Almost an uncomfortable moment

[Bede735]

I stayed at a hotel last weekend which had a spa and pool. I went for a swim in the pool wearing low rise briefs with 1.7 inch sides.. There was a slight problem in that the locker key had a safety pin, which presumably was to attach to your swimwear - but I didn't want to do that.

I arrived at the pool area, which was quiet - only a couple of people in the pool, and I placed the locker key on a window ledge, to pick up after my swim. The swim went well, but as I turned to do my final lap, several women wearing bath robes walked into the pool area, and then they stopped to chat to each other.

Yes - they were standing right in the way of where my key was. Unfortunately I didn't have any spare time to wait around, so I plucked up the courage to leave the pool and walk right between them to get to my key. It felt slightly awkward at first, but when I then reached the shower area I actually felt quite good about it....

[Torchwatch]

If you are wearing minimal sided briefs and have keys with built in safety pins you may be able to pin the key over the side of the suit, rather than through the fabric.

[PSDave]

not sure why it was an awkward moment. You were getting out of the pool wearing a swim suit. It is not like it was a white that had gone transparent or a thong. The 1.5-2 " side suits seem to be quite the norm this year.
As far as the safety pin and the suit. You can always pin it to the draw string or the label inside so you don't have to pierce the fabric.

[Bede735]

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....

[SwimBikeRun949]

What's the thrill of wearing a speedo/bikini when nobody is there to see you?

Might as well be naked -- you wouldn't get arrested because there are no witnesses! :)

[Scotlandturbo]

Maybe they were the ones feeling akward since they were standing around at a pool in bathrobes. Besides I am sure they enjoyed the view.

[PSDave]

After some discussion with a friend on the board I have to say I still don't get it. Why is it so many guys want to and/or do wear speedos but seem to have a problem being seen in them? If you are on the beach or at a pool you are expected to be in a swim suit. It is human nature for people to glance at another person passing by or entering the area. It isn't a look of judgement, it is a look of idle curiosity. Unless it is someone with a striking appearance (good or bad) they don't remember them 30 seconds later. So why the concern about that 30 seconds from a total stranger you will never see again? While guys in speedos are far fewer than guys in board shorts, they still are nothing that are unusual by a pool or beach. I'v probably said it a million times but I repeat. It is a bathing suit, nothing more. Everyone by the pool/beach wears one and it isn't something to be ashamed or afraid of. Get over the insecurities in your head and wear it like you would board shorts or any other item of clothing. If you act embarrassed or insecure in your speedo it will definitely show and draw attention to you.

NOTE: I am referring to a normal conventional speedo cut swimsuit. If, however, you are out to expose yourself in a white, unlined nylon with a cock ring , a g-string or a skimpy thong you really should be ashamed to be seen in public. Those expose all garments are for private parties or gay bars only. If you have a need to expose yourself in public, especially in a family place, you should really seek professional help.

[tightjeans]

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

[Bede735]

Of course at that particular pool all of the other guys were wearing shorts, so I would say they have greater problems.

[Torchwatch]

Feeling uncomfortable around other people is not logical. We don't want to upset someone whose reactions we cannot predict so we try to avoid their personal space. Wearing speedos we may not mind being seen but do not want to ram them down someone's throat by entering their space.
We don't want to cause embarrassment, we don't want to be embarrassed by the embarrassment we case. We pause for a moment and finally decide that since we will never see these people again we may as well do what we planned to do in the first place but with conflicting emotions.

[PSDave]

Are you kidding? If someone is uncomfortable seeing a man in a conventional speedo they should not go near a poor or beach. You are not "ramming it down their throat", you are just another person out for a swim. The only time you should concern yourself about what others may think is if you choose to wear a white speedo (or any other style swimsuit) to a family beach.
Does that philosophy govern all that you wear? I personally do not like purple -- would you avoid a particular color or style shirt because you may make another person in the crowd uncomfortable?
As with anything in life -- if you don't like what you see -- Don't Look!!

[jackk78]

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....

I was at a spa in Portland a couple of years ago. The attendant gave me a tour of the place when I arrived. It was early, so no one else was there yet. She explained that it was a co-ed clothing optional facility, and that it was necessary to wear a swim suit or sit on a towel when using the sauna.

I decided to go nude, put my clothes away in the locker, and went out to the hot tub. I'd been soaking for a while when I heard voices. Three women all wearing swim suits joined me in the tub. One was wearing a fashion one piece and the other two were wearing conservative bikinis. They said hello and carried on quietly with their conversation.

I thought I might have misunderstood the rules the attendant had explained, that perhaps I was supposed to be wearing a swim suit. I wanted to use the rest of the facility, but was nervous about getting out of the tub. Another woman walked out wearing a robe. I almost sighed with relief when she took it off revealing that she was nude underneath. She joined us in the hot tub.

Confident that it was allowed, I climbed out of the tub and went over to the shower. I could see the clothed women taking quick glances at me. When I'd rinsed off, I went into the sauna. A few minutes later, the nude woman joined me. She made a joke about the other women wearing clothes and we both agreed that it was much more enjoyable nude.

A couple showed up later. The guy went nude and the girl went topless. It was a fun afternoon.

[7_of_Fine]

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. Can't imagine another context where that would happen.....


Try being a gogo dancer in a gay bar during wedding season; those bachelorette party gals are vicious! :(

[PSDave]

that is so true -- they all seem to have had new sharp nails put on for the party and when stuffing money in the g-srting they can actually draw blood with those things

[Captain.Jammer]

... I personally do not like purple ...
I am sorry to hear that PSDave.. Purple is my favorite color!

[Captain.Jammer]

Well - it was just that the women were fully covered and I was nearly naked. ...
Well, I think, for me, the awkwardness would come from having to walk through their circle to get to the key. It is one thing to be at the pool with others in a Speedo, it is another to have to disturb them and walk through their conversation area while wearing one. It would draw attention to yourself. That attention drawing is what would make me feel awkward.

[Napoleon44]

As far as I’m concerned I quite enjoy feeling a bit uncomfortable . I know that sounds weird but wearing something small or bright or small and bright is thrilling . I agree it’s no fun with no one around . And I guess we all have a level where we feel comfortable / uncomfortable . So good for you bede.

[Bede735]

I posted that 3 years ago, but I've found as I get older I'm more and more comfortable with my body. That kind of situation doesn't bother me now.

[Lessisbetter]

So one day while kayaking and fishing. Its probably 90 degrees out. I usually wear a small thong to tan in while on the lake. With nothing but woods to my backside I thought what the hell. Took off the thong and laid face down on my kayak. It's mostly a flat boat. Well time passes and since its electric motors only I never heard another boat float up within 40 yards or so. Thought what am I going to do now. For sure they seen me. Because I can see them clearly. Its a man and a woman in a small fishing boat. They fish for about 10 minutes or so then to my surprise they strip down to there birthday suits and jump in. The whole time looking my way. They never swim over but I wouldn't of cared at that point. I stayed the course and kept tanning and they finally got in there boat and drove away. And I was cool with that. But my heart was racing for a bit.

[Chris997]

PS Dave. I agree with you. I have often wanted to make the same comments you did on this board but was concerned about treading on someone's toes/ego. I wear the suits at 2 to 3 inches on the side all the time and have never had an issue.

Somehow where I am our sides are less, like the norm seems to be 1,5" seems normal to everyone at the pool but the sides do seem to thin out naturally after a few uses, I find it odd that there are such wide waist swim briefs out there to buy.....