Thongs and Thonging: My latest thoughts on this
 

Thongs and Thonging: My latest thoughts on this

It has been some time since I have last written anything on the subject of thongs and thonging, including thong swim briefs but particularly dealing with thong underwear designed to be worn by males. Females adopted the design many years ago and the design to this day remains very popular with females. However, that fact has led some males to think that thongs as worn by males is something that would appeal only to gay guys—or in particular to a subset of gay guys who are comfortable being labeled as “fems”. Getting some guys to even want to try wearing pair of thong underwear has been a psychological issue for a lot of guys, for fear of inadvertently being seen wearing one might send an inadvertent message to other guys or even girlfriends with respect to what is implied about a guy’s sexuality if that is the guy’s underwear choice.

On a clothing shopping trip, in 1988 I think it was (goodness, that is almost 35 years ago), I ran into some boxed pairs of male thong underwear under the Hom brand name. Hom is a brand that at that point in time I think was mainly sold in Europe, which made the find even more interesting. I immediately knew I had to have a pair—well actually 3 pair! Even back then I was always on the prowl for clothing items that might make me somehow feel horny.

I got them home and started carefully examining what I had purchased. The back of the thong consisted of a thin elastic cord, maybe 3/16th inches in diameter, and this connected to the front pouch which was made of a stretchy elastic material. An elastic waistband (size SM, 28-30) and that was it! Wow! Even just opening the package I was feeling horny and starting to precum into my white cotton briefs. Getting into these little thongs was immense fun. The only way that could happen was to cinch up the rear cord in my crack between my glutes and then tug and pull on the pouch until my penis and balls were somehow snuggly wrapped in the stretchy cloth. I was oozing precum into the pouch at the same time and feeling horny as all get out. What fun! I was instantly hooked on the design. Totally hooked.

For the first time in my life I now realized that my anal area between my glutes was a sexually active erogenous zone, as the thong cord “hit” me in all the right places. The pouch, pushing my frontal sexually active areas front and forward added to the fun. As I walked, the cord kept brushing and tugging in the entire space between my glutes. My prostate soon realized what I was doing and got in on the fun as well. Of course, all of this can quickly make a guy hard just getting in or even just thinking about getting into a thong, and at some point you may realize that the situation is getting totally intolerable and you really need to ejaculate into the pouch… Heck, these are pleasures for more than just gay guys, but something EVERY guy can readily enjoy!

Eventually I calmed down a bit. The first thing I decided to do was try wearing one of these to bed, with the idea of seeing whether I could sustain precum production throughout the night even when I am asleep (The answer is “Yes”). Then I started wearing a thong as underwear around the house in order to get my mind and body “used” to the various newly-found, sexually-active sensations. Stage 3 is heading off to work wearing only a thong as underwear under a favorite pair of skinny jeans. And I was soon able to do that as well—never mind that I would come home from work with a pouch with big quarter dollar-sized stains of precum—the precum never leaked onto my jeans and I never inadvertently gone into an unintended full-ejaculation mode. Nor have I ever been caught in a situation where anyone else saw me in my favorite underwear.

AND I went on more shopping trips. I found a particular Jockey design (sadly no longer made) that was even more erotic than the Hom ones were. I bought a whole bunch of these. And over the years I have gradually accumulated a bunch of thongs of various shapes and sizes to run experiments of various sorts. Here is some of what these experiments have taught me.

The second design is less mean, but also less erotic fun. Generally, these thongs are largely made of cotton with a larger, less stretchy cloth pouch and the back is a wider strip of cotton fabric that is designed to lay on top of your crack not between your glutes. These are a design for a “beginner”. The basic structure is still there but this is a design more built for daily wear underwear than for having the kind of erotic fun I described above. Sadly, Jockey quit building the first design in favor of the second, daily-wear design. For awhile, there were no readily-available versions of the first design. But 2x(ist) also used to have a great “Y-back” version that hit all the right pressure points in the first design. Then they quit making that. But now it seems to be back in the design 1 version,

Right now my 2x(ist) Y-backs are my “go to” design as thong sleepwear. I crawl into it and I am “climbing the walls so to speak in an instant, desperately trying to get some sleep as I enjoy the tugs and pulls in all the right places. EVERY guy should try sleeping in a 2x(ist) Y-back thong.
https://2xist.com/collections/jocks/...ck-thong-52706

Today I am wearing a more modest “design 2” thong around the house and would have no issue with pulling on a pair of my favorite skinny jeans and head out and about. I know I have a thong on and can feel its presence in various ways and in various spots, but the thong isn’t driving me bonkers as would be the case if I were wearing the 2x(ist) thong. I am going to be on my rowing machine and stationary bike in a bit, and over the thong I am wearing a pair of super snug TESLA running tights. The combination is really quite nice and I know I will enjoy my exercise routine today in all sorts of neat ways. All for now!

Footnote to the previous post
 

So I got to looking at the 2x(ist) offerings on their Web site. Turns out they have less expensive all-cotton versions and fairly expensive ($26 ea) SLIQ versions that are purportedly skimpier and made of a cotton/spandex blend that I am so fond of.

From there I got to looking on Amazon to see if there were any colors/fabrics not on the 2x(ist) site and what the prices were. On the 2x(ist) site it looks as if they are aiming this thong for purchase by the gay pride crowd between the “pride” print version and the bright purple color.

On Amazon I found this one on in a more somber navy blue for $18 not $26 in SM (oddly, MED is more expensive) and with free shipping. So I ordered that. In reading the reviews the comment is that these seem to require a size up. If anything a SM for me is one size down.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073WHPY9F?th=1&psc=1

But for me with my super-intense fondness for super-snug thongs I do not think this will be a problem. ROFL.

Now all I have to do is just wait for my order to arrive and then give everyone here my detailed review. Makes me horny just thinking about it LOL. Read the Amazon reviews. The guys are saying much the same thing I said in my post above about wearing thongs, and are wearing them under snug running tights the same as me. They are not quite as explicit as I am with respect to exactly what they are saying but the implications are as crystal clear as a drop of precum.

On a separate but related topic, I am just through my morning exercise program with my rowing machine and stationary bike wearing a thong under a really snug-fitting pair of running tights. The combination does some really interesting things given that the narrow bike seat tends to put still more upward pressure on the perineum area with each turn of the pedals, and this is way more fun when wearing a thong. It is so much fun that the bike ride goes quickly.

You might think I am badgering you to engage yourself in male “self abuse” when what I am really interested in doing is simply getting you into an exercise routine that you enjoy. In this semi-aroused “horny” state, just brushing a fingertip or two against the tip of my penis through the tights and thong as I ride sends waves of intense pleasure through my entire body. Why not? Maintaining an exercise program should and can be fun in all sorts of ways.

And a new 2x(ist) in on its way to me in the mail. It’s great just being a guy!

Thonging, Edging and Penis Pumping
 

Thonging, Edging and Penis Pumping

I read with a great deal of interest the reviews on the SLIQ 2x(ist) thong I just ordered and found a lot of interesting stuff. First, tho the writers tend to right for a PG audience, it is clear (LOL) to me that part of the reason a lot of guys are into wearing thongs is the same as for me—the fit and feel makes them feel horny! In addition many guys have discovered that a thong is a great undergarment for exercise and gym wear, but particularly when worn under running tights!

A lot of the tights I buy have a section in the groin area that has tiny ventilation perforations—given this it would seem that some sort of undergarment might be in order for the following reason. If you are going to e horny while doing your exercise routine—if you wore only the perforated tights with no undergarment, there could be a problem. Being horny means oozing drops of precum. This could be an issue if the precum oozes through the perforated cloth in the groin area. BUT the thong pouch is an excellent precum catcher, preventing this from happening. Of course a guy might not get horny if he is NOT wearing a thong, but staying horny while exercising is part of what makes exercise fun and enjoyable over the long haul. I love exercising this way so much. The extended time I spend precumming is a highlight of my day.

Now Peloton would have you believe that a ride on an exercise bike is enjoyable simply because you can watch the butts of other bike riders on a TV screen. Compared to simply wearing a thong and running tights while bike riding I say that is no fun at all. What is fun is dripping precum as I exercise as in staying in a horny state for an hour on end.

So I crawl onto my rowing machine and my stationary bike. I also have a standard TV set to watch while I am exercising and it is always interesting to see moment-by-moment if I am paying more attention to the TV show or the sensations that are happening to me in my groin while wearing my exercise gear. In the case of the rowing machine I have typically been spending an hour or more a day for 30 or 35 years, plus weightlifting on my weightlifting machine. I would have never been able to sustain this were there not some big rewards and for me keeping up my exercise routine is a lot about what I choose to wear while exercising—and feeling horny while I exercise is really really important to what I do every day. I think the appeal of a lot of sports for guys is connected to the gear they wear—the straps, the tight-fitting football pants etc. No one says this openly but that is what is actually going on.

As I think about this, what I am doing is active edging—that is using the exercise routine as an excuse to maintain a degree of sexual arousal as I exercise. Getting to the point where I would need to go into a full-blown orgasm would shut everything down and at my age I would take a day or two to get back to where I was horniness-wise minimum. So the trick is to sustain the horniness without going into the muscular contractions of a full-blown orgasm, and I can go that way for nearly as long as I want.

The porn sites have lots of videos of guys masturbating where the claim that the viewer is seeing them in a situation where they have not ejaculated in up to two weeks. The longer a guy delays the inevitable the stronger the urge to ejaculate becomes, but this is especially true for younger guys whose refractory period is much shorter than what I now have. But still it is fun to see how guys respond to the pressure brought about by trying to continue to edge and delay orgasm as the time since the last orgasm increases.

Me? I’m through with my exercise but still wearing my thong and tights and continuing to edge, as I am doing as I write this.

What next? Why a penis pump sometimes called a VED device of course! As day drifts into night, I get more and more interested in going from a merely horny state into being in a penis pump. Now I confess that as a young man I would want help in getting and sustaining a hard erection this way , but unfortunately stuff happens. Still, what I learned is that penis pumps are fun things to mess with not only for guys my age but for guys of ANY age.

Again, the porn web sites are helpful in understanding all of this. Every guy knows what a circle jerk is, where a group of male buds get together, get naked and masturbate in a group setting. A few guys may even get up the nerve to masturbate each other. Lots of guys regard this as a form of male gay sex, but it occurs commonly enough for others to believe it is simply a “phase” that males who lack a female partner for sex do to get off and relieve some of the physical and psychological urge to ejaculate.

A video that USED to be on one of the porn sites had a half-dozen males first unboxing a big order of VED pumps ordered probably off of Amazon each pump a bit different and a different brand. Then each guy lubes himself up and crawls into the pump with the other guys (all doing the same thing to themselves) looking on at the same time. A few squeezes of the manual pump, each guy that age gets bigger inside his pump quickly. Of course, part of the fun is you get to see all the other guys in a similar pump-induced predicament each with his penis big, hard and filled with blood induced by the pump vacuum. A few guys work up to pumping one of the other guy’s pumps. I would call this a VED Circle jerk.

I like to do the same thing myself even though for me there is no audience. Ater a day of thongs, exercise and snug running tights, and still feeling really horny, there is nothing better than lubing myself up with gel soap and slipping into a penis pump. I like the manual versions the best as I can gradually increase the vacuum watching my penis swell and lengthen just a bit at a time. Another squeeze of the pump bulb and the vacuum increases a bit more. Can I tolerate another squeeze? Yes, that is good! I slip a silicone penis ring off the pump sheath and onto the base of my penis. The ring feels really good too. A couple more squeezes and I am ready to remove the pump and start manually stroking the fat long erection the pump helped me create. It feels a bit different from an erection created entirely with the hands and fingers, but these subtle differences are part of why this is so much fun. AND I am still edging! I have not shut off the fun by going into the repeating muscular contractions of a full orgasm. I suspect that younger guys may have more difficulty on this part, but to each his own. The night is still young and I am still horny as all get out. What next? Why getting a night’s sleep while staying in this remarkable state all night long of course! As in last night.

Spending the night in a 2x(ist) SLIQ Y-back thong (part 1)
 

Spending the night in a 2x(ist) SLIQ Y-back thong (part 1)

The 2x(ist) thong I ordered showed up in my mail box only 2 days after I ordered it (there is an interesting story as to why I got it so quickly that I will share with you later). As I indicated in my previous post I have been having a particularly fun time the last few days just working through my daily exercise routine while wearing a thong, and then following that up in the evening with some great applications of my vacuum penis pump, all the while edging as in staying horny and hard but just below the point where the muscular contractions of an orgasm are inevitable. I have “trained” myself to be able to do this for long periods of time and it is truly great erotic fun.

First, some definitions. I have been using the term “mean” or maybe “not so mean” to describe the attributes of an underwear thong. But a mean thong is not a bad thong but a really good thong for recreational wear but maybe not for daily underwear. I have a very large thong collection and I have worn practically every kind of design. The term “mean” is simply a short cut way to compare two different thongs with respect to how likely just wearing a specific thong will make you instantly feel aroused (or horny). I could do this on a 5-point scale with the meanest thongs getting 5 stars and the least-mean ones getting one star.

Another aspect of this is that guys who buy thong underwear do it for a variety of reasons, and some guys (believe it or not) are just thinking of wearing a thong as daily underwear without getting into the horniness stuff at all. These guys probably are in search of a less mean thong since getting aroused during the day may have issues—maybe they need a thong that would rate only one or two stars on the meanness scale—as in something no more arousing than, say a pair of briefs. (Well, not quite but you know what I am getting at).

Me, being retired, but very fond of being horny and edging is always looking for the meanest possible thong, one that would get 4 or even 5 stars on the star scale. And, like I say over the years, I have accumulated a huge collection of thongs at all sorts of meanness levels. In recent years it has become more difficult to find the really mean ones, but 2x(ist) thongs have always been 4 or 5 star thongs in this regard and a long-time favorite of mine for that very reason. I know psychologically that just being in a 2x(ist) thong will likely make me quite horny. I have samples of the product made 20 years ago and 10 years ago and over the years I have found these to be hugely enjoyable on the meanness scale (Will just getting into this send me into a way horny edging mode?).

So the issue is, how does the current 2x(ist) design compare with their earlier efforts? As I said, in recent years, I guess to appeal to the guys who are considering just wearing a thong as daily underwear without the other stuff that goes on with the guys who buy and get into thongs mainly for what I term “recreational” wear. So I am buying this thong partly to review where 2x(ist) thongs are currently for recreational not daily wear use compared to the thongs they made 10 and 20 years ago.

So, for me, yesterday was one of those days where I was aroused and horny practically continuously all day long and on into the night. My mind was laser-focused on arousal and edging. One of the great fun parts of being a retired single guy is that I have the freedom to do just that. I am a great fan of edging. And the mix of what I am doing to, by, and with myself has reached a new level of sheer enjoyment. I also greatly enjoy the VED pump with this really neat hard-on that is great fun to massage to just below the level where the muscular contractions start. Just as I think I can stand it no longer massaging myself the hard-on with gel soap, I jump into a freshly drawn warm tub of water to cool down a bit and reduce the urge to purge ever so slightly. But I get out of the tub still feeling way horny.

Meanwhile, I have this new 2x(ist) thong still in its packaging, and I vow that I am not going to try it on immediately, but instead crawl into it AFTER the warm tub bath still horny and then spend the night in it. Long ago I have learned that the way one needs to judge the quality of a thong on the mean scale is to try sleeping in it, and what better situation than to try crawling into it at bedtime after my full day of edging, VED pumping and other assorted male “self-abuse”. Being single, living alone really makes this all possible.

I am truly fascinated by the work of the men’s thong underwear designers. I have long believed that most of the designers are gay males who really understand the nuances of exactly what parts of the male body become erotic when touched or even brushed against. This is the part where the real talents and knowledge of the gay male underwear designer comes in.

Practically any gay guy can tell you that the male body has three major erogenous zones, but straight males tend to be focused on only one of them. Further, designing a “mean” thong aimed for recreational wear involves coming up with a design that “kicks” all three of these erogenous zones, not just one of them.

The three zones are 1 the area in and around the anus, 2 the perineum area which is an erogenous bundle of nerves just behind the scrotum and lying wedged neatly between the scrotum and the anus, and 3 the penis and balls that together are viewed as just a single, interconnected erogenous zone. Straight guys tend to be focused on the penis and balls and tend to see them as largely separate erogenous zones not interconnected.

So in deciding to market thong underwear for males, the manufacturer is faced with a fascinating choice. Do I come up with a design that might appeal to a straight male for daily wear that might opt for the design as an option to wearing ‘boring” briefs? There MIGHT be a market here. To be overcome is the notion that the design is perfectly fine daily underwear who guys who are not into recreational underwear at all.

But the OTHER option is to have my gay designer come up with a really mean design and focus my sales on guys who see thong underwear mainly as recreational wear—but particularly the gay market although more generally people who see all of this like this writer does. I wear a thong not because it is a better design for daily wear but rather because the mere act of getting into the right thong makes me instantly feel really horny. The guy might not fully appreciate why this is so, but remember the thee gay male erogenous zones I listed above.

To make a thong design that appeals to males merely looking for something for daily wear as an alternative to, say a standard boring cotton brief, the design needs to largely ignore the first two erogenous zones. So, the thong back is fairly wide and usually designed to cover the crack from on top to bottom rather than cut between the glutes. The thong back is also relatively long which means that the point where the back is sewn to the pouch is loose and rides below the perineum rather than pressing snuggly against it. Did I mention that another “feature” of a daily wear thong is a fairly big and loose fitting pouch with plenty of room to contain the guy’s balls and penis and some “room to grow” without putting undue “tension” on the wider back which could cause issues in daily wear. This is a “tame” thong rating 1 or 2 stars on my scale of meanness. But this design is of little interest to guys who are making purchases not because they intend to wear thongs as daily wear almost as they would a cotton brief, it largely ignores the so called recreational wear market that involves specifically stimulation of the other two erogenous zones so critical in recreational thong wear. And in recent years many of the manufacturers seem to be focused on making only “comfortable” thong designs and focus on the daily wear not recreational wear market.

(To be continued) 

Spending the night in a 2x(ist) SLIQ Y-back thong (part 2)
 

Spending the night in a 2x(ist) SLIQ Y-back thong (part 2)

Twenty and even thirty years ago I started really having fun exploring all of this. The Jockey thongs available then merited 5 stars on the mean scale for a superb cord back that could only reside deep between my glutes, a tremendous area where the cord met the pouch that gave my perineum a steady truly enjoyable jolt, and a super stretchy but really tight pouch that forced me the play with myself just to get into the damn thing without having both balls (or worse, only one ball) pop free. In a sheer horniness or arousal scale this was an easy 5 stars. Everything that needed to be touched got hit in a most wonderful way. I was totally hooked!

Thongs always present something of a challenge to get everything in place. A guy does not want to be wearing a thong for daily wear with one or both balls hanging out, and getting both your penis and balls into the pouch may require some hand work, which is fondling, as in just getting everything in with both your penis and balls pushing up and forward. This fondling makes you start to get hard. And with a snug pouch, any expansion is going to put more pressure on the cord that is residing against your anal area as well as put upward pressure on the stitches that connect cord to pouch and some serious upward pressure on the perineum. Depending on your outlook, this can be treated either as a problem or as horny erotic fun. The more you grow the more the tension and the fun. I think a lot of guys who might otherwise want to wear a thong as daily wear worry about this to the point it scares them off. But this is at the heart of the thong as erotic recreational wear part of the equation.

2x(ist) has for 30 years or more made thongs that were clearly aimed not at the daily wear often straight guy market but at the recreational wear department. The Y-back design with the narrow cord and snug pouch is part of the design. My first 2x(ist) thong I purchased many years ago featured a Y-back design and a really snug pouch hit all my recreational wear erogenous buttons, so to speak, and I have spent many nights sleeping in it, and waking up at 3 AM to discover that I was somehow, for some odd reason, was feeling really really horny. In fact I was wearing this old thong just a week ago. Still a great fit and feel.

So, my idea yesterday was to not get into the new SLIQ thing until I was ready for bed and then spend the night in it and see how I rate the experience. And I did exactly that. Now the Y-back is interesting as the first third of the back and the upper half of the Y cuts across the glutes on both sides. But then the lower part of the Y is a single cord that suddenly cuts deep between the glutes and attaches to the pouch at the perineum.

For recreational thong wear I always want to make sure that the cord is a bit tight, and the SM size I ordered basically ensures that the cord will be snug. And the SM size ensures that the pouch will fit around my penis and balls snug. Getting myself into all of this requires a bit of “work” on my part but trust me, the work is not unpleasant. The sizing is perfect. The waist band is snug and not too snug. And the lower part of the Y cord has a lot of tension on it, tension that will only increase if I grow a little during the night.

So, I got everything in place and concluded that I was in a good place but nothing that was going to keep me awake, and I quickly fell asleep. I was exhausted from all the edging (I was tired from a long day where I was basically aroused all day long). Then I awakened at 4 AM and I noticed that I was feeling really horny again. Somehow in these situations my hands and fingers seem to find a way to my penis and balls. My penis is trying to push forward and upward and my balls are in the pouch but right beside my penis not beneath it. And my balls suddenly seem to be super-sensitive as well. This is crazy fun to experience. Maybe my initial idea that this was a fun recreational thong but not as much fun as the older designs was not quite accurate. I am suddenly liking this, a lot!

So the cord that makes up the lower half of the Y is wider than it was in my older 2x(ist) thongs. Will this still cut between my glutes on its way to the pouch and perineum area. Next I discover that I can spread my glutes wide and see exactly where the cord has migrated. Not to worry! The cord (lower half of the Y) is deeply embedded between my glutes and putting tension and pressure directly on my anus. That is, well, interesting. But remember the thong size is SM and the cord somehow needs to make its way to being attached to the bottom of the pouch. The shortest route is the path that embeds the cord most deeply between my glutes and I can feel that now. The cord puts a constant slight pressure on my anus and then as it meets the pouch the short, snug cord puts more upward tension on my perineum. Further, by simply fondling my penis and balls in the confines of the pouch my penis grows a bit and tries to press forward come more. This not only puts more tension on the cord and on my anus, but causes the seam that is hitting my perineum to press upward some more. The combination of these three actions is what great recreational thong wearing is really all about.

So, my conclusion is that this is a really mean thong and fully worthy of a 5-star rating with a bulls eye hit in all three male erogenous zones, and a truly great choice for recreational thong wear. I still haven’t gotten off but am still horny from the accumulated things that happened to me yesterday and during the night. I could not be more pleased. Is it better than the two older designs I have? That could be debatable. But I am looking forward to just another day a abusing myself in these ways—it is all terrific fun.

I was going to mention how I got this thong on Amazon so quickly. I had been over at the 2x(ist) page and the SLIQ designs were either bright purple, heavily patterned or a crazy gay pride rainbow design. I was looking for something more somber, say navy, gray or black, but with the same features and there was a new one in what must be a discontinued color, navy blue, and for only $18 with free shipping even that the price was lower than the $25 for free shipping on Amazon. Turns out the seller that had the thing was a mini store working out of a small residential house. But the really weird par was that the house is in my city and maybe only about a mile from me. The seller dropped it in the mail almost as quickly as I placed the order and it was in my mailbox the next day. Strange coincidence!

All is well in erogenous, edging land… Did I mention you might want to try this?

Wayback Machine
 

Wayback machine
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I got to thinking about when guys first realized that wearing a thong was great fun, psychologically and sexually As everyone knows, the Speedo company in Australia “invented” the Speedo, as in a lightweight swim brief which, for its time had what guys thought was minimal coverage. They were brief style with moderate sides—maybe three inches, but this was in the pre-Spandex fiber days. And a real Speedo was made from durable nylon—but lightweight, like a swim brief made with the material in a parachute.

But there was no stretch fabric to hold a guy in, and especially when the suit was wet, the outline of the penis was likely clearly visible. Guy’s had to learn to deal with the near nudity that the lightweight nylon provided. But soon a Speedo was the thing for any serious Aussie swimmer to wear, and sales exploded.

However, guys soon discovered that, unlike the later stretch briefs, the back of the suit fit loose too— loose enough so that the fabric covering the glutes could be collapsed to form a mere “wedge” of nylon fabric—and the wedge was small enough that what was covering the glutes could be wedged between the glutes, making the glutes bare, and creating the first instance that was to feel on the guy like a thong would later do. This seems maybe a bit “exposed” for the time but soon these hunky swimmers were picking up on the idea that exposing the glutes was a fun—even very masculine thing to do. And soon a lot swimmers were doing this glute-exposure thing with the thong-like garment they made. The girls on the beach went bonkers for the daring exposed glutes look—some guys too :-).

But, of course, the swimmers were starting to really like the feel of the wedge of nylon cloth crawling snuggly between their glutes and putting tension on the anal area. None of the guys said anything but for the swimmers, they were getting their first experiences as to why being in a thong can be so much fun. All of this is tied to the indirect pressure the wedge of the thong places on the anal area—and indirectly on the adjacent prostate. So doing this became the method the hunky swimmers were getting turned on by the indirect prostate massage from the lower position of the wedge. They were gradually learning this and how much fun the right (wrong?) stimulation in that area can really be.

Since the first loose-fitting nylon Speedos we have had many decades of thongs with a lot of them purposely designed to be a genuine “treat” for a guy in this respect. These are available both as swimwear or as underwear or as designs that could serve either purpose. And often the designers are trying to come up with a design that immediately get the wearer (like me) climbing the walls—so to speak. Indeed, the instant arousal is part of the fun and generates sales for the company making these.


Which takes me to my review of the 2x(ist) thong. It is always an interesting puzzle to write these in a manner that clearly communicates to the reader what I think the reader should know but do it in such a way that keeps the review rated PG, not R or X. So here is my effort in that respect. See if you can determine exactly what I am trying to tell you without going into NSFW mode. This review is now up on the Internet. The vendor approved of my text.
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Great, Snug-fitting Thong

This is a really neat thong but especially well suited as an undergarment under compression running tights or compression shorts during exercise or other recreational wear. I chose the SM size in part because I really like a snug fit but also because thongs nearly always fit better if they are a bit downsized. The waistband is fine on me. What is really important is how the back fits and this is not easily determined looking at the photos in the Amazon description. With a Y-back the top half of the Y goes across the top of the glutes diagonally both ways, but the lower part of the Y consists of an elastic band that cuts deeply between the glutes and attaches to the bottom of the front pouch. This band is short and fits very securely on this thong. The pouch needs to be just large enough to contain everything but not loose enough so that parts can inadvertently fall out of the pouch and the stretch fabric pouch used here accomplishes this very well. This is an excellent thong, and I also like to wear it as sleepwear. It feels good on my body in several different ways. I highly recommend it but particularly as recreational or sleepwear.
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And here is a review by another guy of the same thong. He is attempting the same thing I am attempting. Clear communication to the reader without making the review NSFW.

I've loved wearing underwear briefs and swim briefs since my earliest teen years. They were so much more comfortable for casual wear, sleeping in, and swimming laps. At 14, I tossed out all of my boxers, jammers, board shorts, and stuck with only the tiniest of briefs. I was absolutely in love with them, looking at myself in the mirror wearing them, swimming, beach volleyball, yoga, just everything. They were an inspiration to exercise and eat healthy in order to keep looking great! So when I was 19, I noticed a few underwear brands selling thongs online, and I couldn't get the thought of wearing them out of my head. I immediately bought a few.


Once they were delivered, I took them out of the packages, and tried them on, one after the other. It was such a thrill! 2xist thongs bring me back, reminding me how they changed my life and helped my fitness goals even more. Everything from the comfortable pouch up front that provides so much support, the waistband which stays on the hips with ease. Since they're made of cotton, they wash easily. Plenty of eye catching colors. And the greatest thing: it's the most wonderful, sensual feeling with the y-back between the glutes!

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And here is yet another review from the same guy on the all cotton-version of the 2x(ist) thong This one is almost G-rated

Ten years after first wearing thongs, I still experience that same thrill, especially since I'm still wearing size small/size 30 with ease! Most guys probably are skeptical about taking such an (admittedly) huge step with wearing something unfamiliar, and yeah that's normal. But they are so flattering to slender swimmer bodies, and weightlifter bodies alike. Once you take that step of feeling comfortable with yourself and wear one, for fitness goals, as well as personal appearance, you'll exude a confidence you wouldn't have thought possible! So go for it! And if your S.O. has your back, yet another plus!
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Both of us are trying to communicate the same thing. That is, you should be interested in buying this thong because wearing it will make you feel really horny almost instantly, and it is really great to feel that way! But my readers here have probably already figured that part out. Part of the market for the thong is for guys who have decided its great fun to get hard in one of them! But we don’t exactly say that in the reviews—though there are hints here and there.

Strapped and cupped
 

Strapped and cupped

I have long been a fan of old school athletic supporters—you know, the kind with the neat rubberized pouches and the 2 ½ or even 3-inch elastic waistband with the leg straps that cross my glutes to hold everything in place securely.

And to paraphrase the old Mounds and Almond Joy Ads “Sometimes I feel like a cup and sometimes I don’t” But when I “hunger” to be in a cup, not just a cup of any size or shape. I am not a big fan of the newer “banana cups”. Too much room to flop around inside for sure. I like the old school cups that are quite flat and have only a limited amount of space inside. I particularly like the fit and feel of a cup that puts a constant, steady pressure on my penis. My penis senses the gentle pressure of the cup bearing down on it—and the sensation of the sides of the cup just being present. Not anything really big or profound, mind you—but just “there”. And of course, the pressure might be so subtle that it does not even hardly “bother” me, psychologically. But as soon as I start to think about where the cup is and how my penis is encased in it, the cup starts to “bother” me psychologically.

At first I think to myself this is no big deal at all, surely I can cope with such a subtle but distinct pressure. Then I think about what is happening to me down there some more and I start to squirm a bit. What seemed quite tolerable only a few moments ago is now starting to “get” to me. Somehow my penis “knows” that it in something of a “predicament” and escape is not an option. On one hand, I am really starting to “enjoy the situation I am in…precum is a real indicator that this is a place to be that, while annoying, is also a place I like very much. At least that is what I am sensing—a rather horny mixture of being annoyed but having some interesting fun at the same time. Weird, huh?

I guess, the original “plan” for guys who wore these old school straps and cups is that they would go directly over the nude body. Then the strap pouch would collect any precum drops. Then guys got the idea that they could wear the strap and cup over a snug-fitting pair of tighty whiteys. Not only was the leg straps to chafe the glutes, but the tighty whiteys provided a secondary layer for collecting precum drops and kept the strap ouch cleaner. Still, lots of fun.

Today I tried something different. Why not wear a pair of snug running tights as a first layer, and put the strap and cup over that? That provides a lot of interesting pressure points and these pressure points tend to interact. But I do not want to be wandering around with a white strap and cup over black running tight. The solution is to make a final layer of a pair of really snug fitting Bollinger black compression shorts OVER the cup and tights. The Bollingers make sure that the Strap and cup press firmly and constantly against my groin which, as the day wears on is subtle at first but then starts to “get” too me—nothing dramatic but just a steady light pressure that feels wonderful.

I highly recommend this “layered” approach. It is always good to have a collection of cups and straps—every one is unique and different and each one provides a unique set of sensations. What a great thing to do on a lazy afternoon!

Those fit really tight on you!
 

Those fit really tight on you, but they look great!

I have been fascinated by all sorts of tight-fitting clothing from bell before I became a teenager. Before puberty, I had only a vague understanding as to why, except that I knew for some not that apparent reason, this is where I wanted to be. Once I reached puberty, things came into focus for me quickly and I began to understand more fully what had been not as clear to me before.

As my readers know, I have spent a lifetime running experiments that make use of every manner of snug-fitting clothing. My favorites lately have been underwear thongs, jock straps, and running tights, which I have been wearing for my daily exercise.

Today I was looking through some of many pairs of extreme skinny fit jeans that I own. Now as American males have long known, the transition from jeans fabric that contains no stretch spandex was once thought of as somehow not right for guys, that a form fit was somehow OK for women who wanted to wear skin tight jeans but somehow not OK for guys. Asian, and to a degree European men had no such hang-ups. The Asian guys in particular liked the super skinny form fitting look long before that look caught on with American guys, where baggy was in. But the European guys tended to follow the Asians as well.

As you know, I have been exercising daily and in the last several winter months favoring really snug running tights as my garment of choice. But as I was digging through my jeans, I found a couple pair of black jeans that looked surprisingly much like my black running tights. One air, from Pac Sun, I purchased relatively recently as in maybe 18 months ago, but I also found a pair I had purchased earlier. Both of these pair for me fit skin tight but seem to have a lot o stretch and both are size 30 x 30”, about 2 waist sizes down from my usual 32 x 30 size for jeans with zero stretch. The earlier pair I had ordered from AliExpress on the internet, a big China-based variation on Amazon advertised as super skinny jeans. Remember that the Asian guys were doing the really snug look long before the Americans. Maybe just maybe these would work as exercise gear as an alternative to running tights.

Now the jeans material is heavier than the running tights material but otherwise the jeans fit about as tight as the running tights, even though the calf and the leg openings.

But, what to wear with these? I haven’t talked a lot about tops, but I am fond of the compression gear tops both short and long sleeved. I really like the erotic feel of the long-sleeved top better than the short-sleeved version, but the long-sleeved versions are difficult to get in and out of on a warmer day if a guy is sweating at all. But, this being a cool March day no problem getting myself into the long-sleeved black compression top.

All of this calls for a thong and a strap. Today just a simple cotton thong that fits very nice and snuf between my glutes and holds my penis where I want it to be. Then I foud a “designer” strap I had ordered on Amazon. Check out the BSHETR brand name on Amazon. I like the way the leg straps cross my glutes but I feel “bare” and somehow “missing something” without the thong strap cutting snuggly between my glutes. So the strap over the thong works very well.

Time to pull on the super snug black Asian jeans and get on my rowing machine. Exercising in this setup went very quickly and I felt really snug. I feared that when my timed stationary bike ride happened the jeans would keep me from moving quite as fast as when I wore the running tights, but oddly enough, I completed my four mile run in less time. Perhaps this was due in part from the stimulation I was receiving from the thong and strap, but everything went very well.

This experiment has encouraged me to look at some of my other pairs of skinny jeans as pure athletic apparel as well. Exploring all of this is great fun.

Having fun by yourself
 

Having fun by yourself

Solo sex is very different from sex with a partner in a host of different ways. In partner sex, the goal is all about having an orgasm at “the end” of the session. In male-female partner sex, generally the couple strives to try and ensure that both of them not only get to an orgasmic point but also that both of them reach an orgasm at not necessarily the exact same time but certainly close together if at all possible.

Of course, this does not always happen with the timing that is considered ideal if at all, and thousands of books have been written on the subject of finding out why and what the partners can do about it. Getting the orgasm timing just right often becomes the primary object of the couple and as a result the couple becomes less focused on the sheer pleasure of sexual arousal, male and female.

In gay sex with a male partner the circumstances change somewhat. The goal becomes now whether or not the male partners can have an orgasm at approximately the same time, but rather that both partners in a sexual encounter are able to have an ejaculatory orgasm within a specific sexual encounter even if the two ejaculations are comparatively widely-spaced time wise. The ejaculation focus may be with one partner initially and once he has ejaculated that partner can turn his attention to what is necessary to do for the other partner to get to ejaculate. But there is no particular premium placed on both male partners ejaculating at nearly the same time as there often is with a male-female sexual encounter.

What about guys who do not have a sexual partner at all? One way of looking at this is that these guys are somehow way unfortunate because sexual pleasure is all about two people not one enjoying their arousal together not alone. Guys (women too) end up in situations very frequently do not have a sexual partner by choice or by circumstance. EVERY guy probably spent his early years with either no sexual partner or with few actual sexual encounters. Yet guys are not sexually disinterested in their early years even if they lack a sexual partner. Getting and being aroused sexually and enjoying the wonderful sensations of arousal is part of growing into adulthood, and is also very much a part of the lives of individuals who do not have a sexual partner in adulthood by choice or by circumstance. For guys who are in this category solo sex (aka masturbation) becomes a critical part of their daily lives.

As a young teen, I may find myself masturbating in the home bathroom so that no one in my family can discover what I am doing in there by myself. But there are limits to how long a guy can be in a bathroom without attracting the attention of other family members. So the guy quickly develops masturbation methods that “get the whole thing over” fairly quickly, as in seeing how fast the guy can go from having an initial hard-on to an orgasm.

But as a young adult I might very well now be out and living alone, in which case as a male I can really begin to start to learn about edging, as in maintaining a state of high arousal but just under what would create the muscular contractions and ejaculate that comes with a full orgasm. That the young adult male lacks a sexual partner for engaging in this is not a bad thing and it might even be a good thing. And learning the nuances of how to maintain a high arousal state without ejaculating can never be a bad thing even in partner sex.

I admit that I often learn new things by visiting sites such as pornhub. Pornhub as directed to males is divided into straight and gay sections. Obviously the straight section involves videos of male-female sexual encounters, and part of the gay male side is videos of two guys having various kinds of sex as male partners. This might represent 60-65 percent of the gay male videos. But the remaining 35 percent on the gay male side consists of guys engaging in various kinds of solo sex activities, from simple masturbation with the hand to other activities that might include things like hand-held vibrators, various electrostimulation devices and vacuum penis pumps.

I am amazed at the role that edging plays in most of these videos—the idea is for the guy to get to a point where sexual arousal is very high but just under the point where the involuntary muscular contractions associated with ejaculation must occur. These guys are doing all the things to themselves that the teen seeking a quick orgasm in the bathroom could not. To make this even more difficult, guys claim in the edging video that they have not ejaculated for several days, so that “riding on the edge of ejaculation” is even more difficult with the guy’s body screaming at him in various ways that it needs to get rid of semen ASAP. This is both great fun but also mental and physical “torture” of sorts. Watching guys “suffer” with such edging can be and is most interesting to see. This is far more interesting in my view that observing a male and female get off together or even a gay male couple engage in a sexual encounter.

Of course there is always the thought that a serial edger might have come up with techniques that have not occurred to me and that I will see something interesting about doing this that I did not already know. But over the years I have developed my own long list of edging methods many of which seem to also work extremely well and I highly recommend to other guys.

Today I am back in the thong, strap and jeans that I wore yesterday and wrote about in the previous post. The combination still feels great. Last night I started with my little estim device, and then continued with my vacuum penis pump. Obviously the jeans, strap and thong had to come off, but by nightfall I was still feeling really horny. Then I had fun massaging my hard penis coming out of the vacuum pump using shower gel as lube, but just under the point where I would have gone into the involuntary muscular contractions of an orgasm. Then I dove into a warm tub of water, still feeling way horny. I dried off and pulled on another thong which I slept in, and this morning I was still feeling way aroused which means that mentally I was in good shape to write what you have just read. Soon I will be on my rowing machine and stationary bike while still fixated on the whole subject of how wonderful it is to be able to edge and go along for days like this without having an orgasm!

Positioning Yourself in a Swim Brief
 

Positioning Yourself in a Swim Brief

A lot of what I read suggests that the smallest and the skimpiest swim briefs are the most fun to wear. But, the truth is that a guy can have a lot of great sensations wearing just an ordinary, traditional swim brief. I am talking, of course, about a brief of the classic Speedo ® design. You know, a brief with sides that measure maybe 2 1/2 or even 3 inches, and from a poly-Lycra blend fabric that fits snug but also stretches a lot. This would not be considered anything out of the ordinary when worn at a beach or pool—the classic swimmers garb that is once again becoming increasingly popular with the real swimmers in the high school and college competitions.

Nowadays, the stretch fabrics are great in that they stretch a lot but still give a skin tight fit. Of course, even with a brief this big, I still suggest undersizing the waist by an inch or two from what a guy normally wears in non-stretch fabrics for the “classic” swimmer-bod look..

The trickiest part about a swim brief is, well, bluntly put, how do I arrange myself down there? Or, more bluntly, exactly how do I place my penis in such a snug-fitting garment? Indeed, there are several possibilities. Guys are keenly aware that depending on how exactly that is done is going to determine both how the guy looks and feels in his brief. The options are basically five. That is, down, forward, up, to the left or to the right. Each of these options not only looks different, but feels different as well as in some options feel more erotic than others, and there are reasons for this. Let me discuss each of these options.

With the DOWN position, the guy is thinking that this is the most conservative position for two reasons. First, assuming he stays relatively flaccid, any unanticipated “growth” will usually not be that noticeable. Further, in a full down position it will appear that he has no bulge or penis down there. This is good from the perspective of being out around other people. The problem, of course is that the down position leaves little if any room to grow should some growth inadvertently take place, and even a slight erection in the down position can be quite uncomfortable. The top or lower end of the upper side of the penis is in contact with the fabric, and this is the part of the penis that has the fewest erotic nerve endings so in this position the guy is not that likely to grow. In that respect, the down position is the “safest”.

In the FORWARD position, the guy positions his penis so it is pointing outward with the glans area (tip) in direct contact with the fabric of the pouch. In this position a guy is going to appear to have a bulge even if he is flaccid. And the contact between the tip and the fabric is not going to “help” in this regard. To be sure this is fun—maybe great fun, except that it is going to be quite obvious to others as to how big the guy is, and worse, even a minor hard-on creates a bigger bulge still. So, I do not recommend the forward position unless the guy is in a situation where this happening is what he wants. The forward position may be a bit too much particularly if a guy took my advice and undersized the brief a bit. The new fabrics are stretchy enough to accommodate most guys in the forward position, but I would still take care with this one if you are going to be in a situation where others are nearby such as at a public pool.

A third option is to point your penis to the LEFT. The effect is to create what appears to be just a tube (your penis) as a 5 inch long round thing heading off to the left. From a distance, this may be hardly noticeable. Generally the part of the penis in contact with the fabric is all along the top and maybe the side of the penis, but not the ultra-sensitive underside.

The fourth option to the RIGHT is the same except your penis is pointing in the opposite direction. Most interestingly, I have found that the sensations a guy gets pointed left are not identical to the sensations pointing right. One of the two directions generally feels more erotic than the other, and a lot of guys who favor a side position left or right have definite preferences for one versus the other. Kind of like being left or right handed. Me, in this regard, I am a definite lefty. The guys who find the down position uncomfortable often adopt a left or right position instead. These positions still feel great and being left or right is probably the option that most guys end up doing.

Finally, there is the truly erotic UP position. This is the position to try if you are really fixated on experiencing first hand why wearing a swim brief can be such great erotic fun. And it makes the choice of a brief that has 2 ½ or 3 inch sides that fits higher to the waist a good idea. Pointed up with as brief with only 1 inch sides and a low-ut waist, pointed up, your glans area can easily come out over the top of the brief. But with the brief with the wider sides you will have more space to grow without coming out over the top. This position is way neat and fun for two reasons. First, the underside of the penis has the hottest erotic nerve endings—and in this position the underside of the penis is pressing firmly against the fabric of the brief all along the underside. Even more interestingly, the erotic hot spot on the underside of the glans just below the tip of the penis is also pressing firmly against the pouch fabric. This sensation might cause you to scream “I like this! I LIKE this!” Probably best you try this position at home in front of a mirror to see exactly how your mind and body tolerates the situation you have put yourself in.

If you are relative newcomer to wearing a swim brief I would suggest “breaking in” any new swim brief by trying all the five positions in the order I listed and see exactly how your mind and body “responds” to each of them. The neat thing is that you can run your experiments using a simple swim brief that provides significant coverage. Finding how your body “reacts” to each position is essential if you intend to wear the brief in a public setting such as at a public pool. You do not want to get into a situation where you inadvertently ejaculate in a public setting, so you need to understand both the situations where that will not happen versus possibly happen. And a first-time brief wearer who initially chooses the “up” position is setting himself up for a possibly very embarrassing situation. You can only imagine what would occur if a guy suddenly cannot keep from ejaculating positioned upward. Yet, if you try this in private and ejaculation occurs this can be great not-to-be-missed erotic pleasure. All the best in running your experiments with a new swim brief.

More fun in a swim brief
 

More fun in a swim brief

One of the reasons male sexuality is so much fun has not only to do with the fact that there are many places on a guy’s body that can be touched/stroked/pressed to produce enjoyable sexual sensations, but that these sensations can and will vary moment by moment. Sex is a total mind and body experience and what might not seem to be that interesting or enjoyable at one moment in time can be totally different and completely mind-blowing only moments later. There are surprises of many sorts happening all the time during arousal and the really fun part is never quite knowing what is going to make you scream with pleasure from one moment to the next.

The male groin is loaded with nerve endings that are a real treat to stimulate. Of course, a lot of these are on the penis itself, but there are various other hot spots that should not be assumed to be non-sensitive as well. Finding out exactly what is more than worth experiencing is the centerpiece of male sexuality.

At this point, my readers are probably wondering that all of this has to do with wearing a simple swim brief, maybe one that is more of a standard issue traditional design that appears to be not that skimpy or revealing. For guys used to wearing boxer style or other loose-fitting underwear and maybe loose-fitting board shorts when near or in the water a swim brief is quite a lot different. I suppose that guys who normally wear traditional cotton brief-style underwear would be less alarmed than others about the whole idea of wearing a swim brief, but a swim brief is definitely not a pair of cotton underwear briefs. The swim brief is designed to fit like a layer of skin, which means that even an ordinary one is going to press against all sorts of places that could be, well, err, sensitive.
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I think a lot of guys are apprehensive about wearing a swim brief because they are uncertain as to how their body might respond in all these areas being touched or pressed against and that everything could quickly get out of control. Guys who grew up wearing swim briefs before puberty probably experience less anxiety in this regard than guys who were only able to wear a swim brief after they were past puberty. The fear is really about not knowing having not done this before, and where not knowing could lead. Still, most guys are at least curious about what it would be like to be wearing a swim brief if they have never done that before, but are apprehensive about trying one on for the first time when others are around. This leads me to the suggestion that if at all possible it is best to run early experiments in private.


In the previous page, I went into detail regarding the subject of options a guy has in positioning his penis in the brief and also that some positions are more likely to induce a degree of arousal than others. Being aroused but not far along enough to make ejaculation inevitable is called edging. Of course, in most of the possible swim brief penis positions (the possible exception being “down”) it is going to be fairly easy for others to see your arousal condition by simply observing the bump under the cloth. This scares a lot of guys. But, guys who are aroused also generally ooze precum in viscous drops on the tip of the penis, even in only the beginning stages of starting to build an erection. This is quite normal, except to say that if you have positioned your penis with the head pointed up or to the left or right, chances are some of this damp precum will soon show up as a damp spot right where the tip of the guy’s penis is located inside the pouch of the brief.

This drop or two of precum showing as a damp spot on the brief is way interesting, but for a lot of guys it is the source of not only apprehension and even fear in that just a small wet spot announces that I am really aroused inside my swim brief. Unfortunately a lot of male sexuality is just like this with equal components of sheer fun intermingled with mind-boggling fear of being discovered in an obviously aroused state.

On a guy’s penis, arguably the underside of the glans just a half inch or so behind the penis tip is the most sexually active part of the male anatomy, and stimulation of this area by any means can quickly lead to ejaculation with even a not-that-erect penis. The basic issue with putting the penis in the up position is that it is all but impossible to do this without stimulating this super hot spot even if you did not intend to do so, and a constant but gentle pressure to the glans this way will soon morph into something way more interesting, as in “I need to ejaculate, and right now”. This is the fear and fun stuff I have been talking about. If the ejaculation occurs in private, this becomes mostly fun with little if any fear. In a semi-public (ie locker room) or public setting (at a public pool) ejaculation from “inadvertently” stimulating the underside of your penis tip is probably about 99 percent fear. Better to experience this when you are alone than in the company of others.

Still, I highly recommend that all guys need to try the ideas I have suggested. How your mind and body copes with the situations I have laid out in detail will also be helpful information in partner sex.

Just enjoying yourself
 

Just enjoying yourself

This has been a long and difficult winter, and parts of the US are still in the middle of a bleak snowstorm with below-freezing temperatures. Only now here are the daytime highs getting above 70 degrees and everything is running later than usual. If a lot of guys are like me, they probably lose interest in enjoying their own body when the weather outdoors is something of a mess. But here, at least, the weather looks very good for today, at least. The odd thing when this happens is that I start to feel quite horny, and what somehow seemed not at all interesting even as recently as a couple of days ago is starting to, well, you know.

Almost invariably my mind starts turning to the issue as to what I am going to be wearing when I am once again (happily, I might add) starting to feel this way again. All of you know I have a lot of interesting things in my wardrobe that I have accumulated for just these kinds of situations, and I suspect there of those of you that have one or two items (LOL) that more or less do the same thing for you. Besides, this is an excellent time to add to your collection should you somehow feel the urge.

Nothing like relying on old standbys in this regard. For me, my classic move is tp get into a classic pair of way undersized white cotton briefs. My fondness for white cotton briefs goes way way back to when I was a pre-teen. I am really fond of the look and feel of them, and the tighter the fit, the better. Swim briefs of course are simply an extension of all of this, and a “daring move” is to wear a classic swim brief as a substitute for a brief designed to be worn as underwear. Nowadays, on line you will find lots of briefs on line that are not clearly underwear or swimwear but something in between. Maybe they are simply too skimpy for beach or pool wear. The whole idea is to find the right brief for the situation, and the right brief is always one that will make you drip some, even without an erection. Think about how your body responded to the situation the first time you ever tried on a swim brief. Did you drip, even a little? How did you feel, both psychologically and physically in this situation? Were you having “fun” or were you too “nervous” to fully realize and appreciate what was going on with your body? As an adult, it is now time to kick back and say to yourself that what you are doing is way interesting and enjoyable, and there is no reason whatsoever to be scared or nervous about anything. You are not going to damage yourself by crawling into a swim brief or a too-tight pair of cotton briefs, and the whole process may instead be seen as quite enjoyable.

Of course, nowadays I like to add more. And no better example than wearing a pair of snug-fitting compression shorts. Over the years, I have accumulated lots of these too, some designed to be worn as swimwear (snug-fitting jammers), some as under gear for sport where the compression is thought to reduce injury, and some just for fun.

It has been 30-35 years since compression shorts caught on with guys as the thing to wear for the athletic types and more recently when jammers more or less took over swim meets. But the appeal of the jammers and compression shorts has its same roots as the swim brief. Now a jammer might not look as cool as a swim brief, at least for some of us here, but that does not mean that the guy is not still enjoying himself in a horny sort of way (drip, drip, drip, if you know what I mean!).

For me, an old pair of black compression shorts went over my tighty whitey compression shorts. Bollinger is the brand name. The weird part is that this pair is over 30 years old and they still fit really way snug and tight. I crawl into these and say to myself that I am way enjoying these and I was really fond of them when they first came out in the 1980s. The fit and feel is great in all sorts of ways. No wonder they quickly took over the locker rooms at schools everywhere years ago—guys were experiencing very similar sensations as they would get from trying on a swim brief, but without the embarrassment!

Oh, and while you are messing around today, do not forget your top, as in snug-fitting compression tee. While I have never been that interested in the upper body as containing a lot of sexual hot spots, a really tight fitting compression tee can add a lot to the overall sensations of wearing compression gear and as a tie-in to your compression shorts.

As I said at the beginning, this is the time of year for guys everywhere to start a new season of enjoying their bodies, and, with the right gear, this is very easy to do.

“How does that fit?”

“OK I guess…”

“Well is it tight enough do you think?”

“It seems to be, but how can I tell for certain?”

“Well, are you starting to drip?”

“Yes, a little I think!”

“That means the fit is affecting you like it should”

“That is good to hear. Now I am really starting to drip. I can really start to feel the dampness at the tip ”

“That is good!”

“That looks really snug and tight on you. But if you want to try an even closer fit, this can always be sized down from a MED to a SM”

“I’m doing OK I think. What I am feeling right now is great.”



“I’m beginning to feel really really good. Its that damp spot right at the tip that is doing it to me, I think.”

“Yah I know it’s funny how that works. Not sure why feeing that damp spot does that to guys, but it does. You are into some tricky but really fun stuff”

“Worse I’ am starting to get a bit hard. Suddenly it feels just really good down there. I am beginning to think that I am going to soon desperately need to ejaculate, and this cannot wait till the day after tomorrow, either.”

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The desert island
 

The desert island

Most of you know, I am a huge fan of edging. Ultimately, I rate edging a lot higher and more enjoyable than having an orgasm. Some of you might find this strange, or at least a bit odd. Not that I don’t enjoy the repetitive muscular contractions that are orgasmicly over the top in terms of the male human experience, its mainly that the pleasures are intense, but unfortunately very short-lived, lasting thirty seconds if that.

If having an orgasm was the only thing that sexual pleasure included, it would not be that big of a deal at all. I realize that in a lot of partner relationships, the entire focus is on having a powerful but short-lived orgasm, and then everyone goes back to engaging in whatever non-sexual activities they were doing before the orgasm. This may be a good life for some people, but not me.

I am also a big advocate for the idea that guys living alone without a sexual partner should not be denied a wide range of sexual pleasures. Quickly masturbating to an orgasm I suppose is one thing a guy could do. But I would also argue that approaching solo sex in this way, while OK I suppose if that is your thing, denies the solo single guy a host of other experiences that, if he started exploring in depth, would ultimately prove to be a lot more fun than simply masturbating to orgasm on some sort of a schedule. When I was in my teen years, and even in my 20s, I did this too. But as I got older, I discovered that the process of getting there was the really fun part, and the ejaculation pleasures gradually became less and less important in the overall scheme of things and what I was getting from my own body.

Over time, I learned that I really liked feeling horny, and the longer I could extend this period without ejaculating, the more fun what I was doing to and by myself became the longer I could keep myself aroused. This time could now stretch from minutes to hours, and I even learned how to do an all nighter where I crawl into bed feeling horny, drift off to sleep, then suddenly wake up feeling just as aroused if not more so. Now a lot of guys, me included in my younger days, would use this opportunity to have a “fake wet dream” where a guy ejaculated in bed then, if the mess he made is noticed by anyone else, say a sibling or a college roommate, claim that it was nothing he did to his own body, but he merely had a “wet dream while asleep!” Cool if inaccurate explanation as to what the guy really did with and to himself.

So I have long been fond of snug-fitting clothing of various types, swim briefs, skimpy brief underwear etc, and it was not long before I learned that loose-fitting cotton pajamas were simply not that erotic and it was much more fun to sleep in whatever snug-fitting clothing item my body was telling me that it liked. If a guy needs to conceal himself to others, why not slip on a swim brief UNDER a loose fitting pair of boxer shorts or even an old pair of pajama bottoms and have fun with your genitalia all night long. The snugger the fit of the swim brief the better. The mere presence of the brief should help the guy to engage in and maintain his edging, and if he does accidentally go off, the brief will catch a lot of the semen that would have otherwise made a mess on the sheets! So this is practical as well, particularly in, say a college dorm or other setting where there is a male roommate.

But for me nowadays, the ultimate male sleepwear is a really snug fitting underwear thong. I am especially fond of the thongs that have a back consisting of a narrow band or cord, that cinches up snugly between my glutes, pressing firmly against the anal area. Even better if the pouch is barely big enough to hold my balls and flaccid penis thus forcing my penis to point forward not down. The really fun part about being in this “predicament” as a guy is that a guy knows that with his penis and balls is such confined quarters, he is going to “grow” a bit. This uncontrolled growth can only put tension on the cord. This increased tension makes the guy suddenly aware that the thong has a snug cord cutting between his glutes, and the size increase is going to make the cord cinch up tighter, while placing firm upward pressure on the perineum nerve bundle every guy has just behind his balls. All these psychosexual hot spots come together to combine in some terrific edging fun.
 

You talk about psychosexual edging nirvana, this is really it. At 11 pm you may be able to tolerate the sensations and somehow drift off to sleep, but what is your condition at 3 AM when you wake up and feel horny as all get out and think you desperately need to ejaculate? What are you going to do? Your options are to keep suffering in ecstasy by continuing to edge just below the ejaculation point, or ejaculate and then quickly fall back to sleep picking up on this the next night. Your call! Either one is fine but for me I would want to see if I could keep doing it feeling ultra-aroused without ejaculating at least till morning. If you can get yourself on this thong-induced high and be able to do this for days and days, all the better. Sexual pleasure in large measure is about “coping” with “denial” and learning exactly how to deny yourself that quick ejaculation and release is part of the reason edging is so much fun, “climbing the walls” so to speak, while edging is a not-to-be-missed activity for every guy but an especially activity for single guys without sexual partners.

So, let’s say you were going to be stranded on a desert isle and alone. If you knew you were not going to have sexual contact with another person on the desert isle, what would you have packed along in the little suitcase? Surviving the desert isle is all about edging my way through the situation. For me, a favorite snug-fitting thong would be very important. Of course I would always hope that as well I, would have had the common sense to pack a couple swim briefs, maybe a pair or two of running tights and compression shorts, plus a compression tee as well. For me, being able to edge is critical to maintaining and improving both my psychological and physical health. Too, even if they do not get stranded in the middle of nowhere, lots of guys end up frequently going on long trips, often work related, where they are living alone or away from regular sexual partners. The same suitcase items should prove very helpful!

Adventures with Ball Splitters
 

Adventures with Ball Splitters

So, last night as I went to bed I was feeling quite horny. I don’t quite know why except that I have been edging for several days without any muscular orgasmic release, and the pressure keeps building in a nuanced but always interesting way. Of course, it didn’t help matters that for the last two days I have been messing with my little estim device with the silicone rings for my glans and my penis base, plus the electro butt plug. The combination of the two in concert get me quite horny and make me drip precum in a hurry.

Then I don’t relieve myself with an orgasm but instead put on my penis pump for some more fun. I see how big I can grow in the vacuum environment and watching my desperate engorged penis turn a rich red color as it struggles in the low-pressure environment is always a way fun thing to do. As you can imagine I’m feeling quite good both physically and psychologically.

Of course, I still don’t relieve myself with the repetitive contractions of an orgasm. Instead I soap my penis and balls up with a shower gel, and maintain and improve upon my vacuum-induced erection while making sure I don’t go into the uncontrolled muscular contraction phase. I hop into a drawn warm tub of water and play with myself some more, again keeping just below the involuntary muscular contraction phase. Delicious agony. I’m climbing the walls, so to speak.

Finally I hop out of the tub, dry off and pick out my sleepwear. I got to thinking that I have not worn a favorite old Jockey thong with a really snug pouch and a really tight fitting back in a long time. I dig that out and the fit and feel was every bit as good as I remembered from a dozen years ago or more. I decided to wear a wonderful pair of swimming jammers over the thong, and the tight slick feel of the cloth on my thighs just added to the fun I was having all by myself.

Anyhow, still way horny, I drifted off to sleep, only to awaken at 3 AM with my mind suddenly focused on a little piece of swimwear I had purchased from Koala swimwear a long time ago. Somehow my mind was telling me that while I thoroughly enjoyed the thong, what I now really wanted to do to myself was to get my balls into a ball splitter. And the Koala “suit” (if you could even call it that), was very good at accomplishing just that. The suit has a semi-transparent nylon “cylinder” for my penis, with three elastic bands designed to position the guy upward. Getting into the suit it is a good ide to have at least a partial erection to make that part position itself correctly. Then below there are three elastic bands, two of which go on either side of the balls but the middle one is the splitter.

The splitter band of course is connected to the elastic band that makes up the rear of the thong. As the guy builds an erection inside the nylon cylinder, that puts tension on the thong back which cuts deeper between the glutes as the erection builds. But in particular, that tension also tightens the middle elastic band that is the splitter strap and cinches up the bands on each side of the balls. Way interesting.

I just happen to have some old photos of the suit and me in the suit that I am going to try posting here. I have been looking for a current version on Koala but they do not seem to now sell anything close to this design, I did find a pair of thong underwear on ebay that does somewhat the same thing, however.

Meanwhile, after wearing this ball splitting swimsuit for 4 hours I still haven’t had an orgasm and tonight I will simply pick up with where I left off last night. This is goofy fun! Who says single guys living alone as “sexually inactive” or unhappy!

The first photo shows the suit: the second me IN the suit with the ball splitter clearly obvious.

Here is the link to the ebay ball splitter thong. way less complicated than the Koala version but the same idea of the thong back tugging on the middle splitter band https://www.ebay.com/itm/185366283003

Safely Enjoying Who You Are
 

Safely Enjoying Who You Are

As my readers are well aware, I am a big advocate for the whole idea of enjoying one’s own body, sexually, but also about dreaming up unique and interesting ways to do this that do not create issues for others nor do harm to yourself. Much of what I enjoy doing to, with and for myself could be readily adapted as activities a couple might also enjoy doing together, either straight or gay. And the activities I suggest do not have risk factors either for getting a female pregnant nor transmitting HIV or other venereal disease whether the couple is straight or gay.

I have been doing some reading on studies that examine the sexual behavior of the under 18 crowd, and the number that sticks in my mind is the estimate that 40 percent of people have had male-female intercourse before the age of 18. This is a much bigger number than most parents probably would like to believe. And, I suspect a large percentage of teen girls are not on any sort of birth control and are operating on the notion that they likely won’t get pregnant only on the first time and then, if their boyfriend has penis-vagina sex only “occasionally” whatever that means.

I encounter a lot of adult men who seem to believe that having penis-vagina sex in a relationship with a woman is about the only thing in life worthwhile, and many of these same men are into casual relationships outside of marriage. Apparently (though I am not the best one to say) there are more or less equal numbers of women who think the same way. Dare I say that there are women out there who enjoy having penis in vagina with multiple sexual partners and part of the “fun” experience is that the risk of getting pregnant is an element of the sexual satisfaction. Some people—both men and women—thrive on danger of this sort and the danger makes the entire act more erotic for both of them.

What to do in the case of either the teen pregnancy or casual sex pregnancy? Why have an abortion of course, a nationwide right guaranteed by the Roe vs Wade since 1973. No reason to use birth control or engage in safe sex practices if the “problem” can be solved by an easy, low cost abortion. After all, the “right to choose” is fundamental to a host of other “rights” women want to claim.

So, given the events of the last day that suggest the Supreme Court might be readying to overturn Roe v Wade making laws regarding abortion different in each of the 50 states, the reaction to what happened was not surprising at all. I have long been struggling with the question of “Who are the people who view it crucial to be able to have an ‘on demand’ abortion?” I have already named two categories of women..teenagers who want sex with their teen boyfriends without having to first talk their parents into getting on the pill, and women who somehow like the whole idea of having casual sex with many different men. The abortion rights advocates always mention women who are victims of rape and incest but the total of those is likely tiny in comparison to the sizes of the first two groups. Then there is the category of a married heterosexual couples in which the wife finds herself not wanting another child but somehow ended up pregnant anyway. Given the number of different birth control measures out there that allow women to avoid pregnancy entirely, I cannot believe that this “happy couple” demand for abortion could be that large either, but again I am not the best witness on that subject.

So, if getting an abortion is about to become more difficult in many states, what are the implications? I am drawn back to HIV in the early days in which suddenly the favored anal sex option for many gay men turned out to be a high-risk method of getting HIV which meant a high risk of death. Gay men that loved butt sex had to change their ways, and fast, Suddenly the thought was that a guy needed to know the sexual history of his partner and wear a condom if anal sex occurred at all. A lot of gay guys had to adapt and change to engaging in activities with their partners, casual or long term, that posed much less--perhaps zero risk--of HIV transmission. A good example being mutual masturbation where bodily fluids are not exchanged or a dildo not a penis as a method for stimulating the prostate as an alternative to conventional butt sex. To a degree at least, gay guys got more creative in coming up with interesting and fun things to do that were low risk.

If Roe v Wade is overturned, abortion options in many states will become less readily available if at all. This presents a problem for the 16-year-old girl looking to have penis-vagina sex with her “cute” 16-year-old boyfriend. Maybe the idea of him wearing a condom has a lot of merit—more so than before. Or maybe its time for the frank conversation with the parents about the need for birth control pills.

And for the adult men and women who have regularly been engaging in penis-vagina sex with multiple partners, in partners based on the idea that if the birth control method fails, a quick abortion is always readily available, some rethinking will be needed. Maybe there are other things casual sex couples can engage in other than penis-vagina sex that are not only a lot of fun but essentially risk free with respect to the danger of pregnancy. Back in the 1970s, gay men somehow sorted this all out and lowered the risk of HIV by simply not engaging in unprotected butt sex. The options as alternatives to the butt sex in many ways became more interesting and creative.

By now my readers are wondering what this all has to do with jerking off while wearing a swim brief. It turns out, quite a lot! First off, no one has ever gotten HIV nor gotten a girl pregnant ejaculating while wearing a swim brief. The issues instead occur if the swim brief comes off! I can think up a large number of ways either a straight or gay couple could have fun while completely avoiding the risks of either a HIV transmission or a pregnancy. All sorts of ideas grounded in mutual masturbation come to mind. And generally, oral sex acts, while perhaps having some risk of HIV transmission, completely avoid the pregnancy risk. Both men and women have many different body parts that can be licked, stroked and fondled in all sorts of interesting ways. If Roe v Wade is overturned, these behaviors with zero risk of pregnancy will come to the forefront for a lot of couples where the women seeks to engage only in activities that definitely do not lead to an unwanted pregnancy.

What’s up your butt?
 

What’s up your butt?

Penis-shaped dildos made from wood and stone have been found that predate recorded history so the idea of using something that is a fake penis to stimulate interesting erotic spots has been around for a long time. We like to assume that way back in history the people using these dildos were likely female and they were a way of achieving arousal and maybe an orgasm without the need for a male partner—as in the earliest version of women’s lib.

In the male world straight versus gay was often divided based on whether or not a guy engaged in anal sex with another (presumably gay) male. For a lot of straight guys, anal sex with another male pales in comparison to the “real thing” aka penis-vagina sex with a female partner, and is thus the “centerpiece” of being a straight guy. Moreover, why two gay guys would even find it erotic and sexually interesting to engage in butt sex was something of a mystery to a lot of straight men.

Of course, what was happening in gay male butt sex is explained by a basic understanding of anatomy and where the prostate gland along with many of the nerves that control erection are located, and the realization that by inserting something, a finger, a dildo or an erect penis, it was easily possible to stimulate the prostate and the nerves that control erection indirectly from one side of the anal wall. Straight couples and even female prostitutes discovered that a guy likes being fingered through the anus, with the prostate located about 4 inches up and hiding just behind the anal wall.

Nearly 8 years ago, I lost my prostate to surgery for prostate cancer. I have been healthy for all these years since then. I had what was considered then to be state-of-the-art robotic nerve sparing surgery, the basic idea being that the prostate and the cancer could be removed while sparing some of the important nerves that control an erection. Every guy who has this surgery can still be aroused and have a dry (no semen) orgasm, but the problem is that he may not get very hard, if at all. The extent to which I can get hard after the surgery measures the extent that the nerve sparing part of the surgery works. The surgery worked, sort of, but there are issues as well relating to the fact that lots of things are not quite like they once were.

Of course I knew that with anal sex, gay guys were stimulating the prostate indirectly, which not only felt good but resulted in an erection for the receiver. I no longer have a prostate, but in theory at least the nerves surrounding the now removed prostate are still there and in theory functioning. But how?

I also knew that from the dawn of HIV, gay guys were often seeking out alternatives to anal sex that stimulated the prostate but did not involve a risky interchange of bodily fluids and any approach that accomplished that would be considered. As a health move, post-HIV gay guys discovered that inserting a dildo into their partner was easy and fun to do and HIV risk free, particularly if you researched exactly what needed to be massaged with the dildo to set the erection nerves on fire. And there were all sorts of interesting things to do if both of them inserted dildos in each other, and then did some “research” on each other as to what exactly felt good and how to move the dildo for maximum “effect”. A real penis would work as well, but not only might that interchange bodily fluids, the amount of time a guy could conduct “research” would be drastically limited.

In addition, in the last 20 years or so we have seen a host of new and reasonably priced sex tows that are specifically designed to be put up your own, or your partner’s anus, or both. The sex of the partner does not matter. In addition to the static dildo made of soft plastic (the “manual” method) there are toys that use electric current designed as vibrators for the anus, as well as toys that produce repetitive mild electrical shocks in various patterns and amplitudes, usually drawing current in from a unit with two 1.5 volt AAA batteries.

As I study the videos in the gay section of pornhub, the interesting part to me that all of the men who alone are experimenting with these toys on themselves are still in the “gay” section. But in those videos that feature two (or more) men they are divided between the traditional butt sex videos and the guys employing either dildos as sex toys or a vibrator or perhaps a butt plug attached to a current generating device. More interestingly, the guys in the videos employing the toys with and to a partner seem to be having at least as much erotic fun as the guys going at it in the traditional way. Once of the conclusions I reach is that being gay is no longer just about guys who like to be a top or a bottom in the traditional way, but everyone has moved on to a whole new world of fun things to do, not only alone but with another as well.

Me? Well, I need to trust my doctor who told me that in my surgery he was able to leave at least some of my erection nerves intact, but getting them to do what I wanted might take some time. I’ve already told you stories regarding the vacuum penis pump, and that is one interesting way of restoring suitable amounts of blood flow into the penis. But I have also had great fun with my little estim device. My estim contains two conductive silicone rings, one of which goes around the glans while the other one goes at either the base of the penis or around the scrotum. Either way a light current is sent to the penis which not only feels great but makes me get somewhat hard.

But the other wire on the device is connected to a small torpedo-shaped butt plug which, when lubed with a water-based gel lube (such as KY gel) slips easily in and the current feels great—must be hitting exactly those nerve endings my surgeon said he spared that control an erection. The urologists are very interested in the whole problem of restoring a degree of sexual function for guys who have had prostate surgery, and the vibrators applied either directly to the penis or through the anis is one way of doing that, but the estim devices are another way of accomplishing something similar. Which works best for a particular individual is an empirical issue. Some guys don’t like the vacuum pumps but I have found ways to use one of those successfully as well.

My bottom line on all of this is that some of the new stuff that is out there works quite well, and is not expensive at all. The things I do to myself are not just fun for guys who no longer have a prostate, but are equally interesting for young-and-healthy guys regardless of their situation with or without a partner.

Choosing a Sport
 

Choosing a Sport

I have often wondered what role the type of garment required to participate in a sport affect what sports a guy elects to pursue or not. I suppose the classic example is that of a young male taking up swimming or diving in a sport that may very well require him to wear a swim brief. At the time a male picks this as a sport, he must realize that he may be required to wear a swim brief. Or, maybe not, at least not initially. For a lot of teams, the younger members wear jammer-style suits and only “graduate” to a swim brief after some time in the sport. Generally the divers are not as “fortunate” in that regard.

I have read that by requiring everyone to always wear briefs, at least in competition, may have had a negative impact on some boys being willing to participate in swimming as a competitive sport. And that is why coaches started merely requiring swimmers to wear close-fitting jammers when swimming for speed. But jammers have their own issues as well. If a swimmer is concerned that he will be seen with a semi-erection bulge wearing a brief, this issue does not simply disappear if a jammer is worn. A basic “problem” remains, and that problem is that any snug-fitting stretch garment may “inadvertently” cause “problems” for the guy in the groin area. How a guy “copes” with these “problems” is a very individual issue, and, for young males, part of growing up.

And the problem is not only with sports involving water. It used to be that team sports such as football, baseball and basketball all required the guy to wear an old school athletic supporter, aka jock strap, and for sports such as baseball a cup. The male rite of passage was whether or not the guy taking up the sport was going to be able to “cope” with being in a strap (and maybe worse, a cup) while playing the sport. Any garment that by design is intended to fit that snug to actually be protective may cause “issues” and a cup only adds to the “problem” (as in what happens if I start to grow inside the cup, even inadvertently?) This led to the development of the huge “banana cups” that gave the guy more room to flop around inside if this should happen.

But also, this led to replacing the traditional strap with a larger compression gear undergarment some of which had built in pouches to hold a cup if the sport demanded it. Whether guys find the compression gear easier to deal with is an empirical question, except to say that the old school naked butt jock straps are seldom worn in team sport any more, replaced largely by some type of compression/Lycra fabric garment instead.

Then there are the wrestlers, where the one-piece suit has been the traditional garb at all levels, and the snugger and slicker the fit the better from the perspective of not giving your opponent anything to grab on to in the match. But these too have issues that the budding wrestler will have to deal with, issues not unlike the issues faced by the jammer wearer.

Part of the rowing and stationary bike riding activities that I participate in for exercise are made more fun and interesting because of the garments I wear while exercising. Rather than to try and avoid getting into a situation where I am feeling “good” down there I now revel in that. The stationary rowing and bike riding I do a lot of guys would claim to be too boring to keep up. But I have never had that problem as getting myself a little worked up down there is part of my daily exercise routine, and helps me to keep pushing myself longer and harder, so to speak. In short, I have learned to “manage” my body in that regard.

What role if any the things I do plays in what other guys are doing for sport and exercise I have no clue, except to say that many if not most activities whether for exercise, individual or team sport. Do some guys take up competitive swimming in part BECAUSE they get to wear a swim brief in public? A good question to ask! If a guy is losing interest in keeping up a routime, maybe WHAT the guy wears while engaging in exercise or sport needs to be changed out. The human body is wonderful!

Intensify
 

Intensify

I have always had great fun finding out what my body is capable of doing, and it seems that the older I get the more I learn. Today I will describe some techniques I employed yesterday in sequence that, taken together blew me away, both psychologically and physically. The best part is that I am going to be able to continue with these techniques all day long today.

As my readers know, I am a big fan of edging as a psychological and physical technique. By edging, I mean the act of bringing myself to the very edge of going into the ultimately involuntary muscular contractions of orgasm but then backing off just before I get there, and then build myself back up again, over and over. A lot of guys on the male porn sites seem to enjoy this as well, and the real trick is to go several days without ejaculating which makes edging all that much tougher. I like to do that too, and challenge myself in an effort to find my limits.

As many of my readers also know, I am also a great advocate of thonging. I love how my penis and balls fit inside a skimpy thong, and the right thong pushes my penis forward and slightly upward, right into a snug-fitting jock strap with an equally snug-fitting hard cup. The combination of my penis pressing firmly against the sides of the cup along with the feel of the thong cord cutting sensuously between my glutes just blows me away a treat not to be missed. And of course I always top this with a really tight pair of compression shorts or running tights, which hold the cupo firmly in place pressing down on all sorts of sensitive body parts. Then I get on my stationary rowing machine and do a 30 minute workout, each stroke being different and more pleasurable then the last. So I was doing this yesterday and enjoying myself immensely.

So my workout is over but I continue to wear these items around the house basically feeling horny. At that point I dig out my little estim machine, that consists of two silicone penis rings and a small butt plug plus a power unit. I pull off the compression shorts, strap, cup and thong and put the estim penis rings around my penis at the base and tip. I turn on the machine set at a low level. The estim machine stimulates the nerve endings that control erection. I am not that big or hard at this point, but I am feeling horny as all get out, psychologically. Never mind, I will be growing with each shock from the estim. I up the level on the estim machine. The exact point is where the shock pattern is are stimulating and just below a discomfort level. The butt plug is designed to stimulate the neighboring prostate and the interesting part is that when I insert the plug the current to the penis rings shuts down. Remove the plug and the rings become active again. Great fun, and highly stimulating too. If I kept doing this for too long I would find myself in a situation whereby the involuntary orgasm contractions would start, and that would shut me down for 24 hours of “recovery” time, maybe longer. So the idea is to shut the machine off and stop before I get to that point, which is what I do.

Next up? A penis pump with a vacuum motor. I know that many times I have said that a manual hand operated pump is best, but yesterday I decided to give my electric version one more try. With the manual pump, you control exactly the amount of vacuum at every moment in time. The electric ones can quickly get away. The other thing I have learned is that any pump works the best if the guy psychologically is feeling really horny going in, and after the thonging and subsequent estim treatments I was certainly there. And sometimes in self-pleasuring or in sex in generally it is fun to be in a situation where the events surrounding you are not under your control, and that sometimes happens with the electronic vacuum pumps. So I put my penis next to the sheath hole and turn on the pump, and watch as the vacuum of the pump pulls me in and starts to pull more blood into my penis. I raise the speed/intensity of the motor on the pump, and I start to get really hard. The guys on the porno sites sometimes ejaculate right into the pump at this point. I have never had that “problem”. The pump is cycled whereby I release the vacuum with my penis falling back somewhat, then restart. I have a penis ring on the pump which I slide on to the base of my penis as I near the end of the session.

I pull off the pump and have a really hard penis that feels not quite the same as one made from manual masturbation but feels wonderful nonetheless with a tight silicone penis ring at the base. Psychologically I am feeling over-the-top horny and enjoying myself immensely as I massage my penis with a gel soap, as I am about to cool down by jumping into a hot bathtub of full water. I am on the edge of orgasm, but not quite. Keeping from going there takes courage and experience. The whole idea is that I am going to take a bath, then crawl in bed and fall asleep still feeling way horny and still not having gone into the repeating muscular contractions of an orgasm.

And that I do, pulling on a favorite Speedo Solar in the popular Sapphire blue color. Reaching down my penis still feels really great and very much likes the fit and feel of the solar Speedo. As the night goes on I keep touching myself down there and what I touch still feels great.

But, my sleep was relatively interrupted. My penis is used to sleeping inside a Speedo and rewards me in all sorts of different ways. This morning I wake up and pull off the Speedo to notice that the inner liner has a bunch of still wet precum stains. In my condition I must have continued precumming all night long. How great is that!

So, today, still having not “relieved” myself with an orgasm, I am going to pick up and do the same thing all over again. This was just too much erotic fun. Finally, I would recommend these techniques—all of them—for every viable guy to try. The estim and vacuum equipment is not expensive—figure under $25 for the estim device on ebay, and the electric pumps run about $35. Finding a snug old school strap and cup is a little more difficult, and finding just the right thong can involve some experiments as well. But the equipment you will need to try all of this is out there for sure. In the process of doing this you will learn a lot about yourself and how your body works down there, and the experiments you run will be way fun.

Intensify II
 

Intensify II

A was lying in bed this morning. Once again I had gone to bed wearing my sapphire blue solar Speedo. And, as I am prone to do, I awakened at 4:30 AM and started feeling myself down there. My fingers kept moving between my penis and balls, and everything I touched seemed to feel really great. I was not erect at all when I started, but things changed quickly as I touched and fondled a whole series of really-sensitive body parts.

I got to thinking to myself, A Speedo makes really wonderful swimwear and really wonderful sleepwear. I wonder how many guys out there think to sleep in a Speedo and entertain themselves like I do during the night. Just a Speedo beats sleeping in the nude all to pieces in the summer months. If a guy is concerned about what his male roommate might think, never having tried this himself, a guy could easily pull on something OVER the Speedo, maybe a pair of loose-fitting boxer style shorts, or in cold winter months, a pair of loose-fitting sleep pants, none of which restrict access to the Speedo or to the interesting male body parts.

On the Internet sites, there are lots of guys who really like to self-pleasure in sleek swimwear, wrestling singlets, silk shorts and compression gear. Various type of smooth slick fabric rubbing against a penis is a not-to-be-missed fabulous treat in all sorts of ways. And this leads me into a discussion of edging. The nighttime is an excellent time for any guy to hone his skills in edging. The incentive is to not only have fun, but also to avoid an ejaculatory mess in the Speedo and especially problematic if the guy is not living alone. Building the sexual tension right up to the edge of ejaculation is terrific fun, and so long as the guy is to keep from going into the contractions of orgasm, can be done over and over. Male sexual pleasure is usually about keeping things under control, even though on occasion it is fun to have a giant release of semen where all control is lost. Of course, a lot of guys get adept at setting up schedules for having an orgasm. Young guys sometimes claim that they can have 2 or more orgasms in a single day, but as guys get a bit older, the frequency tends to come down to, say every other day or every few days. Meanwhile the guy still edges on the off-days. So edging plays an important role for even for guys who claim they ejaculate frequently.

The other issue with guys sleeping in Speedos is if the guy is a budding swimmer, and is apprehensive about wearing a Speedo for swim practice, being in a Speedo every night will likely reduce the level of apprehension as the guy will have a lot of time to get “used” to being in a Speedo, having regularly slept in one.

A lot of sexual centered fun relates to control. Generally, guys like to think they can maintain control, as in when ejaculation takes place, up until the last moment when the guy suddenly loses control and cannot stop the ejaculation from occurring. In plain old masturbation as in fingers around penis, the brain is always in control. Goodness, a guy can quit stimulating himself any time he wants, even though the guy knows that if he keeps doing it too long he will enter a phase where he is no longer able to keep from ejaculating, but, of course, that is what he might want to end the session. Some guys feel that they have not really masturbated unless the conclusion is an uncontrolled ejaculation.

I have been thinking about this control issue with respect to penis pumps. There are two basic varieties, manual and electric. With a manual pump, there is a squeeze bulb or lever to control the amount of vacuum in the cylinder. With an electric pump, there are buttons to push that control how fast the vacuum builds in the cylinder. But once the motor is started the vacuum in the cylinder just keep building unless the user takes some overt action to stop the motor. Unlike the manual pump, where I am squeezing the bulb or lever and then watching what happens to my penis moment-by-moment, and then making an overt decision as to whether or not my penis can “stand” even a bit more vacuum, in the case of the electronic pump, the vacuum just keeps steadily building and building so long a I do not take the action to shut the pump motor off entirely.

Psychologically and physically these are two very different experiences. My penis is in the clear poly plastic cylinder, but it is not touching the walls in any way. The cylinder is much bigger than my erect penis is or even the biggest guy’s erect penis is. And once the vacuum motor starts I can immediately feel the blood being drawn into my penis, which is always a great feeling and at the core of why good old manual masturbation is so much fun. Having direct control of this with the manual pump is fun, but losing a degree of control over how this occurs by just letting the electric pump do its thing is equally fun but in a different way.

The guy whose penis is inside the tube does face a dilemma. He knows hos penis is big and quite hard from the vacuum, and would like to be able to touch it for more stimulation enjoyment, But he can’t being still locked inside the plastic tube. On the web, there are guys who have ejaculated while still inside the tube, but this seems to be relatively rare. The more fun method of course, is to get out of the tube, lube up with a lubricant or gel soap, and then continue to enjoy the erection using plain old manual methods. The vacuum-induced erection feels a little different from one that was built from the beginning via manual methods, not inferior to but just different from, and the vacuum-induced erection is equally psychologically stimulating. For me at least, being able to be inside a vacuum pump and taking notes on the experience is one of those great things about being a guy and in retrospect one of those not-to-be denied male experiences.

But also, getting to wear a swim brief is all of that too. I cannot imagine muddling through life without having experienced the wonders of a swim brief or a pair of really snug compression shorts, or going through life without discovering how my body acts if confronted with a penis pump. After all these years, I am still discovering new and interesting ways to jerk off. Today I crawled into a wrestling singlet and will spend the day in that. Every guy should be enthusiastic about doing the continuing research needed to discover a new and fascinating way to just jerk off. Claiming a guy is a jerk-off should not be seen as a derogatory message but something where the response should be “Isn’t that great and wonderful tho!”

Intensify III
 

Intensify III

I ran some more experiments on my body last night. I learned some things that may have been obvious given what I have been doing to myself, but I will outline exactly what I did and learned.

Some of you may be wondering what role plain old-school masturbation might play given all the tech I am using designed to make a guy get and sustain a firm erection. I learned last night that the silicone rings of the estim device work “better” if I am already semi-hard by prepping with some old school work as well. I do not need to be completely hard of course—that comes later, but having a nice semi on when the rings are applied helps a lot. I see that a lot on the Internet videos, where guys almost never wire themselves up flaccid but already have at least a partial erection. Then they almost immediately start climbing the walls with erotic pleasure once the estim device is turned on, and the level set up just a little.

And, of course, a water-based lubricant along with some water can be used in your old school “work” In addition to working better when a guy is already somewhat hard, the silicone rings make a better connection with your damp skin and the whole device simply works better. What I may have said before starting dry and flaccid as “that feels nice” morphs into something I would better describe as “Wow, what I am doing to myself is really a lot of fun”. Guys on the Internet routinely keep doing this until they ejaculate, but I never go that far. Why? Because I see this all as prep for getting into the electric vacuum penis pump.

For the electric pumps, a big issue is making sure that the sheath hole is just big enough so the penis fits through the hole in the sheath, and sheaths are available with various hole sizes for a “custom” fit. Obviously, if your penis is too big in girth you are going to have difficulty in getting through the sheath hole and into the pump. But if the sheath hole is too big, high vacuum levels can mean that in addition to the penis, part of one’s balls get sucked right into the plastic tube next to the lower part of the penis. This is painful and not fun. But, the odds of this happening are drastically reduced if you have “pretreated” your penis using first the old school techniques then the estim rings, and, if you have lubed yourself up as prep for the rings then your penis will slip through the hole in the sheath easier even if the fit is really tight. In the process you have also minimized the possibility of the balls getting sucked into the tube as the base of the penis is tight around the sheath hole. Which means up the speed on the electronic vacuum, kick back and watch your penis start to grow bigger and redder. If everything is working as it should, this is not-to-be missed fun.

Some Internet video guys manage to ejaculate while still in the pump but that is not that easy, because the stimulation is largely visual since I can’t touch anything that is inside the tube (What guy DOESN’T visually like to see himself in a big red and hard condition?). Enough of this! I remove the tube and pump, sliding a clear silicone penis ring onto the penis base. This tight-fitting ring looks and feels great. Then it is time to dig out the shower gel soap, lube the now big red penis up and enjoy another round of old fashioned masturbation. Wow! This is really neat, though I still do not “relieve” myself with the contractions of an orgasm. Just when I am nearing that point, I jump into a bathtub full of warm water to cool myself down a bit. Even coming out of the tub, I am still feeling way horny, and, time for bed.

The sleepwear of choice is a swim brief of course, this time one of those little Euro briefs Swimoutlet sells in a bright red color. My penis “wants” to be positioned upwards, pointed toward my head and the underside firmly pressed against the slick pouch fabric. That way I can fondle myself on the great nerve endings that guys have on the underside of the penis. The swim brief of course is way snug not roomy. I think this one is only a size 28, which means that getting into the brief is not going to be that easy, but somehow I manage. I fall asleep still lightly stroking the underside.

I wake up at 6:30 AM still feeling way horny and way great. I have been edging all night long, even while asleep. Remember, I have still not had an orgasm, and I have been having such a great time that I still do not want to shut the experience down for a few moments of extreme but temporary pleasure. I pull off the red Euro brief and sure enough there is a spot of fresh ooze right where my penis tip was all night long. I am able to edge even while asleep.

So I get up this morning still way horny and thinking about doing something similar again for tonight. I pull off the swim brief and get into a pair of undersized ‘60s schoolboy tighty whiteys that I like to wear when I am feeling this way. Over those, a similarly schoolboyish 60s Franklin strap, and over that a pair of purple BOA (Built on America) purple compression shorts that I think I bought when Undergear was still in business, and a navy blue compression tee. I will go through my workouts today wearing these while contemplating the question “What do I plan to do to, for, by, and with myself tonight” given the current “unrelieved” condition of both my mind and body. Quite a dilemma, I would say!

Its going to be tight! It may at times seem a tad uncomfortable! But, in the end it is all way fun! I'm blown away with the sheer pleasure.

Intensify IV Part A
 

Intensify IV Part A

One of the amazing aspects of being a guy is that at age 12, I was having great fun learning about all the interesting and extremely enjoyable stuff my body what capable of delivering to me, and figuring that by the time I grew up all of this would be so familiar to me that I would be mostly bored as there would be nothing new or interesting yet to learn. But here I am in my 70s, still exploring, still trying things with at least as much enthusiasm as a school kid who has just reached puberty, and I am no longer scared at all. For me it is all pure erotic pleasure, to be savored and enjoyed to the fullest.

Back when I was only 12, as I watched my first real daytime ejaculation complete with strands of milky semen, as if that part of my body was somehow disconnected from the rest of me. I guess I was worried that I somehow had “broken something” and had a serious medical problem. Today, in my 70s and no longer having a prostate, I know something is broken thanks to the surgeon, but I have not in any way lost my enthusiasm for playing around with my body. Indeed the situation has freed me to be even more interested in the whole science behind the entire subject of feeling aroused and what that entails. This has led me to this conclusion that most guys are probably too enamored with the idea of getting to the ejaculation part quickly, and that the whole male sex drive is centered primarily on the idea of ejaculating semen. But if you have built your entire life around getting to the moment of ejaculation, you have missed out on what makes being a guy so fascinating, and further, being sexually active in this way is even more rewarding and fascinating than merely watching your penis spew strands of the milky white fluid.

And, I keep learning new stuff. After a guy loses his prostate, the two questions are 1. Can I still have an orgasm? And 2. Can I still get an erection? But as guys grow older even with intact prostates they are probably still thinking about these questions and what happens in aging. More generally, with the things I thought were really enjoyable when I was 12 or 13 still be great fun when I reach old age, or even maybe even not-so-old age. If a guy thinks that the only fun part of being a sexually active male is in the act of depositing semen into a vagina (or in some other similarly-shaped orifice) and has no room for anything other than that then this guy is missing out on much of what makes being a guy so enjoyable. Being sexually active does not mean simply always having a sexual relationship with another person. Indeed if the relationship issues start to overwhelm the other parts the guy may very well be in trouble. This all comes right back to the idea if the guy somehow equates being sexually active with ejaculating semen into a convenient orifice supplied by a sexual partner and there is nothing else that is sexually exciting or even interesting.

From about age 10 or so I had convinced myself that I had a serious sexual fetish, defined as a mental problem, and this was because I got sexually excited whenever I thought about being inside a swim brief. A lot of this was rooted in the notion that by definition, a sexual fetish was any situation whereby a guy got aroused by some inanimate object no matter what that object was. What was this fixation/fetish I had, anyway? A serious mental problem that required psychiatric help? I was well into adulthood until I came to the realization that I was not the only guy out there who liked swim briefs in this way, and also that, on occasion, a lot of guys liked to jerk off in a Speedo and they also thought that doing this was pure fun but also safe fun (unless a family member or classmate wandered in on you while you were doing it).

Well, if the clinical psychiatrists spent time treating male patients suffering from the disease of wanting to jerk off while wearing a tight-fitting Speedo, there would be no time whatsoever for patients with other mental “problems”. Not only that, for a guy who has lost his prostate like I did, maybe crawling into a snug fitting Speedo is one path and a treatment of sorts helpful in restoring the ability to both get an erection and sustain at least the repeating muscular contractions of an orgasm. Also, generally after prostate surgery, the Cowpers remains intact, so even though there is no more semen ejaculate, the guy is still able to ooze. Further, precum production becomes a central focus, and edging and precum are intertwined as is pointed out over and over in the Internet videos. Oozing is still great fun, and if I can still ooze in the absence of a prostate that is a key element of feeling good.

So I admit that getting and sustaining a full erection is more difficult when the prostate is absent. For me at least, more difficult, but definitely not impossible. More time, a little more lube.

So I begin with some traditional schoolboy style masturbation that I learned all by myself at age 12 in an effort to start building a hard-on, using a mix of lube and water. My penis is now quite damp with the mix of lube and water. Time to put the estim rings on. This is electrotherapy for the nerves controlling erection. The device runs on two AAA batteries, so it is way below any current level that might be harmful. The interesting part is that the estim rings mimic a lot of what normally happens brain to penis in sexual arousal and erection. I have learned something really interesting in doing this. The difference between the estim setting that is arousing and very pleasant and the setting that is mildly uncomfortable is very small, and the best results are obtained by finding a setting that is right on the edge between the two. WOW! That is it. I found it! The waves of current come in repetitive cycles. I can quickly sense when the next real jolt is going to happen then scream out in anticipatory pleasure that is just on the edge of a bit of pain. Over and over. Again and again. Vaguely self-SM. Soon, my whole body is shaking as my erection slowly builds some more with the next series of shocks. I am glad I live alone so I do do not have tp explain my screams of estim-induced pleasure. I am having so much sheer fun that I am on the edge of going into an orgasm. But then just before that happens I suddenly stop.

(To be continued)

Intensify IV Part B
 

Intensify IV Part B

It is now time to crawl into the penis pump. After the masturbation and the estim, I am more than ready to try and deal with the vacuum pump. The vacuum pumps are both a legitimate device for treating erectile dysfunction as in not being able to get or sustain an erection, and a sex toy. Think of the pump as an alternative, and much less expensive way to the same thing Viagra and Cialis try to do. The blood flow into the penis is critical to getting and sustaining an erection. As guys get older, a lot of them get sludge in the pipes that restricts penis blood flow and makes an erection difficult if not impossible to sustain. Aside from being unable to insert yourself into an orifice of a sexual partner, orgasms without erections are simply blah! Indeed, as I learned as a teen, the bigger and harder the erection the more fun the orgasm. It’s a linear relationship, pretty much.

So the vacuum pump uses vacuum to pull blood into the penis and in the process perhaps clean the pipes. A problem in prostate surgery is that it may take many months if not a year or more for the nerves that control erection located adjacent to the prostate to repair themselves, and in the meantime the guy may be going for a long time without pulling the erection-sustaining blood flow to the penis. The vacuum of the penis pump immediately engorges the penis with blood, even though the erection might not be sustainable otherwise.

A key element of male sexual health is sustaining the normal blood flow in and out of the penis during sleep. During sleep, erections should come and go, and, for younger guys maybe a wet dream (or two) each night. This is all tied up in the idea of maintaining healthy male sexual plumbing.

So, I sustain myself on the vacuum of the pump for five or ten minutes, then scrunch a silicone penis ring down to the base of my penis. By now, my penis is looking and feeling great, big, bright red, and I have a wonderful-feeling hard-on. I remove the pump and lube myself up some more and do the classic schoolboy masturbation once more rubbing and fondling my lubed penis from the base to the glans in repeating motions. My penis looks and feels great and I know it is filled with blood. I am enjoying myself immensely and I could go quickly into the repetitive contractions of an orgasm, dry of course, but still way fun because I am so hard, brought about by a round of classic schoolboy masturbation at each end, estim and a vacuum pump. Maybe being in my 70s is not that bad after all, but how would I ever explain what I am doing to a sexual partner.

What now? Why deny myself an orgasm and just hop in a hot bathtub! And then get ready to spend the night in something that fits snug and tight. A swim brief perhaps? Well no. Last night was that 2x(ist) thong I have been bragging about. Somehow that Y-back tugs on all the right (or wrong) places. I am back to the idea of blood flowing in and out of my penis multiple times during the night using the same pathways the vacuum pump found. But I denied myself an orgasm (again) which means I am still way horny and the thong keeps tugging away at me putting tension on many interesting spots.

Somehow I drift off to sleep still sensing that there is extra blood in my penis. It feels great. But I drift right off and sleep soundly till 6 AM. At that hour my penis still seems to be semi-hard. The thong still fits snug. I pull off the thong, checking for precum stains. A sticky damp precum stain suggests that I was staying aroused during the night even when I was asleep. Sure enough, that is just what happened.

So, I am thinking this treatment sequence (masturbation, estim, vacuum pump, more masturbation, tub bath, swim brief or thong) might become essentially a daily thing. At some point I will probably give in to having an orgasm, which will shut everything down for a day or two, but in the meantime I want to just keep edging on the brink like I have been doing.

But, just suppose you are a younger guy who still has a prostate and no problem sustaining an erection without the estim or the vacuum pump. Treat both the estim and the vacuum pump simply as interesting sex toys. You will never learn how either feels until you try them both. I wish I had run some experiments long before I lost my prostate. These experiments would have been huge fun. Could I sustain myself in an edging mode for days with an intact prostate? Good question. Some of the Internet guys claim to have gone for 2 or 3 weeks, maybe longer. But can you pull this off, or is the lure of a powerful orgasm ultimately just too strong? The longer you delay orgasm the more difficult it becomes to continue to do that, but where is your tipping point when you can delay no more?

And if you love sleeping in something snug-fitting—say a swim brief or a thong, the vacuum pump treatment especially should make doing so all that much more interesting for you. You can be in an edging mode all night long and, who knows, you might even have a wet dream while still inside your brief or thong. The wet dream is a signal that you have been edging beyond anything reasonable and so your body automatically takes care of the building “problem” for you.

Finally, just because you think it is great fun to ejaculate while wearing a swim brief or thong does not mean that you have some sort of a fetish that calls for treatment. Guys like to do that, a lot of them. Its all part of just who you are as a male and “perfectly normal behavior” for a guy.

A Fondness for Speedos Part I
 

A Fondness for Speedos Part I

I am trying to remember what was going on in my mind and body at age 10 and 11, a year or two before I reached male puberty. Unfortunately, I did not take any notes that would be useful in writing this essay so I am relying entirely on my memory. I guess most people would call the onset of puberty in males as the point in time when the guy has his first instance of ejaculating semen. But if my memory is correct, I remember getting erections quite a while before that, it’s just that the erections did not end with ejaculation. In fact, given my small stature, I recall getting erections that looked very large to me. Fascinating, but why?

I also learned long before puberty that touching and fondling my penis was something that was quite enjoyable. But what was driving me bonkers is that I would sometimes get a firm erection for no apparent reason at all just seemingly out of nowhere, and I had no idea what to make of that. My body was telling me something, but what? Of course, guys my age were all wondering if their male classmates were somehow coping with the same problem, and if so, exactly how were they dealing with it.

Of course, now we know that people can have sexual sensations at a very early age perhaps even before they are walking. A current TV ad for diapers shows kids in diapers in all sorts of movements, some that appear to be putting lots of pressure in the groin area by lying face down on the floor and then moving rapidly across the floor. They are actually masturbating in that position prone on the floor. As I watch the diaper ad I keep thinking that its an ad featuring some really early efforts by these kids in that regard. Indeed there is serious research which reveals that kids masturbate long before their parents realize at all what they are doing.

So, by the time a guy is 10 or 11, even if he has not ejaculated, he is well along in the process of how to enjoy himself in this manner. The important point is that guys do not just suddenly get their first erection on the day that they first void semen, nor is the semen voiding day the first day in a guy;s life that the guy has ever touched himself down there. The masturbation process has been going on for a long time by the day the first semen voiding occurs, and the ejaculation is more nearly a culmination than the start of something new and interesting.

Somehow, finding out that the other males my age were also dealing with the same problem would be a source of “relief” for me, but this was the 1950s, and guys did not talk about stuff like that for sure even though they might be very curious as well. But there were all sorts of indirect ways of collecting information.

I the 1950 and into the 1960s, practically every guy wore a white cotton brief. Of course, these briefs fit quite snug an so if a guy was in a situation where he and his male friends were all stripped to their underwear, everyone looked around to see exactly what the situation was with each of the other guys based on how the cotton brief pouch looked. But these instances, often in a gym locker room, did not occur that often. And situations where all the guys were completely nude were even rarer, so information as to what was going on with the other guys was even tougher to come by.

My recalling of the advent of puberty for me is that there was not simply one day where I ejaculated for the first time. Instead, I had run into a new “problem” where I was waking up with dime-sized starchy spots on my pajama bottoms. Nothing big, maybe up to three of them a night, but this started occurring more or less regularly. Depending on when during the night this happened the spot could be completely dry, or maybe still wet. The wet ones that were made early in the morning were more difficult to hide than the ones I deposited shortly after I went to bed that by morning were completely dry on my pajama bottoms.

But, the onset of puberty supposedly is when the first daytime and fully awake ejaculation takes place. For me, this has a swimwear--tho not swim brief--connection. I liked to fill the inflatable pool with water, let the sun warm it, and then go out in the pool and contemplate my navel along with the meaning of life. I had a swimsuit but it was not a swim brief. What was popular in those days was looser fit, typically a small plaid in either blue or red (Mine was usually red). These had about 6-inch long legs, so by board short standards these were quite short (tho not brief style.). Still, these suits always had an inner liner made from a fine nylon mesh, and, guess what? The inner liner was actually made in a brief style.

The claim was that the liner was there for “support”. What was really going on was that without a snugger fitting liner, there was a real danger that the guy’s penis would fall right out one of the leg openings. Remember, the legs were not very long and since the material was a cotton blend and loose fitting.

Well, it didn’t take me long to figure out that the nylon mesh of the liner felt quite nice rubbing against my penis, and naturally, sitting in the little pool of water it was not long before I got to playing with myself. I would take a quick look down there by pulling the waistband away from my body, and I was quickly getting quite long and hard. My penis just sat there pressed against the mesh lining. Interesting!

I had been in this situation of having a big penis a number of times before, and it all ended with my penis simply coming down in size. But for some unexplained reason (well no, explained reason, as in the harder my penis got the better I liked it) I kept thinking about what was happening while I suppose, occasionally touching myself down there too. I was liking this situation a lot.

Well, somehow I went too far. Suddenly I started ejaculating semen into the nylon mesh liner. Now a guy’s first wide awake daytime ejaculation is quite an event to behold! I was feeling elated and terrified at the same time. No one told me this would happen even though I had been having erections and even nighttime spotting for some time. The first time a guy goes into full ejaculation complete with all the muscular contractions is huge fun but also scary as all get out. I was right on the edge between the two. But sitting in a little pool of water, I was in a position to hide the evidence pretty easily. No one else would know what had happened.

The swimwear with the mesh liner was far easier to explain than would be a swim brief, and whenever I got the chance, even if I was not going in the water, this style of suit was my go-to choice for daytime masturbation. I would masturbate into the liner of the suit and then put it back in my dresser drawer until the next time. Eventually I had big semen stains all over the liner but no one checked, and these would be somewhat washed away if I again wore the suit in water. Through my teen years I still harbored some fear of discovery but I got smart about hiding my activities. Eventually the semen destroyed the mesh liner.
 

A Fondness for Speedos Part II
 

A Fondness for Speedos Part II

It’s funny. There is a strong “herding instinct” among a lot of young males. This is especially true when it comes to clothing, but particularly in undergarments. A lot of guys make choices based on what other guys are wearing, or maybe what they THINK other guys are wearing. From the mid 1950s and through much of the 1969s, the underwear of choice was the white cotton brief. Why? Because that is what the other guys were wearing. Loose-fitting blue plaid boxer shorts had yet to make an appearance. If you wanted to be one of the guys, you wore a white cotton brief. This was not a debate topic. That is how it is.

Of course, a pair of white cotton briefs CAN fit rather snug, but this did not seem to bother guys in the least. I have often thought that there was a bit of “I’m bigger than you are down there” maleness rearing its head, but that is only a theory. If my briefs fit tighter and my bulge shows bigger that is good not bad bit especially so if ever guy is wearing basically the same cotton brief.

Young guys tend to go through a lot of underwear growing up. And young guys tend to hit a rapid growth spurt shortly after puberty, where the underwear that fit maybe a year ago or even six months ago tend to be too small right now. In the case of a cotton brief it might be worn out but it might just be too small. Still, guys no doubt learn that a snug-fitting brief has its merits, even a brief that the guy has almost grown out of. Aside by continuing to wear these as regular underwear (You don’t have to replace these right now mom, I can still wear these!), guys have been known to keep some undersized pairs in the back of the bedroom drawer to use for masturbation purposes.

The same applies to clothing like blue jeans. That pair I wore last year has gotten really snug on me since I have grown, but I still like to wear them. And some of the guys in school think I look great in them.

You may think guys discovered snug-fitting jeans in the last decade or so. But there was another round of this in the early 1960s when guys really got interested in jeans that fit really snug. Sand-colored undyed denim jeans were really popular, and when I was 15 or 16, some of the guys in my class seemed to be running an informal contest to see who could come to school in the jeans with the tightest fit.

Of course, some of the guys discovered that masturbating in clothing that consisted of a tight pair of cotton briefs with a snug fitting pair of jeans over could be a lot of fun too. The semen would be enough to create a dark stain somewhere on the jeans. But where? And if this happened would someone call attention to it? Dangerous in that respect, but still fun!

So, back in the 1950s and 1960s we have all these guys whose clothing consists of snug white cotton briefs with tight, sand-colored jeans over. For swimwear, making the transition from the popular plaid cotton swimsuit with the mesh lining to a real swim brief was perhaps not that big of a deal except that the early swim briefs were all nylon, and only later did the poly stretch Lycra briefs show up. Guys were used to knowing how the ribbed cotton of their brief underwear felt down there and had managed to learn to control their urges. And they were used to being in situations where other guys clad in cotton briefs would see them. But now the idea of a small-and-slick-nylon swim brief might be pushing it. The classic question of course is will wearing such a suit with slick fabric give me an erection at an inopportune time and will I be able to adequately cope with the situation. But still, the swim brief is not that much different from the standard issue cotton underwear that all the guys wore daily.

So, my theory is that when white cotton briefs were almost universal, at least for males living in the US, the transition a Speedo--or more generally, any brief-style swimsuit--was not nearly as big a deal as it has been recently, when guys are instead favoring loose-fitting plaid boxer shorts as underwear. The boxer shorts as underwear led right into the knee-length board shorts for swimming. Still, young males are subject to a herding instinct whereby they really want to wear what the other guys think is acceptable, and definitely not go off in some new path, and particularly not a new path that would identify a guy as a “serial masturbator”. Even the admission that you masturbate could result in issues with peers (who also masturbate but dare not admit it) at some future point in time.

A Fondness for Speedos Part III
 

A Fondness for Speedos Part III

Growing up, I was, well, more than a little nerdy. My family lived on a Midwest farm and our nearest neighbors were a half mile away. I had friends in school of course, both boys and girls, but I was not particularly close to any of them. I was more than something of a nerdy loner too.

However I did have relatives, some of them aunts, uncles and cousins who lived in a more urban world on the West coast. Part of what they did was to make road trips to the Midwest where my family and other families (more aunt’s uncles and cousins) lived. They would hop in the Oldsmobile or Pontiac and think nothing of driving over 1200 miles in a long two days. One of the trips occurred around 1960. I would have been nearly 13. Two male cousins came along, one a year younger than I, the other about 18 months older. I will call the younger cousin G and the older cousin D.

City kids coming to visit country kids was always an interesting time. We were used to engaging in farm activities that the city kids found fascinating. We were around farm animals pretty much all the time, and some of the farm animals were also pets. The city cousin G was on the “cusp” of puberty at the time. My own body was changing rapidly and my mind was filled with questions I dared not ask. Even at that age I was interested in what my cousins would be wearing. The city cousins were into sports (later on, G became a High School wrestler, but he was also a swimmer).

Both G and D arrive wearing the latest snug-fitting jeans in a sand color, the ones I described previously. They were lucky, I thought. I really wanted a pair too.

The farm was also not far from a lake which is actually part of a dammed river. The local aunts and uncles had cabins on the lake and it was routine for everyone to go down to the lake and get in some boating, swimming and whatever. Of course I was wearing my red plaid swimsuit as I described. I was, well, curious as to what my city cousins would be wearing. It didn’t take long to find out! Both D and G were in swim briefs. The brief G was wearing was bright blue with three whit pin stripes on each side. He looked great in it. Keep in mind that I was a gawky, nerdy looking. Even at that age G was built like an athlete. The suit fit him really well—as in it was way tight on him. Seeing G in this suit really got me fixated on wearing swim briefs. I suspect G had worn this suit for some months and was on the edge of growing out of it. That is why it fit him so well.

(to be continued)

A Fondness for Speedos Part IV
 

A Fondness for Speedos, Part IV

So my aunt, G & D’s mom, suddenly said something I thought was interesting. She said “G is really fond of his swimsuit. Once he gets into it I cannot get him to take it off. He wears it everywhere.” In retrospect, I don’t think G’s mom quite understood exactly what G was doing and why, but that is to this day a theory. My theory is that G was fond of the suit and wore it because he liked how it looked and felt down there. Moms think they understand everything about raising boys but there are a few things that do not quite register, well, you know.

So, after the boating and splashing around in the water it was time for everyone to go back to the town or the farm. With all the relatives from afar, beds are in short supply. It is decided that G would go home to the farm with me and my parents. Just as his mom said, G is still wearing his blue suit and has simply pulled his jeans over. The house on the farm had two small bedrooms both double beds, and my parents slept in one of the bedrooms. The only place for G to sleep is next to me in the other bed.

So G pulls off his jeans and is now clad only in the suit and crawls into bed. Me, I am in pajamas next to him. At some point during the night G decides he needs to get out of the suit and he pulls himself out of it and tosses it to one side of the bed. I remember that it just sort of hung there somewhat stiff.

I was thinking wouldn’t it be fun to try on that suit. But I am too scared to ask. What would my cousin think of such a strange request? Still, if there ever was a moment in my life that for me glued the idea of wearing a Speedo as erotic fun, this was it. I never did ask my cousin the questions that I really needed the answers to. Remember, I was just barely past puberty myself and my cousin had not likely reached that point. But still, there was something going on in his brain that got him to where he was—the idea of wearing a swim brief as underwear was linked to the idea of wearing a swim brief for the sheer enjoyment of at all.

Given what I know now in retrospect I could have been more forward, but I am not sure where that would have led either, say if I had asked to try on that blue swim brief. The cousin is just a year younger than I. He became a fireman in his adult life, was married for a short period of time and had two kids, but then divorced the wife and never remarried. I have never dared ask him about this sequence of events that occurred that night. On occasion I have wondered whether he was really that straight, given how his life evolved, but that is not a question I would dare ask either. The questions I would have he probably would be reluctant to answer.

It’s funny. Being deprived of something that a guy thinks would make him feel horny only makes the object that much more erotic once a guy finally gets it. I went through my entire high school days never owning a swim brief. But as a young adult I loaded up on swim briefs and used them regularly for masturbation. Is this a “problem” of some sort? As my readers know, relationship sex is not a big deal for me, but I thoroughly enjoy my own body. This may seem a bit weird according to some. Part of the problems with a relationship is that I would have to figure out some sort of a way to deal with the fun things I do to and by myself, and I never saw the tradeoff as making me happy. I am better off right where I am.

But how do other single guys not in a sexual relationship navigate this? Have they found solutions similar to what I enjoy doing? This leads me to another core question. Nowadays guys can order swim briefs or any one of hundreds of potentially erotic toys on line. I keep wondering how many swim briefs are actually mainly if not exclusively used for swimming versus other “recreational” uses. I think the market for swim briefs is much larger than it would have been had the main sources being a mall department or sporting goods store. The vendors that sell the briefs do not really care for what purpose the brief is sold. A sale is a sale!

So, I have a stash of stuff including swim briefs in many sizes that I keep on hand mainly for self pleasuring. A big stash, but living alone I do not have to explain this. Do other guys have stashes as well, but more secret stashes? An embarrassing question is why do I keep all this “stuff”? Do I have a “problem” of some sort, or have I simply found a successful way to live as a solo, unattached guy? Good question. If I can be of assistance to other guys who are interested in what I am doing and how I cope. I have found fun stuff. Lots of it!

Always “enjoy” yourself!

I had a friend on the swim team back in school days. He wore a speedo during the summer at our town's public pool and for a couple of years I really, really wanted to wear one. Finally worked up the courage to ask and he loaned me one of his. Wow, it was great. And so horny, too!

A Fondness for Speedos Part V
 

 
A Fondness for Speedos Part V

I was 21 years old, and leaving from my native state in the Midwest to do my PhD at Purdue—some 1,200 miles away. I was still going to be living in a college dorm, but this one was made for graduate students, and all the rooms were single. I saw this as an opportunity not a problem. I could get to do the things I always wanted to do while studying for my doctorate, And there were lots of things by then that I really enjoyed doing, but in private.

The Purdue campus is separated from the main retail spaces in town but there are a couple streets just off the campus that were there to cater to the needs of the students. Lots of fast food places--back then a Burger Chef and a place that predates Arby's but also featured roast beef sandwiches, So I would often take a short walk only a block or two from the grad house to pick up a cheap burger or maybe splurge on a roast beef sandwich as well.

In addition to the food places, there were a few stores that catered to the clothing needs of college students—shirts, jeans etc. Periodically these places would have street sales as a way to reduce the inventory of stuff that hadn’t sold. And, guess what? In the fall they would invariably have some heavily discounted swimwear as well, including swim briefs. What an opportunity for a guy who had wanted to own a Speedo for so long, but never quite dared doing anything about it for fear of being discovered and with that a long line of uncomfortable questions.

And there it was. A heavily marked down genuine Speedo in a patriotic pattern in an early Lycra/Nylon blend. I pulled that off the rack and made my purchase. My life as a graduate student was not going to be that dull and boring after all. On another trip I found a swim brief made by Janzen at a heavily discounted price and I bought that too. Now I didn’t really intend to go swimming, but I was merely looking to make my time in the dorm room more interesting. I was spending a lot of time studying, but every guy also needs some “recreation” if I could call it that.

Sadly, though the room was single the bathroom was across the hall. You know, ten each of toilets, showers and sinks all in a row. The problem was that I needed a private space to rinse out a cum-stained swim brief.

But, it was not long before I solved that problem too. I discovered there were a few rooms with private baths that rented for only a bit more than the private rooms with the bath across the hall. So I rented one of those and changed rooms.

I worked hard but had great fun in graduate school as well in a host of different ways. Purdue is a great place to study and learn. I learned a lot as well about a bunch of different subjects some not at all related to what I was studying for being able to do as an academic. You might be able to guess what some of the subjects are. Following this was a 40-year career as an academic. But I also developed a side hobby writing on male sexuality which is completely different from what I did as an academic during my career.

Retired now, I still enjoy doing a lot of the same stuff I always did while also having the free time to devote to my hobby writing. Every day is an adventure for me.

The Speedo I bought that day collapsed into almost nothing decades ago. Cum stains are tough on Lycra. But the Janzen brief I bought at about the same time is still with me, though its condition is not that great as you might imagine after all these years. Still, I have not had the heart to just toss it, given all the excellent memories of a time long gone by.

A Fondness for Speedos Part V
 

A Fondness for Speedos Part V
A Trip to Waikiki Beach

By the mid 1980s, I had settled into my academic career and had been a lot of places and seen a lot of things that I would never have gotten to see on my own. One of the curious features of an academic career is that the faculty are constantly writing and giving scientific papers. The groups taking in the papers like to go to various parts of the US for their meetings or conclaves, and one of the groups decided that it might be a lot of fun to meet in Hawaii. Flights out there were not THAT expensive. Hotel rooms were not cheap. The typical way this works is that if you present an academic paper, the department will find a way to fund most if not all of the trip costs. IIRC the $93-a-night hotel room looked high in the 1980s given that most hotels at meeting sites charged about $50 a night. The plane fares were only slightly higher that the fares to a major US city on the mainland. I would fly to Chicago, and then from there take a direct flight to Honolulu. The total distance was about 4,250 miles, approximately half of the distance over the US and the remaining half over the Pacific Ocean. It was about an 8-hour flight, but I had taken an early morning flight into Chicago. We left Chicago in the morning, but as we headed west, we gained hours. I arrived at the hotel at about 3 pm Honolulu time.

Given the long flight, I thought I would be dog tired and would want to get some sleep before I ventured off to the beach. But to my surprise, I was full of energy, and the beach was only about 2 blocks away. I was curious as all get out as to what the accepted beach wear would be. Of course, I had my favorite blue ocean wave patterned genuine Speedo along with me—an all-nylon suit. When making a beach trek, the big problem is always what to do with your key and other valuables when you are in the water. Each hotel room had a safe, and this was a good place to stash your wallet, plane ticket home, cash, but also, in those days, traveler’s checks. Credit cards then were not the big deal they are now. But then I needed a way to carry the room key to the beach with me, and maybe a few dollars to buy a drink or snack of some sort.

And I also had a pair of shorts that had pockets where I stashed the key. The idea was to wear the light blue nylon Speedo under the shorts and then remove the shorts and leave them on a reed mat near the water and go into the water wearing only the Speedo. I could keep an eye on my shorts with the key in the pocket from the water.

Basically, in the mid 1980s, that is what all the other guys were doing as well. They would alternate between sunning themselves on the reed mat on the beach, and then periodically go into the ocean. And nearly EVERY guy was wearing a swim brief (or, as I soon discovered, something smaller than a swim brief) but they also carried along a pair of shorts to wear over as well.

My Speedo was quite big by 1980s Hawaiian beach standards. Mine had 3-inch sides, but it was more common for the guys to be wearing briefs with 2-inch, 1-inch sides or even less. What fascinated me even more was this the first time I had seen a guy wearing a thong swimsuit, one with such a narrow band that the band disappeared between the glutes. I had my video camera along and got some short videos showing the suits. Of course, a lot of the women were wearing thongs as well. NO one (except me, maybe) paid any attention. This was just normal beach attire in Hawaii.

I soon decided that I needed to buy a swimsuit (or two) from one of the clothing outlets that catered to tourists along the beach. I did not find any thongs for sale but I did spring for a couple briefs far skimpier than my Speedo. A public right of way exists all along Waikiki and other Hawaiian beaches, even along the area in back of the beachfront hotels. The guys liked to walk the right of way in their tiny swim briefs that were brightly colored in neon green or yellow. It was a fun parade. I did that too, simply carrying my shorts (with the room key in the pocket) in my hand.

In retrospect, I made this trip in an interesting time in men’s swimsuit history. Shortly after I got home they were interviewing a sales clerk at one of the big department stores here (now a Macys) and the subject of men’s swimwear came up. She said “It’s weird, guys going for really big suits (aka board shorts) or really tiny suits.” She didn’t describe the exact nature of the tiny suits, but I knew as I had seen them in Hawaii. And, of course, the department store had a big rack of the new “really tiny” suits. It took some considerable courage on my part to buy one of the “new” suits but somehow I managed. I think I ended up with three of them, all very similar to the ones I had seen the guys wearing in Hawaii.

These were fun times. Sadly, the photos I see of the current Hawaiian beaches suggest to me that the attire the guys are wearing there is no longer significantly different from what we now see most guys wearing on any public beach here in the US. There are a few exceptions on the mainland, but it appears to me that the Hawaiian beaches are no longer as trend-setting as they were back then.

Oh, in case you were wondering, I did get to give my academic research paper while I was there, but at a 4-pm hour and most of the conference participants were already at the beach and not at the hotel meeting room. In contrast to the flight west, the trip back eastward to home was a total pain. I slept for maybe two hours, and then the sun was back up again. It took me a solid week to recover from it all.





 

I Confess...
 

I confess, although I am very fond of swim briefs, both genuine Speedos and others for their possibilities in self-eroticism, I am in love with men’s thong underwear. I found my first pair of men’s thong underwear, I think in 1989, a long time ago. When I saw how it was made, I thought that I might “enjoy” wearing a pair, and, believe me the thongs I bought so many years ago did not in any way disappoint. Many years before that I had learned that feeling horny was nearly synonymous with oozing precum, at least for me. At the time I had not studied the biology for this or fully understood exactly what was going on inside my body when this happens, but I surely knew that there was something really great about oozing.

I once believed the old stories that if a guy was dripping, ejaculation was inevitable. But I discovered that if a guy approached this all in the right mental state, he could stay horny and keep dripping for long periods of time. But ejaculation stopped all of this so the real trick was to learn how to “ride the wave” and stay in a state of horniness that was just below the level of no longer being able to refrain from ejaculating, the event which would end the entire fun thing of just spending leisure time feeling horny.

Of course, the pouch was very snug on those early Spandex-laced thongs, almost too snug to contain both my penis and balls, and, worse (or maybe better?), just thinking of getting everything inside the pouch meant that I was getting a hard-on, which also meant that I was going to have still more “trouble” putting everything inside. I was dripping a lot just thinking about this “predicament”. Well, it was not really a predicament. I was enjoying myself tremendously as I contemplated the specifics of the unreasonable situation I was in.

Then the cord! Ahh, the cord! The cord on these thongs was just a tiny piece of elastic about 3/8 of an inch in diameter. Not much. The problem of how I was going to squeeze my penis and balls into that snug spandex-laced pouch was made less difficult if the cord did not lay against my butt crack but fit up tight between my glutes.

Of course, this was the first time I discovered that the space between my glutes was an erogenous zone. The deeper the cord went, the easier time I was having getting everything inside the pouch, but the sensation of the cord seizing between my glutes kept making me harder. I was enjoying myself a lot, but could I actually WEAR this goofy thing like a “normal” pair of underwear?

Somehow I settled down and “contained” myself. I was making quarter dollar-size stains of ooze on the front of the pouch, and I worried that the garment that I would wear over the thong would pick up wet stains too. That would be embarrassing. But I was enjoying my horny, thong-induced state so much a little embarrassment mattered not at all. Did it really make any difference if the thong could be a real pair of underwear rather than a great way to engage in “self abuse”?

Over the years I learned a lot of stuff, starting with the fact that feeling horny and then oozing precum does not automatically mean that a guy is headed toward and uncontrollable ejaculation. I got to the point where my mind could deal with wearing only a snug-fitting thong as the undergarment, and then pull on a pair of snug-fitting jeans over, and then go out and about, even to places like work and shopping.

Eventually a guy gets “used” to wearing a thong and his mind shifts from thinking only about the predicament his penis and balls are in all of the time to only thinking about that some of the time. Still, with every step I feel that snug-fitting thong back wedged between my glutes, and it keeps reminding me over and over that my body is dealing with something very different from say, wearing a loose-fitting pair of plaid boxers.

Even though I have somewhat gotten used to being in a thong I still drip a lot. Often I sleep in a thong as my only night time wear. I go to sleep feeling horny, already with some precum staining the pouch, but somehow I drift off feeling still feeling way horny. I awaken several hours later only to discover that the pouch has even more stains than it did when I fell asleep. Remarkably, the thong kept me horny and dripping the entire night even when I was asleep! This is crazy but extraordinary. Can ANY guy do that?

Finally there is the thong as exercise wear. I have talked a lot about that in the past. How much fun the thong is when I am going though my stationary rowing and stationary bike exercises, not to mention the weight machine as well. All of this makes my daily exercising a lot more enjoyable and less of a burden. Each stroke on the rower give me an erotic “kick” between my glutes. That felt great! My mind and body wants me to do another stroke. And so I exercise!

That was certainly fun!
 

That was certainly fun!

Today I have a puzzle for you. Think back over your lifetime. I want you to think about various situations you have been in where you were alone (not with a sexual partner) but somehow had gotten yourself into a highly-aroused (horny) state. The question is “What were you doing, and why were you so aroused?” What was your absolute “best” experience?

I realize, of course, that in their teens, the vast majority of guys are bombarded with, for want of a better term, the “urge” to masturbate. Sometimes these instances happen for good reason, such as seeing something the male mind deems is “sexy” but sometimes this urge seems to occur for no apparent reason at all, except that the whole thought somehow “feels good“, and suddenly the guy’s mind starts to focus on his penis and the sheer enjoyment of getting an erection. Things start to happen and what felt good only moments ago feels really good right now. And so on. And so on. Right up until the moment that things go into “auto-pilot’ mode and ejaculation is inevitable.

Young guys generally do not have a good understanding of exactly when the autopilot turns on, meaning that the guy no longer has control of his ejaculation, except, of course, there is always a point where this happens. Indeed, younger guys generally do not appreciate that the need to sustain oneself not reaching the point of no return until the right time is in fact a most important part of being a male learning how to cope with being a guy, and that learning how to do so is important.

Most sex manuals aimed at helping couples tend to focus on the whole idea that timing is everything, and the ideal love partners if successful are going to have an orgasm, if not at the exact same time, at as close to the same time as possible. The usual complaint is that orgasm for the female partner occurs “late” if at all, and that the guy therefor suffers from a “disease” called premature ejaculation, which by definition is going into autopilot orgasm mode before his partner is even close.

I confess, when I was 13 I was happy (actually, very happy) to get to occasionally have enough privacy so I could beat off, but I was also worried that I would be inadvertently “discovered” doing that, so the objective was to move everything forward as fast as possible so to minimize the risk of that happening. At that point in time, I was focused solely on how much fun those huge muscular contractions during ejaculations were and I had the ability to ejaculate more than once in a single day, so ejaculating right now was not much of a setback. Still, I feel sorry for the poor guys who somehow managed to go directly from their teen selves to an adult-style partner relationship. There is so much to learn!

For me at least, my beat-off sessions were frequently intertwined with some sort of garment that I either had, or thought I would someday want to own, once I was out on my own. Not surprisingly, I guess, a focus for me was owning a swim brief. To this day, I do not fully understand why this happened, but as a teen, I somehow drew the conclusion that a skimpy swim brief was perhaps the ideal garment for jerking off in when in private and the tighter the fit the better. Never mind that I was not a swimmer and had no obvious reason to own a swim brief. The only thing I could imagine is that any guy who owned one of these had to be using it to jerk off in—perhaps even on a daily basis. I had no idea whether any of my male peers had the same hang up or thought like I did and there was no way to find out.

What I did learn from all of this is that a partner relationship is not a requirement for a guy to have fun with his own body, and that trying to navigate a partner-focused sexual relationship might be easier if the guy has had some experience learning how to cope with snug-fitting clothing during solo masturbation, and in particular, learning some of the nuances of “edging” with the aid of a snug-fitting garment such as a swim brief. The “danger” of course, is that the guy gets so enamored with edging and other fun aspects of solo sex that he sees no need to move into a partner relationship.

A snug-fitting swim brief is by no means the only clothing item that does this, at least not for me. My teen years were also taken up struggling to deal with snug-fitting jeans that fit really tight in the crotch and butt, and I had a couple embarrassing “accidents” if you can call them that. Other items too. The jock strap I never got to wear as part of being in a team sport that required guys to wear one, and, of course, more recently, all the various compression gear, jammer-style compression shorts. Wrestling singlets and running tights, not to mention thongs of various sorts. The online Internet retailers have a huge array of “stuff” directed at guys who want items that they can use for personal “self-abuse” and can be ordered in privacy.

In 1975, the American Psychological Association decided that sexual attraction to a person of the same sex was no longer a disease, but simply part of the “completely normal” range of human sexuality, and thus that gay guys did not suffer from any sort of mental illness, curable or not.

I find interesting, however, that you can still find a lot of books on psychology that claim, first, that any sort of inanimate object used as part of getting off is a called a fetish, and that, since the items on my list--swim briefs, straps, thongs etc--are inanimate, the guy who uses these items to get off somehow is mentally deficient and suffers from a fetish. In short, if this guy was OK mentally, he would instead be pursuing relationship sex (With a male or female partner) and not jerking off with the aid of his newly-acquired Speedo or jock strap!

Hey wait a second! Solo sex is part of the normal range of human sexual behavior too, and if I like to stain my new Speedo that way, who out there should be critical? Besides, working with these items could improve a guy’s edging skills and that skill just might come in handy later on in a relationship. The only problem we have is that some so-called “experts” have decided that any sort of sexual arousal that happens involving an inanimate object is somehow abnormal if not a mental defect of some sort!

I have read that the space that a lot of guys occupy getting turned on by wearing items on my list from swim briefs to running tights is strictly a “male thing” and that there is nothing comparable at all in female sexuality. I am still trying to sort that one out but I am not convinced that is entirely true. Do the female garments that many heterosexual men find arousing do “nothing” for the female whatsoever?

Good question!

A Tribute to “Old School” Jock Straps!
 

A Tribute to “Old School” Jock Straps!

I feel badly that the old school jock-straps like the guys wore when I was growing up have become so difficult to find any more. There are still a few on-lime suppliers but prices seem to have skyrocketed from the days when I could pick up an old school strap for $2 or $3 from an entire wall of them at Walmart and the kind that came with a neat little jock cup for maybe $6 or $8.

Still, I purchased a lot of both kinds when I saw the deals and cannot say that my supply is running short. Today ended up being the time to have some fun with them. One of the great unanswered questions life has thrown me is how popular it is for wrestlers to wear a strap—either with or without a cup--under a snug-fitting singlet. It always seemed to me that wrestling would be one of those sports where it might be a good idea to have some protection down there, at minimum at least a strap without a cup. Having not been a wrestler I have no way of doing a survey on the subject, but if there are guys who wrestled in high school or college, maybe you would be willing to report what you know on the subject.

Somehow, today I got hung up on the idea of being in a strap—not any old strap but a neat Riddell branded one with RIDDELL printed in bold letters on a 3-inch wide charcoal gray elastic waist band, and a sewn pouch capable of holding cups of various shapes and sizes. I have a big collection of cups too, and, let’s just say that I am partial to the smaller, snugger-fitting cups.

From the possible wrestling singlets I own, I picked a bright sapphire blue one with white trim branded “Elite” that I purchased not too long ago, and passed over my three asics singlets and my red Russell Singlet that has a neat design but is tough to get on and off. Wearing only the strap and cup under the singlet I thought looked way neat, and I spent the afternoon doing a web search on “singlets” at my favorite site where guys demonstrate what they like to do when they are wearing a singlet.

Penises love to be in confined spaces and a cup and strap is an ideal place. I discovered that my new “Magic Wand” vibrator does some excellent things when pressed on the singlet and against the cup in the pouch. The entire cup vibrates. My penis liked that, a lot. That stunt is way fun, and if you attempt something similar you should be climbing the walls in a hurry.

Eventually I got out of this combination without quite getting to orgasm mode (you know me!) and I pulled down the singlet and checked out the inside of the pouch to see whether or not my penis had enjoyed the situation it was in. Very healthy, I would say,,, the lower quarter of the pouch was nearly covered with viscous precum. Clearly (no pun intended) the combination of the Magic Wand, the Riddell strap, the pouch, the cup and the singlet was worthwhile.

Next I decided to have some fun with a classic “Duke” strap without a cup—these were of the design Walmart sold loads of in years past for maybe $3. Again, the wide elastic waistband, the rubbery pouch made out of that stuff that was only used to make pouches for classic straps, and, invariably I would buy these, well, undersized. In athletic supporters, cup or not, I have always enjoyed a snug fit.

The interesting thing about these undersized pouches is that you can point yourself “up” and easily stay that way. I put a pair of burgundy “Starter” brand compression shorts over the strap. If any of you are queasy about having precum make its way through to form stains right at the point where the tip of your upward pointing penis is pressing against your compression shorts, you may want to point yourself in a different direction. OTOH, if you are just lazily enjoying a sunny summer afternoon, nothing quite like just watching the precum stains form in tiny droplets, while you appreciate the wonders of being in a strap, kick back, and simply enjoy being a guy Just as I am doing as I write this story this afternoon.

Happy oozing!

Perfecting the Art and Science of Solo Masturbation
 

Perfecting the Art and Science of Solo Masturbation

Every guy learns at an early age that his penis loves to be in a confined space. Not a space with immovable walls mind you, but in a space that feels smooth and slick, pressing against some delicious nerve endings. Guys learn about all of this in a variety of ways and daily life may involve a daily dose of new discoveries that feel, well, psychologically and physically both interesting and enjoyable. Somehow the more a guy focuses on the sensations, the better the sensations feel.

Guys also quickly learn that simply stroking a penis from base to glans can feel good, and the guy quickly feels aroused—that hard-to-define sensation that comes when a guy for whatever reason, suddenly thinks of himself as feeling “horny”. This frequently happens before the guy develops any significant erection. The old theory says feeling aroused precedes getting any sort of penis growth or hardness, and the process of getting a full erection entails getting both large and hard. This, in turn, leads to an orgasm in which semen is ejaculated. All of this is quite enjoyable but each part in different and unique ways.

One might think that learning how to successfully and enjoyably masturbate, that is, engaging in self- pleasuring by yourself, is merely a prelude to bigger and better things to come involving “real sex with a partner”, but guys who are into partner sexual relationships do not necessarily give up on masturbation when the situation of being alone presents itself. If a nominally heterosexual guy who is in a sexual relationship with a female masturbates alone at times, female partners sometimes get very angry if the accidentally discover their male lover masturbating alone and perhaps enjoying himself by himself sexually without her present and participating. A gay male when faced with a similar situation involving the accidental discovery of a male partner masturbating alone, would more likely not be upset but merely want to join in on the fun via mutual masturbation.

For younger single guys not in any partner relationship of either sex, the biggest fear is the possible discovery of what the guy is doing by a parent, sibling or peer classmate. How embarrassing! This leads guys to use a variety of methods to cover what they are doing such as masturbating quickly to orgasm behind a closed bathroom door, masturbating under the covers at nighttime, and finding other situations (i.e. home alone with everyone else out of the house for a time) where the guy can get off in privacy. Then the article of clothing that the guy was wearing when ejaculation occurred is put in a safe hidden spot, say in the back of a dresser drawer in the guy’s room. Eventually, however, that item will need to be surreptitiously thrown into the weekly wash.

Masturbation by simply stroking the penis from base to glans in a repetitive motion with the aid only of a tissue to contain the semen is OK but definitely not the most fun way to do it. The skin-to-skin contact may feel good, but this approach works much better using a lubricant of some sort such as the water-based sexual lubricant KY Gel or some knockoff of that product. However, a lot of guys may not have the opportunity to purchase such an item in part because the obvious question is “What are you going to use THAT for?” A simple gel shower soap works about as well if not better as a lubricant for solo sex, and a guy can apply that prior to going into the shower under the guise that he is merely getting soaped up as a prelude to getting into the shower, when in reality he is having an excellent pre-shower masturbation session. No wonder bar soaps have gone out of favor. Anything that happens ejaculation wise is simply washed down the shower drain along with the soap.

Another way of approaching this instead of using a gel lube is to wear a garment made of a slick, smooth and stretchy spandex-laced fabric, and the snugger the fit around the penis and balls the better the sensation. A small swim brief is perfect for this solo activity. This feels great and some guys get so turned on simply by thinking about where their penises will be that they get a good erection underway even before the pull themselves into the garment. Having this happen can be embarrassing but is lots of fun. The slick, stretchy smooth fabric feels great around and pressing down on the penis and balls and many guys masturbate with the stretchy suit in place and stroking oneself while wearing a swim brief is one of those not-to-be-missed experiences that life has to offer.

Indeed, an array of readily-available swim briefs, spandex-laced stretchy underwear, compression shorts, jammers, running tights and other items can provide some real self-pleasuring fun. Each guy will probably quickly discover one or more personal favorites that are called upon as the need to jerk off arises every day or two. This is all quite normal for guys even though some may be embarrassed about what they are doing to, with and by themselves. The best way to get one’s head around all of this is to realize that practically every guy out there also does it in some way though the details with respect to exactly what each guy does and how may not be fully known. The secretive part of all of this in part what makes this fun to explore.

Finally there are the add-ons. Maybe an electric vibrator that can be used to touch the penis through whatever slick-feeling and snug-fitting garment the guy is wearing. Vibrators stimulate the penis nerve endings in very interesting and enjoyable ways, the only tricky part is that learning how to use the vibrator correctly takes some work. The problem is not that the vibrator fails to stimulate a guy both physically and psychologically but rather that one needs to be careful not to stimulate yourself too much. If you aren’t careful you will be going into an uncontrolled ejaculation even though ypu might still be barely erect and however interesting this initially might seem to be, it is not that much fun. The tricky part about applying a vibrator to the pouch of a swim brief is learning how to get and keep yourself fully stimulated and hard given the vibrations without immediately going into an ejaculation you cannot stop. Learning how to do this takes some practice.

Still, given a degree of privacy and only a few basic items as indicated above, a guy can have great fun masturbating by exploring the ideas I have outlined above.

Happy masturbating!

On Becoming an Adult Male
 

On Becoming an Adult Male

Young guys growing into adulthood face some important issues and problems. Puberty comes on strong, in ways that are at once both wonderful and terrifying. Erections seem to occur relentlessly and often for no apparent reason. Guys quickly learn that the sensations from building and sustaining an erection are wonderful, and the “big payoff”, that is, ejaculation, is about as terrific as life gets, but they are terrified that they will lose control of the situation and get an erection or, worse, ejaculate in a situation that might prove not only demeaning but terrifying. By terrifying means ejaculating in the presence of other males their own age.

This all gets intertwined in the whole subject of developing a specific sexual orientation. The general rule is that any guy who masturbates, gets an erection or ejaculates in the presence of anyone other than a female is automatically a faggot. So the guy worries about the whole idea of being discovered masturbating, getting an erection or, horror of horrors, ejaculating. These pursuits MUST be done in total privacy or a guy will be teased or worse for the rest of his days.

Still, the simple act of getting aroused and the events that may follow are really enjoyable--female partner or no--and guys quickly realize that. But guys also quickly learn that their survival depends on pulling this off in secret without being obvious. Doing so is part of the game that is a key element of becoming an adult.

I learned at an early age that snug-fitting clothing of many different types had the potential to quickly get me aroused, bit that was not a topic I dared discuss with my male peers or with anyone else for that matter. Just THINKING of getting into some items that would fit snug and tight had the potential to give me a full erection, and often did. Like now, back when I was growing up, really slim-fitting jeans were quite popular with the guys, and many of my peers seemed to vie in seeing who could wear the jeans to school with the snuggest fit.

You may think that the real problem guys have is getting into a situation where they are forced to put on a swim brief for the first time in the presence of other males, or maybe a budding athlete encountering their first “forced” jock strap wear and how to cope with the nearly inevitable erection that might follow, but there are other situations as well. Some guys seem to think that the only garment that really presents a problem in this regard is a swim brief, and the goofy idea is that the problem is eliminated by simply wearing a jammer instead. But the guy still has the problem of where to position a semi-erect penis within the jammer, a penis that may be at least as obvious in a jammer as it would be in a swim brief, and just because the suit covers a guy to the mid thighs is not going to alleviate the “problem.” In short, the fact that a guy has a penis is not going to somehow be less apparent in the jammer. The whole idea in Jammer design is for the garment to fit tight like a second skin.

So the guys my age are nearly all wearing jeans that fit snug in the calf, snug in the thighs, low rise at the waist, and fitting like a second denim skin over the glutes. Any real pair of jeans has a key rear seam that runs upward at the center of the rear along the guy’s butt crack. The tighter the pair of jeans the snugger the fit, but that also means a smaller size with a lower rise. So the idea is to pull the jeans upward in front, but that means that the all-important rear vertical butt seam has to go in between the glutes, even as the glutes are covered even more snuggly with the denim. With the right anatomy, this seam cinches up between the glutes, almost like a thong back. This fit, almost mandatory for guys in the 1960s, looks great, and guys would inevitably try and “outdo” each other in “looking their best” in this regard.

Me, I was this scrawny dude weighing only 105 pounds on my newly acquired 5’10” height. My calves were not very big, nor my thighs, And my butt was small too. Still, I wanted to wear the look my other guys were wearing. To pull this off I needed to go shopping for a pair of jeans that would still fit tight on my obviously scrawny body. Not so easy. The pair of jeans I really wanted my mom thought fit too tight ( I did not!), but we compromised on a second pair that fit a bit looser.

Then I went off to a multi-day event with a bunch of other guys my age were attending as well, guys who were mostly going to be clad in the super-snug jeans I had so much admired, never having actually worn my new jeans for any length of time. Now was the opportunity. Except, of course, I got quickly turned on by even the thought of being inside a snug-fitting garment. So I put on the jeans intending on wearing them all day (I had not done anything close to that before), and almost immediately got a decent-sized erection, which I thought would dissipate if I only quit focusing on what I was doing. But, for the moment I had to put the erection in a place where it might not be that noticeable—as in pointed downward into the left leg of the jeans. That would be a “safe” spot, I thought to myself.

Was I ever wrong! I started walking with the other guys. I was actually quite hard inside the new jeans. With each step I made my penis ended up moving right along with the step, but the base of my penis was stuck in one place. Instead of my erection dissipating as we walked, I kept getting harder and harder and my urge to ejaculate kept getting stronger and stronger. It wasn’t long I had more inadvertent stimulation than any young guy could ever handle physically or mentally. I suddenly stopped walking and a full-scale ejaculation quickly happened, soon accompanied by some large wet spots from the semen bursting through the cloth of the tight-fitting jeans. YOU talk about terrific erotic fun mixed with holy terror, this was it!

The interesting part of this story is that despite all of this, to their credit none of the guys ever asked me why I stopped walking for a moment or about where those wet splotches on my jeans suddenly appeared, nor teased me about the sequence of events. Maybe the other guys had undergone situations of their own like mine.

Snug fitting jeans have gone in and out of fashion with young males over the years and we have just passed through a point in time where they have been extremely fashionable once again. But there have also been periods in the not distant past the popular jeans were the ones that fit loose enough to cover an erection of practically any size. And in these periods I have often thought that the popularity of baggy jeans was linked to the idea that the guys wanted to make certain that they did not get into the predicament I faced that warm sunny day long ago. The popularity of the snug fit seems also linked to the degree of enthusiasm guys have in getting toned and fit, with the whole idea of using the jeans as an excuse to show off a body with toned and fit calves, thighs and glutes. And also, maybe the conditioning of other parts of the male anatomy as well! Jeans seem to go through cycles of loose versus tight fit, not unlike cycles between swim briefs and board shorts! Board shorts that fit loose enough to hide even a fully-erect penis, or maybe not!

As a young teen one day I was struggling to get myself contained within my little red plaid swimsuit with the nylon brief support liner. Mom observed that I was having some problems in changing into the suit, and, on observing first-hand what the real problem was, she said to me “You know, if you want that to go down in size all you need to do is to stop thinking about it so much!” A keen observation, but not so easy to do, mom, not so easy to do!

A tight fit, for sure
 

A tight fit, for sure

For me, it has always been something of a contest in order to determine if I enjoy wearing a snug-fitting swim brief or a snug-fitting pair of compression shorts. What I particularly enjoy doing seems to vary somewhat from day to day, and what I find to be the most fun on one day may not necessarily be what I choose on another day. The fact that I am not consistent in this regard is interesting but also a bit surprising. I guess variety is important in life, and whenever something gets too predictable, so to speak, it starts to become boring.

Regardless of what I am wearing, I really like to undersize. I like to think about the story I wrote years ago about the two college roommates who thought they could have some fun by each placing an on-line order for the other—and each order consisted of three swim briefs, all Euro briefs from swimoutlet.com but in three different sizes, 32”, 30” and 28”. Trying on new briefs is always interesting and horny fun, but the idea here is to try on all three briefs from largest to smallest. Part of the arousal mechanism is not only what is happening to you currently, but your anticipation of what is likely to happen next. Just getting into the new 32” euro brief feels good, of course. Who would NOT want to be in a situation where you get to be in a snug new brief.

But there is also the ANTICIPATION of the next step—that is getting into a swim brief you know will fit snugger and tighter. Just thinking about what is going to happen is enough to make a guy harder. And, of course, getting harder is NOT going to make getting into the still snugger 30“ brief any easier. Where am I going to put my growing penis in a brief that will fit and feel even tighter? Wow for fun just thinking about it!

And, of course, the 28” brief in the Euro style is way over the top. If the guy is able to TOLERATE the 30- inch brief without ejaculating all over the place he has mastered some restraint. But the 28” brief is going to pose an even greater challenge, getting into it now both way hard and way horny. Almost impossible for the stage the guy is in, penis-wise. The guy has been oozing ever since he thought about the three-brief challenge, and whether or not he can survive the final challenge of the 28-inch brief without ejaculating semen is the final test.

As my readers know, I very much like sleeping in swim briefs, and every night I try and challenge myself by choosing something different. I believe it is good for overall male health, sexually and otherwise, to go through multiple arousal cycles during the night, the same thing I enjoyed doing so much when I was only 12 or 13 years old. To the extent that a snug-fitting swim brief can aid in this, I am all for it.

So, last night I dug out my blue Swimoutlet Sporti-branded Euro swim brief, size 28. This size has a way low rise and when I am fully in it shows a bit of upper butt crack much like am Aqux-branded brief. The brief has a front liner, interestingly in black not white. I really like the black liners because any precum I leave during the night is readily visible. The presence of precum stains on the black liner tells me whether or not I am going through the sleep arousal cycles that I want to try and make happen.

I got into the brief and went right to sleep, feeling “good” down there. Feeling somewhat horny I have discovered is like a natural sleeping pill. I woke up early this morning and checked the black liner for precum stains, Sure enough, there were some nice ones in different places on the liner. I had achieved my goal.

I continue to feel horny this morning as I think about all of this and write about how well this worked for me last night. Somehow wearing a swim brief—a snug-fitting one—is very helpful in erasing all the problems of the day, and precumming all night long is very pleasant as well.

Thoughts on Compression shorts
 

Thoughts on Compression shorts

Nowadays, compression shorts come in all sorts of varieties. Going back 30 years, to the early 90s, compression shorts were basically treated as an undergarment, found in a blister pack next to a collection of athletic supporters in odd places like a wall in drug stores, in addition to places such as Walmart. I got my first two pairs of compression shorts at Walmart off of one of those racks of athletic-related gear. I did not buy them for any particular purpose other than I thought that they might be fun to wear, given my fondness for swim briefs and other gear that fit snug in the groin. Why not, I thought?

The first two pair I bought were branded Bollinger, one in white and the other in black. On my first (attempt) to get into them I immediately fell for the idea. These fit and looked great, even though in those early days the fabric typically had less stretch and was a thicker weight than what is considered normal today. This was also before the Jammers took over competitive swimming, and something that fit as snug in the thighs was all new to guys. Other guys must have come to the same conclusion I had come to, as we soon seen compression shorts popping out below the then-still short shorts in basketball at the college and professional level and this meant that they would soon be commonplace in high school athletics as well.

Early on, compression shorts were worn solely as an undergarment, and there was a time when guys did not engage in exercise or athletic sport wearing only the compression shorts. The whole thought was that they were fine to wear but in public settings such as at a gym, the guy needed to pull on a looser-fitting pair of shorts over, otherwise he would look like he were exercising only in his undergarments.

This male fear of being seen clad only in compression shorts gradually dissipated over time, probably with the start of seeing pro basketball players being interviewed on TV clad only in their compression gear. Oh, and lets not forget the bicycle riders who long thought that a version of a compression short was perfectly fine for outdoor bike riding, even if the biker was not pursuing riding as a competitive sport.

So, today there is a huge variety of items that would be regarded as a compression short, plus a large number of items sold as underwear for the “athletic-minded” who choose them because they like the fit and feel as an undergarment. Things have gotten really complicated because guys still disagree on exactly which shorts qualify as being appropriate to wear as an outer garment versus as a pair of thigh length underwear. It really comes down to a discussion of color, weight of the fabric, pouch and seams.
With respect to color, most guys probably believe that a white compression short is more nearly an undergarment-only short than the identical one in black which can be worn as either. White is the traditional color of underwear but a white compression fabric is probably more transparent than the same fabric in black. The same is generally try for all the lighter colors.

Heavier-duty fabrics are generally thought to be more appropriate for outer garment compression shorts than the lightweight, more underwear-like fabrics, and fabrics that have little if any sheen tend to be more underwear-like than fabrics with lots of sheen. These criteria are subject to debate, however. Something that looks like (or maybe IS) a swimming jammer is obviously an outer garment and if it is made for swimming the fabric is likely heavy duty as well. And of course the shorts designed for bikers are also going to be made of fabric that is strong enough to withstand what they are used for. Jammers and Biker shorts are definitely outer garments, but what about compression shorts that look like these but are not sold for that purpose?

The subject of pouches is a most interesting topic. Compression shorts come in all sorts of variations with respect to having or not having a pouch. Some pouches are simply a piece of looser-fitting fabric. Other pouches are made to more obviously contain a guys penis and testicles. Some guys might say whether or not a pair of shorts has an obvious pouch determines if it ios an undergarment or an outer garment, and the ones with obvious pouches need to be covered with another looser fitting pair of shorts. But a flat pouch or no obvious pouch at all is fine,

Finally there is the complicated topic of seams. Early on compression shorts with zig zag seams ts were just a single solid color such as white or black. But many modern compression shorts now have assorted sewn seams, and these seams may be the same color as the main fabric, or in a contrasting color. For example, a compression short that outlines the pouch and various other places on the thighs and buttocks might use stitching that is the same color as the fabric or in a contrasting color. If the compression short is black and the stitching is also black, that might be a perfectly fine compression short to be worn as an outer garment as the stitches and outlined nad area simply “disappears” into the overall fabric color.

But, what about if the stitching is done as a bright contrasting color? I have a black pair with bright red stitching. By virtue of the stitching color change is this somehow suitable as an undergarment only garment, or is it OK to wear this the same way I would wear the same garment with solid black not contrast stitching?

Today I have on a black pair of compression shorts that has stitching in a dark charcoal gray that provides a bit of a contrast to the black fabric, and I am wearing this as an outer garment. But is this any more of an outer garment than if I had picked the black one with the red stitching instead? Does the color of the stitching somehow determine if the gear is an outer garment or underwear of sorts?

I do not think guys have this all sorted out yet. I have a number of jammers as well and I never think twice about whether or not I should treat them as an outer garment by pulling on a pair of loose-fitting shorts over the jammers. Heck I do routine chores in my yard wearing the jammers. But I do that wearing regular compression gear as well, and quite frankly I do not worry (much at least) as to whether the neighbors think I am wandering around my yard in my underwear or not!

My Reoccurring Dream
 

My Reoccurring Dream

For nearly seven decades, I have had this reoccurring dream (fantasy, or perhaps nightmare) that goes something like this. I am in a department or sporting goods store, trying on clothing that I am thinking about purchasing. And one of the items is, of all things, a swim brief! Not just any old men’s swimsuit mind you, but the one I picked out to try on was one that, well, pretty much fulfills all my dreams of what male swimwear should be. Maybe a sapphire blue one with white piping as trim on either side. Not too narrow sides, maybe sides about 3 inches wide. Still, much smaller than anything I have ever worn for swimming to be sure. You know what I am talking about—a classic blue Speedo!

Always there is always a sales clerk there too. Invariably the clerk is young, female, and a bit older than me. She helps me find a brief in about my size and head off to the changing room, which is just a little closet-like structure in with a walk-in door. It is barely big enough to turn around in. Of course there is a stool or seat built into the wall, and a tall mirror on the back of the door. I am about to have my first encounter with a real Speedo! Is this a fantasy or a nightmare? Obviously this is a place I had so longed to be for such a long period of time, and suddenly I am starting to feel quite horny. You know, something is happening down in my groin area that I worry I cannot or will not be able to control. All those gentle but firm and wonderful sensations start cascading through my brain.

Where I am is delightful, and at the same time, a nightmare too of sorts. My childhood dream has suddenly turned into something really scary—as in what if I cannot control myself and suddenly ejaculate all over that NWT blue Speedo I had just picked out. How would I get out of THAT predicament and especially so with the young female sales clerk helping me. This is that weird and wonderful mix of extreme anticipation, a wonderful feeling of now having my penis in balls in the exact place I had always wanted them to be but also a feeling of terror should I accidentally get myself into a situation that I can no longer control.

But still, somehow I manage to remove the clothes I wore into the store, and I am only semi-hard. I am dripping some but I know that I am still in what I consider to be a controlled situation, for now at least. I have not had an accident, so to speak.

Once I am in the Speedo I start to actually calm down a bit. My oozing has not yet left any noticeable wet spots on the outside of the Speedo. I open the door to the changing room and walk out into the store. And, of course, the young female clerk is there to check on how the Speedo fits me.
The clerk says to me “That is OK but it looks just a bit big and loose on you”. I know I had something of a struggle to get myself into the suit I am wearing and my advisor, the sales clerk is telling me the one I have on is a tad too big.

The clerk says “ I think you should go one size smaller, as that will surely fit you better” She hands me the smaller suit and says “try this one on instead”.

I grab the suit, and suddenly start to feel really horny down there once again. My mind is suddenly totally focused on what I am feeling in the groin area. I get into the changing room with the second, smaller suit, and close the door. I pull the first suit off and notice that there are several small wet stains of precum on the cloth front liner, but the outside of the suit still seems stain free. That is good.

But the problem I have is that in the process of getting out of the first suit and just starting to pull on the smaller second suit, I am quickly building quite a hard-on, unlike the dripping semi-hard I had when I tried on the first suit. The tricky part is going to figure out a way to even get into the second, smaller suit. My penis is at least a third larger not to mention much more turgid than it was only a few minutes ago. If I do succeed, I am going to show one heck of a bulge in this second, snugger-fitting suit. And I am really starting to worry that I am on the very edge of losing control, and this worry is only making me bigger and harder, which further compounds the problem I am having.

I get to thinking about the young female sales clerk standing outside the changing room. Being a sales clerk can be pretty boring. Maybe the high point of her work is helping guys who have never before been in a Speedo try one on for the first time, in part knowing that doing so may be an interesting erotic struggle of sorts. Dripping may be a commonplace reaction, and something she has observed over and over when she puts what she says are too big Speedos back on the rack. And serious accidents do happen too, on occasion, and maybe she has seen it all, so to speak.

Somehow I pull myself into the second, smaller Speedo. But I am still under control, even though the bulge I have in the pouch is a great deal bigger than it looked in the previous suit. I still feel like I really want to ejaculate, but the urge to ejaculate is not quite overwhelming—not yet at least.

I open the door of the changing room and walk onto the store floor. The sales clerk is standing right there and she mist realize that in changing suits my bulge is obviously a lot bigger than it was. She says to me “That is how you want a Speedo to fit! I think we have found the exact Speedo for you.”
I manage a weak smile even though the sales clerk is wearing a big grin, and I head off to the counter to pay for my purchase. NO wait. At some point I must have gotten back into my street clothes. Maybe I wear the Speedo as an undergarment (to help me get “used” to the fit and feel of the suit) having paid for it, of course!

And this is how my tight blue Speedo became a source of great pleasure for many years to come. Of course, once I am home in my own bedroom, I can no longer resist the urge to ejaculate in it and fulfill my fantasy. Like I say, this is a reoccurring dream and fantasy! Nowadays of course we all order suits on line instead.

Strapped and Cupped
 

Strapped and Cupped

It used to be that one significant male rite of passage was getting your first athletic supporter (aka “jock strap”), and even better if that strap contained the hard cup—mandatory for some sports such as baseball. Guys are often wary about anything that fits snug in the groin area, and the jock strap certainly falls into that category.

Part of this too is that the traditional jock strap holds the pouch (and cup, if there is one) is held in place by two leg straps that are sewn to the base of the pouch and are sewn into the waistband right and left. The shorter the straps the more tension they will put on the bottom of the pouch, and on the cup base as well. That leaves the guy butt-naked, which is, well, interesting if the guy is among his similarly garbed peers.

Of course, there have been attempts to make athletic supporters with thong backs, an elastic band designed to cinch up into a guy’s crack like a thong, but these have never really caught on with guys as part of athletic apparel. A much more common thing to do—at least for a guy wary of being in the presence of other males butt naked, was to wear a strap over a pair of underwear briefs instead. The guy is still undressed but not nearly so much as if he were butt-naked.

Cups come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. The traditional cup is a triangular piece of study plastic that more or less shaped to hold a penis, and not a very big penis as well. The typical traditional cup will fit but only if the guy is completely flaccid. In short, these cups leave little if any room for expansion, and that is where guys start to get quite apprehensive once they realize they could easily grow inside the cup without overt touching or fondling of their penis. The result is a mix of discomfort combined with fun. Somehow penises are smart—penises know when they are in a snug-fitting place and start sending weird but interesting “signals” to the guy’s brain. These signals combine a lot of different experiences into one. A touch of discomfort, perhaps. Not pain, mind you, but just a mix of psychological and physical pressure realizing the cup is right there and will keep the guy from expanding “too much”

But how much is too much? Can the guy sense the physical presence of the cup around his penis? Good question, and a guy will not ever find out if the guy avoids being in the cup entirely. Does a smaller, snugger-fitting cup feel better or worse than a bigger, looser-fitting cup? I guess the answer depends on how the guy defines “better”. Being in a snug-fitting hard cup can quickly make a guy feel, well, horny! If a guy associates feeling horny with an urge to ejaculate, the guy will probably be concerned as to whether or not he could end up doing a hands-free ejaculation simply by “thinking” about the “predicament” his penis is in. This part is pretty weird because the guy is no doubt liking the sensations associated with feeling horny but this is accompanied by a fear of what would happen if he got to feeling so horny he could no longer avoid ejaculating. Quite a dilemma, I would say.

In the last decade ot two, more and more athletic supporters have come with ever larger and roomier “banana style cups” that are big enough so that the guy’s flaccid penis will simply flop around within the cup. Room to grow unimpeded, so to speak.

This “solves” one problem but creates another problem in that the guy’s penis is just more-or-less flopping around inside the cup and is not being constrained or being held close to the body as is the case with the traditional cup. For a lot of activity, the smaller, flatter and snugger-fitting cup might actually work better as a supporter for athletics assuming that the guy is able to deal and cope with the idea of being held in place by the cup with only a limited amount of space without feeling too horny.

But, this also means that a traditional, smaller, flatter and more confining strap is great for what I refer to as “recreational” strap and cup wear. Instead of worrying about the possibility that a conventional cup and strap might make a guy feel horny, why not “take advantage” of all of this? Being in a snug strap and cup can be quite enjoyable. The length and stretchiness of the leg straps determines how snug the pouch and cup are going to fit to the groin. The snugger the better, well at least up to a certain point. This is not that different from a guy who keeps one or more undersized swim briefs for recreational wear as well.

Finding the right jock strap and cup for the recreational wear I describe can take some failed attempts. I have tried straps and cups of all sorts of different shapes and sizes, and I keep coming back to the idea that a somewhat undersized strap and cup generally provides the better overall experience and in particular a cup that fits so firmly that it is almost impossible to “adjust”.

The best news is that the experiments you might run to find the right recreational cup and r for you are, well, fun to run. The only downside is that you may end up with a dozen (or more) candidates, with only one or two that you really enjoy wearing!

Thoughts on Just Enjoying Being a Guy
 

Thoughts on Just Enjoying Being a Guy

The neatest thing about being a guy is actually NOT the sex with a partner, but rather that a guy can thoroughly enjoy himself WITHOUT being with a partner (without having relationship sex) and still be very happy. Guys all figure out a lot of this part of being a guy starting in their early teens, at puberty, or maybe even before. The male body is capable of all sorts of interesting and enjoyable sensations that seem to start in the genitalia and groin area but are psychologically-driven. This could come about in a partner relationship as well, but I suspect that over a lifetime, the average guy has more sexual experiences that lead to orgasm in the absence than with a partner. Certainly this varies a lot by individual.

Some guys make the transition from solo activities to activity involving a sexual partner at a very early age, and teen sex apparently is commonplace for these individuals. Of course, teen partner sex carries risks, including the all important “what if she gets pregnant?” concerns that often limits what the two people might do. Whenever partner sex occurs to orgasm with young people there are always serious issues to be concerned.

For guys, sexual activity without a partner has no real downside, other than the guy needs a degree of privacy and may be inordinately concerned that his “hobby” will be discovered by someone he doesn’t want to know about what he is doing. So the game becomes one of being careful about ensuring that you are alone and finding a unembarrassing way to ensure that evidence of the activity is hidden.

Still, as male hobby’s go, solo sex is way up there as being a really enjoyable and sustainable hobby with few if any downside risks.

I got to thinking about the history of porn as a technique for helping a guy jerk off in private. The 1950s and 60s were probably dominated by the porn magazines with explicit photos of nude females and their genitalia—Playboy then the more explicit Penthouse and so on. Stores selling these magazines tried to keep them from being purchased by teen males interested in using the pictures for sexual stimulation, since having an orgasm was something suitable for adult males over 18 LOL. That did not stop teen males from accumulating these magazines one way or another. Sometimes a guy got his nerve up and shared them with close male peers, but mostly, jerking off to magazine porn fulfilled a need and was a solo sex activity.

There were, of course, X-rated movie houses that showed porn films, but generally these were located in core urban areas and for most young teens were not able to view these. If they could figure out a way to get to the theater undetected there was still the problem of a firm “18 or older” rule for admission.

Cable TV in the 1970s included a lot of channels that would not be available on broadcast TV including some movies kids under 17 could not view in a theater without an older person tagging along. But even the new pay TV outlets—in the early days, Cinemax—were starting to show some real porn (aka films that had previously only been seen in X-rated theaters) if you stayed up and viewed late at night. But there were also low-cost video recorders, so guys put the video recorder on timed recording and simply made a tape of the movie. Not only that, there were video tape rental places that usually had an X-rated section with many of the same movies, but generally a 15-year old could not wander into a video store and rent one of these tapes, which again was limited to the 18-and-up crowd.

Finally we get into the modern, Internet era, when lots of explicit porn is available free, and often with few if any restrictions on the person accessing the porn. The age restrictions, if present at all, are usually a joke—asking a guy at a laptop if he is over 18 and the guy simply has to say he is. So young people get an education about a lot of how sex works stuff at a much earlier age than they used to, and of course the people who make this stuff keep coming up with interesting ways to do things that that will attract viewers either done alone or with a partner, male or female.

A colleague of mine remained single for a number of years as an adult male. Then he found a female he wanted to marry, but in the meantime he had accumulated a large number of copies of Playboy and Penthouse magazines. He knew his new bride would probably not be happy if he brought the magazines into the marriage, but he did not just want to toss the magazines in the trash. I ended up with a bunch f them that I still keep in a briefcase under my bed. I have not looked at them in decades, though, far preferring other means for arousing myself.

For the readers here, I have no idea what percentage of teen males currently like to jerk off using an item such as a snug-fitting swim brief as an “aid” to helping the process along. Or for that matter, how many guys get horny thinking just thinking about being in the right brief. I suspect the “I would never do that” phase some guys have about wearing a swim brief in public relates to the idea that once in the swim brief, things may quickly lead to a situation that gets out of control and embarrassing if others are around.

What I do know is that the “right” garment (some would say “wrong” garment) as in anything that makes a guy feel horny) whether that is a swim brief or thong designed either as snug-fitting underwear or for swimming, jock strap, compression shorts, compression tights or anything else that works for you as in makes you psychologically aroused or horny, certainly is an alternative to looking at stupid photos in an old magazine. Furthermore, getting horny employing one or more of these garments and maybe concluding with an orgasm requires only a degree of privacy. This is far less complicated and messy than trying to cut a deal over dinner with a female partner, so why not?

I suppose guys who have “embraced” partner sex as the idealized way to get off would have it no other way, and find all this other solo sex in adulthood discussion to be unwarranted. Some guys seem to believe that anything that gets a guy off that is not a sexual partner is not only silly but perhaps even childish. Instead, I tend to view this as a great way for a guy to enjoy life without having to deal with the complicated and often messy aspects of partner sex. Nothing “wrong” with that at all!

Finding Garments for “Recreational” Use
 

Finding Garments for “Recreational” Use

For manufacturers of various garments worn by males, I have often wondered what role if any does the possible use of the garment by the purchaser for engaging in male “self abuse” a consideration for the manufacturer seeking sales. Obviously there are a number of different garments that might be used for such a purpose, starting with the swim brief. But the list also includes other items, often sports and recreation related, that might somehow qualify, including all sorts of styles of male “swimwear”, athletic supporters of various types, compression gear such as snug-fitting stretch shorts and running tights and other items as well. Indeed the design of men’s underwear in has an underlying “would this be fun to jerk off in?” component. What guy can claim that he has never ejaculated while alone into a pair of new underwear? The whole idea of “staining” a new pair of underwear is exciting for a lot of guys—maybe more so than most would care to admit. And a lot of guys learn a lot about their own bodies and what feels good by repeatedly doing just that, so this is a useful “educational experience” of sorts.

To think that the manufacturers and purveyors of these items simply go about their business selling these various items simply for the advertised purpose—i.e, if you are going to be a competitive swimmer you need to buy one of our swim briefs, or if you are going to participate in certain sports you need to be cupped with a strap—advertising focused on recreational wear in sports as opposed to what might be ultimately more interesting “recreational” wear in front of a mirror in the bathroom would seem to ignore an important part of the market, and in the end the sellers do not care how the item is used but only that they make the sale. So what if the swim brief is never used for swimming! The sale to the guy interested in jerking off in it is just as good a sale as the sale to the competitive swimmer! Same for the strap manufacturers, the compression gear makers and others. There is no reason to not sell to these other buyers.

I keep watching with interest the advertising approach that Speedo has used over the years, particularly with respect to their swim briefs. Speedo continues to focus their advertising on people who they believe are interested in buying their products because they are serious competitive swimmers. Now Speedo also has expanded what they sell to people simply interested in leisure wear—even loose-fitting, long-legged shorts of various sorts, but the advertising I see is almost never to guys interested in these activities as opposed to guys who are serious competitive swimmers who might be open to buying a pair of board shorts that have a Speedo logo on it. After all, anything Speedo is for a serious swimmer.

But another twist to all of this has been added In an effort to appear “woke”, Speedo has started marketing briefs, tees and other items to an openly-gay crowd, typically by introducing a rainbow of some design, obvious or subtle, into the design. Apparently, someone at Speedo decided that there was a market for a Speedo swim brief or tee that allows the competitive male swimmer to advertise that he is openly gay with every stroke in the pool or for that matter just wearing one of these rainbow tees while hanging out at a meet by the pool. How curious! If I were a gay swimmer, openly gay or not, I would find the whole idea of advertising that at the swim meet by my choice of swim brief or tee, to be, well, pretty stupid. What’s the point in doing this, anyway?

I have noticed that Speedo seems to have not had great success selling items with a gay pride theme regardless of how obvious the design and these items have been showing up deeply discounted as if we clearly overestimated the enthusiasm of gay male swimmers in advertising their sexuality while at a swim meet. Maybe this was not such a good idea after all.

Still, Speedo has not gotten into any overt efforts to advertise certain swim briefs as being “recreationally” useful as opposed to being recreationally useful, if you get what I am saying. Apparently an open advertisement as to your sexual interests is fine for Speedo, but that other stuff guys might secretly be using our garments for is too much. Being gay is fine, but any admission of enjoying masturbation just pushes the envelope “too far.”

Still, if you go on line, in particular to international sellers such as aliexpress.com. You will discover that some international vendors are more open about the whole idea of admitting that what they are selling might be good for “recreational” use as opposed to recreational use. They also advertise specifically that certain items might appeal to gay guys (What? Straight guys by being straight never masturbate?). In contrast, Speedo takes the view that if they describe an item using the word “pride” then everyone will quickly figure out who the intended buyer—someone openly gay who wants the world to know—should be, even if the rainbow is either tiny or somehow otherwise not that obvious. Seems curious.

My bottom line is that there is absolutely nothing “wrong” with a guy enjoying his own body alone regardless of whether he believes he is straight or gay, and particular clothing items can add to that enjoyment, so be it. WE are still a way away from having most clothing vendors in the US admit that an item they are selling could be used for that purpose, but some of the rest of the world might be less apprehensive about this particularly as we see swimwear coming out of Japan and China. I’m not sure if the Europeans are as straight-laced on these topics as Americans seem to be.