Speedo partners

[speedomeup]

I am a gay man in his 30s living in SoCal. I must not be looking properly but I have never met a man I have dated in the past that was supportive of my swim brief/thong/Lycra interests. Truthfully, it wasn’t a dealbreaker but the more I think about it, the more I believe it is the case now. I would love to have a romantic partner/husband interested and supportive of my swim brief/thong/ Lycra.

Question up for discussion: if you are single, is it a dealbreaker if your partner is not supportive of your speedo/thong/Lycra etc. If you are married, does your husband/wife support it? If not, why not and how do you cope?

[MeSooQuiet]

I too am single and 36 years old. I have dated a few guys in the past that had a slight interest in speedos. They had no problem wearing one or admiring me in my suits in the privacy of closed doors. They would not dare wear one out in public at a pool or beach. They also questioned my suit choice when out in public and so I never wore a speedo with them. I’m to the point now where I do not care anymore what others think. I always wear speedos, thongs, or nude depending on the situation. I think as long as someone I am dating is comfortable being seen with me in public in my suits is all that matters. Just as long as they don’t try to make me wear shorts. Yeah it would be a plus if they shared the same interest in speedos and joined me in wearing them. It’s not a deal breaker if they don’t. Just as long as they are accepting my speedos.

[speedomeup]

@MeSooQuiet sorry you dealt with previous partners who didn’t understand. It’s one thing to feel uncomfortable about being the sole person by the pool/beach in a speedo/thong, but without the support of one’s partner isn’t great. Hope you find someone understanding, supportive and can even partake with you.

I too am single and 36 years old. I have dated a few guys in the past that had a slight interest in speedos. They had no problem wearing one or admiring me in my suits in the privacy of closed doors. They would not dare wear one out in public at a pool or beach. They also questioned my suit choice when out in public and so I never wore a speedo with them. I’m to the point now where I do not care anymore what others think. I always wear speedos, thongs, or nude depending on the situation. I think as long as someone I am dating is comfortable being seen with me in public in my suits is all that matters. Just as long as they don’t try to make me wear shorts. Yeah it would be a plus if they shared the same interest in speedos and joined me in wearing them. It’s not a deal breaker if they don’t. Just as long as they are accepting my speedos.

[lapswimmer]

Interesting situation. I am not gay and every woman I have had a relationship with regardless of depth has never commented in a negative way about my Speedo suit choice, and some suits have been rather skimpy. In fact, they liked the feel of the lycra and I think it turned us both on.

My thought was that the gay community was more Speedo focused than the straight community. I would like to hear more of this situation from you

[NE_OH_thonger]

I'm currently single, and my previous boyfriends never accompanied me to the beach. I did have one similar incident with someone I used to date, and has become a platonic friend since. A number of years ago, he expressed an interest in going to the lake with me. I knew that he had a bit of a prudish streak, so I warned him ahead of time that I normally wear thong swimwear. Had he objected at the time, I would have taken a speedo instead, but he said he was OK with that, so I took the thong. He must have thought I was joking, because when I removed my shorts and laid out in the thong, his response could only be called utter revulsion. During the whole time we were there, he neither looked at me nor spoke to me. After about an hour, he said he was ready to go home. On the drive back, I told him that if he had said something, I would have worn a speedo. Let's just say that his enthusiasm for that idea was not much greater than for the thong.

[speedomeup]

Lap swimmer, thanks for your reply.

Some gay men are into it and some aren’t. From just my own experience with gay men and swim briefs/thongs/Lycra, those who were opposed to it felt it was too “out there” (to paraphrase someone’s explanation), since being gay was already a target in their opinion, why exacerbate. Ignorance alone, I felt pity and somewhat demoralized in that I came out of the closet to express myself so why hide more of my fetish/interest?

I too might be ignorant

[speedomeup]

NE OH Thonger, thanks for sharing your story.

At least, a friendship came out of the incident. Do you go to the lake with him still? You did give him a heads up, but I guess it went tits up.

I’ve gone to the (nude) beach in my thong before and no one seemed to mind. I should be more brave and wear it to more public areas within reason. I love a thong tan line.

[NE_OH_thonger]

He didn't go to the beach with me again for a long time. When we did go again, I wore a brief suit. While he was still of the opinion that I was too scantily dressed, he wasn't as upset as when I wore the thong. We got to the point where he comes along to the lake about once a year. He even let go his objection to me wearing a thong last year. He still doesn't like it, but he came to realize that I do and he could handle it for a couple hours

[speedomeup]

Well, should I ever be in OH, I would join you in some thong fun by the lake �� My friends and neighbors have gotten used to it but then again it’s CA so it might not be all that out there.

[lapswimmer]

[QUOTE=speedomeup]

From just my own experience with gay men and swim briefs/thongs/Lycra, those who were opposed to it felt it was too “out there” (to paraphrase someone’s explanation), since being gay was already a target in their opinion, why exacerbate.


Well, if that is the concern your negative buds have, then I might assume people look at me in my tight brief and think I am gay. Ha Ha! It is probably too complex an issue that we can never resolve. I like my Neptune Scepter briefs and they are not only tight, but low cut as well. They leave very little to the imagination.

I say to you like others here, wear what makes you feel good and enjoy the water experience. Don't let 3 ounces of Lycra spoil your fun or fetish.

[speedomeup]

Well put, lapswimmer!

[sebbie]

The key to finding another person for a long term relationship is shared interests, non-sexual and sexual. This is no different in the straight or gay world. A partner is all about enjoying together the stuff that both enjoy doing, sexual and non-sexual.

In the gay world of dating and finding a partner, some guys think skimpy and snug fitting swimwear is fun, but others probably not so much for various reasons. But people pair up in part because they enjoy being around another person who shares a lot of interests. Sometimes "oil and water" relationships also work. I've never quite figured out in some cases why they do, but I've seen enough couples who enjoy being around each other who have almost nothing in common other than they are together to conclude that I haven't totally figured out completely what makes some relationships work and others not.

If you are fond of wearing skimpy swimwear, this is one unique aspect of you as a person that you are probably not going to want to or be able to keep secret in a relationship. One option of course is to find a partner who at least tolerates your fondness. I don't think you would want to enter into a relationship where the partner simply could not deal at all with that part of who you are.

But, this could also very much be part of a shared common interest, not unlike, say, in a nonsexual example, a fondness for dogs or a love of travel.

Gay guys are likely blessed with more ways of demonstrating their sexual love for each other than many married heterosexual couples have discovered. Part of the compatibility issue for dating in the heterosexual world is that both individuals need to find partners who in large measure are in agreement and share a common fondness for specific sexual acts they both thoroughly enjoy engaging in together. Relationships in the straight world frequently fall apart when couples discover too late that they did a poor job of meshing these most delicate aspects of a loving relationship between two sexual human beings.

Why should the world of gay relationships be any different for goodness sakes? If getting aroused wearing a skimpy swim brief is important to who you are, why would you want to find a partner for life who abhors this? Sorting through things like this in a gay relationship is every bit as important as it is for a couple attempting to form a heterosexual bond and its far better to work these things out in detail before not after the knot is tied. One interesting part about the new laws that now permit gay marriage is that gay guys are now stuck dealing with the same stuff that straight couples have always had to deal with, as in attempting to figure out whether nor not whether a relationship will be a lasting one that is worthy of a permanent tie or not.

[Bede735]

Especially at a time when the numbers of heterosexual couples choosing to marry is declining.

[Bobbyboi23]

No its not a deal breaker but to be honest it diffidently helps if my partner likes speedos etc, im 23 and love wearing them

[vega1210]

Married to my wife and she has no problems with me wearing a speed swimsuit. I will wear a seobean swim suit with 1 inch sides to our local pool and on vacation have worn that same swimsuit to the beach. Shes encouraged me to wear it in the past especially on our honeymoon in mexico which I was a little hesitant to do. She does wear a 2 peace swimsuit for me but nothing that is overly showy.

[lapswimmer]

Whether Gay or Straight, the bikini swimsuit has a sexual expression whether worn by man or woman. Even the one-piece competition suits show the body form and on a woman, contours her mound and may even show her crack. I say this with complete respect for the woman's anatomy.

For us guys on either team, the bikini on a man, features his package, or bulge, for the view of anyone around. I wear the bikini mainly for the support it gives in swimming, and the absence of flapping and distracting material. I certainly do not have a large package that I desire to flaunt, although I do have a specific "look" that I desire my package to present to a viewer.

I would dare say that for us Hetero-guys, looking at a woman in a tight fitting, crotch hugging suit, is as delightful to one as enjoying the bulge on a bikini wearing man.

Let's all face it, we all love looking at another human being's body, especially if it is sleek or well defined. Not a damn thing wrong with that. In various threads, some of us on this board has complimented my suit in a photo, and I suggest my bulge that was ever present. I too, have complimented those that have posted pictures.

I have been wearing this style suit since I was kid. For you that are concerned about the partner approval, I suggest you two talk about it. You should wear what is good looking on your body. If it makes you feel sexy, then it is good. We should all respect each other's swim attire choice.

[swim suit eddie]

I guess, I'm just lucky I never had to deal women or other close guy friends having negative feeling, as to wearing Speedos. My male friends also wear them a lot for swimming and as summer underwear in the summer months, like I do. There are women I know that do like me wearing Speedos and they wear those one piece Speedo lady's swimsuit. I also have an older close uncle who likes to go to our men's swim club with me and loves seeing me in my tight speedo swimsuit that fits so well. He wears those awful board shorts, not caring to wear snug swimsuits. With her, she really likes showing off in her sexy, a size smaller one piece speedo swimsuit, especially when it's time for it to come off, that's our fun together. it's great when both of us are wearing Speedo swimsuits, who's Speedo comes off first. I usually loose in the end, but she'll pull my Speedo down just below my hips, letting me keep my erection still snug and secure. We'll gently cuddle, caress one another, as I slowly peel her clinging one piece Speedo swim suit down her waist. Both of us really like this closeness during these special times together and of course, once I have her sexy swimsuit down and off, she'll unsnug my Speedo erection encased in it and strip the tight off me. The feeling is so enjoyable and beautiful for both of us. When I was with my uncle at the swim club, I always wore very snug speedo swim briefs or my favorite extra snug water polo swim briefs. I'm usually very sexually turned wearing them with a nice hard on well encased in my Speedo or water polo swim briefs. Like clock work with my uncle, he always lets me know,my speedo will be stripped off me before entering the showers. Soon, he puts his arms around my squirming body and swatting my behind, well encased in tight wet speedos. No one else is around, so it's just us, now feeling his warm wet hands uncover and untie the drawstrings, stretching the clinging waistband,then firmly pulling on my speedo swimsuit , now slowly coming down below my waist. He's a bit taller than me, so my uncle has the upper hand over me. The feeling is so good, the tight wet speedo briefs are slowly coming down and soon to be off me, as he gave me big smiles, while continuing peeling it off. All I did was to wiggle and playfully try stopping it coming off,now feeling the tight wet polyester slowly slip off my full hard on, then feeling his hands free the still clinging Speedo from my rear buns. The feeling is so sensational for both of us, when he happily unsnugs and peels my sexy tight wet swim briefs down and off my now naked body. It was a slow fun process for him getting it off me, dispite all my playful resistance. It was great for both of us, with him finally getting me naked for the showers, then changing after our nice swim together. So enjoy being together with a loved one,especially if they like you in Speedo or wearing them too.

[Croyde]

I am in my 50's and married but my husband knows I wear one style for my exercise and then something else for when on holiday. I like an old style speedo aquablade jammer for laps but then briefs for leisure. Recent purchase he was very amused with a 970's blue Mark Spitz Arena brief, he had a laugh and thought it was about right. Revenge came later his packed shorts disappeared and he was left with one pair of grey solar speedos. He did wear them with some pride.

[Schoolspeedo]

My wife doesn't like my skimpy bikini style suits though i wear them anyway and she tolerates them. She'd rather I wore square cut trunks. She wears very small bikinis and would be amenable to wearing them smaller if I asked though the trade off may have to be the trunks:confused: Maybe I'll do that as I love the tiny bikinis on women.:)