to-be-missed experiences of life, but this can be done in private. As my readers know I regularly use a swim brief as nighttime wear, and enjoy putting my body through a series of steps that I will refer to as useful experiments in living my life as a guy.

I am certain my readers will have some fun with these ideas.

Can an item you are wearing ever be “too tight”?
 

Can an item you are wearing ever be “too tight”?

My readers all know that I really enjoy wearing swim briefs, compression shorts and pants, thongs, jock straps and any other item that fits really tight in the groin area. I have long believed that those who read my articles have long shared a similar interest to my own, and perhaps even fall into the category of not really wanting to share that interest with others, or perhaps only a few others.

Still, guys all know that wearing garments that fit quite snug can quickly lead to a situation whereby the guy feels “good” down there, (somewhat, at least) a “secret pleasure”. This, of course leads directly into the topic of how do I use a snug-fitting document to “edge” myself, something I probably did as a teenager under the cover of darkness at night in my own room. Then as a young adult I confront the idea that solo edging is still really fun. But I am out on my own and have more opportunities to purchase garments that I hope will fulfill my solo “longings”.

But then the topic becomes “which types and styles of garments work best for me in this activity?” and, secondly, once I have settled on a particular garment, what size will work the best and give me the most “edging enjoyment” to give the activity a specific term.

We all know the stories about the swim team guys who are expected to wear briefs at the swim meets, and the “terror” that a guy might feel when the coach tells the guys that they need to downsize their briefs one size for the upcoming swim meet. Guys who only recently become “accustomed” to wearing their “correct” size of swim brief, face another form of terror when they are told they must wear a brief that is still smaller than the one they had become accustomed to wearing. But the terror is an interesting form of terror. If the guy feels a normal “pang” getting into a right-sized brief, with the urge to get erect become stronger in the downsized brief. How much can a guy sustain in how to this regard. Does the guy quickly get to the point of no return on this, where a big erection not only happens but the urge to ejaculate becomes overwhelming?

This is tricky stuff. But in a situation whereby you are alone you can not only have fun with your fears but learn the nuances of mitigate the urge to ejaculate, a useful skill in a variety of settings when you are engaging with a sexual partner as well. Besides, learning how to control your urges but in a longer term pleasantly erotic way is a great activity to learn as a single guy. So, all of this is very useful whether or not you are on a swim team, in a sexual relationship with a partner, or simply living alone for whatever reason you might have.

I have already written at length about my experiences buying several Speedo swim briefs in various sizes, then discovering that the material the brief was made from had inadequate stretch to be able for me to even get into once the size dropped below 32 inches. So, whether or not downsizing works in this game in part depends on the specific brief. Another problem is that you may fit into the smaller brief, but you quickly discover that the rear of the brief pulled as high as possible in back does not have a sufficient rise to fully cover the “Y” at the top of the butt crack. Some male Asian swimmers believe that exposure is perfectly OK and many Asian briefs are designed to fit that low in back in your “normal” size but this has not caught on in the US to any degree.

Then there are the thongs, some designed as underwear, some as swimwear, and some that claim they can be used as either. The issue here is whether the thong back should be wide enough and long enough such that the thong back covers the butt crack, or whether the back should be narrow and short enough such that the thing back cuts deeply between the glutes. For guys who have never worn a thong, the feel of the thong back wedged deeply between the glutes is a not-to-be missed treat. This sensation has always sent me into an edging mode called “thonging nirvana” and for guys who have never tried this they are missing out on one of the great experiences the male sexual anatomy provides. The thong back squeezes down on you while the pouch pushes your penis and balls upward and forward, Don’t knock the experience without trying it.

This morning, however, I am wearing a super tight pair of compression shorts, a pair I purchased years ago when Wal Mart was still selling the Starter brand. These remain in great condition, and they have stayed super tight for many years. These feel great on me (as I am horny as all get out writing this). These are men's adult SM. Generally, I would probably be a MED as my “correct” size. However, I am really fond of downsizing one size in both the compression shorts and pants. I am 5’10” and the full pants fit down to my ankles in SM and have a tighter fit than the MED pants would. In this case undersizing one size gets me exactly where I want to be on a day where I am feeling nice and horny, and ready to do my home gym workout this morning.

The basic idea is to find garments that just barely fit you. You will know when you have come across the ideal fit for you, particularly is situations where you are just “hanging out enjoying yourself and your body!

A snug fit at the Beach
 

Can an item you are wearing ever be “too tight”? Not for me! As a kid in the 1950's I discovered the exciting squeeze of nylon suits I had outgrown. I liked the flat front Ken doll look, and could wear them at the Beach. As an adult I discovered Gaff Thongs which have three front layers for a smooth tight flat front. These are worn by guys for drag or cosplay costumes too. I can "tuck" my cock and balls for comfort and pleasure too, where did they go? Medium looks and feels nice for all-day wear, Downsizing to Small is more for short-term pleasure. These stay on in rough surf at Riis Park Beach, and my shrinking in cold water looks even better. I am very hairy so I still look like a guy as I roam around the crowd. I tucked for this photo.
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Can a the Fit of a Garment be “too tight?”
 

Can a the Fit of a Garment be “too tight?”

At least, that is the way for most guys. But the real concern is having the situation get so out of control that ejaculation takes place, Can the fit of any garment simply be “too tight”?

Many guys have a genuine passion for wearing garments that fit very snug in the groin area, The swim brief is one of these items, but there are many more, and I have discussed and told stories about them for over a decade and longer. The items of course include swim briefs and swim thongs, but the list is much longer than that, including any garment that brings pleasure to a guy by making him feel horny. Guys learn about this phenomenon at a very early age. Initially, it comes as something of an unexpected surprise, probably after discovering not only that getting into the garment make him feel good in a most interesting way, often followed by the beginnings of an erection, which generally feels better and better the longer that it goes on. And, of course, in theory at least, the tighter the fit of the garment the more interesting and wonderful the sensations that occur.

As any guy also knows, there is a downside to all of this. A guy needs to make certain that whatever he is experiencing does not end up being noticeable, if the guy is in the presence of others. If such a horny experience while the guy is wearing a tight-fitting garment leads to a noticeable erection that is a potential concern if others see what is going on down there, but the problem becomes much more difficult if an ejaculation occurs, leading to trying to explain away large damp spots on whatever the clothing item is.

The clothing items that could set this all off comprise a big list, starting with classic swim briefs and swim thongs, but also including tight-fitting male swimwear with longer legs leading to jammers of various lengths, then on to all sorts of shapes and sizes of garments meant to be worn as underwear including briefs, thongs, bikini briefs and underwear with longer legs, athletic/compression shorts, athletic supporters with or without cups etc etc. The range of underwear styles available to men nowadays has always said to me that the underwear manufacturers have discovered that there is quite a sizable market for underwear that guys believe will make them feel horny down there. Many of the manufacturers are not quite ready to claim in ads that guys should purchase a particular garment because wearing it will make the guy feel already going on among many manufacturers.

Even men’s jeans fall into this category. We have just gone through a period of time where manufacturers kept coming up with tighter-fitting designs each year, culminating in a skin-tight fit like a painted on second skin, and leaving very little space for even a semi erection to happen. Whether a guy wearing a pair of these super slim fit jeans saw this as a problem or an opportunity is an interesting question.

In this article I want to think about the problem of whether or not there are limits to how tight any of these garments can fit. This does not matter what the garment is, just any garment that the guy somehow realizes he will feel horny. A basic example would be a swim brief in your “normal” waist size.

Guys have been known to purchase clothing items that fit snug in the groin simply because the item of clothing looks like something that would make them quickly get aroused and feel horny. Many guys probably have certain items in a dresser drawer that they have used many times specifically for this purpose. Swim briefs are often used for this purpose, but so are many of the other items I have mentioned. If a guy has a favorite swim brief for getting off, does that then mean that another copy of that swim brief sized down one size will make him feel even better? That is actually what I would call an empirical experiment. If you are into doing this, you will not actually know what the impacts of downsizing will be unless you just happen to own a copy of the same swim brief a size smaller.

In this sort of play, it is actually the tip and the underside of the penis that gets really good feeling in a hurry, so penis placement is critical in running your experiments here. Obviously, the brief cannot be so small you cannot get into it at all. If that happens you have overdone the downsizing bit. You want a brief that fits tight enough so that you can get into it but the only practical way to deal with even a slight erection is to put the penis in an “up” position. Even as you begin to get had, mere touching the covered penis keeps getting to feel better and better. You can also try this using a tight-fitting pair of compression shorts or a jammer. Similar sensations: different garment.

Some of the guys who like to play in really snug fitting jeans discover that a semi-erect penis only fits pointed down, along one leg, usually the left leg. If the jeans fit tight enough, as the guy walks,++ he will become stimulated more and more with each step, and a full-blown ejaculation is only moments away. It's best not to try this one in a public setting.

Last night I got to playing around with a tight-fitting 2x(ist) thong I had, one that pushes my penis forward and upward as the thong back crawls firmly between my glutes. This is a really fun thong for the kind of recreational wear I like to do. But I got to wondering what would happen if I pulled a tight-fitting Speedo over the top, so I did that and crawled back into bed. The Speedo was big enough to cover the thong in front, but in the rear, the waist band of the thong along with the Y was above the top of the brief. From the ft the Speedo covered the thong and the only thing going on was that the thong pouch pushed my penis upward and forward into the brief pouch. This looked and felt terrific. I could tug on the thong back which then tightened things up some more.

At some point even my edging skills ended up being inadequate, and I soon end up in full-scale orgasm mode. It did not hurt that only a few hours earlier I was playing with some new C rings I had purchased that are quite thick and heavy duty, but have a limited size inner hole. So, by the time

I was running my Thong-Speedo experiment, I was already feeling pretty good.

This morning, as I write this, I am still recovering from the events overnight!

I did not find the Reels video I saw earlier, but here is one on a related theme https://www.facebook.com/reel/379998661781950

and yet another https://www.facebook.com/reel/1005761097665904

Postscript
 

Postscript

I awoke early morning yesterday morning and immediately pulled on my snug modded jock and cup over my tighty whiteys. The cup stayed on for the rest of the day. Then I slept the night without the cup, just wearing a swim brief instead.

Initially, the cup pressing down on my penis feels quite good, though the sensations vary depending on how my penis is placed. One of the reasons why I wear the tighty whiteys underneath the cup is that they allow me to position my penis in a specific spot under the cup. The most fun place is with the tip pointed forward and upward, and the tight underwear means that it will stay stuck in that position with the cup pressing down firmly at the same time.

With all of this in position, the sensations I get are quite good, even memorable. These are the kinds of sensations that make my mind want to focus specifically on where they are coming from. I start to drip, almost immediately, and that keeps going on throughout the day. A lot of guys seem to believe that it is possible to just keep dripping for only a limited period of time, but that really is not the case. I was still dripping when I removed the cup at bedtime.

Of course, I do take bathroom breaks in which the cup is temporarily removed. But these breaks almost immediately cause a slight increase not decrease in blood flowing into my penis, which makes my erection a touch harder than it was before the break. Then, when the cup goes back on, the sensations get even better if a bit even less tolerable.

At this point, my mind wanders in two completely different directions. One part of me says this is really great fun and the last thing I want to do is to let my penis get out of the predicament it is in when inside the cup. But the other part of my brain says I really do need a break from all of this stimulation however enjoyable it is and the break would involve getting out of the strap and cup and recovering from the sequence of events that are driving me this way. Are sexual sensations really supposed to persist for 6 hours, 8 hours, or even longer? This is a form of edging involving a cup and strap.

At some point I understand the first video in my previous post. Young baseball players have spent hours playing the game while encased in a cup that mentally has been driving them bonkers, and they are anxious for some relief. But being in the cup for a lengthy period of time has been a learning experience as well, as in how the male penis behaves and exactly what happens if it is subjected to such a situation for a long period of time, the dripping along with all the odd but still very fascinating sensations that happens. So one part of a guy says the thing to do is to wear the cup only so long as the game is on, but the other part says that this is really not a bad place to be even when your mind is not distracted by playing in a ball game, and that there is something that can be said for the experience of being in a cup when a guy’s mind can focus on his penis,

Another way of coping with this as well is probably to go into a full-blown ejaculation while still wearing the snug cup, but guys often defer from this in that it is possible that odd damp spots will be noticed on the player’s uniform by the other players in the game. Maybe after so much cup stimulation, guys are happy to go into hiding and quickly relieve the pressures of the day with some old school masturbation in private after the strap and cup are off, perhaps in the shower. This is another of those interesting but seldom talked about topics by males.

I am anxious to do what I did yesterday again—wearing the strap and cup for an entire day, but maybe not today. I need more recovery time, first.

Wintertime Wear
 

Wintertime Wear

I have long observed that it is usually far easier to get to feel horny in the long warm days of summer than in the cold wintertime. I think this is true for most if not all guys. Somehow, in the short winter days things that normally happen from spring to fall rather shut down,

For guys who like to enjoy their own bodies as much as I do, this can be a problem, but can also be an opportunity, except to recognize that in the winter months you may have to work a little harder and be more creative if you really want to be your best at this.

The flames of arousal still burn in the winter months, though sometimes seemingly only as embers. The fire is not dead, but may need a little more encouragement this time of year.

I got to thinking about all of this last night and I started to make some progress using what for me has now become time-tested techniques. I am always amazed, for example, at what some lubrication will do, almost instantly even if my mind has been wondering and off subject. I now fully understand why bar soaps have all but disappeared and gel soaps have taken over, as gel soaps make an excellent lubricant for whatever it is you are doing. And rings of various shapes and sizes seem to always work for me as well. I have one that is very thick, with a very small hole. That feels really good at the base. Then I like a blue one in the middle, and a little beaded black one surrounding the glans. Combine these with a shower gel, and get in the water, The rings help sustain me in the water, while both looking and feeling great. Every guy should have access to a collection of rings.

Then, it is bed time. I continue to wear my DEVOPS winter compression gear. I always undersize the pants a bit, so they really compress. But I like to keep the long-sleeved tops the correct size. The really tricky part is what to wear UNDER the pants. A skimpy swim brief is a possibility, but I like to go snugger and skimpier than that. Maybe a really skimpy thong, like the ones I bought on Amazon branded Ikingsky. These seem “tame” at first, but the real point of wearing a thong like this becomes increasingly apparent as the night goes on. The rear strap is really narrow, and combining that with the SM size and in the wee hours of the morning you will likely discover that the strap has crawled deep between your glutes—both a wonderful fit and feel. The fact that these thongs come in really small sizes is an important part of the fun. Combining that with the tight DEVOPS gear and before morning you may come to the conclusion that the short days of winter are not so bad after all.

Of course, if you are in the mood to really enjoy yourself, after a night like this you might want to top everything with a final treatment from a magic wand style hand-held massage unit. This is the icing on the cake, so to speak, or the maraschino cherry on the top of the ice cream sundae! All the best for the holidays!

Spending the Night in a Cup The Original Version

This story I wrote in its original version over two decades ago, perhaps in the early 1990s. This is the original version, or very close to the original version. Then, as now, I was concerned for guys who do not have a regular physical relationship with a partner. But I was also very concerned with the bad reputation of solo masturbation and its purported linkage to guys who were socially inept since if they were masturbating they therefore were unable to be with a sexual partner.

Then, as I would now. I would promote solo masturbation not as something inferior to partner sex, but simply as an alternative sexual activity guys could pursue and enjoy in the absence of a sexual partner. In the past decades I have learned that many if not most men in relationships still enjoy solo masturbation, and the idea of mutual masturbation is not considered somehow abnormal or inferior either.

I attribute my interest in swim briefs, jock straps etc in part to the fact that as a teenager I never got to pursue swimming requiring a swim brief or other contact sports that required a strap and maybe a cup as well. At the same time, I knew that other guys my age were agonizing over the possibility that in order to participate in the sport they were going to have to wear these. As a young teen, I quickly. figured out that wearing these could quickly lead to arousal, which is what the other guys probably thought as well, and that is why they were apprehensive about the whole idea—it was really a mixture of fear and unbridled enthusiasm for feeling horny.

As a young adult, I quickly got into a situation where I was living alone, and could buy anything I wanted, swim brief, straps cups, and I was able to check out the various theories I had about these being excellent for feeling horny while engaging in solo sex. This has never stopped and probably one of the reasons I never even spent any time in seach of a sexual partner is that I was just having too much fun on my own and lacked any real interest in taking up with a partner who might jeopardize this. To this day I have no regrets sticking to my decisions along the way.

In order to write this, I first got into a pair of my favorite tighty whiteys, and then pulled on an ancient strap with a traditional hard cup (small, nearly flat and not very roomy) from the 90s with a tight pair of Starter brand compression shorts probably from the early 2000s. My stuff down there feels really, really good, and I have a loose-fitting pair of sweat pants pulled on over so no one who sees me today will be the wiser. I particularly like how my enis seems to “know” it is in a very confined space as the strap and cup presses down aided by the really snugness of the compression shorts (its time to drip precum !). But in the original essay I had already discovered the same idea.

I am going to end this here and post the near original version of Spending the Night in a Cup as a followup post including the reference to a long-gone newsgroup Web site.

Spending the Night in a Cup: The Near Original Version pt 1
 

Spending the Night in a Cup

by David Sebringsil

This story is intended primarily for those men who are not involved in an intimate relationship with another person. It is also intended for men who at times must spend a considerable amount of time away from their partner. Just because an individual is not involved with another person does not mean that a person is asexual, and is somehow doomed to never experience the interesting sexual sensations that their bodies are capable of producing. Indeed, many men living under such conditions could actually be experiencing a great deal more fun than their counterparts that are involved in intimate relationships. You may understand why this could be possible as the story proceeds.

Most men learn how to masturbate under very unfortunate set of circumstances. What is learned in our youth is very interesting-- masturbation is at once extraordinary fun, but somehow evil and something that any real man should be ashamed of. Thus, while most men enjoy masturbation immensely (Authors of a few sex manuals I have read argue that for many men, the orgasms are even stronger than those involved in heterosexual intercourse), they soon learn that in order not to be "discovered," they must complete the act from arousal to orgasm very quickly--perhaps in the space of a few minutes, likely in the bathroom, if possible; and perish the thought of having sheets and pajamas covered with ejaculate.

What's a fella to do after ejaculating in bed? Turn the light on to get up, clean up, and change pajamas? This will likely attract attention from whoever else is in the room or house, whether that be a roommate, a parent or another family member. The message is quickly learned that while masturbation (even involuntary masturbation from wet dreams) is a great deal of fun, the feeling of cold ejaculate for the rest of the night on the pajama leg is not fun, but must be endured to avoid being embarrassed by being "discovered." It's either that or a quickie masturbation session in he bathroom, all the time hoping that no one breaks in to ask why you are taking so long.

And it gets no better as men get older and move away from home. I routinely visit with college students over e-mail who are absolutely terrified of the thought that somehow their roommate or another male friend might discover that they masturbate. I'm not sure what the social signals are here--perhaps that any male who masturbates is somehow unable to form a relationship with a woman? Perhaps this means a person is gay? Why the extreme embarrassment about masturbation even among college students who brag about their other sexual conquests is unclear.

Whatever society is saying here is badly messed up. Masturbation is no sign of weakness, sexual preference, or anything else. Sure, gays masturbate, but virtually every other healthy male masturbates sometimes regardless of their sexual orientation, most throughout their lives.

Nearly every male thinks he does it more than he "should" as if there was some sort of nature-limited allocation. Occasionally, a man might not masturbate regularly if he is in a relationship in which he engages in partner sex so frequently that he lacks the energy do it any other time. Even here it gets confusing, because many forms of partner sex involve mutual masturbation or activities very similar to masturbation. After all, what is foreplay but a form of mutual masturbation? In addition, my hunch is that for most men, masturbation as a form of sexual play occurs far later into life than many people realize.

The problem, of course, is that like most other forms of sexual activity, masturbation is a great deal more fun if it can be taken slowly, with each sensation enjoyed for what it is, and with no concern for being discovered. Furthermore, unlearning the quickie techniques learned in childhood can not only be fun, but even ultimately enhance one's sex life should one get involved in an intimate relationship. Like other forms of sexual activity, it's important to introduce variety in masturbation. Part of the fun of sexuality is the unexpected; the unknown. With this background on masturbation, my story begins about spending a night in a jockstrap.

Before describing a technique employing a hard-cup jock strap, let me first say that I am a big proponent of sexual activities that are not dangerous and do no harm to anyone, and do not transmit disease. If they do not even require a partner, all the better. The approach I suggest here earns an A on all counts.

The internet is abuzz with discussions related to jock straps--A whole news group alt.support.jock-strap is devoted to it. This newsgroup does not exist because of widespread interest in what needs to be worn to protect oneself during contact sports--there is obviously something with sexual overtones going on here. In describing the following technique, I am indebted to one of my e-mail newsgroup contacts, who provided me with some ideas I had not thought of, but I have added some additional ideas of my own that seem to work for me.

Most men, when they think of sexual feelings, tend to identify with the pleasant sensations obtained from stroking the penis, particularly the underside of the head, or the area technically called the frenulum (Has it occurred to everyone that there is a biological reason why nature made that particular spot is so ultra-sensitive? e-mail me and I will explain my theory on that further). But the entire groin area is one giant erogenous zone, including little recognized places such as the inner thighs, and in particular, the area between the scrotum or anus.

Thus, any article of clothing that comes into contact with any of these areas is capable of introducing sensations, some perceived as being clearly sexual, others not, and still others in a strange halfway region that depends on the particular situation. Most men have trouble interpreting signals in this latter category. Most of these sensations are pleasant, but some are interpreted by the brain as being more nearly sexual than others. Is the simple act of putting on a tight fitting pair of underwear sexual or not? I suppose that depends on how the individual interprets the tactile signals. The underWWWear site has served an important function in showing that there are a lot of men, regardless of orientation, who are not certain what to make of all this. However, if you interpret a sensation to be sexual, then for you it undoubtedly is.

Jock straps are of interest because they are the one article of clothing (underwear) that by design and purpose, fit very tight to the groin, perhaps tighter than any other garment. But as the underWWWear site suggests there is also a good deal of quasi-sexual interest in brief and thong swimwear, cycling and compression shorts that contain spandex and the like. (I'm still trying to figure out loose-fitting "boxer people"in this regard. Something similar must be going on based on their observed behavior--perhaps some of you could clue me in on the details of how you interpret the tactile signals from loose fitting boxers. I don't mean to demean my friends who wear boxers, its just that the tactile signals appear to me to be less clear)
Now for the fun part. Actually, you may or may not find this activity fun depending on your mindset. But bear with me. As is widely recognized, the sex organs of a man's body go through a number of erection cycles during the night, some of which may ultimately lead to an unintended orgasm or wet dream. Because of the pressure, any article of clothing that fits tightly to any part of the groin area, (including but not limited to the penis and scrotum} will tend to produce new and perhaps interesting and unanticipated sensations as these arousal cycles proceed. The brain may interpret many of these sensations as providing a great deal of fun (or it may simply interpret them as simply wearing uncomfortable clothing!)

More than a few men enjoy wearing jockstraps as sleepwear. Others who interpret the tactile signals differently (and they have every right to. It's their brain!) describe the sensations in very non-sexual terms--simply as uncomfortable. There appear to be two categories of men: those that prefer loose-fitting clothing and those who enjoy tight fitting clothing as sleepwear. I clearly fall into the latter group. (I also suspect that the loose-fitting group are big on masturbating quickly, focusing almost exclusively on the penis, but that is another arguable story/theory of mine, which will probably result in outcries from the boxer crowd!)

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Now suppose that an additional element is added: a hard cup. Much chatroom discussion centers on the supposedly erotic qualities of the streamlined Bike cup. My problem with the Bike cup is that it doesn't produce a tight enough fit to the penis, allowing the penis to flop around a lot. As sleepwear, in this experiment the whole idea is to find as tight a fitting cup as possible, one that just barely contains your flaccid penis. A couple of readily available possibilities for me are the TRU-Fit cup (K- Mart and Dick's Sporting Goods, large youth 26-32) and the Duke (Wal Mart, large youth) but if you really must, you could try the Bike.

The cup of the Tru-Fit and the American made Duke are nearly identical in size and shape. The GRID is made of nylon, and feels colder to the skin. The Duke has a broader foam surround on the cup and is made of a softer material, perhaps a cotton or polyester blend. If you must have one, Bike's are available at Target.

Next, slip the jock strap and cup on and crawl into bed. This is how you will look with the thong under and the jock and cup over. Note that there is basically no room for any sort of erection.

You will certainly want to wear the jock over a tight fitting pair of briefs or better still,a thong. The pressure of the thong strap along with the straps of the jock is interesting. In addition, for a good fit the cup should be held really tight to the groin, so you may want to top this off with a pair of compression shorts --Try the Ace compression shorts available in drug-stores--they really compress and provide some interesting sensations to the inner thighs as well, but the cotton/lycra Spaulding cycling shorts available at Wal Mart are nifty too.The illustration is Bollinger compression shorts. I bought these several years ago and am not sure of their current availability

Try to find a comfortable position to drift off to sleep in. Problem number 1 that may occur: The feel of the cup held tightly to the groin is starting to be interpreted by your body as a sexual rather than as a non-sexual sensation, and you are starting to feel slightly aroused. What's more interesting, you are starting to sense the distinct pressure of the hard cup against the penis. Meanwhile, the cord of the thong is starting to tug away as the penis hardens slightly, and the straps of the jock are starting to bind a bit. What to do? Try to quit thinking about where your sex organs are, and attempt to get some much-needed rest.

Problem number 2: You fall asleep but soon wake up again and the situation is not getting any better. You are still stuck in all the layers of clothing and the straps are starting to really put the tension on. Somehow the sensations of all of this are magnified at night making it more difficult to handle than when you are awake.

Now its 3:00 AM and you discover that the feelings you earlier that night had interpreted as only mildly sexual are turning into a serious hard-on. Your brain interprets the tactile signals from the groin area as if everything in the groin area is getting tighter with no way out. Moreover, the thong strap which was tolerable earlier that nite is really starting to tug on your rear end. Meanwhile, the cup feels hard and cold, the pressure of the hard cup on the penis is building, and can no longer be put out of your mind. Serious trouble! What's worse, you are starting to experience sensations that are screaming to your brain "I need to ejaculate, and the sooner the better!"

You reach down, thinking there is a simple fix to all of this. Just stroke the penis to ejaculate and relieve the pressure. But given the cup and clothing, this is not so easy. That doggone cup is in the way. You know that if you could only touch the frenulum of the penis, you would go off quickly, but that is in a position which you can't get to. At least not very easily. This is maddening. Maddening, frustrating--but at the same time, terrific fun! You are nearly out of your mind in agony, desperately needing to ejaculate but not quite being able to reach the erection level at the point where you can. Keep going. Maybe there is hope.

You keep trying. What will possibly work? You try to stroke your penis through the cup, but that doesn't quite do it. You attempt to adjust the cup by pressing it sideways and downward hoping that you can find some temporary position that will provide momentary relief from pressure and the agony. But if you have chosen your jock strap well, nothing will work. When you move the cup a bit, the penis senses the pressure as a new sensation and gets a bit harder instead. You even try laying on your stomach, but that just presses the cup closer to the groin, which doesn't improve the situation either.

You squirm a lot, in an unsuccessful attempt to relieve the agony. But after what may seem to be an excruciatingly long period of time, perhaps an hour or more,the situation is ultimately resolved. Either (1) the hard-on subsides on its own, (2) you end up reaching a stage where you finally are able to ejaculate into the cup, or (3) In total frustration you pull off everything and masturbate to orgasm. I've had some great orgasms by masturbation (I like to wrap the penis in a facial tissue to collect he ejaculate, then stroke through the tissue) after an hour or two of this, but all three events have happened to me on various occasions. You never quite know how it will turn out.

The amount of fun you will have doing this seems to vary depending on how long it has been since your last orgasm. This activity is particularly enjoyable if you have already gone 2-3 days without ejaculating. So if it doesn't work for you the first night, then try for another nite.

The next day, I often experience some rather weird sensations centered in the pit of my stomach--interestingly enough a craving or longing for the pressure and sensation of the cup to be again held tightly against the groin. A new nervous pathway has clearly developed that "remembers" the sensations of the night before, and craves their continuation. It's the strangest feeling--I come home from work anxious to pull on the cup again. I am curious if others get this delayed sensation as well.

As near as I can determine, this is a quite safe form of sex play for us single and unattached guys. I would like to hear from others who have or are interested in trying this. I would also be particularly interested in other techniques used by those not involved in a sexual relationship with another person. I am not interested in anything that is dangerous, harms someone else, transmits diseases, or involves putting carrots or cucumbers in body orifices where they don't really belong.

Best of luck, and I enjoy hearing about your ideas and experiences. Very little has been written on the topic of sex play for unattached guys. Most sex manuals seen to act as if the problem is one of finding a significant other. I don't see it that way.

Enjoy and have fun!

Sebbie