feeling feminine in a speedo

[bikinilover]

I've found myself feeling feminine at times when I wear my speedo. Is it just me, or do others feel this way, too? Just want to know if I'm not alone.

[Byron]

Can you say more to explain the feeling with speedos?
You have described wearing women's bikinis in the past but does that mean tops as well as bottoms - and does the construction of the speedo somehow give a
different sensation?
For me the speedo is a very macho article of clothing . No "feminine" feelings come into the wearing of it whatsoever but I need to understand a lot more about cross-dressers I think.

[skinnykid]

I agree with Byron. I never feel feminine wearing a speedo.

[SwimTeamSpeedo]

No judgment here, but I am with the other posts. I find I feel very masculine when I wear my swimsuits. I do not find "speedos" to be feminine in any way. I don't know about Byron, but I think Skinnykid is a swimmer, as am I. That may make an impact as the suit is part of our sport of choice.

[shaulis]

I always feel masculine when wearing my swimsuits. I don't understand this, if a male has worn brief speedo style swimwear for years and years why all of a sudden would he feel feminine while wearing that same style swimwear. I don't get the thought process.

[California Dolphin]

Nothing "femmie" for me at all.

Wearing short shorts or a speedo style suit gives me a very athletic and confident feeling.

[kumu]

I body surf and ocean swim in mine but they also have a lot of sexuality for me, male sexuality. I don't think anything looks better, or looks more male on a guy than a speedo.

[Byron]

Very true - it's a no-brainer I think is the phrase.
Some swimmers on the pool starting blocks rather spoil the line-up with their jammers but I guess I must concede their right to make a faster competition time if that's what they do for them.
A big cheer for the divers and waterpolo teams however - they look great and hopefully nothing's going to change there !

[California Dolphin]

Very true - it's a no-brainer I think is the phrase.
Some swimmers on the pool starting blocks rather spoil the line-up with their jammers but I guess I must concede their right to make a faster competition time if that's what they do for them.
A big cheer for the divers and waterpolo teams however - they look great and hopefully nothing's going to change there !

Jammers (and "Half Pants") have got to be the weirdest looking/feeling apparel ever.

I can imagine wearing jammers while sitting with my upper legs covered and my knees sticking out. No way in Hell would I ever wear a jammer. :mad:

[kumu]

Not trying to be a wise guy but what does feeling feminine mean?

[sebbie]

That was my question. I sometimes get an erection wearing a Speedo but that doesnt exactly feel feminine, at least I don't think so. I am lost here too

[kumu]

I would punch a "Like" button for that if i could.

[Byron]

..I'd like to know too (my post#2 - no response)

[Torchwatch]

Some boys wear their sister's underwear and later their wife's. If unmarried they have to buy their own women's panties or steal them off washing lines. A guy in my home town even got caught by the police trying to steal panties with a fishing rod through the letterbox of a sex shop at midnight.
I believe the objective when wearing them is to suppress their masculinity by staying soft, even hiding their flaccid bulge. Koala Swim make a thong that takes the penis down and under completely concealing it (while displaying pubic hair) for a feminine appearance. In any sexual experience they have in this mode they assume the woman's role.
Someone with this fetish may well find the tightness of a speedo or smooth front bikini a feminine experience, while to the rest of us it is masculine. It seems best to accept their feelings while holding our own in our own ways.

http://www.koalaswim.com/ko_all_items_master.htm look for T-girl Sheer

[Byron]

Must have missed it (does that website hold the record for the longest menu on the internet ?:confused: ).

[knikon]

I don't feel feminine either. It does make me feel confident and sexy and even tho I repel 30% of the women who see me it makes me feel male. I am proud of who I am. In the US, men are shamed for their anatomy. It's no wonder many men hide in baggy clothes.

Maybe you feel feminine because sexiness is equated with women. Men who "look sexy" to women nowadays are usually men who flaunt their wealth not share their body. It is almost taboo to consider the male body sexy unless you are gay or metrosexual...

[Byron]

Well, no progress in understanding this over two months so I guess it's the end of the road unless bikinilover cares to say more after reading fifteen posts.
Btw, has metrosexual become a modern substiute for bisexual?

[knikon]

I guess so...

[kumu]

What does it mean to feel feminine? Like seeking the receptive role in gay sex? Or is it like wanting say make up, or just wearing the clothes? I just don't know what it means. I might be feeling feminine and not even know it, but I would never ever consider parting with Mr. Happy and I like muscles, mine and other guys.

[California Dolphin]

I wish people (both men and women) would get over the hang up that men in speedos and short shorts = Gay.

And don't give me the absurd explanation that the stigma came from Gay Parades that featured men in speedos.

Speedos were worn by STR8 men and boys decades before there were Gay parades so the Gays didn't "adopt" any symbol that didn't already exist as normal.

As for the "Feminine" aspect, that's a matter of the wearer's self perception. Complete or 95% nudity isn't a gender specific fetish. Many guys like speedos and nudity simply because it's arousing and in many cases, there's no other connotation associated with doing it.

[Byron]

To add another point, whatever happened (and when) to denim cut-offs? Once the prerogative of the boys - now entirely taken over by the girls (and even gay guys avoid them).

[Torchwatch]

Just been to the chemist for cough mixture, saw a guy in cut off jeans half way between knee and hip. He looked confident and straight.

[singletlover]

Always thought cut offs were a great way to get an extra life out of jeans. Mine always gave out at the knees. No comments please.

[Byron]

Glad to hear that their demise in males is not as extensive as I thought and I too don't like good jeans going to waste after being often down on my knees (in the garden I would add).
Need good thighs though - anyone get turned on by African safari tv documentaries ? (short shorts on the rangers, out in the sun in the bush all day)

[louis]

Same here I like african safari shorts a lot I allwayswondered were toget a few pairs.

[knikon]

If you look at garment history most "women only" garments were once male only garments... Leotards, High heels, Thongs, Brief/bikini like garments, not to mention shorts, tees, polos, 3 piece suits, Jeans, etc...

I love cutoff jeans. I stopped wearing shorts due to farmers tan. I look stupid in a bikini with a tan at my knees.

[Byron]

:eek: Those for noblemen of the 17th century? - surely not the girls' stilettos as seen today ? (an ability to walk upright in which I admire but have no wish to attempt)

[knikon]

Indeed... High heels were originally for the active horseman designed for better control in the stirrups. Leotard came from a aircraft acrobat. Bikini/brief from the subligaria, loincloth and fundoshi...

[Byron]

LOL - I guess the Mongols and Red Indians would know nothing about those - as only for wimp horsemen?
I do wonder sometimes about the cowboys - crotch padding in athletes' triathlon events is given attention but those guys may be in the saddle all day (not to mention cattle riding at rodeos which makes my eyes water to see).

[kumu]

A few months back I helped a woman friend move. Her brother was also helping. He struck me as VERY masculine: beard, burly, jeans, flannel shirt. Butch, in a word. Last night I am talking with the female friend and she tells he has come out as a lingerie fan. She said he has beautiful panties, night gowns, the whole works, she said it was all real nice, feminine, all in real nice taste. Wow. I am glad it makes him happy. I don't think he's gay, though. Just thought I'd share. Fetishes are amazing, aren't they. Shoes, boots, all kinds of inanimate objects become sexual. There is no denying speedos have a sexual charge for me. So if somebody gets a similar rush out of panties or construction boots who am I to criticize.

[Byron]

...."you can't judge a book by its cover". There is quite a big range to find when looking into what you say - I can think of a (straight) guy at work who only enjoyed his sex if wearing a souwester.

[KungFuBodybuilder]

Im the opposite, I feel even more masculine when I wear my swimsuits.

[knikon]

Same here...

[kumu]

Agree. Agree is too short. I agree.

[50 Free]

I don't understand why anyone would feel feminine in a speedo or anything similar or less. When a man of the proportions and physique most qualified to wear one tastefully does, the image is anything but feminine. Help me understand what the problem might be, please.
As far as cutoffs, that's all I wore in the seventies, eighties, nineties, till I started getting criticized for it. When I lived in Georgia I'd get up in the morning, put on some cutoffs and boat shoes and be dressed for the day, unless a shirt might be required, then usually cut down or rag t-shirt sufficed. There aren't too many photos of me from that era that I am NOT dressed as described...LOL

[Byron]

bikinilover : - you must come back on this - we now have four pages of posts from many confused guys.

[knikon]

The only other reason I could guess is that the speedo is often compared to the bikini which is culturally (in the US) considered the epitome of womanness... Also the feeling of freedom in dress code which also seems to be a domain women tread....

[Byron]

http://25.media.tumblr.com/ca1fb72cac0b7bff7269fef6c8dfdfd9/tumblr_ms55k6IsW41s0nebco1_400.jpg

A bit of a fashion faux pas I think - this guy seems to be in difficulty even with what might be a thong below to assist.

[bikinilover]

The only other reason I could guess is that the speedo is often compared to the bikini which is culturally (in the US) considered the epitome of womanness... Also the feeling of freedom in dress code which also seems to be a domain women tread....

I think this would sum it up....thank you for putting it that way, knikon. This is just how I feel about it......if no one else does, I totally respect it. I was just wondering if anyone else felt the way I do at times when I wear my speedo.

[Byron]

Going back to post#1 we see "feeling feminine". If that was alternatively expressed to say wearing a speedo creates empathy with women who freely enjoy wearing their own brief swimwear, then I think the feeling would be better understood.

[knikon]

Going back to post#1 we see "feeling feminine". If that was alternatively expressed to say wearing a speedo creates empathy with women who freely enjoy wearing their own brief swimwear, then I think the feeling would be better understood.


I like this response. Freedom it is!