Hurricane Harbor NJ

[Minimalist75]

Went there today. Saw a very small number of men in speedos on a very crowded day. Opted for moderately short swim shorts myself, although I have worn a speedo to Disney water parks and Atlantis. While still in the minority, they seem to be more common there.

[area51tazz]

I think I may have been the ONLY one to wear my Arena brief to Hurricane Harbor, Arlington :P

[PSDave]

I wonder how many other guys were there with their shorts over their speedos because they didn't have the nerve to wear what they wanted.

[dorcas3]

Why does it take nerve to wear a speedo!

[PSDave]

Hell if I know. All I know is many posts on the board are centered around how many are wearing speedos when they go to the pool or beach and if it is "speedo friendly" (which is something I have yet to figure out.) Lots of posts refer to the speedos they had on under their shorts that, for some reason, never see the light of day because there weren't enough others in speedos.

[PSDave]

Hell if I know. All I know is many posts on the board are centered around how many are wearing speedos when they go to the pool or beach and if it is "speedo friendly" (which is something I have yet to figure out.) Lots of posts refer to the speedos they had on under their shorts that, for some reason, never see the light of day because there weren't enough others in speedos.

[PSDave]

Hell if I know. All I know is many posts on the board are centered around how many are wearing speedos when they go to the pool or beach and if it is "speedo friendly" (which is something I have yet to figure out.) Lots of posts refer to the speedos they had on under their shorts that, for some reason, never see the light of day because there weren't enough others in speedos.

[PSDave]

Hell if I know. All I know is many posts on the board are centered around how many are wearing speedos when they go to the pool or beach and if it is "speedo friendly" (which is something I have yet to figure out.) Lots of posts refer to the speedos they had on under their shorts that, for some reason, never see the light of day because there weren't enough others in speedos.

[Dooley67]

PSDave,

I guess you really feel strongly about this issue since it was posted 4 times...lol

D67

[tightjeans]

No problem here wearing speedos but I guarantee you that my pubic hair and butt crack are not on display.

[Bede735]

A strange term to use 'speedo friendly'. Is that based on the fact that no one is wearing them - therefore there's hostility towards them?

You could have a similar argument about a public indoor public not being 'bikini-friendly' on account of all the women wearing one-pieces, but I doubt if that question would ever be asked.

[Dooley67]

We hear the term "speedo - friendly" used so often when talking about whether it is or is not appropriate to wear a speedo and whether or not the beach or pool or whatever is "speedo - friendly". Really, what difference does it make? If you are comfortable and want to wear a speedo, wear one that is appropriate (not a string bikini or a thong in public pools or Y's). If you're not comfortable, don't wear one. Maybe we are the ones who are either "speedo - friendly" or "speedo - unfriendly" rather than the venues.

I had a conversation with an 18 year old young man who is a lifeguard at my Y about speedos. All the guards there wear the guard boardshorts and lifeguard shirts. He said that when he does laps he wears a speedo and said that he can't understand why some people think that if you wear a speedo you're gay. He said that he feels like when you swim seriously, you wear a speedo. To him it was simple as that. I gave him a couple of my Euro Sportis which he really liked and when he wore one to try to learn how to do a flip turn, I was about to say to him, "you look (terrific or awesome) in the speedo, he finished my sentence with a huge grin and said, "I look like a swimmer." Point well made.

D67

[dorcas3]

Dooley67-You are a Saint! Bravo

[BriefBro]

A while back when I was about 10-12 my family took us to Knott's Soak City. I was a little nervous since I had some chub, but who didn't at age 11ish? I was still insecure. I kind of already knew I liked to look at guys, but part of me was jealous and would checking them out to admire their physique, which I did not have.

At one point I go into a waterslide and notice another guy, about 13-15, a little older than me, is wearing a black 3-4 inch sides speedo that had a white 'belt' around it along with his younger brother and dad. All three just living it up in a speedo out in a water park walking and minding their own business. It was something- like the confidence, the openness, the attitude. I admired all of it. The guy kept going into the water slide, and I also kept going in just to get a glance at the guy every time. He was toned, and fit and was just doing his thing, he laughed a lot and just had a good time of himself.

[BriefBro]

We hear the term "speedo - friendly" used so often when talking about whether it is or is not appropriate to wear a speedo and whether or not the beach or pool or whatever is "speedo - friendly". Really, what difference does it make? If you are comfortable and want to wear a speedo, wear one that is appropriate (not a string bikini or a thong in public pools or Y's). If you're not comfortable, don't wear one. Maybe we are the ones who are either "speedo - friendly" or "speedo - unfriendly" rather than the venues.

I had a conversation with an 18 year old young man who is a lifeguard at my Y about speedos. All the guards there wear the guard boardshorts and lifeguard shirts. He said that when he does laps he wears a speedo and said that he can't understand why some people think that if you wear a speedo you're gay. He said that he feels like when you swim seriously, you wear a speedo. To him it was simple as that. I gave him a couple of my Euro Sportis which he really liked and when he wore one to try to learn how to do a flip turn, I was about to say to him, "you look (terrific or awesome) in the speedo, he finished my sentence with a huge grin and said, "I look like a swimmer." Point well made.

D67

That's just awesome. That guys confident and owns what he has.

I feel like straight guys get so uppity to not look gay in case someone calls them out on it. In a way, I feel this attitude and weak masculinity paves the way for sexism, homophobia and an all-around intolerance not to mention insecurity.

ALSO, I feel when we look for a "speedo friendly" pool or beach we're looking for one that draws an open-minded public where there aren't any douchey or frat guys to holler or tease people. This way the general public won't mind if someone wears a speedo. We can be as confident as we want, but you wouldn't wear a speedo at Laguna Beach where it's mostly a conservative crowd, or a beach that draws the most people. Let's be honest the general public is has this closed-minded, hypocritical attitude. It's improving but still not all there.

We really just rather avoid harassment if it ever happens.