It’s hard..
 

It’s hard to describe in only words what is going on in the minds and bodies of the four college freshmen, Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh, but things have certainly changed since high-school days. Throughout high school (and before) guys develop elaborate techniques for concealing but still engaging in self-pleasuring. Part of this involves developing methods for ensuring that they can bring themselves to orgasm in a hurry in an effort to limit opportunities for detection. Further, even admitting any interest in self-pleasuring is something off limits, for fear of being teased, bullied, or accused of being gay.

Somehow, however, all these carefully-developed “rules" are rapidly disappearing. For guys the age of the four college students, this is, well, to put it mildly, an interesting development to be sure.

Here is what is new and different. The four guys thought they had learned all there was to know about self pleasuring based on “experiments” run before they got to college. The “big payoff” was orgasm, and the goal was to get to that point as quickly as possible in an attempt to avoid detection. Further, guys would go to great lengths to try and avoid any situation that might lead to something embarrassing happening in a non-private situation.

This quickly gets complicated for guys. Guys rapidly learn that the only socially accepted place to have an erection is in privacy with a female partner, but of course, that is not quite how male bodies work. Guys quickly discover that there can be many instances where erections just seem to happen spontaneously, for no apparent reason whatsoever. And then there are situations guys encounter whereby something specific occurs not with a partner that can do the same thing.

For many teenage males who want to participate in swimming as a sport, this may be merely the thought of being clad in a skimpy team-required swimming brief. Some guys go into full-scale panic on this one, as in what happens if I get an erection inside the brief and all the people watching me swim at the pool sees that. Or worse, How would I ever deal with a full-blown orgasm in such a situation like this? Holy terror for sure.

And snug-fitting jammers are little better in this respect. A properly-fitting jammer too reveals a lot about the shape of the male anatomy at any moment, and an erection or orgasm would be every bit as obvious.

Then there are the jock straps, cups, compression gear and wrestling singlets. All scary in their own way.

But still, nearly every guy loves to pleasure himself. By age 19, self-pleasuring has become almost an addiction of sorts, if a “safe” and “harmless” one. Few if any guys have not discovered this by age 19.

So what is new for our college students now? Well, the whole idea that guys might actually seek out specific garments that they know will lead to arousal and erection, indeed the very items that would have been terrifying in their high school days for the reasons I have outlined above. When Bill, Joe and Dylan made that Amazon® order many chapters ago, they all knew exactly what they were seeking to do, even if they did not make any overt statements. The whole idea was to find the specific items that they thought each of their bodies would be most “sensitive’ to wearing.

For guys to even get together and do this as a group of three represents a significant change. As high school students, none of them would have had the courage to do this as a group, even though they all understood as individuals what they were doing and why they were doing it. To admit this openly would have undoubtedly subjected themselves to the potential of being teased, bullied, called gay, or worse.

Penises are interesting organs. Guys touch their penises every day, and wear clothing that touches their penises every day, and nothing in the arousal or erection department happens. So why does arousal and erection happen under certain circumstances? What is it about the situation at hand that makes this happen under some circumstances but not others? What is is about specific items of clothing that seem to affect some males more than others in this regard?

Those are not easy questions to answer, not at all. The fit of the clothing? Snug and tight works “better” (or worse, depending on your perspective at the moment) than loose and floppy? (That would explain the fascination many guys have with wearing the smallest and slickest swim brief they can find!) The feel of the material (slick and stretchy works best)? The psychological experience of putting one’s penis into what is clearly a confined space? A space that is obviously not big enough to contain a full-blown erection. That would explain why some guys “fear” jock cups, but then suddenly decide that it is really fun to be contained inside of one. The mere possibility that a guy could be in a situation wearing one or more of these items is a potential turn-on for many guys.

The other complicating factor here ts that the four college students are wearing items such as these in the presence of each other, while maintaining the appearance that they are just going to the gym to engage in gym workouts of various sorts. Yet, none of our four college guys are brain-dead. Even if they do not know for certain that their friends are stuck in the same psychosexual box, surely each of them suspects that. And this is the part that gets really dicey and complicated. It’s fun to try these ideas on your own and see how your body responds to the situation at hand. But this fun is surely magnified if you are with other guys who you know are doing the same things to each of their own bodies. Is this something of a gay response? That is a fascinating question too, and one that I will not attempt to answer right now.

For our four guys, we are deep into precum time. Enjoy the oozing!

To be continued….

Shy about getting hard wearing a speedo or singlet under clothes to the doctors.
 

I have a college age friend who like going to the gym an swimming at our men's health club. One day as he arrived at the gym with me, he had a call from his doctor to please come the office for updating important medical information and records. He decided to go to see the doctor and asked me to go with him. I agreed, as he was thinking this was just an important update for his insurance. He was still wearing his favorite snug blue singlet under jeans with French lycra briefs. After a short time in the waiting room he was called in by the nurse, when told he would have to take a full medical examination. Soon the doctor(female) entered the exam room and apologized for the last minute call up. Before the doctor left, she said he will have to completely undressed, when he said to me his outfit was getting him hard underneath, now feeling a lot of anxiety, he was feeling somewhat embarrassed being naked with a woman doctor, but glad I was there with him. The nurse now returned with a large gown for him and said she would help him out of his snug sports attire. While I sat in the seat in the exam room and him sitting on the exam table, the nurse partially closed the large privacy curtain and I could now see what would happen with him. He took off his jeans and shirt, then handed them to me. He was in only the tight blue singlet that revealed all his assets including his full erection . The nurse gave him a big smile, telling him not to be embarrassed having an erection, as she readied the various medical equipment for his unscheduled physical exam. The nurse told him he had to completely undressed, as he blushed. He asked me to help him get ready. The nurse left the room as I lowered the shoulder straps on his clinging singlet, slowly peeling it down and seeing how hard he was underneath. He would act like a little boy squirming, trying to cover his well outlined hard on and began enjoying having stripped it off. I kept my composer and liked getting his firm college age body naked in such a different situation. I was getting hard too and glad I was still in my tight Speedo. Once I got his upper torso bare, I hoped the nurse would come back to take his blood pressure and weight, but she didn't, so I said he should finish stripping it off, but he still wanted me take it off, so I began unsnuging both the still clinging singlet and tight French briefs underneath. He was certainly very excited feeling the two layers of lycra slowly slip free from his hard penis. I was having some fun with him too, while turning him around a few times, then bending him over with his now freed up erection bouncing and pointing upward. Fortunately he didn't ejaculate, but had a lot of pre cum in his singlet. It was a bit time consuming, yet very enjoyable for both of us, as his all of his lower assets were freed and exposed. He was finally naked with me freeing his ankles and feet from both the tangled singlet and French briefs. Soon the nurse returned to the exam room while he was putting the gown on and I left the exam area with his singlet and undies. The doctor then entered the examination room finishing finishing his physical exam. it was somewhat a time consuming examination for him and later said he wished he had gone to the Health club instead and so did I, but was glad to have been there getting him out of his snug blue singlet and briefs. I was happy helping him get through his medical plight

:-) swimsuit Eddie you need to pull your chapters together into a separate series of posts so people can read them in sequence. This is easy to do. Just a series of copies and pastes.

The basics...
 

It’s strange as to how the male anatomy works, but also very interesting. Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh are learning things about themselves that they have never explored before. Sexual arousal works in strange and wonderful ways, but especially sexual arousal in which another person is not specifically involved.

I suppose that some guys might argue that what I am talking about here is unimportant relative to the “real thing” of sex involving a partner. Yet, even here there is much to be discovered and savored. Sexual arousal is a lot of fun even in instances where a sexual partner is not involved. The many Internet videos showing guys engaging in solo sex attest to that. An interesting question is what is really going on inside the heads of guys who not only engage in solo sex, but who also are willing to put the experience up on an Internet video for all to see. But notice that in most of these videos, the face is discretely hidden. This probably goes back to the old idea that guys who admit to engaging in masturbation are at least to a degree embarrassed by that fact, as in masturbation is not to be confused with real, partner sex.

Any guy who admits to enjoying solo sex risks a very real possibility of being teased and bullied, or worse. An admission like this is even more dangerous if a young woman finds out. Young women are generally taught by their moms that the female is the sole source of pleasure for men, and that is the end of the subject. If a guy is caught engaging in solo sex then somehow the female is inadequate in playing her role.

But young males at a very early age develop masturbation habits that are frequently all but impossible to simply discard even in a relationship. Any guy in a relationship ends up dealing with these old habits in his own way, some more successfully than others.

The situation Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh find themselves in, wearing clothing that in various ways fits snug enough to almost certainly lead to arousal, is slightly different. I suppose a psychologist would argue that each of them to a degree has a sexual fetish for snug-fitting athletic clothing. By calling this interest a fetish allows psychologists to label what the four of them are doing right now as something of a psychosexual abnormality. Not a dangerous abnormality, but becoming of concern particularly if the interest in the clothing limits a guy’s interest and interaction with a potential sexual partner.

The same “experts” who up until they early 1970s labeled being gay as a psychological abnormality, now are content to label any sexual activity that doesn’t involve a partner as somehow abnormal or at minimum, clinging inappropriately to adolescence.

That seems really unfair to guys. Sometimes guys just want to enjoy themselves without getting into the complexities of a partner relationship of any sort. As a consequence, the activities are generally harmless fun, if on occasion a bit embarrassing when discovered.

That is what makes the situation Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh find themselves in today as they walk to the gym clad in their gear. Nothing is said, but it is quite clear to each of them what the others are doing and why they are doing it. This is a shared experience, an experience they would have never dared participate in only a few years ago.

So it goes.

To be continued…..

The Wrestling Singlet
 

Wrestling singlets similar to the Forest Green asics® one Josh is wearing pose some interesting issues for guys. Think about this for a moment. A wrestling singlet is designed for a specific purpose: That is, to provide a garment for wrestling another guy. Think about the requirements for that sport. The last thing a wrestler would want to wear for wrestling would be something loose-fitting that would provide a place for the opponent to get a firm grip on you in any place. Smooth and slick Lycra® based or similar fabrics fit this requirement well.

But it is not only the fabric, but also the fit. Wrestling singlets have to conform to the body exactly, and again particularly not be oversized in any place, and, of course, be one-piece not two piece, as any break at the waist would give the opponent a piece of cloth to grab onto. A properly-designed wrestling singlet has to fit really tight and snug, with shoulder straps that just barely are long enough to fit over the shoulders, and front chest coverage that fits nearly to the neck in order to not create another place where the opponent could get a grip in a match.

For guys, this poses something of a dilemma, because the properly fitting shoulder straps do not have enough stretch to them to create another possible grip point. If the guy is going to successfully get into the singlet, in order for the shoulder straps to be in a proper position the singlet has to be pulled up into the crotch and groin area to ease getting into the shoulder straps.

No doubt, many guys find all these necessary gyrations just to get into the wrestling garment more than a little “stimulating,” and that poses yet another dilemma for guys. The dilemma of course is “what happens if I get even a semi-erection as I am getting into this. The issue becomes harder to deal with by the fact that once a guy is in a singlet, for better or worse, his male body parts are where they are. The front of the singlet fits high to the chest. Guy’s are used to making “adjustments” to their male equipment once a snug-fitting garment is in place, but given how the singlet fits, there is no path to being able to do this without taking off the entire garment. So the poor guy’s male body parts are stuck in whatever position they happen to be in once the garment is tugged into place and the shoulder straps have been pulled into position.

Of course, this also is linked to what the guy is wearing around his male body parts before the singlet gets tugged into place. An old school jock strap would seem to make some sense here, with or without a cup. Wearing nothing at all underneath could set up a physically dangerous situation if the opponent decides to surreptitiously grab onto a male body part momentarily away from the view of the referee. A strap without a cup may make this a bit less painful, but adequate protection really calls for a protective cup. But that idea of packing yourself into a strap and cup and then pulling the singlet over poses its own issues. Interesting issues to be sure. Pleasant? Unpleasant? A guy won’t know until he tries the combination.

But now, think about Josh and the dilemma he is currently in. Keep in mind he is wearing that Desmiit® thong underwear underneath the singlet that he quickly got into thong that provides minimal room for key male body parts, especially for any expansion. The singlet went on over, and the Desmitt® thong ended up going wherever it wanted to go. Worse, Josh faces the dilemma of having to sustain the situation he is in with the key parts of the thong wherever it ended up once the singlet straps got in place. Here is hoping that his penis and balls somehow still remain inside the thong pouch, a pouch that is pushing his male body parts upward and forward, which must be creating an interesting bulge on the front of the singlet. The rear of the thong is now really cinching up in Josh’s crack as well, with no way to adjust here either. And Josh is now going to attempt to exercise at the gym wearing this stuff?

What a dilemma! Interesting? Sure! Painful? Possibly! Fun? Well, that remains to be seen. I keep thinking it would certainly be fun to be in Josh’s “shoes” right now given the “issues” he now faces. No wait: in Josh’s SINGLET right now. The pump has certainly been “primed” for Josh, and Josh knows that too! Josh is precumming, and a quarter-sized damp spot has already formed on the front of the singlet. Maybe no one will notice, Josh thinks.

To be continued….

How much tension can a guy tolerate, and for how long?
 

Bill and Joe have, at least to a degree, become “expert” at making the most from each of their bodies with the assistance of various items of snug-fitting clothing. At least, they are farther along a learning curve on how exactly to do this, and what works or doesn’t work for them than Dylan and Josh are.

The basic idea Bill and Joe are employing is an interesting one, and one that probably doesn’t even occur to take advantage of by most guys their age. Every guy spends considerable time and energy learning the nuances of how to self-pleasure (masturbate) using a variety of techniques. But, for an assortment of reasons, guys mainly learn how to masturbate with the whole idea of getting off as quickly as possible. In this brave world, quicker is better. And quicker means not getting to savor all those wonderful moments that occur “along the journey” that leads to orgasm so to speak.

The sad part about all of this is that once guys get to the point where they are having sex with a partner, they bring what they think are skills in knowing how to get off in a hurry right into the relationship. Pick up almost any book or sex manual that attempts to help couples have a better sexual relationship, and there will be a large quantity of material related to the male problem called “premature ejaculation” and how males can learn specific techniques for remaining aroused but delaying orgasm as long as possible. Sex therapists have made entire careers around this particular sexual problem.

The basic psychosexual problem is that once a guy gets aroused, he somehow believes that he must then proceed to orgasm, and worse, that the quicker he is able to do that, somehow, the “more of a male” he is. This is silly, of course, and the “Slow Hand” song ‘subtly deals with all of this as a male sexual problem. The whole idea being to slow down and enjoy the moments along the journey as opposed to getting to the destination as quickly as possible.

The situation Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh currently are in has some parallels to all of this. The complicating part about all of this is that they are four guys, not two heterosexual couples. Still, they are dealing with the same sensations and urges that affect relationships between couples. The four of them at this point certainly know that because of what each of them are wearing that the others must be at least somewhat aroused. Does that knowledge contribute to making the entire situation at hand more erotic for each of them, and perhaps even somewhat “gay?” That is a very interesting question. Does nearly every guy get aroused by knowing that he is with one (or more) other guys who is in the same situation, or is that only part of what would make a guy a gay male?

So, what are Bill and Joe doing to themselves that is putting both of them into a state of at least mild arousal? Both are wearing straps with cups under their compression gear. Not big, floppy straps with oversized cups, but small, snug-fitting straps with cups small enough to only fit well if they are completely flaccid. These are the very kinds of gym wear that used to terrify them when they were, say 14 years old.

Back then, many of the guys used to cope with the situation they were facing by not putting the strap and cup over their completely nude body, but instead first put on a snug-fitting pair of FOTL briefs and then put the strap and cup on over. The FOTL brief, especially if undersized (the pair you grew out of two years ago still in the back of your dresser drawer). The cotton briefs helps to keep the penis from migrating into the pouch and cup of the strap and in particularly getting semi aroused with the penis brushing firmly against the walls of the cup. A useful approach if you are 14 years old.

But Bill and Joe are no longer 14 but 19 years old, and are interested in trying some stuff they would not have dared try some years earlier. In this respect, male thong underwear worn under a cup and strap can make for a lot more interesting sensations than the old FOTL idea in that the thong fit requires the penis (and balls to be positioned inside the pouch. The thong generally puts a lot of tension on a guy’s perineum area as well, and this can feel quite erotic on its own. The thong will tend to push a guy’s male body parts upward and forward. If worn under a strap and cup, the thong will tend to push the penis right into the cup with three sides of the penis quickly pressing against the hard walls of the cup. Just thinking about what is happening here can be quite erotic and fun, a combination of physical sensations and psychological pressures all working at the same time.

The strap itself provides a snug fit, and will make almost no movement to accommodate an erection. But then, by putting the compression shorts over, they help hold everything in place such that the room to grow is minimal. So, the thongs feel good in that they are pressing up on the guy just behind his balls. The penis is being pushed upward and forward so that it is coming in contact directly with the walls of the cup. The guy is gradually getting harder but the room to grow is quite limited. He reaches down and strokes the exterior walls of the cup with the palm of his hand, and maybe surreptitiously attempts to move the cup away from his body for a moment in an attempt to get some “relief” from the situation. Maybe just a moment or two of some extra penis space.

This quickly backfires, however because once the cup snaps back into position, the penis has taken advantage of the situation by becoming just a bit bigger. Think snugger and tighter fit in a situation that was already quite snug and tight.

Bill has to know that what Joe is struggling with all of this. Joe has to know what Bill is struggling with. And the whole idea is that clad in this gear the four of them are headed off to the gym to exercise. Maybe the gym will take their minds off of what they are wearing. Maybe not.

And what of Dylan’s situation? Dylan is not wearing a thong under his cup and strap, but rather he put on that little Desmiit® swim brief with the strap and cup as well. Dylan’s mind and body are in a dilemma too, but it is a little different from the ones Bill and Joe are in.

The three of them attempt to make the situation more bearable by trying to adjust the position of their cups, but this only seems to make matters worse, not better.

To be continued…

It’s off to the gym for the four of them
 

Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh are off to the gym, a city block or so away from the dorm where they are living. Each guy is a little different in how each copes with the situation at hand which is creating sexual tension, and as a consequence, the techniques each guy employs to cope will not all be the same.

Two of the guys, Bill and Joe, are wearing snug-fitting thongs under their straps and cups. These thongs tend to hold the penis firmly in place and pressed against the inside of the strap pouch and cup. This is fine so long as the guy can avoid getting into an erection mode while all of this is going on, but that is not the easiest thing to avoid under the circumstance. Somehow, the penis seems to “know” that there are walls of the plastic up nearby, and it seeks to “respond” accordingly.

Just walking to the gym under such a circumstance can cause issues, because as the guy walks, the strap ouch and cup will want to slide back and forth with each step the guy takes. This can quickly get, well, interesting, particularly if the guy attempts to provide a moment of relief by attempting to move the cup into a slightly different position, a technique that almost never works as intended.

Dylan is wearing a swim brief under his jock and cup. That may seem at first to be a “saner” choice than what Bill and Joe are wearing. The problem for Dylan is that the slick smooth feel of the swim brief cinched snuggly near his penis presents its own set of issues given that the cup will still be sliding rhythmically back and forth as Dylan walks along the street. A little different from what Bill and Joe are experiencing, but no less interesting, for sure.

Then there is Josh, the “newcomer” to all of this, wearing just the thong and Dylan’s borrowed Forest Green wrestling singlet. Josh’s basic problem is that he is still wary of how his body will respond to wearing the thong. He can feel that pressure of the thong on his perineum, an area of his body that he never before quite realized was sexually active as it appears to be. What seemed at first to be almost painful is quickly morphing into something quite enjoyable. This is a body-AND-brain kind of thing. The body responds to all of this by precumming, but with the thong holding Josh’s penis forward and up, the tip is pressed against the singlet. Any precum Josh oozes is going to quickly make itself known on the front of the singlet, right where the penis tip is. This is already happening, and Josh is hoping the other guys won’t notice. The precum the other guys are oozing is, at least for now, safely “contained” within their respective jock cups. Josh now realizes that perhaps one reason why athletes still wear cups is to hide such discharges in public settings. Swimmers who get this way wearing little briefs tend to hop into the water quickly in an effort to hide the evidence, so to speak.

Somehow the four of them manage to all make it to the gym, precumming notwithstanding, and they start to check out the exercise equipment available. The college rowing team uses this gym for indoor practice, and there are several first class stationary rowing machines there in a long row, just down from the series of stationary bikes and treadmills. There is also a smaller indoor pool, not a pool really designed for a competitive swimmer, but a smaller, short lap and water exercise one. Of the four, Dylan, by removing his compression gear along with his strap and cup, the only one dressed to take a swim. Dylan is drawn to this option.

Bill and Joe, meanwhile, are drawn to the stationary bikes, secretly thinking that they would like to see how their cups and thongs would do under the relentless pressure of the cyclical movement of the cycle, not to mention the issue of how the back of the thong copes with the pressure from the bike seat at the same time. Bill and Joe in their compression gear actually look the part of a cyclist in training, and Josh in the singlet looks the part of a rower in training. So, all is well for now at least.

To be continued…

The guys are struggling, a little
 

On their first encounters with a jock strap containing a cup, most guys are probably even more than apprehensive. This in part because of the fear nearly every guy has about getting his gonads into a snug-fitting place. By the time guys get the age of the four college students, I suppose that most guys have had the opportunity to find ways to cope with and perhaps even overcome these fears that seem often to be all but overwhelming at a younger age.

Bill, Joe, Dylan and even Josh, are absolutely no different than any other guy their age. Growing up, guys often seem interested in wearing very loose-fitting, not snug-fitting clothing, probably out of fear that something embarrassing could happen if they approached the problem at hand in any other way. The idea of going “juicy” in such a circumstance is too unbearable to even contemplate in this regard.

But for the four of them, things are suddenly becoming more and more complicated. In the case of the three wearing the straps and cups, this is especially true, whether the strap and cup is over a thong (Bill and Joe) or over a swimming brief, like Dylan is wearing.

To be effective “protection” a strap and cup should fit closely around the genitalia, but this creates other issues that need to be confronted. For starters, a snug-fitting cup will almost certainly make its presence known to the guy, often in what seems to be uncomfortable if not almost painful ways.

Then there is the practical problem of space needed versus space available. A guy never knows for sure exactly how much space his body is going to need in any particular situation, and certainly not a situation whereby a snug-fitting cup is playing a significant role in what is happening. The guy usually thinks that too much space must be preferable to too little space, and it’s the limited space circumstances that will be most problematic.

Oddly enough, the penis seems to somehow “sense” how much space is available and make appropriate adjustments such that the available space is not overwhelmed. Still, penises love to play little games in this regard on guys, making use of the available space to the absolute maximum. Under the circumstance at hand, guys frequently find this all uncomfortable, at least initially, if not downright painful to endure. But strangely enough, what initially seems at least less than satisfactory abruptly morphs into something completely different, something that provides sensations which can only be described as exquisite.

So now we have the four of them at the gym and making their initial selections as to which gym machine each of them they are going to try first. Since the gym is also the place where the college rowing team does indoor workouts, Josh is immediately drawn to one of those stationary machines. I should mention here that the combination of a wrestling singlet along with a thong underneath makes for very good rowing attire, Josh is wearing is very similar to the once the college rowing team wears. What is going to happen to the thong underneath in the strenuous back and forth movement accompanying each rowing stroke should be most interesting. Josh is enthusiastic, but at the same time somewhat apprehensive about the situation he will be facing.

Dylan, meanwhile, hops on one of the big treadmills. Dylan is going to be doing a back-and-forth motion both slow and fast, and Dylan wonders how what he is wearing is going to accommodate the movement—the swim brief, but also the strap and cup. Dylan has been eyeing the little swimming pol as well, and he is the only one who could quickly be dressed for a swim

Bill and Joe are headed to the stationary bikes. That amounts to a different kind of back-and-forth movement. Bill and Joe know that it will be all but impossible to make the cyclical bicycle motion while wearing the straps, cups, thongs and compression gear without having some sensations resonate throughout their bodies, but that was part of the plan all along for the two of them. They both knew this was going to be tricky but possibly really fun and the uncertainty about how their bodies are going to cope with the situation they are about to pursue is part of what makes the experiment worth pursuing.

So the four of them are beginning their respective exercise regimens, each a bit apprehensive, but curious.

To be continued….

Josh chooses the stationary rowing machine.
 

To be sure, Josh has never before ridden a stationary rowing machine. This is an all-new experience for him, and one that he will not likely soon forget. Clad in the forest green asics singlet “on loan” from Dylan, Josh looks the part of a college rower. Of course, he doesn’t yet have the muscles of a competitive college rower, but that is where the machine comes in.

Stationary rowing is an interesting exercise in all sorts of different ways. The college rowing team looks at stationary rowing as simply a way to build strength and muscle in the absence of being able to actually get out on the water and participate in an intercollegiate sport. As exercises go, rowing, either on a machine or on the water, has a lot top recommend it. Much like swimming in this regard, it is a full-body workout, capable of building both strength and stamina. And, for the indoor rowers, you don’t need water or a pool in order to get a good workout.

There are Web site devoted to comparing various forms of exercise and their benefits to the athlete-participant. Swimming is very good, of course, on a variety of different levels, but so is rowing, stationary or on the water. Each form of exercise yields particular benefits. Distance runners tend to burn a lot of fat and end up with very low Body Mass Indices (BMI). But distance running is tough on the feet, ankles, and even sometimes leading to stress cracks near the ball of the hip. Cyclists tend to develop huge quadriceps, but cycling, being largely an exercise done with the legs, does little to build upper body strength. Swimmers develop both the upper and the lower body. But for building a triangular chest and upper body, rowing is really tough to beat. The combining of strength-building and aerobic exercise is tough to beat. And rowing in general will not damage your feet or ankles like running can.

Is there a down side or caution to rowing as an exercise? The biggest problem is that rowers starting out frequently end up injuring their lower backs? Why? Largely because they have not yet built up enough shoulder strength and musculature, and, as a consequence, they start by making the resistance too strong. (guys have a tendency to do that in any sport involving strength, and this is a bug problem/issue for young weight lifters.). What happens is what should be handled by a guy’s shoulder muscles ends up getting transferred to the lower back.

Worse, in order to cope with the resistance, the guy just starting out will often bend backward in the lower back, putting stress on lower back muscles. The poor guy will wander around for three days bent over with severe lower back pain and unable to stand straight. Fortunately, the pain usually subsides in about 3 days.

The solution to avoiding this is to use only light resistance when you start to row, and to not make each stroke equivalent to lifting too much weight. Then, with lighter resistance, Josh can work on getting his form down, in particular, not pulling each stroke using the muscles of his lower back. If you have to use your lower back muscles with each stroke, you have the resistance set up too high.

Deep down, guys like to go for any exercise that involves repetitive back-and-forth strokes, ans stationary rowing is made to order for this. It helps also to wear clothing that stretches and moves with you on each stroke. The wrestling singlet that Josh is wearing is a near ideal garment for stationary rowing.

Of course, Josh has not forgotten the little Desmiit® thong he is wearing UNDER the singlet. That felt good from the moment he first put it on. Josh is becoming accustomed to the feel of the thong back cinching securely between his glutes, and the feel of his penis and balls being securely contained within the pouch. The upward pressure on his perineum which is pushing vital organs upward and forward just adds to the sensations he is experiencing. This is then combined with the repetitive strokes of the rowing machine. Josh thought this all might be boring, but the entire experience is turning out to be anything but boring.

Now Josh is neither really big nor really hard. He is just far enough along such that each stroke of the rowing machine is just a bit more “interesting” than the last one. What fun! One of the secrets to not getting bored engaging in any exercise is to make sure that you are at least a little horny while you are doing it. Josh is in that situation right now for sure.

To be continued…

Bill and Joe are enjoying themselves, too…
 

Ahhhhh that’s tight! Bill and Joe, the more knowledgeable of the four of them, have been having a grand time just walking to the gym. Bill and Joe have had considerably more “experience” than either Josh or Dylan, and, as a consequence, are at least a little more “confident” with respect to how their bodies are going to respond to the situation that they are in. Of course, Bill and Joe have “shared” these experiences before.

The situation for both Bill and Joe is still quite interesting, given how the two of them are clad in layers. The layers start with a snug-fitting men’s thong underwear, in itself something of a challenge to wear because of the various sensations that are created, as the thong at the same time pushes a guy’s male parts both upward and forward. The straps and cups Bill and Joe bought fit just perfectly in that they are ideally sized to just fit over their male body parts, flaccid, and contained within the pouch of the thong layer.

Of course, what makes this all so interesting is that the portion of the guy’s anatomy contained within the pouch and cup somehow “know” that the space inside the cup is going to be very limited, giving little if any “room for growth.” A lot of guys have a series problem just getting into a situation like this whereby psychologically they know that the available space for expansion is going to be quite limited. Some guys think this situation is positively scary, and want no part of being in a situation like this.

Bill and Joe, however, have benefited for their past experiences. What seemed to be more than a little scary the first time they tried it has now morphed into something quite enjoyable if not exiting to experience.

For Bill and Joe, the top layer of all of this is a pair of snug-fitting compression shorts, shorts that are going to keep the strap and cup in close contact with the groin area no matter how they move. Bill and Joe have been here before…snug-fitting thong, snugger-fitting jock strap and cup, compression shorts holding everything firmly in place. Arousal, even a slight arousal, tends to snug everything up a little more. Perhaps uncomfortable at first, the penis somehow knows that it is in a situation it “wants” to be in.

Bill knows that Joe is in the same situation. Joe knows what Bill is undergoing as well, and this, far from being a concern, seems to add to the sensations. Both of them somehow “know” that their penises are liking the situation that they are in.

Now add the exercise equipment, keeping in mind that Bill and Joe are both about to ride a stationary exercise bicycle clad this way. What is going to happen? That’s the part that is unpredictable.

Now both on the guys realize that they are likely not going to go into a full blown orgasm while clad this way. But bicycle riding requires repetitive leg movements. Movements that are likely to repeatedly cause the cup to slide back and forth with each stroke or turn of the cycle. This could be, well, painful, or nearly so. Or the cyclical movement could turn out to be quite enjoyable as their confined bodies “adapt” to the repeated motions of the cycles.

Whatever happens in a situation like this, happens, and it is for Bill and Joe to determine whether the situation they face is enjoyable or not. Clearly, the time on the stationary bikes is going to pass more quickly than would have been the case had both of them simply worn loose-fitting cotton gym shorts.

To be continued…

Dylan’s sweet journey
 

Some of you by now may think I have completely forgotten about Dylan, the fourth member of the group. And Dylan has been rather quiet and things of various sorts have been going on around him. The funny thing is that it is sometimes the quietest guy who ends up enjoying himself the most, even if the others around him do not for whatever reason do not fully understand or appreciate all of this.

To be sure, Dylan is a sweet guy, and it is not in his character to be loud or obnoxious or say or do things that other guys might find objectionable. Just because Dylan is at the gym does not mean that he has suddenly changed, personality wise or otherwise.

Those of you who have followed Dylan in this story can perhaps relate to how quiet-and-sweet Dylan thinks and feels. At least since puberty, Dylan has always been very fond of his own body and in particular how it feels. Growing up in his family with very little privacy and the feeling that he needed to always be the “good” kid did have its issues however. You see, Dylan has always had these “hang-ups” relating to snug-fitting clothing of various sorts, hang-ups that he felt that he could never be able to reveal to anyone else around him, male or female. Getting into and then wearing snug-fitting clothing of many different kinds always made Dylan somehow feel good inside, but it was the type of goodness that Dylan thought he would never be able to share with anyone else of either sex.

Now Dylan is in college, and gradually Dylan has discovered that he could be a little more open with respect to his innermost thoughts and interests when with at least some of his male friends than he ever thought he might have been when he was younger. The really odd thing is that Dylan has discovered that for at least three of his male friends, his gym buddies, the friends seem to not find what Dylan likes to be strange or even a bit odd at all. Dylan is still concerned that his inner thoughts and feelings might be the ramifications of a “gay streak”, but, if that is the case, then maybe Dylan’s three buddies also suffer from the same or a very similar “problem.”

Somehow, Dylan knows that his friends Josh, Bill and Joe are doing ome stuff they would not be doing if they didn’t share some of Dylan’s thoughts and interests. This is weighty stuff, tho, and perhaps should not be dug into too deeply.

So, where is Dylan right now? We have left Dylan clad in several items each of which in its own way are making sweet sensations and feelings. Dylan has always loved slick feeling swim briefs, and the snugger and skimpier the better. Dylan never dared reveal that to his parents or siblings, let alone his male friends in high school. So no one really knew that, and the possibilities for purchasing such a garment were also very limited. But now, in College, he was freer to do what he wants in this regard. Dylan loves the fact that his groin area is neatly contained in his little Desmiit® swimming brief, snugger, skimpier and tighter fitting than anything he has ever gotten the opportunity to wear before. Dylan’s penis and balls just feel good in that environment. What a sweet place for a guy to be!

The other items Dylan is wearing only add to the sweet sensations. It’s the mix that works so well: The feel of his penis inside the swim brief: The feel of the jock and cup bearing down on his slickly-encased penis. And, of course the compression shorts that are holding everything securely in place.

Dylan really wants top get hard. Psychologically, he knows that. Yet the fit of the various items constrains his ability to grow. His penis seens to sense what is around it, and why a full-scale hard-on might not be the best thing under the circumstances. Still, Dylan is feeling pretty good right now. He is with his buds who must be somehow attempting do deal with very similar thoughts and issues. He is wearing the articles of clothing he could only dream about (and he did have dreams containing them) when he was younger.

What to do? Why hop on the treadmill and start running. Maybe the exercise will divert his mind from thinking about his male body parts so much. Or, maybe the exercise will simply add to the fun or possible make matters worse, depending on what your mindset might be.

So, sweet Dylan, filled with sweet thoughts, is off for a run on the treadmill. While wondering whether his buds at the gym are having to deal with something similar. These are moments to be savored, regardless of what might be going on. Complicated stuff for sure. But stuff not to be missed, either.

To be continued….

Just enjoying yourself at the gym
 

In case there are any readers who have not yet fully grasped this, what the four of them—Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh are doing is running experiments to see how much pressure, both physical and psychological, each of them can tolerate before being overwhelmed by the urge to ejaculate right now. I suppose that the typical guy would engage in such an experiment with the involvement of a girl friend or female partner. While such an experiment might be, well, interesting, there are numerous issues with all of this, starting with the issue of whether or not there is a female friend out there somewhere who is sufficiently attracted to you to be a willing participant in such an experiment.

For college freshmen, there are all sorts of complicated issues with this. You don’t just go out and verbalize with any girl you might meet or perhaps even be attracted to that you are in need of running an experiment aimed at determine how much psychological and sexual pressure you might be able to tolerate without immediately ejaculating in her lap (or “wherever”). I suppose girls think about guys and their feelings and what is going on in their heads, but what they think they understand about guys in this regard is usually way off from reality. A lot of girls think they learned stuff like this from their mothers—as in that guys see females as the single source of sexual pleasure and that any guy who appears to enjoy solo sex (aka masturbation) is a social outcast who would be avoided as a potential partner. That was part of what mama taught you about guys. After all, that is how it works with the girl’s father, or is it. There are sometimes deep secrets hidden inside marriages bubbling up just under he surface that no one ever verbalizes. One of these being “dad likes to masturbate whenever he gets the chance of doing so without being discovered”. But, if that is true, then maybe male sexuality is a whole lot more complicated than mama realized.

Most mothers raising sons gradually learn that guys past puberty (and maybe before) not only can but do masturbate, and perhaps a lot. Sometimes they end up in situations where they get caught, and that can prove quite embarrassing not only for the guy, but for whoever discovers him, not to mention the issues that occur when the discoverer is a male peer. So as guys get a little older, the quick masturbation becomes the usual method to limit the chance of discovery by family members or peers.

But now, here we have four guys, Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh, who are not only doing things to themselves that make them aroused and horny, but they have basically admitted to each other that is really what is motivating them right now. That situation is, well, interesting. At an earlier age, they would be too embarrassed to admit to someone else their age irrespective of gender that they were actually experimenting with schemes that feel good let alone keeping hidden a collection of clothing that is helpful with the task at hand. This gets complicated in part because the guys are essentially admitting to each other that this is the case even though each of them probably knew this as individuals already. It’s just that once in college, things are a little more flexible in this regard than was the case when they lived at home.

The fact that each of the guys are engaging in this in the presence of three other guys is in itself interesting. To illustrate, a guy would not dare tell a girlfriend that he really gets turned on just getting into and wearing a snug-fitting swim brief. Such a girlfriend would have to be really open-minded if a guy were going to try to be truthful here. But, for whatever reason, admitting this to a group of three other college-age guys seems somehow less daunting than explaining this to the female partner thing.

The only unanswered question is whether or not the behavior of the four guys in being more open with admitting to each other what they are really up to represents some sort of gay behavior. In particular, what role does the knowledge that there are three other guys with you who are doing the same thing to their bodies and struggling in much the same manner psychologically with all of the fun tensions and sensations play in the overall level of sexual excitement for each individual? Is this group masturbation in some strange form? And, if so, is this somehow a gay activity since only other peer males are involved?

I suppose that one response might be just for guys having fun with themselves and with each other. This is less about gay sex than it is about just another form male bonding. Now males bond in all sorts of ways, usually involving shared activities they all enjoy. One way of looking at what is going on here is that it is just four college freshmen getting involved in an exercise program at the school gym. Whatever else might be happening or not, is kept hidden for now.

But, psychological and physical pressures have been building for each of them for some time now. No one can deny that. As the various exercise routines progress, all four of them are probably feeling horniier and hornier, and the focus of their attention increasingly is placed on the sensations and feelings, which seem to not only vary, but get more and more intense almost moment–by-moment.

How long can each of the guys tolerate the situation he is in, and what happens after they get back to the dorm?

To be continued….

A really sweet place to be…
 

The experiences that Josh, Bill, Joe and Dylan are having right now represent really interesting places for each of them to be in on a host of different fronts. An interesting question to pose is whether or not nearly all guys, if given the opportunity, would long to be in the situation each of the guys now finds himself to be in.

This thought begs the larger question—the question that looms over this entire series of chapters and stories like some giant elephant. That question, of course, is how any guy their age might respond (or not, ha ha) if the same opportunity faced by the four guys were available to them. This is not an easy question to try and answer, but is certainly a question worth posing and discussing here. I hope my readers understand exactly what I am trying to say here without having to provide additional detail. But none of you would be reading this if you did not have an appreciation for what I am suggesting, at least at some level.

In addition to this elephant-sized question, there is a still bigger question that looms large. That question is so big and so general that it can almost be summarized with the question “What is male sexuality all about, anyway?” Heck, maybe we should ask the question “What is human sexuality all about, anyway?”

Now I know that some of my readers see male sexuality as being completely intertwined with the idea of having partner sex. That male sexuality is really all about engaging in physical sex with a partner, straight or gay. Sexual pleasure for two closely connected people is all about getting the most, and giving the most, to the partner. In this world, the partner is the central focus for everything that provides sexual pleasure in the relationship.

In such a world, it is all but impossible to separate sexual pleasure from the idea of a relationship between two people, and all that idea entails, good or, shall I say, difficult. EVERY relationship has its ups and downs, periods of great pleasure sexual and otherwise, and, well, periods where everything didn’t go quite as planned. This is the normal part of being a human being.

But, Josh, Bill, Joe and Dylan have wandered into a crazy but wonderful place whereby they can enjoy themselves in a very special way without having to get into the complexities of a relationship-focused partner sex. For some of my readers, this may seem unbelievable. For others, maybe the larger question is whether ANY 19-year-old college freshman, if so motivated to do so, could find (and enjoy) this special place.

To be continued…

A really sweet place to be, part II…
 

Why has all of this remained hidden and secretive? Why can’t guys simply go to a bookstore (or look on line) and learn what they need to know about all of this? There are an enormous number of myths surrounding all of this, starting with the masturbation myths, going all the way back to early Boy Scout manuals.

1. Masturbation defined as any release of sexual tension that does not involve a partner, is evil, sinful, or worse.
2. Anyone who masturbates is immature automatically lacks basic social skills necessary to find a partner in order to have “real sex”.
3. If a guy masturbates, that’s an indicator that he is gay not straight.
4. Masturbation is something that might be tolerable for guys aged 11-14, but by age 15 he should be getting sexual pleasure from interacting with a partner. It’s all just part of growing up. As a guy gets older, interest in masturbating should dissipate as partner-sex takes over his life. If this does not happen, say, by the time a guy becomes the age of a college freshman, the guy has psychosexual issues and has not “matured” properly. (This myth forces many older teens into relationships they don’t really want or need at that stage in their lives.)


Then there is an equally complicated set of issues that involve sexual tension in part brought on by wearing snug-fitting clothing of various sorts. The so-called sex experts seem to not want to deal with this possibility at all, or if they do, it goes down as part of abnormal psychology in the category “fetish” which is loosely defined as any sexual response to an inanimate object such as a piece of clothing, never mind whether the item comes in contact with the penis or not. The experts seem to want to toss all of this into the same box—that anything that does not directly involve being turned on by a partner is somehow weird, abnormal and sick.

Guys know better, but they generally haven’t told the sex experts about what they are doing to (and for) themselves. In part, they are too embarrassed, given the low opinion most of the sex experts have of guys having sexual pleasure in the absence of a partner. Such an idea can’t be “real” sex, or can it?

This in turn all gets bogged down in the question of what is or is not real sex? “Real” is a synonym for partner? Is oral sex real sex? Must real sex involve a penis being contained by another human being? This all gets really complicated to define.

So, at an early age, guys learn that touching and rubbing their penises induces some very pleasurable sensations, sensations that are great fun so long as the activity can be done without anyone else discovering what they are doing, which is embarrassing and a whole lot more.

Not long after that, many, perhaps most guys learn that there are certain items of snug-fitting clothing that feel really good if they come in contact with their penises. So good, in fact, that they result in stuff happening that the guy was conditioned to think would happen only in the presence of a sexual partner. Psychologically and sexually, this is deep stuff. Guys are not only amazed to discover this, but generally terrified at the same time once they discover this

Generally speaking, any piece of snug-fitting clothing could set this all off, but it helps if the fit is quite snug and the fabric quite smooth.

The classic example here of a garment that does this is the Lycra® blend swim brief. Snug-fitting? Absolutely! Fits especially snug right on the penis? For sure!

But this quickly becomes complicated. I suspect that a lot of guys, maybe most, would like to own a snug-fitting swim brief just to “play around in” but not necessarily to appear in public or swim in, but they don’t know how to pull this off without getting detected as to what they are really up to.

If the guy is 14 years old, the first thing the guy would need to do is explain to his parents why he would want to own such a garment assuming he is not a member of the high school swim team.

Then there is the problem that if he does get to purchase such a garment, what exactly happens to his body as a consequence. For swim team members ‘trying on” swim briefs for the first time in the gym locker room, something terrible might happen—as in an out-of-control erection or worse. This is all uncharted territory. Better to experiment at home first, in front of a mirror, bedroom door closed. But what if it turns out that the guy really likes the brief, and putting it on becomes his favorite way to masturbate? Good luck with that one, for certain.

In my view, most guys have something of a love-hate relationship with skimpy swim briefs. Many guys would like to try wearing one just to see how it feels and how their bodies might respond to the new situation, but they can’t figure out a way to pull this off without embarrassing questions being asked about what they are doing and why.

As guys get older but still single, opportunities increasingly present themselves to try some things, say, as a college freshman, that they thought might be interesting but they didn’t dare attempt before they got to college. A great myth is that most male college freshmen are in a relationship with a female partner involving sex, and that provides everything they “need” in that regard. Nothing could be further from the truth in that regard. Junior or Senior, maybe, but most freshmen are still finding in their way in the relationship department, if at all.

Which brings us back to Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh. The four of them have been experimenting with stuff that has been interesting but does not involve partner sex. A lot of this involves snug-fitting items of clothing in various ways. The twist here is that each of the four of them at some level understands not only what the experiment is and that the others in the group are at some level involved in a very similar experiment.

The four of them have also discovered that nothing each of them is doing is bad or dangerous in any way. The whole idea of enjoying oneself in a special way is a wonderful part of being a guy, and to somehow feel that one needs to keep this as a closely guarded secret is no longer essential.

Do these four guys have a relationship or series of relationships going on under these circumstances? Are the four guys deep down each gay not straight at some level? Or would many if not most guys like to be in the situation each of them is currently experiencing?

All of these are really interesting questions for sure.

To be continued…..

My observation is that many more guys seem to own Speedos than are willing to admit it.

Ahhh for fun…
 

I suppose that nearly every guy learns at a very early age, shortly after puberty if not before, how wonderful penis are as organs of the male anatomy. Just touching or rubbing the penis can give what seem to be some very strange but also very pleasant sensations. The complicated part of course is the exact linkage between the strange and wonderful sensations and the appearance and size of the penis. Oddly enough, sometimes the strange but wonderful sensations and feelings happen even as the penis seems to be doing nothing at all, size or hardness-wise. At other times, everything seems to be focused on getting bigger and harder to the extent that the other stuff going on gets pushed into the background. What gives here anyway? Is this all normal and commonplace, or is every guy unique? How would any guy go about finding the answer to that question?

Guys are frequently stumped by what is happening to themselves and their bodies. For starters, when a guy gets an unintended erection often at an unexpected and inconvenient time or place and starts to feel pressure in his brain to jerk off, is it a good idea to find a private place, say a stall or a locked bathroom, and relieve himself. Or should the guy simply try as best he can to try to ignore the situation in the fervent hope that the problem will simply go away if he directs his attention to some non-sexual thoughts or intentionally tries to take his mind off the obvious? Younger guys always keep wondering if their male classmates or roommates encounter the same problem but never quite dare ask something that personal.

Snug-fitting clothing of the various kinds I have mentioned in this story add a new and complicated element for a lot of guys. By the time a guy gets to a point in his life where he wants or needs to wear some of these items, he has no doubt already discovered that a. his penis is quite sensitive to touching and rubbing, and b. Smooth and snug fitting (commonly Lycra® blend fabrics merely sliding against the exterior walls of the penis can on their own induce some warm and wonderful sensations. Nearly every guy probably wonders if he is the only guy in the world who has discovered this, or whether it is common for guys to face the same “problem”. On one hand, this is neat, because these clothing items are usually and snug enough to induce some sensations that the guy had previously only felt by overtly rubbing his penis from glans to base.

But this quickly becomes very complicated. If the particular clothing item is a little swim brief or even a pair of snug-fitting jammers, if these sensations are happening basically without any touching at all, what happens if, well, a guy quickly ends up with what be known in slang as a serious boner or hard on? First off, these garments are made to fit snug and tight. Swimmers need minimum drag in the water. Wrestlers need to wear garments that give the opponent minimal opportunity to get a hold, and loose-fitting cloth would work against that for sure. But, that being the case, if a guy gets a boner wearing any of these it is going to be immediately apparent to anyone around, and particularly swimming or wrestling in a public contest in front of a bleacher audience. Worse, what if the boner quickly turns into a giant wet spot of slimy semen dribbling all over the garment swim brief, jammer, wrestling singlet etc.? This does not ordinarily happen in public sport, at least not frequently, which suggests that most guys who wear clothing like this for sport probably fairly quickly get “used” to the feeling or are able to hide their urges, but still.

Then there is the matter of the old school jock straps, aka athletic supporters. A lot of guys are terrified the first time they get into one of these because they have no real clue as to how their anatomy will “react” to being placed in such a confined space. Just the thought of being forced to wear one of these for sports sends many guys into a something of a new situation. The hard protective cup adds a new dilemma for a lot of guys. By the time a guy needs to try this he pretty well knows how big he is both flaccid and fully erect. Some guys assume that the trick is to find a cup big enough to contain the maximum sized anatomy, As in, pick the XL size. But giant cups are not the best for protecting the anatomy. A well fitting cup will be just large enough to contain the guy’s flaccid anatomy. After all, during a contact sport the guy’s mind should be focused on the game not on his own body, anyway. Coaches would certainly think that way.

But that begs the question of what happens if and when a guy’s anatomy gets just big enough to barely fit inside the contained space. The poor guy is not likely to break the hard cup with a still bigger and harder erection. Besides, a lot of guys discover that it is really tough to ejaculate inside a hard cup even if the guy wanted to do this. The cup” protects the penis from being stroked. Still, with the penis gently pressing against the walls of the cup, it is also sending some very pleasant sensations back to the brain. Wearing a snug-fitting strap and cup can be a most enjoyable experience for a lot of guys, even if they are not involved in a sport that specifically requires one. The sensations can be fascinating and fun…maybe an enjoyable way to spend a leisurely afternoon or evening. One could try doing this for an afternoon, and then follow that up with a private masturbation self-pleasuring session to orgasm, for example, as one approach.

I have not forgotten about the four guys Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh, who are now involved in playing with all of this on their own and simply enjoying what is happening to themselves and their bodies. But the four of them have also been having some fun times together. At this point, each of them must know something of what the others have been up to in this regard.

To be continued….

The Mystery
 

Guys generally see all of this with mixed reactions amazement coupled with a bit of uncertainty, fear and befuddlement. What I have been talking about is not found in college courses dealing with human sexuality nor in any of the commonly seem sex therapist manual. Even studies that claim to have exhaustively analyzed male sexuality in all its forms generally come up short.

Maybe things are simpler then I am making them out to be. Maybe guys past puberty have sexual encounters with females, and this supplies them with the sexual outlet that they need at that point in life. Maybe guys buy the time they reach college age are having sex so regularly with a favorite partner that anything else (commonly known as solo sex) simply gets pushed out of the entire picture, never to again return. Is it really like that?

Maybe guys never pleasure themselves in their cramped dorm rooms, or, if they do, this only happens when it is certain that the roommate has gone home for the weekend. Maybe these subjects never come up between male college students. But guys in their late teens and early 20s sometimes do things that they might not do either earlier in life or later. Is this not just one of the items on the list? Are the rules that apply in this regard the same ones that applied in high school, or are they now more flexible? These are all interesting questions to ponder.

Let’s see, where were we? Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh getting to wear various clothing items that fit really snug, and are surely bound to lead to arousal and erection assuming they have not completely lost the sensations coming from their groin area. Chances are, each of them has surreptitiously experimented with this long before they got into college. The tricky part about these experiments is in figuring out a way to run the experiments without being detected by a parent, sibling or, god-forbid, a peer class member.

What is the exact “problem” here, the universal problem all post-pubescent guys must face? Shortly after puberty, guys learn from various sources that the only time and place considered acceptable to be aroused is in a relationship with a partner, and from the standpoint of most, a partner of the opposite sex. Anything else that might happen with respect to this is considered to be in some manner unacceptable, unacceptable to the point of the guy being teased and bullied.

But every post pubescent guy is fully aware of the fact that “stuff happens”, and stuff happens in times, places and in situations that do not involve a female partner. Besides, what is a young teenager doing getting involved sexually with a partner as a young teen anyway? More problems and dilemmas to face.

It is surprising that most guys make it through puberty with as few psychosexual scars as they do. It does not take long for every guy to find out that sexual arousal, erection and then the big event, orgasm, are all fun, really fun, the kinds of events that make being a guy such an unbeatable experience. (Can young girls POSSIBLY be having this much fun with THEIR bodies at the same age?)

Then there is the matter of all the goofy fluids. Guys quickly figure out what an orgasm (creaming) is and exactly what the sensations are that lead to orgasm. Understanding this is necessary learning if a guy is ever going to have a degree of control over when and under what exact circumstances he ejaculates. Guys quickly learn that ejaculate is a creamy off-white fluid, not clear and to associate that with having an orgasm, getting a girl pregnant, and all of that.

But then there is the matter of precum, and what that all means and why it happens the way it does. Guys might notice that sometimes a clear, viscous fluid forms in drops at the very end of the penis, but particularly when a sexual thought crosses the mind. This seems really strange, as if a guy, perhaps sexually a bit tense but not erect at all, starts to drip viscous drops of clear fluid. Initially, guys associate this occurrence with the initial stages of an erection leading to orgasm (creaming). But guys soon learn that they can precum for a long period of time without going into erection or orgasm.

Precumming (aka juicing) just seems to happen without conscious control of any sort. Something triggers it, of course, and what that something is might be is the most interesting part. Guys fully dressed can usually tell in an instant whether or not they are precumming because the damp spot forming on whatever undergarment they are wearing will be a quite noticeable. Usually not enough precum forms to stain the fly of, say, a pair of jeans, though some guys worry about this possibility too.

This brings me back around to the guys wearing snug-fitting clothing of various kinds, especially for the first time. Obviously a snug fitting Lycra® (blend) item (Swim brief, Jammer, Wrestling singlet) is going to present more issues in this regard than, say an outer garment such as a pair of jeans. Any precum stain when a guy is wearing one of these items might immediately show up as a stain in exactly the “wrong” place. What if the guy is in public when this happens. It’s not as if the guy can shut down precumming at will, and this in itself poses a dilemma.
Even worse, perhaps, the guy has probably discovered that the sensations that happen when he is precumming are certainly sweet, if not quite as mind blowing as a full-scale orgasm, still certainly worthy of paying attention to and enjoying.

Then there is the problem that specific clothing items that seem to “stimulate” all of this, that is, getting into a mode whereby the guy is precumming, perhaps profusely. Lycra® blend swim briefs are certainly number one on this list, at least for most guys. I maintain that the fear of wearing swim briefs for a lot of guys is not so much out of the fear of immediately getting a firm and big erection leading right to orgasm (well, maybe for only the FIRST time), but the fear that the guy will start to precum leaving quarter-sized and larger damp stains right at where the tip of his penis resides in the brief. The sheer HORROR of this possibility drives guys away from wearing the garment.

The same goes for the fear of snug-fitting wrestling singlets and jammers. Guys think they have a degree of control over when they get hard and ejaculate, but the precumming ooze seems to be completely outside of conscious control. This scares guys.

WHICH clothing items “do” this to (or for) a guy? That is an interesting question, and one that probably varies from one guy to another. The other complicating factor is that precumming is a lot of fun, and if there are garments that help to keep the fun going, there will be at least some guys interested in finding and on occasion wearing these garments. If guys were truthful to themselves, they already know which specific clothing items “do it” for them. The mere thought of shopping for or ordering the garment should start the precum flowing, collecting in whatever undergarment the guy is wearing. The sheer fun of buying and then getting into a garment the guy pretty much knows is going to do this to him cannot be underestimated.

This brings us back to Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh, who have been messing around with this exactly, and, in a sense, playing with their own bodies and psychology in ways that they would have never dared or had the occasion to try when they were still in high school. Their willingness to push forward in this regard should be applauded, even as they discover new ways to enjoy themselves and the company of each other in ways they had not previously experienced.

All is well with the four of them.

To be continued….

Every guy is interested in this, perhaps
 

As any guy in his teens probably knows, in your late teens it is entirely possible to get an erection leading into a full scale orgasm without any physical touching or rubbing happening. Furthermore, it is easy for this to happen in an unexpected or difficult-to-explain situation, say a situation that does not involve fantasizing, say, about having sex with a female partner. Every guy knows and probably has had dreams involving a sexual situation that leads to an erection during the night and probably an orgasm.

Dreams are very strange, oftentimes. What a guy thinks about during the day is constrained within conscious thought, but in dreams, all the “rules” suddenly come apart. For example, a guy who thinks he is “perfectly straight” during the day, at least, may very well end up being involved sexually with another guy within a dream. Dreams simply do not follow the rules that apply when a guy is awake.

The fact that dreams can go anywhere and do not abide by the daytime “rules” makes many guys very uncomfortable. They start to think that what happens in dreams, out-of-control or not, communicates the “truth”, for example, about sexual orientation. A guy who “acts” straight when awake may be focused on other guys partly or exclusively during a nighttime dream, and worse, whatever same-sex interest may very well end with the guy suddenly awake and having a powerful orgasm.

Do these dreams mean the guy whereby this happens is actually gay not straight, and is actually fooling himself as well as others when he claims to be perfectly straight? That is a most interesting question, I think, and one that I have never been able to satisfactorily answer. The only thing I can conclude is that dreams are sometimes, perhaps often, built around story lines that represent what a guy would like to try to do sexually but for whatever reason cannot.

Dreams with a sex-related storyline are commonplace for nearly every guy. Nearly every guy worries if dreams turn out to follow an unanticipated story line and in particular a story line that others (peers, siblings) might not approve. But these others aren’t going to know anything if a guy keeps his mouth shut about what just happened.

Then there is the issue of story lines that are erotic, leading to an erection and a “nocturnal emission” (I love that term, as it sounds so clinical), but the story line has nothing to do with engaging in sex with a partner, male or female. What is with these dreams, anyway?
One example would be a guy who in a dream decides to go out to a store and purchase a skimpy little swim brief for his first time. The dreamer finds a rack of swim briefs in a sporting goods store and starts to sort through the sizes, colors and sizes. As the dream proceeds, the dreamer sees a particular swim brief that is particularly skimpy and colorful. He decides that before he purchases the brief, which the price tag says $28, he had better at least try it on. So he locates and goes into the store changing room, and removes his clothing in a tiny space lined with mirrors. At this point he is not only feeling way horny, the size of his penis says that he is near an orgasm, and he hasn’t even gotten the brief on. He is already worried about how to get in and out of the brief without creating a total mess, but it is way too late. He pulls the brief on, takes one look at himself and how his penis looks and there is no stopping a powerful orgasm spilling semen all over the new swim brief. Suddenly the dreamer wakes and, still in bed, he bursts into a most powerful orgasm. The dreamer has the emotions of unbridled sexual fun, pure enjoyment, accompanied by total terror.

What does this dream mean, anyway? Worse, what if this is one of those dreams that happens frequently, say, every week or so? Should the guy be somehow concerned that the dream doesn’t contain a “proper” storyline involving having sex with a female partner? Is this dream the basics of something the guy would like to try doing in real life? What gives, anyway?

Or, what about the locker room athletic supporter “jock strap” dream. In this dream, the dreamer is just starting to participate in a contact sport that requires a strap and cup (Coaches orders). The plot line thickens, because in the dream the first time the guy is going to get a chance to be in the strap and cup will be in the guy’s locker room at the next practice. The school is actually buying the straps and cups for the players and coach will be passing them out for wear at the next practice. The complicating thing about this dream is that all the guys, the dreamer’s peers, will be in the locker room basically doing the same thing—that is, trying on a little jock strap with a cup in the clear view of all the other guys in the locker room. A lot of guys who are having difficulty with this situation realize that their peers might also be facing the same “problem”. The problem, of course is how can the dreamer keep from getting erect in this novel situation, and what happens to me once the cup is (firmly) in place? Dare the dreamer take furtive glances at the groins of the other guys in an effort to see what is happening to them under similar circumstance and what difficulties they might be facing? If the dreamer finds himself doing this, taking furtive glances at his peers and their respective groin areas, does that mean he is actually gay not straight?

As might be expected, a teen guy with a full-scale erection forcing himself into a seemingly undersized strap and cup is not going to be able to hold back a powerful orgasm for very long. The dreamer suddenly awakens and discovers that he is just at the start of a powerful “spontaneous” orgasm (nocturnal emission), an orgasm that was not spontaneous at all but a direct consequence of the story line with what turns into a path that is quite erotic. What does this all mean for the dreamer, anyway?
This brings the story back to the four college freshmen, Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh. Maybe the four of them are getting their first real opportunities to act out events that occurred on a recurring basis in their dreams, dreams that may have started at puberty, or even before. Maybe the items that they purchased or ordered online are very similar to items that played a recurring role in dreams with plots similar to those outlined above. None of this involves partner sex, at least not directly, but that is part of what makes it all so interesting.

Are dreams and fantasies like these commonplace among guys, or relatively rare? If a guys interested in seeing how my male peers might respond to wearing a swim brief or a jock strap with a cup and exactly what happens to their bodies, does that mean the guy deep down is gay not straight, or is this interest commonplace for the vast majority of guys who find it interesting to see how other guys cope with the situation at hand.

These are big questions, and questions that are difficult to answer with any degree of certainty.

To be continued…
 

Guys are very fortunate
 

Guys are very fortunate, in many ways far more fortunate than they realize. There are many parts of the male body that are more sensitive/sexually active/erotic than many guys realize, and this often becomes a learning experience that can last an entire lifetime.

Most guys at puberty are in a situation where they know almost nothing about all of this. Early on they have but a vague understanding that when certain body parts are stroked or even touched, the sensations feel very good. Only gradually do guys begin to put together an understanding of the complexities of the system. But learning about all of this is the key to enjoying yourself as a guy.

There are a few male body parts not on the penis proper that stand out for me as being both important in this regard and missed or underestimated as erotic hot spots by a lot of guys. I’ve often thought that the urge to/enjoyment from getting a big hard-on coupled with a powerful orgasm is so overwhelming for a lot of guys that they never quite learn to appreciate the more subtle aspects of male eroticism. This same information applies to a situation whereby you are having sex by yourself or with a partner.

Some of you may be just a bit bothered by the fact that I just put experiments with solo sex up there in the same league as experiments with partner sex. I know that this may seems strange or odd to some if not most of you as you are coming from a frame of reference that says there is no way masturbation can be put on equal footing with partner sex from the standpoint of pure erotic enjoyment: That is the relationship with another person is the real key to the sheer enjoyment of sex.

Let me hold that thought for a bit, and perhaps I can come back to it in a later chapter. For now, I want my readers to think about the best solo sex experience that you have ever had, and, more importantly , what in your own mind made that particular solo sex experience so profound?

Then, think about the four characters in the story, Josh, Dylan, Bill and Joe and what each of them have been doing to their bodies while claiming that they were just engaging in a workout at the gym.

Let me start with Josh, first. Let me see, what was Josh wearing? That’s right, the little Desmiit ® thong with the forest green wrestling singlet over.
The perineum area of the male body, located between the scrotum and the anus, is a real hot spot sexually for guys, but this is one of these things a lot of guys do not learn until they are older, if at all. The beauty of a properly fitting male thong of the correct size is that it should put a lot of direct upward pressure on the exact spot that feels so good when the direct pressure is applied. With a thong that fits correctly, the back, be it an elastic cord or a narrow band of elastic, will tend to cinch up between the glutes. Guys who have never tried this soon discover that the entire area between the glutes is what I would characterize as being sexually active.

Combine this with a stationary rowing machine at the gym, which requires guys to engage iin strokes. With each stroke of the rowing machine, the thong gives an exquisite tug that applies a little additional pressure to the perineum area even as the thong back cinches itself a bit deeper between the glutes. Each stroke of the rowing machine becomes a not-to-be-missed erotic experience.

Or think about Dylan’s “predicament “of being contained inside a skimpy swim brief. This may seem at first to be less erotic than the situation Josh is facing, but Dylan also has to face the sensations from a strap and cup bearing down at the same time on his swim brief contained penis. Penises like to grow to the exact space that they have available, which means that shortly, the cup will be bearing down on three sides of Dylan’s penis. Dylan’s penis quickly becomes “aware” of the confining situation it finds itself in, but likes the slick feel of the swim brief within the confined space.

Or consider both Bill and Joe, each wearing thongs that are doing interesting things to the perineum, getting hit by the sensations of the thong back wedging itself between the glutes. Then each is also wearing a jock with a cup bearing down at it all, with everything cinched up even snugger because of the compression shorts, while each of them is attempting to run on treadmills.

As the afternoon wears on, all of this is liable to get tougher and topugher to deal with, but gradually also provide more and more erotic fun. As events proceed, a guys mind being subjected to one of these combinations becomes more and more focused on the need to get off. But, of course, this is impractical given where each of the guys is. Getting off may have to wait some more. The unrelieved pressure to ejaculate just keeps building and building.

Now, what happens to a guy psychologically when he starts to realize that there are three other guys who are in a very erotic predicament like this that is very similar to the one he is in? Does this knowledge add to the fun? Back in High school the four of them would have been terrified to try something like this. Outcomes are just too uncertain. But now, the four of them are in college, and the rules that apply seem to have changed. This is terrific fun with equal parts mixed sheer sexual torment.

I assume many of my readers would be open to trading places with one of them, but the interesting question is “Which one”?

To be continued…

How much of this can a guy tolerate, anyway?
 

As any guy has probably quickly learned, exciting sexual tension involves a combination of the psychological (thoughts) and the physical (touching). Furthermore, guys quickly learn that the psychological frequently involves not only what will happen, sexually, but even what could possibly happen.

The human brain, male and female, seems to be equipped with an early warning system that springs into action very quickly, in the case of a guy, often long before any even partial erection takes place. A lot of guys seem mystified with respect to how male bodies work in this regard, but still confront this on a regular basis, perhaps as frequently as several times a day. Guys frequently have difficulty dealing with this if it involves thoughts relating to a potential female partner. Coming of age movies generally are built around plots that deal with exactly this.

For gay males, this becomes even more difficult in part because the guy may not want to admit to himself that he has these male-centered erotic thoughts, let alone come out and explain what is going on to others, perhaps the most terrifying being how non-gay male peers might react. It doesn’t help that many males are terrified of the possibility of a sexual encounter with another male (perhaps because they have a gay streak, themselves) and outcomes in this regard are quite unpredictable. This is why gay males have to be very careful when other males of unknown sexual orientation are nearby.

Complicating all of this still further is the widely held belief by some (claimed as macho) males that any guy who engages in solo sex, if not gay, is certainly a social outcast who will never find a female sexual partner. This leads to ”I saw you masturbating and told all my friends what I saw you doing “teasing and bullying. This to me is one of the saddest aspects of male sexuality as it exists in most societies.

I know that some of my readers are wondering what is with Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe, anyway? Are these four guys who will never be with a female partner, or, horror of horrors, enjoying their own bodies along with their swim briefs, thongs, straps, cups, wrestling singlets and compression gear more than they ever would than having a sexual encounter with a partner. What gives with these four guys anyway? From a writer’s perspective, keeping this possibility going is part of the fun of setting up the reader.

A central theme of this entire story has been the idea that guys can have a lot of fun sexually and psychologically without having to deal with the additional complications that partner sex brings on, and this is true irrespective of whether you think you are straight, gay or of a sexual orientation in which you are uncertain.

If you stop and think about it what I have just said is quite profound. I think I just said that sexual pleasure is something that every guy can tap into and enjoy irrespective of whether or not the guy has a partner.

But all of this goes even deeper than that. By the time a guy reaches the age of a young college student such as the four of them in the story, he has probably experienced a number of instances, perhaps many, whereby sexual arousal (to orgasm or not), occurred in the absence of any thoughts about being with a partner. Again, many guys are reluctant to admit that their personal sexual wiring works that way. In the case of the “straight” male there is this (macho) view that the only acceptable psychosexual thought are those that relate directly to being with a female partner, and any thoughts that lead elsewhere need to be banished. Many gay males seem to operate with a variation of this, in the belief that real sex involves a direct physical encounter with another male.

But, if this were true for both straight and gay males, what of four college students who go shopping at a big-box sporting goods store for items that they know are going to be tough to wear without getting aroused in and soon after a hard on? Are these guys somehow deviant from a sexual perspective? Or what of four college guys who start ordering items on line that they are pretty sure are going to be difficult to wear without getting aroused? And then, what happens, once the items arrive to the dorm rooms? Is getting into these items a solo activity or can your male roommate be present? Will the male roommate be put off by this if he watches, or will he perhaps secretly think that he would love to be able to do exactly the same thing? What if a guy enjoys playing with himself in this way “too much”, and never progresses to a physical relationship with a partner? Is this a real problem or issue?

And what of all this talk about the notion that it is important for a guy who is sexually aroused be able to restrain himself from going into full-scale orgasm mode? A general truth is that the longer a guy can remain aroused without blowing, the more enjoyable the entire situation is going to be, and the more exciting, powerful and enjoyable the orgasm will be when it finally does happen.
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The problem, of course, is that guys grow up learning how to go into full-scale orgasm mode quickly, so as to minimize the probability that the guy will be discovered and end up in a potentially embarrassing situation. Many guys quickly become experts in rapid covert masturbation. But the four college guys appear to be at least be past that idea.
Then there is the problem of sex in relationships, whereby slower steaminess is almost invariably better sex than anything that happens in a hurry. But guys up until that point were focused on speedy solo sex. All of that has to be somehow unlearned, and quickly, for the sake of the relationship lasting, be it straight or gay.

One way of visualizing what the four college guys have been doing is that they are unlearning a lot of what they learned masturbating in a hurry when they were younger. Unless the four guys are completely brain dead, there is no way the four guys are not each going to be somewhat aroused given what they are wearing, but even for a guy to admit that can be somewhat unnerving.

Still, the male body is brilliantly set up with an early warning system programmed to provide the necessary information even if the guy is nowhere near being erect and hard. That is all the precumming and Cowper’s gland stuff. If precum is forming a damp spot on the tip of a guy’s erect penis, something important sexually is happening. This could possibly quickly lead to an erection and maybe an orgasm, or the entire situation could just sit and “simmer” for many minutes, perhaps hours. Just simmering there oozing viscous clear drops of precum is a very enjoyable sexual experience, not one to be denied. Where each of them takes this after they get back from the gym to the dorm rooms is unclear, except to say that the urge to ejaculate has been slowly but steadily building even as the guys engage in their respective exercise programs as arousal is helped along in happening by wearing the various garments.

And, assuming that each of the four is going to want to engage in partner sex, this “simmering” experience is going to work to undo the damage done as younger guys learned how to get this over quickly to minimize the possibility of being discovered masturbating. So what is happening here is important from a future partner sex perspective even if what has been going on does not now involve sex with a partner.

Female partners do not normally complain to their guy that he needs to get to the orgasm part more quickly. Indeed, quite the opposite. For gay males, the challenges in this regard cannot be different. Would a gay male prefer a partner who gets off quickly, or one who can tolerate a lot of stimulation while still holding back an orgasm? So, straight or gay, this works for both in partner sex.

To be continued….

Wondering
 

I have always been fascinated with the exact science underlying the male sexual arousal system and how sexual arousal works in a unique way for every guy. I have often thought that if males were all attracted to exactly the same things, they would all end up seeking out and attempting to have sex with the exact same partner. But, male sexual arousal and response can’t work that way at all, nor can female sexual response, for that matter. Each of us is unique as our own fingerprints in that regard, and sexual arousal and response therefore has to be processed differently by each of us. The long term survival of humanity depends on that.

Some guys seem to think that any sort of sexual response that does not directly involve a female partner is somehow abnormal or, at minimum, a personality weakness. Still, guys fantasize about situations that involve sexual arousal all the time. Well, perhaps not all the time, but certainly most of the time. :-) Reality has a whole series of barriers as to what can and cannot be done from a sexual-arousal perspective. Oddly enough, the fantasy world has no such barriers. Guys are perfectly free to fantasize about anything that turns them on, whether what it is they are fantasizing about would be considered OK in reality or not. That is part of the fun of the fantasy world—a guy can simply just let his mind wander to wherever it wants to go.

Fantasizing about stuff that is a sexual turn-on might better be called daydreaming with a sexual theme. Think about a daydream in which a guy is fantasizing about having sex with a female that he finds to be particularly sexy and attractive. Now this most often probably is not possible for any number of reasons, but that does not stop a guy from fantasizing about it. Much the same can be said for a gay guy who likes to fantasize about some sort of sexual interaction with another male he finds particularly attractive from a sexual perspective as well. There may be all sorts of practical barriers to acting this out too, starting with a real possibility that the guy he is fascinated by is straight not gay and would not be interested in having a sexual encounter with another male.

MOST sexual fantasies probably are not acted on, and that is probably a good not bad thing. Guys tend to remember and carry with them the best sexual fantasies, the ones that over time seem most arousing. The less arousing ones tend to be gradually discarded.

Sexual fantasies often become the raw material that guys use when they have wet dreams. Like non-sexual dreams, chunks of what might have been fantasized about in the daydream get worked into the story line of a wet dream, as the guy not only replays events in dreams that contain plot lines from what was arousing sexually during the day into a story line that keeps going into the details of what the guy would have liked to have happened in reality during the day, but of course did not. There is no real limit to how the story line develops once the guy is asleep, except to say that the best story lines will give the guy a huge hard-on while still asleep which, for a “normal” 19-year old college guy (such as the four guys in the story) concludes with one terrific orgasm. Somehow the guy USUALLY wakes up just in time to realize what is on the verge of happening. The dream content got just exactly to the point whereby the guy could no longer keep the orgasm from happening even if he wanted to.

What does this all have to do with Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh? Well, for starters the four of them are each encountering a variety of daytime experiences that each of them finds sexually arousing from their own individual perspectives. This is a very normal thing to happen for each of them. Each of them carries whatever was picked up during the day that was sexually arousing into their sleep time, and how the brain processes this stuff each night is always interesting. Actually, it’s a not-to-be-missed experience, even if it sometimes means that whatever the guy wore to bed will need to be laundered, let alone the sheets:)

But what happens if the daytime sexual fantasies involve something that is not about having sex with a partner, male or female, but about something else? Suppose a guy gets aroused by what I call the “swim brief shopping trip fantasy” or the “first attempt at putting on a jock strap in the locker room fantasy”. Worse, what if the guy gets aroused just seeing another guy wearing a really skimpy swim brief? Is it the guy or the swim brief that is turning him on? Is this so intertwined that the answer to the question impossible to determine? Are guys who are turned on by skimpy swim briefs perhaps closeted and frustrated gay guys, or is it possible for a guy to get sexually aroused by the mere thought of getting to wear a skimpy swim brief and all of this has basically nothing to do with sexual orientation?

Same with the jock strap story. Maybe the guy is interested in seeing the straps being tried on and worn by his peer males in the gym locker room. Do guys give furtive glances at other guys clad in their snug-fitting straps? Is this merely curiosity as in “I’m wondering if the other guys are struggling with wearing this without getting a hard-on like I am struggling with this” or is this more complicated still? Is it the tight little strap and cup that is causing me to get erect, or is it the fact that I am getting to see my peers struggling with this too that is making me hard? A tough call for sure!

Guys are routinely uncomfortable in even starting to openly deal with all of this. Generally, guys have determined that having wet dreams can be really fun, and the right sexual dream can be a nearly unforgettable experience. Never mind the mess and the need to try to “explain” what happened come morning . This is more of the male sexuality stuff involving about equal parts terror and unbridled good feelings.

A sexually arousing moment during the day sets a guy up for the possibility at least of having a really powerful wet dream that night. In this regard, the “arousing partner “ story line probably does not work any better than a dream replaying the “shopping trip for a swim brief” or “trying on the straps at the gym” experience. Of course, every guy is going to process the various events of the day a little differently for sure. Some guys may build wet dreams around partner-sex themes, while these other fantasies might play a bigger role for other guys.

Finally, there is the issue of whole role of snug-fitting garments in channeling wet dreams in certain ways. The guy who was turned on by the swim brief shopping trip fantasy might consider, for example, the possibility of actually wearing a skimpy swim brief to bed. The guy who found the jock strap at the gym fantasy to be arousing might try spending the night in a strap and cup, the snugger-fitting the better.

Guys know that during the night, the male penis goes through alternate cycles of expansion and contraction, and if the penis during the expansion phase is cofined within a snug-fitting garment, something will probably have to give as the now-activated nerves in the penis come up against something slinky smooth (the swim brief) or immovably hard (the hard cup in the pouch).These ideas could make for more frequent and better wet dreams too, leading to stronger orgasms.

Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh have figured this all out, pretty much.

To be continued….

Nearly every guy does this, but each in his own way
 

It doesn’t take long after puberty for guys to learn how much sheer fun sexual arousal and then to an orgasm really is, but there are lots of issues with which to deal. But with this comes a series of issues or problems that every guy faces One of the things about this that a guy learns very early on is that the only socially acceptable time and place to get aroused and have an orgasm is in the context of a relationship with another person, usually a female, but guys are obviously doing stuff long before they are old enough to assume a relationship with another person let alone have partner sex.

All of this presents quite a dilemma for guys, with the basic problem being that they enjoy engaging in solo sex (masturbation) very much, but if anyone else should find out about this fondness for jerking off, they will be subject to teasing, bullying, being labeled as a social outcast or worse. So a guy quickly leans that whatever he does with or to himself in this regard must be done on the sly. How can something so enjoyable be treated in such a sloppy way for goodness sakes?

And every guy soon determines that he is not the only male peer struggling with this same complicated is, that is, of discovering a real enjoyment playing with himself, but it must be that the other guys his age are doing things by themselves and normally not engaged in doing the very things they are comfortable bragging about relating to sexual encounters with female partners. It would be a rare instance if at all, that a guy would talk about his solo-sex activities with even a close male friend, in part because such a discussion would perhaps incorrectly imply that the guy is interested in a sexual encounter with another male. So all of what guys actually do to themselves is the deepest, darkest secret there ever was. Guys are generally not willing to admit doing any of this.

All of these struggles dealing with solo sex gets carried into young adulthood and maybe into older adulthood as well. Guys in their teens (sex experts too) seem to think that as guys get into their twenties, whatever interest they had in playing with themselves will dissipate as “real sex” with a partner assumes a more and more important role.

Guys often assume that when they were living at home there were huge barriers to engaging in solo sex because of the living situation they are in. one would not want to have your parents realize what you are doing to yourself, let alone siblings or male friends for goodness sakes.

The problem of course is that the real world doesn’t work in this regard like the sex experts think it should, and generally most guys retain a lot more interest in solo sex activities as they move into young adulthood. Masturbation techniques that were fun at age 12 are probably still enjoyable at age 20, and without the complexities of having to deal with the host of issues relating to a partner for sex.

A lot of guys assume that once they get into college, life will be a lot simpler than it was when in high school, singe the guy is normally off on his own. In the case of roommates Bill and Joe and roommates Dylan and Josh, roommates who only met for the first time at the start of the school year, there are additional issues. Living together as two college guys in a cramped 200 sq. ft. dorm room is going to pose some special challenges if a guy wants to get off on his own, to say the least.

One approach for two college roommates in such a situation is to try to approach masturbation the same way they commonly did in high school. This probably means masturbating in bed at night under the covers and the darkness. Is my roommate going to quickly figure out I am doing this? Is my roommate trying to cope with the same issue while not revealing to me what he is up to? How is all of this going to work as the semester wears on and we get more familiar with each other? What issues are going to happen if my roommate discovers that I “do it” perhaps every night or two?

Guys learn a variety of techniques for masturbating in bed when they are still living at home. Oddly enough, if starchy and damp spots are “discovered”, the easiest way out of the box is probably for the guy to claim he had a wet dream, and the orgasm was not something he could control as he was asleep when it all happened. Providing that explanation to your parents ordinarily seems to work quite well.

But, of course, as any guy knows, most of the orgasms that happen in bed are anything but the consequence of an uncontrollable wet dream. If wet dreams are fun, encouraging an orgasm while still awake might be even more fun, depending on how horny the guy is. If wet dreams are really fun, why not simply help things along a little in the darkness and under the coves?

Then, of course, there are the clothing items that might even help the process along, in particular the ones that Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh have been experimenting with. Now, practically every young guy is going to have real issues in coming clean with the idea that certain clothing items can easily lead to sexual arousal, but perhaps most every guy by the time he reaches young adulthood, say the age of Dylan, has “discovered” a number of different clothing items that seem to do this. Usually the clothing items that do this are very slick and smooth (ie Lycra®) or fit very snuggly (such as an athletic supporter or maybe even a favorite pair of snug-fitting jeans.
As a teenager guys are old enough to be left at home alone for perhaps an afternoon, and a lot of guys see this as an excellent opportunity to run some “experiments”. The guy has often stashed the items that do this to (or for) him, and out they come as soon as everyone else leaves the house. Guys quickly get into a masturbation routine in which each of the times he is left alone turn into an opportunity to run some more sexually-focused“ experiments.”

Guys carry these experiments along with them into college. But things may actually be more not less difficult, as the guy waits for his roommate to “go home for the weekend” in order to have a clear path to some solo sex play without interruption.

Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe have more or less taken a step beyond that in that each of them has pretty well now determined what the other guys must be up to in the solo sex department. Watching your roommate masturbate while wearing a thong really puts a whole new view of all of this in place. Still there are the complicating issues that relate to the possibility that both Dylan and Josh have a gay side to their personalities in this regard. And what about Bill and Joe in this regard too?

I guess there are two possible consequences here. Either a guy is repulsed by seeing his male roommate masturbating, and will run and hide. In which case the guy who is repulsed by this must be straight, or at minimum sees the idea of being repulsed by this consistent with the idea of being straight.

The other possibility is that the guy doing the watching thinks its interesting (fun, and perhaps arousing) to see his roommate masturbate himself, especially using “helper” clothing items. This is a place most guys do not normally get to be let alone study in detail. But, does this then mean that the guy doing the watching (and likely the guy doing the masturbating) actually is gay but perhaps still hasn’t admitted this to himself let alone to others?

These are complicated questions that are not at all easy to answer.

To be continued….

Curiosity is at the core of sexual arousal
 

Curiosity is at the core of sexual arousal. This is true whether you are male, female straight, gay or of an as yet undetermined sexual orientation (but more about that part later).

Think of all the coming-of-age movies that you have seen in your lifetime. In a classic coming-of-age movie, the centerpiece of the storyline is often a group of guys who are obviously all feeling very horny and focused on losing their virginity, in a straight coming of age movie, usually with some female of females that they find particularly attractive. Almost invariably, the guys are still quite naïve about not only female anatomy. Lots of the movie is spent with the guys discussing exactly what female body parts they would like to touch and grope, and as the story line develops it becomes clear that some of the guys have never actually seen a naked female, or, if they had, it was only in a book or magazine somewhere. “Dirty” magazines or books recounting the details of human sexuality from a “clinical” perspective are often a key part of the plot. And the audience is drawing into the story line that “properly” ends with the shyest guy in the bunch having the greatest success on the intercourse-with-a-female front. This unexpected outcome always invariably drives the boorish, noisy guys bonkers.

Now think about coming of age movies set in the present or near past. MOST coming-of-age movies are set in the distant past. Take “Summer of ‘42”, for example, perhaps the best coming-of-age movie ever. When I saw this movie for the first time in the early 1970s I thought it was the sexiest movie I had ever seen. And it was, too. A lot of the coming-of-age movies go forward to a setting the 1950s and 1960s, but movies set in the present are rare indeed unless you count some movies I do not think of as true coming-of-age movies. A proper coming-of-age movie features horny teen guys in search of their first real partner-sex conquest.

Why is this plotline no longer a movie staple? Maybe its because in this modern age, there are fewer unknowns or things to be curious about in the world of human sexuality. Nowadays by the time a male reaches puberty, he has probably already been exposed to the small details of naked female anatomy if not from books, from places on the Internet or even on TV, parental controls notwithstanding. If any guy hasn’t discovered this yet, it’s interesting to go into Wikipedia with a list of words that describe parts of the male or female body that have something to do with human sexuality and the anatomy of the reproductive system, and just sit and read the articles one by one. Parents aren’t likely to complain if a guy is simply reading Wikipedia articles in his room on his computer. It’s the ultimate “cover.” Then just a simple search in Google might quickly get you into Sebbie’s writings on the subject, writings that might open the eyes of males and maybe some females in part because your author loves to write about stuff going deep into topics no other author seems to dare go. Part of what makes a coming-of-age movie fun is the discovery of ideas about human sexuality that the guy was previously unaware of.

Curiosity invariably leads to the discovery of things about your own body and a potential partner’s body that you didn’t know before and it is the discovery process itself that is frequently the most sexually arousing. I know some of my readers are put off by the fact that I discuss partner sex so infrequently, perhaps even hinting that I see partner sex is in fact an inferior alternative to solo sex. I do not believe this, except to say that for having really enjoyable sex with a partner, you have to first understand the nuances of how your own body works and responds to sexual s stimuli. Keep in mind that the same idea applies to a sexual partner, male or female. The really great sex only happens when the two partners only fully understand how their own bodies, and each other’s bodies, work from a sexual arousal perspective. Somehow in a good relationship this all comes together in a bunch of different ways.

In this context it’s good to know that the best solo-sex experiences can either simply be really fun as stand-alone activities, or also be the great fodder as a starting point for mind-blowing partner sex. If a partner fully understands what is really great fun when you are doing it alone. Then that is well on the way to understanding what will be mind blowing in a relationship, and guys need to get over the idea of not daring to reveal to their partners how this all works for them in a solo-sex context.

So let me walk you through some thoughts about how all of this might work for guys in the story. There are four guys, each wearing different clothing items and getting horny doing so while fervently attempting to refrain from going into the full-scale ejaculatory mode. Of course, this keeps getting tougher and tougher to do. Guys are wired that way. What begins as merely a subtle version of sexual arousal many very quickly go into a situation whereby the urge to ejaculate becomes overwhelming and soon unstoppable.

How is all of this going to work in partner sex? That is an interesting question. If a straight guy has not developed a degree of ejaculatory control, he is likely to explode even before his penis finds its way into a vagina. That’s no fun. For gay guys, things can get more unpredictable as I am less certain at predicting what the end game will be, except to say that a male partner would likely be sexually happier if the guy could remain aroused but delay going into a full scale orgasm for as long as possible.

How does a guy lean how to do all of this? Getting yourself to the point whereby you are quickly quite aroused but can still deal with your sexual tensions without blowing is no small trick to do, Indeed, there are specific techniques for doing this, marketed in the sex therapist books clinically as “treatments for premature ejaculation.” Generally, these treatments are involved with the guy experimenting on his own (aka masturbation techniques that get a guy aroused but not quite to blowing and being able to do this for an extended period of time). If you have read my stories this far, you probably realize that certain clothing items can cause a male to get really horny in a hurry. Generally, females have no clue about this, or if they do they can’t relate to it at all.

For example, what if a guy likes to masturbate while donning a slick and skimpy swim brief? What if wearing the swim brief constitutes a favorite way to get off, and the guy has been playing with himself using the swim brief since he was, say, 12 or 13? What if the guy carries this particular fondness into young adulthood? What about an encounter with a female who is seen as a potential sexual partner? When they first have sex together, what if he is still thinking about all the fun times he had with the swim brief? Does the poor guy simply discard all of that now that he has a female to satisfy him? What if this is not so easy to do? Does the guy eventually tell the female partner about what he loves to do, and how is she going to respond? This idea of jerking off while wearing a specific clothing items has no direct parallel in the female sexual world. Women primarily wear skimpy clothes primarily as an effort to first attract and then turn males on, not as aids in solo female masturbation. At least I think this is one of the key differences that separates the sexes.

But what if the guy sees himself as a gay male? Perhaps then there could be at least one other gay male in the universe of gay males who loves wearing a skimpy swim brief and particularly enjoys playing with himself while wearing it. The two guys may have perhaps found partners for life. If I enjoy jerking off in a skimpy swim brief and so do you, maybe we are compatible not only in this but in many other ways. Perhaps you share some of my other interests as well, such as an interest in enjoying wearing jock straps, cups, compression gear, or even particularly snug fitting (i.e. thong) underwear or jeans. Knowing that there is but one other guy out there who shares some of the interests I have is important and all this secrecy associated with what to do with all of this in the context of trying to explain it all away to a female partner suddenly no longer applies.

I keep writing chapter after chapter here in an effort to try to explain some stuff that I don’t think has ever been explained before, but I end up asking more questions than I am able to answer.

I have found that wearing snug-fitting clothing tends to “stimulate” my ability to at least write on the subject. Today, I decided that in order to write I would need to first get myself into a mode that makes me a little horny as a writer. I suspect that this is a path many writers of erotic literature pursue. So, what did it for me today was a little pair of jockey briefs, a compression tee, topped by a forest green wrestling singlet, Asics, size Small. I love how shoulder straps of the almost too-tight-to-imagine singlet keeps tugging in interesting ways way down in my groin and pubic area. I hope Josh in my story at the gym has discovered that as well, and is enjoying the same experience I am having now.

If what I write gives my readers some ideas for enjoying yourselves as you are reading this, so be it!:)


To be continued (of course)…

Legilimency
 

How can you know what is in my brain so well? it is like Legilimency in Harry Potter.

I appreciate your kind comments. Enjoy yourself!

A “brief” instructional manual Part 1
 

I have raised a lot of interesting questions for my readers to think about, often questions that have no simple or easy answers. Today I got to thinking about what I would like to tell a guy, maybe a guy about the age of the four college guys in my story, as to what advice I would give if you are just starting out thinking about all of this and how it all might work your own life.

A lot of guys, even guys who might be open-minded about a lot of things, are still very apprehensive when the subject of self-pleasuring comes up. Aside from a widespread belief that masturbation is not “real sex, and only sex with a partner can be called “real sex”, masturbation gets a bad name because of the association with social outcasts, as in people who have difficulty making friends in the real world. That issue about masturbators being socially challenged does not seem to be a problem for Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe, however. But we still do not know if each of them might indeed have issues making friends with other individuals, male and female, who could eventually turn into partners for having “real” sex.

At this point I would make the following arguments. How can a guy (how can ANY person?) possibly expect to be successful in dealing with partner sex if he doesn’t fully understand how his own body works within the broad context of sexual feelings and sensations that are possible? In this regard, I’ve often thought that gay guys ultimately have it easier than straight guys working from the basic idea that they know something about how their own body works in terms of sexual feelings, and this knowledge should broadly apply to another male in a relationship. The female body introduces all sorts of complexities that I will not go into here at this point, but many males probably spend most of their adult lives trying to figure out exactly how this complex arrangement all works. (Many just give up on this and say it’s simply beyond ANY male to fully understand what they should know in a male-female relationship!)

My intent is to not go into a marriage counseling role today, but to merely help my readers who psychologically think masturbation is great fun (if not, why have you been reading this stuff, anyway?) but somehow not right within the larger scheme of things. And of course, introducing the idea of various snug-fitting pieces of clothing creates new pleasure opportunities, but probably also new pangs of guilt, as in “is this somehow not OK?” and “would my friends all leave me if they knew I did this”? What if I uncover something that is really fun but then want to get into a sexual relationship with a partner, does a guy simply discard and forget about this stuff and move on? If not, then what?

For the time being, I will leave my readers to ponder these questions. What I want to discuss today are some thoughts I have been having about helping a guy who is serious about leaning advanced techniques for self pleasuring, but needs some guidance.

I think a lot about the issue of why some guys seem to like to wear swim briefs and others do not. The answer to this question is either really complicated or simple to understand. Even prior to puberty, guys are not devoid os sexual feelings and sensations emanating from the groin area. They are too young to associate these good feelings and sensations with sex and all it entails, but they are still sexual feelings. I think I first started to notice the sensations and begin to appreciate this when I was only 5 or 6, perhaps even earlier.

Moms buy underwear for their boys that age. The first pair of real underwear a guy gets just out of diapers is probably cotton brief, probably a brief that fits quite snug. It is not long before the guy learns that the brief touches some body parts that feel good and the mere act of dressing has some fun but unexpected elements to it.

As a guy gets older, mom may buy the boy cotton briefs in a larger size, still snug-fitting, but in a larger size to fit the growing body. (It’s always fun for a young guy to put an older, smaller pair of cotton briefs in your dresser drawer and wear those instead). But then, around 11 or 12, puberty sets in, and there is the additional “problem” that any clothing item that fits snug in the groin area like a cotton brief could quickly lead to a potentially embarrassing erection (or, soon, worse). This is, of course, great fun, but also very dangerous at an assortment of levels. Some solution must be found, and that solution is a loose-fitting boxer short, something far less likely to come in contact with and stimulate the penis. A guy showing up in the gym locker room quickly discovers that all his buds have all transitioned from cotton briefs to loose-fitting boxer shorts. The next week, the one guy who was still wearing a “diaper like” childish cotton brief is now wearing a loose-fitting boxer too, and the guy has gone through a “rite of passage” with his peer males.

After that, it is not likely that any growing male will wear a snug-fitting clothing item, in part because of the consequences if that item stimulates his body in the wrong (or is it right?) way. Anyhow, guys are normally quite watchful of getting themselves into a situation where they get erect in a place that is not right to be erect in, so that concern leads to a banning of any clothing item where there is a chance of something like that happening.

Still, the guy’s experiences of the fun he had at an early age wearing snug-fitting cotton briefs has left an indelible psychological imprint on his brain. A small minority of guys never make the expected transition from briefs to boxers at puberty, and continue to wear cotton briefs as daily underwear. The guys who transitioned into boxers at puberty continue to steer clear of any clothing item that has the potential to stimulate the groin area, and this explains the strong preference for loose fitting swimming attire such as board shorts. The guys who somehow continued to wear standard cotton briefs past puberty and into high school probably see this as being less of an issue, and have gotten “used” to wearing clothing that fits closer to the groin and penis. Making the transition from cotton brief underwear to a skimpy Lycra® swim brief is much less of a transition for these few guys, and doing this does not necessarily get the guy wearing the swim brief into an erection issue. The guy at some level is now “used” to having clothing that fits close against the penis, having worn cotton briefs routinely all along.

The funny thing about all of this is that the guys who transitioned first from cotton briefs to loose-fitting boxer shorts and then to board shorts for swimming and other recreational activities all likely have indelible early imprints on their brains where they recall how much fun it was to wear a brief that fit close to the body and accidentally rubbed on their penises in unanticipated but interesting ways. The Lycra® swim brief does the same thing the cotton brief did, except about ten times over given that the swim brief is smaller, snugger, and with smoother, slicker material. The guys wearing the board shorts have a mixture of curiosity and admiration for the one guy in the Lycra® swim brief.

The curiosity comes from wondering if the guy in the swim brief will soon get a big, noticeable erection clad the way he is, or, if not, how the guy copes with the sensations his body has to be experiencing inside the brief so as to not get into an embarrassing situation.

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A "brief" instructional manual Part 2
 

So, what is today’s instructional advice? For guys who are just starting to learn how to mess around like this, if you have been wearing loose-fitting boxers since puberty, now that you are a young adult, perhaps its time to go out and buy yourself a snug-fitting package of three cotton briefs, of the same style and fit that you wore when you were only 11. A related stunt is once you get your body re-educated as to what your groin area feels like in a pair of cotton briefs you bought in your “right” size. You can see what happens if you downsize the cotton brief, one size smaller, two sizes smaller, etc. Cotton briefs stretch a lot. Or you can make another leap to transition into skimpy colored bikini briefs. Keep thinking up ways for putting more and more pressure on your mind and body at each step and purchase, and don’t let off. From there it should be an easy transition into a “real” swim brief. What happens to your body then is entirely up to you.

What happens if you end up blowing at one of these steps along the way? Do not despair. You have found where your limits are, sexually, at least for the moment. Just kick back and enjoy the fun, the very stuff you never got to try doing when you were 13. You will recover from all of this and tomorrow is another day.

From the swim brief you can transition yourself into the various items Dylan has been trying in the story. Some of these items may work better for you than others on the list. That doesn’t matter. What you are really learning is exactly which of the items get you off the best, and later on, can I wear this item yet delay ejaculation for a long time?

All of this is a lot of fun and many of you are probably still wondering whether any of this is useful in or could even ever be brought into a relationship with a partner. The particular concern is in a heterosexual relationship in that your partner might just think you have somehow completely lost it.

Still, learning the nuances of what the male body is capable of doing and keeping from doing is always useful in any partner relationship. The techniques for doing this are, well, quite enjoyable even if they seem to be hard lessons at times. And there is always a hope of bringing the partner right along for the fun, though I admit that this will likely be easier in a gay than in a straight relationship.

To be continued….

Curious, Sebbie, are cut vs uncut guys going to experience things differently? Very interesting work, by the way.

I don't think that would make any difference, tho each guy is unique.

Think about this, Part 1
 

Experiences a guy has at a very early age involving sexual feelings and sensations frequently stick in a guy’s brain like glue, even experiences that happen at a very early age.

Think back if you can remember how old you were when you first realized that there were body parts in your groin area that felt really good when they were touched, groped or fondled, and the circumstances under which you might have first taken note of this. About how old were you? What were the exact circumstances? Were you mainly surprised, pleased or apprehensive when you discovered this?

It is normal to be somewhat scared and apprehensive, even if the sensations are very pleasant. A lot of guys worry that they have “broken” something.

Do you recall at all what you were wearing when this happened to you? A snug-fitting item of clothing? Something else?

I assume that this happened to you well before the point in time when you had your first real orgasm. How old were you when that happened? Were you surprised, pleased or perhaps terrified? What were the circumstances when that happened? Were you alone? Were you wearing a clothing item that fitted close to the groin like a swimsuit?

For many guys the exact situation when your first orgasm happened is an unforgettable moment in time. Nowadays, most guys probably mature sexually (I love that term) and have their first real orgasm around age 11. Within a year or two, most guys have probably already mastered some of the finer points of jerking off in private, along with the wet dreams and all. These are learned techniques that evolve gradually. But, given the early sexual maturity, guys end up with more and more time where they are not likely to be seriously involved with a sexual partner. This, of course, presents a host of issues. Some high school students are having sex with a partner, but certainly fewer than brag about it for sure. And casual sex with a partner in high school presents a host of messy and complicated issues that go way beyond where a guy is, emotionally, financially and otherwise.

The solution? Why masturbation of course. These years are excellent ones in terms of learning about yourself and your body and what makes you happy sexually, without all the additional complications of having to deal with a partner, male or female. These are learned techniques and not something a guy is going to necessarily master all at once. Some of the methods are so enjoyable that a guy might bring what he has learned into young adulthood. Take Dylan and Josh, or even Bill and Joe, as examples here.

This sounds like a great solution. Male hormones keep bombarding a guy relentlessly, and keep drawing his attention back to his penis. Yet, masturbation is not exactly a topic of conversation for guys with their siblings, peer classmates or even parents. Best if this all be done surreptitiously and even under the cover of darkness, lest your parents (one level of concern), siblings (a second level of concern) or peer classmates (a third, and most important level of concern), put two and two together to figure out what you have been doing to yourself, where and when.

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Think about this, Part 2
 

At some level this is all unfortunate. A guy may be learning to master a great method for jerking off alone that he really enjoys, but the focus cannot be solely on that given this huge requirement also to hide what he is doing. Still, hidden from others or not, this all does go on, and somehow guys manage to cope with all of the requirements that still allow him to breathe comfortably when with his peers and family members. Ahh, the difficulties of just growing up for a male!

Given the amount of time a guy has to practice, at least from age 12 to 18 and maybe well into college age, some of these solo jerk-off methods may get increasingly complex and ever more enjoyable, at least for the guy who dreamed them up. The classic coming-of-age movie often has a horny teen-age boy who ends up jerking off while reading a magazine containing photos of naked women, or even purloining a doctor’s manual that describes the sex act in minute detail. With the rise of the Internet and every kid has to have a computer, the idea of seeing and learning about sex by reading paper copy has become antiquated. Better to find what a guy needs to see on the Web.

So, by the time most guys reach young adulthood, they have uncovered a host of different ways to jerk off without having to be with a partner, and probably more than a few ways that they are really fond of. Whether or not some of these methods involve snug-fitting items of clothing and how common that is among boys in general is an interesting question that does not have any solid research to clarify. Sex researchers seem to commonly not know the questions to ask, and responses would get into stuff that guys normally want to keep deeply hidden for a bunch of different reasons.

However, once a really fun jerk-off method is developed, a guy is likely going to be very reluctant to discard that even after he gets into a relationship with a partner. This can get to be an issue even when a guy is getting a little older but not in a relationship. Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh are still just male college buddies, and not sexual partners in any way. Yet at this point each of them pretty much knows what the others are up to and why they are doing what they are doing. Where this all goes from here is unclear. If they were pairing off in gay relationships, the outcome might become more nearly clear. Most gay males probably at some level are comfortable with the whole idea of sharing favorite jerk-off methods with their partners and assume that, at minimum, the partner will enjoy at least watching the fun if not being actively engaged himself in one way or another. Finding a compatible male partner might very well entail finding another male who shares interests and enjoys the exact same thing or similar. If I love to get off while wearing a skimpy swim brief, a compatible partner might be a guy who not only likes to watch me do that, but also enjoys doing the same thing as I watch him play with himself inside the brief. As sex in male-male partner relationships go, this is really tame stuff.

But, now assume I am a straight male, a male who also learned to love to get off in a skimpy swim brief. Just because I have gotten into a relationship with a female doesn’t mean that I can or should abruptly abandon a favorite jerk-off method employing a skimpy swim brief. What is fun sexually is fun, relationship with a female or not. But the question then becomes how to deal with my wonderful jerk-off method within a relationship involving a female.

For starters, females are generally educated (by their moms) that the female is the central source of sexual pleasure for the guy, and anything else he might be doing to pleasure himself that does not include her is irrelevant to the relationship. Anything sexually occurs that does not put the female in the center of the male action is clearly bad and wrong, and further, the female is somehow not fulfilling her obligations to her male partner.

The problem, of course is the guy still loves his solo-sex methods and techniques, and the most daring guys try to keep them going inside the relationship with a woman. Then the woman discovers that the guy is still masturbating and she comes completely unglued. Divorce occurs shortly. A lot of guys decide to stay out of marriage in part because they are fearful that this is exactly how this would likely all go down. Even in marriage, many guys still need their private (solo sex) space though far fewer dare openly admit that.

Where is this whole story headed from here? I’ll be doggoned if I know. There are several possible paths. Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh could open up some more about exactly what they have been up to and why it works. They could pair off two by two as male partners. Or, they could decide that they are each straight and start dating college-age women. Or they could get involved in a more open male foursome, traditionally called a circle jerk. But if they do that, they are going to have to openly admit to each other at least that they are each not as straight as we were initially led to believe. Figuring this all out is part of the fun.

We know that each of them is really having fun wearing the various clothing items and getting horny while wearing them. Each of them has been developing their skills at remaining aroused for long periods of time without quite blowing. This theme overlays the entire story line in all the chapters. I do know it would be fun to hang with Bill, Joe, Dylan and Josh just to see how they each find a path and come up with ways to cope with all of the crazy sexual tension going on right now.


To be continued, I think…:)

Relationships matter, but perhaps not as much as some guys think
 

Once many guys reach young adulthood, they begin to believe that enjoying your own male body and being in a relationship with a “loving partner” are as inseparable as, say macaroni and cheese or even ham and eggs. That leads guys who are not so fortunate into bouts of psychological depression in thinking that there are other guys who, because they are in a loving relationship, are simply enjoying life (not to mention their own sexual bodies) to a far greater degree.

Of course relationships in human sexuality matter. Were that not the case, the human race would have gone extinct long ago. But if there is any recurring theme to these chapters, it is that there is a lot more to male sexuality and human sexuality than only that, and it is possible to find safe and enjoyable sexual outlets that involve no personal risks or the complexity of working things out on a steady basis with a steady-and-willing partner.

If you stop and think about what I said, it is quite profound. What I just said is that a guy can be happy and sexually fulfilled even without having sex regularly with a willing partner. Straight, gay or of undetermined sexual orientation, that matters not at all in the interpretation of this statement.

I have been known to study, porn sites, but always only for research purposes.:-) One of the things I have been looking at is the popularity of various kinds of pornography. The classic heterosexual porn site has a lot of videos showing a male and a female getting it on. The classic gay porno site shows either two guys getting it on, or two women commonly masturbating each other using their fingers, or, less commonly, a strap-on dildo. I have always been somewhat amazed by how popular the two-women masturbation porn seems to be with heterosexual male porn viewers. I conclude that a lot of otherwise straight males find that watching this to be quite arousing.

These classic porn videos are only the starting point for an array of other videos of all sorts. Another common one is the so-called two-on-one videos that most commonly involve two women working over one guy, another heterosexual male fantasy, apparently. The opposite--two guys with one woman, is far less common.

Solo sex, as in a guy bringing himself to orgasm without the help of a partner, exist in large numbers as well. Some of these videos involve guys doing this naked, but the more interesting videos more commonly have a guy doing this while wearing a skimpy swim brief or slick-looking pair of brief style underwear. There is an audience for this type of porn. An interesting question of course, is whether the audience for this consists largely of gay males, straight males, perhaps curious women, or some mix of the three groups.

I hope you can see where I am going with all of this. I think that there is almost a universal curiosity on the part of males with respect to how other males cope with sexual feelings, arousal, and the path to ejaculation. This is not a straight or gay issue as such. This curiosity begins at puberty, or even before, and it extends into adulthood, perhaps through adulthood. Guys figure out what feels good at a very early age, and are curious as to whether other guys have discovered something similar, and if so, how they cope. As I have indicated earlier, this sexual tension of sorts is the fodder for most coming-of-age movies where horny guys typically try to act on what they have learned. But oddly enough, a scene involving solo masturbation, even a scene in which the guy is wearing a swim brief as this is happening, is still considered too rough to be presented in an R-rated movie for a mass audience. Despite R-rated movies showing practically everything that goes on between couples sexually, male masturbation rarely occurs in non-porn movies, and if it does, everything is usually implied (say, showing the face but not the body of the masturbator) and not presented with any detail.

So, solo sex is treated as if it is raunchier than most forms of partner sex. There is something really bad, unacceptable or dirty about male masturbation that goes beyond the raunchiness or regular sexual intercourse.

The reality of being a guy is quite the opposite. Partner sex carries all the real risks associated with being a sexual human being: Solo sex generally is a perfectly safe and readily available alternative.

Even more complicated is the situation for the guy who has discovered that he greatly enjoys getting aroused by and then getting off while wearing, say ,a swim brief or a skimpy jock strap, with or without a cup. The sex researchers have already labeled this poor guy as a person who is on the abnormal side of sexual psychology, and stuck with a fetish, as in a sexual attraction to an inanimate object. Never mind that the garment helps him get to some of the best orgasms he has ever experienced. The sex researchers like to simply ignore that, as they are fixated on the idea that partner sex is the only true way to sexual happiness for a guy.

But keep in mind that for a long time, these same sex researchers thought penis and vagina was the only real sex, and that whatever gay males did either with or to each other was somehow abnormal too. The thinking on that subject has changed a lot, and gays are no longer treated as if they were part of the chapter on abnormal sexual psychology.

Will male masturbation ever be treated by sex researchers as more than only a substitute sexual release that is important to guys early in life and perhaps late in life, when a real partner for sex is no longer available, but an inferior sexual release used primarily by the socially-challenged and otherwise unfortunate at all other points during a lifetime.

An even more complicated question is whether or not the use of a garment as a way to drastically improve the quality of male masturbation such as a swim brief or jock strap will ever get a billing that no longer places this in the category of just another abnormal or oddball male fetish. I confess that I love to watch how other guys respond to a situation in which their body parts are contained in a garment that simply provides little if any room to expand should the need for more room manifest itself. This, I think is a natural curiosity on the part of most males extending from puberty onward, and not something only guys who believe themselves to be gay are interested in observing and doing.

When Dylan watches Josh masturbate himself in that tiny little Desmiit® thong, Dylan is drawn into not repulsed by what he is seeing. And for Josh, having Dylan there watching him adds a new psychosexual element to the total experience for Josh, something that he might have daydreamed about, but could never actually try earlier in life. This moves to yet another level as the four guys engage in various gym workout activities while being clad in various items of snug-fitting clothing. All of them should be now reentering their dorm rooms after the workout experience, really ready to blow in what turned out to be a sexually tense series of moments at the gym as has ever occurred in each of their young lives.

To be continued…

What is it about a skimpy swimming brief, anyway?
 

What exactly is it about a skimpy Lycra® blend swimming brief, anyway, that makes guys so interested in them and yet so apprehensive about wearing one, at least for a lot of guys?

That is an interesting question, and a question that in all this time has not been adequately studied. Videos aimed primarily at a gay male audience frequently feature two guys, both clad in skimpy swim briefs, and doing various things to each other. Sometimes the actors begin with more clothes on over the swimming briefs, but they soon strip down to just the briefs, and a lot of the action sequences in the videos occurs with the briefs still in place.

I have noticed something. Almost invariably, the penises of the guys in the videos, tho fully covered by the briefs, almost invariably put in the “up” position.

As any swim-brief wearer knows, finding a place for your penis to comfortably be is one of the more interesting aspects of wearing a swim brief. Bluntly put, some guys are bigger than other guys flaccid, and the big guys are going to probably have more difficulty with this than the smaller guys will have.

There are three basic positions, down, to the side (R or L) and up. Down, if you can fit, is by far the most conservative, least attention grabbing position, if you are small enough so that the position does not cause you undue discomfort. And remember, swim briefs are intended for swimming and perhaps other athletic endeavors, so a guy needs to have a freedom of movement without discomfort, and that is much easier for the little guys

The second option is to one side or the other, and that works for some of the bigger guys who find the down position uncomfortable. The problem with this position is that it makes a guy look lopsided and bigger on one side or another. And even a slightly erect penis sideways is quite noticeable, tho you see guys positioned this way in photos such as swim team pictures.

That lease up as the swim brief penis position of choice for most guys wearing swim briefs. That gives the guy a good-looking bulge in the groin area, as seen in the Superman or Batman movies. Some guys think this is a cool look: for others, that is where the apprehension starts.

If a guy positions his penis upward in a swim brief, he needs to be at least a little erect to pull off “the look”. But the more interesting aspect of this is that the position places the sensitive underside of the penis outward against the slick Lycra nylon pouch. Anyone looking closely at the swimmer will be able to see the sensitive underside of the swimmer’s penis pressed against the fabric, and probably be able to also make out at least an outline of the guy’s sensitive glans area just beneath the not-very-thick fabric.

This is the part where many guys start to get really apprehensive. Guys reach puberty at age 11 or 12. By age 13 they have likely determined that not all parts of the male penis are equally sensitive when touched or rubbed. Guys quickly learn that the entire underside of the penis produces more interesting and powerful sensations than the top side. And that glans area is a real “hot spot” that if touched or rubbed will send a guy into an orgasm perhaps within seconds. Such is the workings of the male anatomy.

The sites that store photos for use by the public generally have issues in dealing with this. Generally, a photo of a guy clad in a swim brief would not be labeled pornographic. Some photos of a guy wearing a swim brief in which it is obvious that the guy’s penis is there and pointing upward would not be deemed pornographic either. And, as I have indicated, if a guy is pointed up he usually has at least a bit of a hard-on going on.

But for the photo site, where do you draw the line between a swim brief clad guy that is OK for general viewing versus pornographic. Obviously if the swim brief clad guy has a major upward pointing hard-on that photo get treated as pornographic even if the guy’s erection is fully covered. But what about partial but fully covered erections? There is no hard and firm (no pun intended) rule here:), and what is called pornographic depends on someone at the photo site calling it that or not.

Still, if on-line photos are any indication ranging from simple swimmer and swim team photos all the way to the porn videos, the up position is by far the most popular way to go. Never mind that this is part of the reason for all the fear and apprehension among new swim-brief wearers. They are troubled by the entire thought of exposing the sensitive underside and super sensitive glans area to the rest of the world in this manner, even if fully covered. Yet at another level they see other guys doing this and somehow managing. I guess if I were a young swimmer trying this for the first time I would be somewhat nervous too. What if wearing my brief with my penis in that position leads me to get more of a hard on, perhaps things escalate and I blow off with the tip of my penis in that position, creating a wet sticky mess for everyone else to see. That is the apprehension or sheer terror about the whole idea of wearing a swim brief in public. Better to put the brief on for the first time at home, in your bedroom, door locked and looking at yourself in front of a mirror.

But, back to Dylan and Josh. When I last left Dylan and Josh, they were walking home from the gym after a workout, Dylan clad in a skimpy swim brief with compression shorts and a tee over: Josh in a skimpy pair of thong underwear with a tight-and snug forest green wrestling singlet over, the one josh ad borrowed from Dylan just for the occasion. By now, my readers must realize that Josh and Dylan have been feeling quite horny, and have been ever since they started this trip to the gym. Guys their age may not go off, but are leaking pre cum on a steady basis.

One of the interesting aspects of the porn videos featuring two guys in swim briefs is in seeing what stuff two guys can and do to themselves and each other clad this way, semi-hard, penis up inside the brief. Every guy knows that being in this situation even without anything happening from the outside can prove quite arousing. I suppose it would be the politically correct thing to say is that only a gay guy would be interested in seeing another guy in this condition. But, I think the interest of other guys in observing this and “enjoying” what they are observing is all but universal. In other word, this fascination with how other guys wear swim brief and how they position their penis within the pouch is a near universal male curiosity, in part because every guy somehow knows that the guy who is being observed has to be at some level “enjoying” the situation he is in and that is a universal curiosity.

But how far does this go. Are guys who like to look at and study other guys in such a situation straight or gay? Is ANY interest in such a situation strictly a gay thing or not.

The porn videos can be instructive here. First we see two, apparently well acquainted guys just touching each other on parts of the body not considered to be particularly sexual. But they soon work their way to each other’s penis up bulges and start touching and fondling that area briefs till on. Each emits low growls of sexual pleasure (you know how great that area of the penis feels when rubbed through the brief. After that, what happens varies. In some videos, a guy brings out a small electric vibrator, and the two guys end up swiping the underside of each other’s penises with the head of the vibrator. This, of course, feels great, and the two guys groan in a combination of pleasure and sexual agony.

So, Dylan and Josh are now back from the gym and in their private dorm room. Dylan has stripped off his compression gear and is now down to his swim brief, penis somewhat hard still and pointing up. Josh is now out of his forest green wrestling singlet, though that was a bit more of a struggle, given how wrestling singlets are made. Keep in mind that both Dylan and Josh have been feeling quite horny all afternoon. Because of this, they are both getting increasingly desperate to get off, and they both know that because of all of this they are each likely to bow with a most intense orgasm once it finally does happen.

The safest and most acceptable way for each of them to do this is to somehow find private space to get off, a strategy they might have used in their younger years. But here they are, both horny as all get out and both stuck together in the little dorm room. Dylan has to be enjoying seeing Josh stuck in this predicament. Josh the same with Dylan. Both of them know exactly what is going on, or at least so they think.

So what now? Hosh and Dylan could each engage themselves in solo masturbation. The pressure of the thong pushing up on his perineum with the thong back pressing between his glutes is, quite frankly at the point where it is driving Josh bananas in a sexual sensations way. Josh’s engouged penis is positioned upwards as well inside the thong pouch and the emlargement keeps putting more and pore pressure both on the sensitive and sexually active perineum area and between the glutes.

Dylan is faring hardly better in his little swim brief, the slick material rubbing nicely across the most sensitive parts of the penis.

At this point, in the gay porn videos, each guy would attempt to extend a hand or finger to help the other guy out in his current predicament. That means not only pleasuring yourself, but fondling the other guy’s erect and sensitive penis in ways he might not expect.

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But, Josh and Dylan have always regarded themselves as “perfectly straight” and interested only in women in a sexual way. Does “extending a helpful hand” in a situation like this somehow “cross the line” making Dylan and Josh gay or perhaps bisexual and not as straight as they once thought they were. And what would other guys in this situation do? Don’t situations like this occur regularly in twin dorm rooms occupied by males at colleges and universities all around the country? And what of college males who know that they are gay? Is there a rule somewhere that says that two gay guys, out or not, cannot room together in a twin room in a college dorm?

All of this is confusing, at best, even if it is a wonderful part of being a guy.

To be continued…

And now, for a true story…
 

I have been thinking a lot about Dylan and Josh’s dilemma and the options that are available to them. That got me to thinking about my own college days, and rooming in a single-sex all male dorm. I had the opportunity to move into a then brand new high rise building at the start of my third year in college. The interesting thing about this dorm is that most of the rooms were set up as doubles, but there were a few single rooms available, nine total to be exact. So, if a guy wanted a single room, he had to move quickly on the day the rooms were assigned.

Even then I was always thinking about the issues involved in pairing up with a male roommate and whether that was going to interfere with my ability to engage in a most favored activity, solo masturbation. A private room would solve a lot of problems and potential issues in this regard.

The dorm setup was in the new suite-type style, A suite consisted of two double rooms, and a hallway containing sinks, a toilet with a door on it, and a walk in shower. These facilities were shared by the four guys in the two rooms. This setup was quite different from the old-style dorm setup where the bathroom was way down an open hall a long way from many of the individual rooms. A marked improvement from the old setup, I thought.

Most of the suits had two rooms each with 2 beds and two occupants, but nine of the suites had a 3rd room that was only big enough for one occupant. That is where I wanted to see. I would share the common facilities with my suitemates and deal with them as roommates otherwise when I wanted, or not. If I felt like masturbating (which happened regularly) that was simple: I would just close the door to my room and jerk off to my hearts content. I picked out the single on the 9th, top floor, and I was lucky enough to get it. Never mind that this posed an issue when the fire alarm went off and I would have to go 9 floors down the stairs. That was but a minor issue given the private (masturbation) space the single gave me.
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So, here is the picture. I’m the single, a nerdy, scholarly guy (me) who seemed mainly about studying and getting good grades. Then there were four other guys: Bruce and Brian, brothers in one of the twin rooms, and Cedric and his roommate in the other. Cedric’s roommate was one of these guys who spent almost no time in the dorm room. I saw him so seldom that I do not even remember his name. Mainly he used his closet in the dorm room to store booze of various kinds, surreptitiously. Now keeping a stash of alcoholic beverages in your dorm room was strictly against University and University run dorm rules. After all most of the guys were under 21 and could not drink legally. But that didn’t stop a lot of guys, and there was a crackdown only if things were starting to get out of hand, say complaints from your roommate.
So, Cedric had nearly a single room because his roommate was seldom around.

Bruce and Brian were brothers. Bruce was a serious student and starting out a path that would get him a professional degree. Bruce warned us that his brother Brian was a bit weird in a lot of different ways. Brian seemed to be the kind of guy who probably got into trouble with his teachers in high school on many occasions. He was constantly thinking up stunts that, while not in any way were mean toward the rest of us, but still more than a little weird and funny. Generally he seemed able to avoid conflicts with the laws, and if he had an arrest record at all, it was not for any serious offenses. He was rather outgoing, however. Whenever a guy came back from a date his favorite question would be “does she suck?” This was funny but only for the first few times.

Now Cedric played varsity football. This was a big deal at school in part because the team vas very highly regarded and seldom lost a game. But Cedric was only a freshman, so he wasn’t that far along football wise.

Somehow Cedric and Bryan liked each other very much and became good friends. I think to a degree Cedric was fascinated by Bryans ability to get by saying and doing things that might press the envelope just a bit and cause others to say “what is with this guy, anyway?”

One day I wondered home from class, and surely something weird is happening. Cedric and Bryan were both lying crosswise on Cedric beds, backs to their butts flat on the mattress, both with their legs completely propped up against the wall next to the bed in an “L” shape.

Both of them were clad only in a pair of cotton briefs, and maybe a tee. My first reaction was what were these two guys doing dressed this way and propped up this way? But it didn’t take me long to determining that they were together engaging in masturbation. Both of them were playing with their penises hanging downward from the upward position that their legs were in. They would stroke their own penises for a minute or two and then each of them would reach over and stroke the other guy’s penis. So this was something of a mutual masturbation. The room door was wide open and Bruce was there watching all of this, seemingly not the least bit repulsed by what was happening, but fascinated by the dumb stuff his brother got into doing. Bruce invited me right in to watch the proceeds underway. Cedric and Bryan seemed not the least bit unhappy to have a suite mate audience. In fact, having the audience of two more guys just watching them do this to themselves and each other seemed to turn them on even more.

They did this at least a couple more times that year that I was aware of. Maybe they did this as a pair more often than I knew. I have never quite determined why they seemed to favor what seemed to me to be such an oddball masturbation method. Of course, given that I had a convenient and private room, I tried the method of propping myself up the same way and then playing with myself, but I never quite saw what made the method so attractive or fun. The nerdy scholar had other, more erotic and interesting schemes in mind. Were both Bryan and Cedric gay or bisexual? That has always been an interesting question. Brian appears to now have a wife (a female). I‘m not sure what happened to Cedric.

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Ahhh, the fun of being 19 again…
 

What do Dylan and Josh have to do with Cedric and Brian? It turns out, quite a lot. Writing about Cedric and Brian got me to thinking some more about what was going on in my own brain and body when I was that age. Male hormones are bombarding a guy’s brain relentlessly, and yet a guy does not fully understand how he is supposed to deal with this. At some level, a guy knows that all of this has something to do with forming a relationship with a partner, most commonly female, but even at 19, a lot of guys are not going to be prepared to deal with the consequences of penis-vagina sex. But the hormones relentlessly keep the guy feeling horny, more or less constantly, unless he can figure out a way to get some periodic relief from this situation.

What kind of relief? Well, you can guess. This need and urge to jerk off is all but universal among college-age males, never mind all of the elaborate schemes guys work out in order to attempt to do this on the sly, under the cover of darkness. Partner sex is fun, but jerking off on your own is terrific fun too. That is, if you can only figure out a way to do this secretly. Or, maybe not.

Now, the thing you need to know about Brian and Cedric was that they both fell into the category of pranksters. They loved to do things that, as Bruce, Brian’s brother, would call “grossing out” their friends just to see how they would react. In this case, masturbation with the other roommates watching was just another prank to them. And of course, just the idea of Brian jerking of Cedric and Cedric jerking off Brian brought the prank to a whole new level on the “gross out” scale. The two of them were having just as much fun seeing how Bruce and I would react to them jerking off themselves and each other as we watched them doing something “really gross” as they were jerking off.

One way of looking at this I suppose was that it was my first encounter with the idea of a gay sexual act. Brian and Cedric both knew that, and that did not stop them in the least. I admit that I was pretty naïve, sexually. I loved jerking off but my list of techniques for doing this was, well, candidly, rather limited. I was very curious as to whether the other guys my age had mastered skills in this department that I had not yet acquired, and what Brian and Cedric were each doing to themselves and each other certainly added to my information set in this regard. But was I observing first hand a couple guys who, if not gay, were at least bisexual? That was an interesting question. Neither of them was dating a woman so far as I knew, at least not steadily.

Well, what happened was that both of them graduated from college. I lost track of Cedric, but Brian married and raised a family. There has been quite a bit of research by sex researchers on the whole subject of male-male sexual conduct that might be seen as one form of gay sex and its link to ultimate sexual orientation. A quick summary of that research says that perhaps 40 % of males who eventually marry have, at some point in their lives, had a sexual encounter with another male that led to an orgasm for one or both. The sex researchers seem less concerned about the meaning of all of this in relation to whether or not an occasional male-male sexual encounters means the guy is gay or bisexual than the public at large. The public at large seems to think that if this has happened at all the guy therefore must be at minimum bisexual if not “entirely” gay.

This gets into some really tricky stuff and into things about human sexual behavior that are not at all fully understood. First, let me say that I am as open minded as all get out on the entire subject of sexual orientation, and a proponent of the “whatever floats your boat” school of thinking on this. But I find it endlessly fascinating to try and better understand how guys get to the point where they eventually end up in this regard.

I’ve read all the stuff related to the science that says sexual orientation is ultimately determined by one’s genes. This perspective is the one promoted by the gay community--that a guy has no choice at all in the matter of sexual orientation but is stuck with whatever his genes say he should be.

But then, I keep thinking that in real life, sexual orientation determination is not nearly so simple and clear cut as this. People fall all over the five point scale from straight to gay and basically everything in between. At some point a guy might form a partnership that involves sex with another person, and that person will be either male or female. So the decision at that point is more or less 0-1. But then you have true bisexuals who like having sex with partners of either sex, and they do not fall neatly into one category or another.

I further conclude that guys who might ultimately live out their lives in a straight relationship may also have enjoyed engaging in some sort of sexual activity with a male partner. At the end of the day, the preference is still for being with a female, but that doesn’t discount the possibility that the male encounter perhaps was really fun sexually too. Seeing either sex as being absolutely equal in this regard (as a “true“ bisexual) is likely rare but certainly possible. At some point, most guys are going to get to the point where they at least prefer having a physical partner of one sex over the other, and, based on this most guys seem to ultimately be able to determine if they are actually gay or straight. At least, I think that is what is going on.

There have been many movies where the plot line involves a married man who has a gay male encounter, and what that means for a marriage. Sometimes males divorce wives and take up with a gay male. Sometimes females divorce husbands and move into a lesbian relationship. I’ve seen all of this up close in real life too. My only observation is that in general for both males and females, they seem to me to mostly be happier after the heterosexual breakup than before. I don’t want to ever judge people male or female in this regard based on what they choose to do. I’m not walking in their shoes, except to say that sexual orientation might be a bit more fluid than some of the gay rights advocates might care to admit given the effort made to promote the idea that sexual orientation is written in the genes and unwavering otherwise. Is this all somehow written genetically, or could circumstances matter and feelings about sexual orientation in one direction or another evolve in one direction or the other over time?

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So, what does all of this have to do with modern-day Dylan and Josh, horny college roommates stuck together in a cramped dorm room? As you might imagine, there are parts of both Dylan and Josh who remind me a lot of myself when I was their age. I was a nerdy 110 lb weakling. At that age, I was getting erections too, relentlessly, and seemingly for no obvious reason. I was always in search of a degree of privacy so I could jack off without interruption.

The various clothing items of course play a role in the two of them feeling horny as all get out. They were able to wear items that I could have only dreamed and fantasized about of wearing in that regard at that age. The complicated part of this story has now arrived. Josh has already seen Dylan masturbating in the room. Josh was not repulsed by this, and Dylan didn’t stop just because Josh had accidentally wandered back from class a little early. I guess a “real” straight guy is supposed to somehow be repulsed by being able to observe close up another guy jerking off. At least, that is how this would likely have all played out in high school. But Josh and Dylan are young adults now and the rules on this might have changed.

If Josh somehow gets aroused himself in part by watching Dylan engage in solo sex, does that mean that Josh has a gay or bisexual streak to his personality? Now Josh not Dylan has been wearing that magnificent thong underwear. And then there is Dylan, wearing that little Desmiit® swim brief. Can you imagine Dylan, penis pointed up in the brief pouch, with the underside clearly rubbing against that super slick fabric? Can you imagine josh getting even more turned on just by looking close up at how Dylan has all those sensitive male body parts positioned? What if one thing leads to another, and the two of them decide they would like to touch or grope each other’s penises while still contained in the swim brief or thong?

And what of their buds Bill and Joe, also horny but wearing different items, straps, cups and compression gear? Wouldn’t Bill end Joe greatly “enjoy” watching Dylan and Josh messing around with themselves and each other? Bill and Joe have been good friends to Dylan and Josh, teaching them a few things about clothing items and their potential for making masturbation more exciting. It seems a shame not to invite Bill and Joe into their dorm room to watch all of this, Just as Bruce and I were keen observers of what Brian and Cedric were up to, alone or with each other even as we acted as if what they were seeing was repulsive.

And why does any of this need to have anything to do with determining if each of the four is ultimately gay or straight? For now the four of them are just college buddies who get horny and are trying their best to cope with what is happening to them in the male hormone department. The rest of it can wait. These are moments in a guys live to be savored, not repulsed. Or so it seems.

To be continued….

Just enjoying yourself
 

A lot of guys shortly after puberty sets in discover that their penises don’t always behave like a guy might expect. Generally penises like to become tense, hard and erect when a guy thinks about or encounters something he regards as sexually exciting. Not long after, guys learn that there are situations that other guys think are OK to get hard-on. Generally, these involve an encounter with a female regarded as sexy pretty. But other instances where a penis gets hard and erect are not considered socially acceptable.

Still, a guy soon determines that male sexually is not anywhere near this simple. For starters, sometimes guys have “reactions” just thinking about stuff. While sometimes these daydreams (or night dreams) may involve a female, sometimes this stuff may go off in many other directions, the scariest direction being a situation that involves no female at all. Young gay guys may daydream or night dream about an encounter with another guy, and these dreams may parallel to a large degree those that straight guys have, except for the gender, of course. My objective today is not to go down that trail, but instead head down a different trail.

Nearly every guy at some point in his life has gotten into a situation where he has gotten an erection at a time and in a situation that he deems inappropriate, or at least his male peers would think is inappropriate. A lot of these happen in instances where there is no partner present at all. A lot of guys are really embarrassed by all of this, and think that there is something wrong simply because the guy’s head is saying one thing and the guy’s body is clearly saying something different. It’s this old problem of getting aroused in a situation where the guy thinks he isn’t supposed to be aroused.

No better example of this problem that a guy who gets aroused whenever he wears snug-fitting clothing, or even thinks about wearing snug-fitting clothing. Now there is nothing unsafe or illegal about wearing snug-fitting clothing. The only real problem is that if the other guys discover that I like to do this, I will likely get teased or bullied, unless, of course, there are other guys out there who also think its fun to get aroused wearing snug-fitting clothing.

So, what is the problem with all of this, then? Erections are fun. Really fun. Now the sad part is that there are lots of issues and dangers associated with having an erection in partner sex, whether the partner is male or female. The girl could get pregnant. An STD may get transmitted, Gonorrhea or Herpes, or even HIV. I can think of a dozen reasons why a guy might not want to have full-scale sex with a partner. Yet, erections keep happening, and something has to give, and probably on a regular basis.


I’ve talked a lot about male masturbation here. This has been a nearly constant theme. Now, I would be the first to admit that there is nothing at all wrong if a guy simply wants to rub or stroke himself to orgasm in the privacy of his own bedroom or bathroom. Oftentimes his must be done in a hurry, so as to not tip off to others what the guy is up to.

But what if a guy discovers that masturbation is a whole lot more fun by wearing (being contained in) certain clothing items? If a guy enjoys masturbating more if he wears something that fits snuggly around his penis, and feels smooth to the touch, does that somehow make a guy weird, a freak of sorts? Well, only if he admits to doing that to his peers :) ?

Every guy who discovers this thinks he must be the only guy who does this, lest some of his peers would have mentioned this at some point. Yet, this has got to be one of the deepest, darkest secrets a guy normally keeps to himself.

Except for Dylan, Josh, Bill and Joe, of course, college freshman who have gotten pretty casual about all of this, first with themselves, and then, at least to a degree, with each other.

What kinds of clothing items do guys particularly like for this purpose? For the most part, the entire list is fairly short.

Brief-style swimwear perhaps tops the list of clothing items leading to male arousal in this respect. I’m convinced that a lot of the fear guys have of wearing swim briefs is linked directly to the fear that they will get an erection just putting a swim brief on, and one thing will lead to another. There is no greater fear a guy has than being seen in public not only with a an erection, but scarier still, a cum-stain on the front of the brief.

Jock straps are probably only slightly less scary in this regard than swim briefs.
 
Men’s thong underwear are right up there too in this regard, though most guys worry less about this as they believe that if they are wearing thong underwear they will be covered by something else, say a pair of shorts or jeans, so the danger of being seen erect but uncovered is less.

Then there is the whole category of compression gear, the tees but particularly the shorts, which will do a good job of revealing a guy if he is at all erect. Swimming jammers are actually an offshoot of compression shorts. Some guys wear these instead of a swim brief in the mistaken belief that if they get erect it will be less noticeable that they are in this condition. But that is largely a myth.

Wrestling singlets are made like swimming jammers but with a twist. Since the singlet is but one piece, there is a top with shoulder straps that like to tug at a guy’s groin area as he moves. Depending on your outlook, this can either be a feature or a potential problem.

A related increasingly popular item is snug fitting full tights designed for outdoor running.

The last item on this list has to include skinny jeans, once again hugely popular for guys. With the multi-stretch Spandex denim, some of these are becoming nearly as snug-fitting as a jammer or running tight. Good luck getting in and out of these without getting an erection.

It used to be, guys would occasionally get their nerve up for going to the shopping mall to find one or more of these items. But now, with on-line shopping, it is sometimes advantageous to make on line purchases. The selection and options will be greater, too.

How will a guy know if he has found an item that interests him at an on line retailer? Well, the male body is set up to do just that. That is where the cowpers gland and the precum sets in. If a guy starts precumming, just thinking about buying a certain item of interest, this is probably something he should try ordering. Beats getting yourself into a potentially embarrassing situation at the local store, and avoid the potential embarrassment associated making the purchase with a real sales clerk. That’s what Bill, Joe and then Dylan found out.

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A beginner’s guide, Part I…Introduction to a simple swim brief…
 

I presume my readers would not still be following my stories if they did not see something of themselves in the story characters. In other words, my readers would not be here reading this were it not for the likely fact that there is an arousal mechanism at work just hearing about the escapades of the guys in the stories getting aroused by wearing various items of snug-fitting clothing. OK, so reading these stories is at least a bit of a turn-on for you. If otherwise, why have you read this far.

But, let me suppose that you are new to all of this. You have discovered that you suddenly get turned on by the very thought of being in the situation that Dylan, or Josh, or Joe or Bill have been facing, but, where to start, anyway?

Well, if you have not ever actually tried doing some of the things that the four college guys have been enjoying, you do need a place to start. And the logical starting point would be with (surprise!) a swim brief.

Here, I may surprise some of you, because I am going to suggest not the smallest, tightest, skimpiest swim brief you can find on an on line store, but instead, something pretty basic and purposeful. And something that could be worn for swimming at practically any pool without any concern.

What is that, exactly? Interestingly, I come back to what is perhaps the most basic of all swim briefs. A simple “standard-cut Speedo®” with approximately 3-inch sides in a very common and ordinary, color, one that has been out there for ages, Royal Blue! And, I am suggesting that you purchase one of these in your normal waist size, say a 30, 32 or even a 34-inch waist if that is what you think you need.

Some of you are probably wondering what gives here anyway? Bill, Joe, Josh and Dylan don’t each have one of these. Can this clunky a swim brief somehow still be sexy and arousing? Could this possibly get me turned on in the manner these stories have been describing? Isn’t this more than a little old fashioned?

Well, yes to all of that. But, consider, one of the sexiest moments in all of swim brief wearing occurred in Season 6 of the long-Running “Dallas” nighttime soap. A then-young Christopher Atkins had this thing for the much older wife of J.R. Ewing played by a then still relatively young Linda Gray. Christopher plays a camp counselor for the Ewing boy. Numerous scenes are shot near a pool either at the camp or at the pool on the Ewing ranch.
What you will want to do is Google “Christopher Atkins Blue Speedo” and then do a Google Image search on that. You will see multiple photos of Atkins wearing the same Royal Blue brief with a Speedo logo. There is one thing that is basically the same in all of these multiple photos of Chris in his Royal Blue Speedo with three-inch sides. That thing is what appears to be an at least somewhat erect penis clearly in the “up” position, and pressing tightly against the slick confines of the blue Speedo.

The producers of Dallas probably had a plan in mind when they let Christopher dress that way. They had to know that the camera would pick up the outline of the underside of Christopher’s penis underside pressing up against the slick blue Speedo®.

But, I would argue that this same visual had to affect men, straight, gay or in-between as well. As many of you know, I have been stressing the idea that the underside of a guy’s penis is a whole lot more sensitive to tough than the top side. Any guy who looks at these photos has got to realize that Christopher must be feeling quite good when those photos were taken in all sorts of different ways.

From here, it is only a short leap to a guy wanting to try this himself, understanding now full well with a guy who is wearing a classic Royal Blue Speedo ® with 3 inch sides is likely going to feel quite horny, and especially so with a semi-erect penis pointing “up” inside the Speedo® Indeed, any guy would have to be brain dead in all sorts of ways to not want to try the same thing himself.

I may suggest to Josh and Dylan that perhaps they might want their own old school Royal Blue Speedo with three inch sides. There is something about all of this that makes even guys who thought they were somehow “immune” to getting turned on by this idea to suddenly change their minds.

So, see where you come out on all of this by following the instructions, above. The classic blue Speedo is the place to start in your quest.

To be continued…

Linda Gray (not Linda Evans) was on Dallas. Linda Evans was on Dynasty. Great story, and I never realized that he might be semi in Dallas until I did look at the photos. Some are there of him nude as well but not from Dallas.